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RondackHiker
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I shouldn't go, right?
RondackHiker
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I mentioned last night DS has been really sick from his allergies. He's been up and coughing for hours at night. Yesterday we saw the pediatrician and DS got meds for a sinus infection and steroid nose spray. Last night was still horrible. I think he got three hours of sleep. This morning he threw up bile twice--I think from coughing so hard.
We're burying my grandma tomorrow. I'm supposed to drive two hours to my parents tonight. Tomorrow we'd drive another two to bury her next to her first husband. DS and dd would stay with my cousin's three kids (4,6,8) and two babysitters. Family I haven't seen in years will be there, since some couldn't make her funeral.
But I shouldn't go, right? I shouldn't risk making others sick and it wouldn't be fair to DS and it wouldn't be fair to the good babysitters to unload him on them and I'd be anxious being away from him.
I really want to go, and dh is at work, so I just need someone else to weigh in and agree it's the right choice. DS is sleeping on a pad on the bathroom floor right now. :-( it's where he wants to be.
We're burying my grandma tomorrow. I'm supposed to drive two hours to my parents tonight. Tomorrow we'd drive another two to bury her next to her first husband. DS and dd would stay with my cousin's three kids (4,6,8) and two babysitters. Family I haven't seen in years will be there, since some couldn't make her funeral.
But I shouldn't go, right? I shouldn't risk making others sick and it wouldn't be fair to DS and it wouldn't be fair to the good babysitters to unload him on them and I'd be anxious being away from him.
I really want to go, and dh is at work, so I just need someone else to weigh in and agree it's the right choice. DS is sleeping on a pad on the bathroom floor right now. :-( it's where he wants to be.
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Re: I shouldn't go, right?
I'm just going to go cry now.
This sucks.
A death in the family and a sick child seems like a valid excuse for an absence.
We were really close. DD's middle name is Margaret after her. She was the most kick ass lady ever. My reason for not wanting to leave him with the babysitters is mostly because I'd be two hours from them burying her and dh would be two hours from them working and if he got worse or had an asthma attack or reacted to his steroid nose spray or something? The babysitters are great but he doesn't know them and everyone he knows will be at the burial. Plus I'd have to load the poor sick kid up for a two hour drive.
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Dh is working twelve hour shifts overnight. Even if he got out on time tomorrow I wouldn't be able to drive the four hours to the burial on time. So sadly that's not an option.
He'll probably sleep for the majority of the car ride, if he's had so little sleep at night. It might be good to go.
I'd second guess leaving him with cousins he doesn't really know, just because he might be scared & cry for you. But really, with all those other kids to play with... He'll probably have a ball & forget he's not feeling well.
I think I'd still go.
I need to think. DH's parents can't come out this weekend so DS would have to come with me.
And this isn't the funeral... She died in December and we had the funeral then. This is her burial (couldn't bury her in the winter and most cemeteries just started to "open") at the cemetery I used to drive her to so she could visit her husband's grave. It's two hours from my parents.
DS is asleep right now. I'll see how he feels when I wake up and think about this.
I just feel like he should be my responsibility, KWIM? Dh is working and will be tired and it'd be a big favor to ask someone to come watch him and I shouldn't even want to leave him because I'm mom and shouldn't want to leave my sick kid.
If she's iffy on you coming, stay home. If she thinks it's not a problem, go
I think you should go. I also think that if you wanted to take him to the burial the 4 hours wouldn't be so bad.
Is he feeling better today?
Dh came home and talked me down a bit and listened to DS's lungs and he's clear. So I'm going to go and see how he's doing as we go.
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