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mommymeg143 · May 2014

shaddox16 said:

tarynleann said:

My (maybe) UO: Can the people who participate in HDBD participate the rest of the week too?

Eeek...I'm the exact opposite! I've never posted a HDBD pic, I keep telling myself next week..I just feel fat right now!

My UO - I hate the elf on the shelf. I think its creepy and I'm not doing it. Even though someone bought one for my baby as a Christmas gift last year...ugh.
I hate elf on a shelf too! It is totally creepy and I have no plan to participate no matter how popular. Santa is plenty

I agree with Elf on the Shelf!! I HATE how parents are like, "I love the elf. If my kid does something bad I point to the elf and say he/she is going to tell santa that you have been bad!". Meanwhile, the elf has poured fudge all over the counter, or spread cheerios throughout the house. How in the hell do I expect my child to behave if the damn elf can't even behave?

lisalynnmama · May 2014

I know the power sliding doors will be amazing! There really are so many things about them that will make my life so much easier. I just...feel like 20 year old me hates over-35 me a little bit whenever I let myself start to accept that I will probably have one. HA!

nonoemily: A drug dealer's car! I am dying! Keep your ride, honey! I would love to keep mine too, but with three kids after my twins are born, my current car just will not do. Sad face.

DoubleUp8 · May 2014

CarrieAnne09 said:

lisaren said:

My (maybe) UO: Can the people who participate in HDBD participate the rest of the week too?
I was worried my pic would be seen as tacky. I hope it's not. I'm trying very hard to normalize myself in real life and hope it's seen as me being me here.

My UO; People constantly telling me or others how they would do something. Like if I want to have Another baby and because it would be my 5 th child people saying how they would never have five kids. And make me feel like ass. It's all the time. I hear dumbass shit like this. People in my world telling me how ridiculous my choices are. I'm almost 40!!! Leave me alone. Also: kids with no shoes on in public places. Like kids over 3. Or who parents who don't enforce hand washing after using the bathroom. Or before meals.

Never! I love your photos
ETA: I am really glad you are still participating in the board. I would have been really sad if you would have left!!

^^^ This! :-bd

jaminjeff · May 2014

People probably feel our birthday parties are over the top, but we both come from big families. We both have 5 siblings and as of today (new niece) we have 25 nieces and nephews (including greats) between the two of us. Between that and our 3 sets of parents, a few aunts and uncles, and we have to rent a place or have two parties, one at my sister's house and one at his mother's house.

DoubleUp8 · May 2014

nonoemily said:

nonoemily said:

I feel sorry for my kids having winter birthdays. Summer birthday parties are way more fun.

DD's birthday is three days after Christmas. So not only does she have a winter birthday, but the holiday will probably over shadow any parties she will have.
My aunt is a Xmas baby and she's still bitter about even though she's like 55 now. Get over it!

My birthday is in December after Christmas. My mom always had our tree down on Dec 26th or 27th along with the rest of the decorations. She would decorate for my birthday, and insist that presents be wrapped in birthday paper, not x-mas paper. It always made me feel like my birthday was separate from x-mas and special.

My brother's bday is a week after mine, so my mom had all of her present buying in one season, ouch!

jaminjeff · May 2014

DoubleUp8 said:

nonoemily said:

nonoemily said:

I feel sorry for my kids having winter birthdays. Summer birthday parties are way more fun.

DD's birthday is three days after Christmas. So not only does she have a winter birthday, but the holiday will probably over shadow any parties she will have.
My aunt is a Xmas baby and she's still bitter about even though she's like 55 now. Get over it!

My birthday is in December after Christmas. My mom always had our tree down on Dec 26th or 27th along with the rest of the decorations. She would decorate for my birthday, and insist that presents be wrapped in birthday paper, not x-mas paper. It always made me feel like my birthday was separate from x-mas and special.

My brother's bday is a week after mine, so my mom had all of her present buying in one season, ouch!

I never understand why people get bitter over this. My sister was a Christmas Eve baby and my father-in-law has a birthday on 12/26. We always tried to do a get together for their birthdays, but if not, they were okay with it. They ALWAYS get a birthday present and a Christmas present, no one in our families has ever tried to short them. People that get shorted, your family sucks.

mommymeg143 · May 2014

Kristy774 said:

I think birthday parties for babies are pointless. Last year for DD's birthday we gave her a smash cake and a few presents for her to open at home and that was all. This year we are planning on taking DD to the aquarium in Nola instead of throwing her a party.
I agree. I think the themed, overly planned parties for infants and toddlers are more self gratuitous (for the parents) than about the kid. Give them cake and a playground (indoor or outdoor) where my kids and friend's kiddos can burn off energy and we're happy. Easy to plan, easy to clean up. And no one wrecking my house. Win.
Sorry guys I'm totally guilty of this....I hope we can still be friends.

I'll be your friend because I am SO with you on this. This is probably my UO for the week. I love a good party and any reason to throw one, i'll throw one. I mean, we are having a huge cookout next weekend for our gender/sex reveal. The gender/sex reveal will probably take 15 minutes of the entire party but it's a good reason to get all of our friends and family together which is fun. DH loves cooking out too so he is always on board to throw a party for our friends/family.

For my LO, she will definitely have birthday parties and any other party she wants to have. I don't consider it as us showing off. Unless we buy her a pair of $1,000 + diamond earrings and present to her at her first birthday party. That would definitely be considered showing off.

I probably shouldn't add this but I will to confirm my UO. We had a first birthday party for my dog, Talli Mae last year. We have a close knit neighborhood and all of our dogs play together. (We all just started having kids OR have outgrown them so our dogs are our children). I invited my neighbors over for an afternoon of play and puppy cupcakes. You can see how happy it made Talli Mae, hehe.

abbyful · May 2014

jaminjeff said:

*snip*

I never understand why people get bitter over this. My sister was a Christmas Eve baby and my father-in-law has a birthday on 12/26. We always tried to do a get together for their birthdays, but if not, they were okay with it. They ALWAYS get a birthday present and a Christmas present, no one in our families has ever tried to short them. People that get shorted, your family sucks.

Someone I knew growing up had a sister with a Christmas birthday. They figured up one time and realized Christmas birthday sister got MORE for her birthday from aunts/uncles, grandparents, etc., because everyone was afraid she would get shorted.

nonoemily · May 2014

@MeganMullikin‌ no judgment here! DH and I celebrate our cat Oscars birthday. We don't throw him a party, but we feed him a little fruit and yogurt (his favorite!) and look at his baby pictures.

DH gave me Oscar when I was super depressed and we were struggling as a couple. He was two weeks old and needed around the clock care for a couple weeks. He was my first baby.

Having him made things better between us and helped pull me out of my sads, so we like to take a little time out every year to be thankful for him joining our family.

wildflower75 · May 2014

sweetbabyrahe
and @Kristy774 and @MeganMullikinemoxymoose and @Dimples0101
and @abbyful and anyone else I forgot since I am having a hard time following this thread for some reason...

sweetbabyrahe said:

It's okay @Kristy774. We have done two themed birthday parties for DS, although the parties have been small and close family only. We are thinking of doing a larger one this summer (pirate themed) outdoors, but will likely request no gifts. Here is a couple pics of DS's 2nd b-day party (construction themed). So they can hate us both I guess.

I just threw my 1 yr old a wonderful (first birthday princess) birthday party. It wasn't ridiculously over the top like a "Real Housewives of wherever" infant party but EVERYONE, adults and children had a great time. My daughter had an amazing time, she knew it was her birthday and if anyone asked her how old she was she would tell them "one" (in English and Spanish). We had songs and entertainment and food and drinks and activities for the kids. A lot of our friends have (a lot of) kids and the ratio was like 2-3 adults to each child. Everyone was excited to celebrate her first birthday as many of them hadn't seen her since birth - 4 months. And I think it's nice for children to look back at photos of how they celebrated each birthday.
Next year we might do something a little more low key like go to a Disney on Ice show or the Aquarium but there will still be a celebration with cake (and champagne for the adults)!

KatheTravis · May 2014

@MeganMullikin‌ no judgement here either! I bake my dog a cake every year for his birthday and buy him presents. Here he is eating his cake

Sorry it's crooked

mamatohne · May 2014

There were 75 people at my son's 1st birthday last month! 90% of that was family.

Maelara · May 2014

I'm with you @kristy774 and all the other ladies who want birthday parties for young infants/toddlers. We aren't doing anything huge, just a BBQ with family and friends (about 20 people). We are going to do a cake smash and even get her a special cake smash outfit. My kids will have birthday parties every year and they will only get better once they are older. I always had big birthdays and I LOVED it.

When they are young, their birthdays aren't necessarily about them, it's about making memories for us too. I think sometimes we get so wrapped up in the fact that they won't remember that we forget that we WILL. It's just as important for us to have these great memories as it is for them.

venussapphire · May 2014

I hate showers. They are so awkward and dumb. I had a bridal shower which sucked so I declined a baby shower. I wanted just a nice dinner or something out with a couple friends sil's. but they couldn't get their shit together and put aside their differences.

I would MUCH rather go visit the baby and bring a gift then.

jlove253 · May 2014

I will readily say I think kids should have a first birthday party because it's a chance for the mom to celebrate she survived the first year! It gives mom a chance to beam over her LO. That doesn't mean gifts are required. It's just a chance for mom to throw the type of party she wants with the food and guests she wants too. I hate events that appear gift-grabby, but I think a mom has every right to throw a first birthday party, and can do it without the greedy appearance.

My UO: I listen to pop music, but really hate most of it. I just hate how shallow it is. I'll be rocking out to "I'm so fancy" (or any other song) and then really hear the lyrics (like "Trash the hotel, Let's get drunk on the mini bar, Make the phone call, Feels so good getting what I want") and I get so disgusted I have to turn it off. And I feel like pop just keeps getting more shallow. Ugh.

mommymeg143 · May 2014

venussapphire said:
I hate showers. They are so awkward and dumb. I had a bridal shower which sucked so I declined a baby shower. I wanted just a nice dinner or something out with a couple friends sil's. but they couldn't get their shit together and put aside their differences.

I would MUCH rather go visit the baby and bring a gift then.

You MUST go to a shower that has a cheese ball with crackers. That's the only reason people have showers. It's a huge ball of CHEESE. Nom nom nom...

mander82 · May 2014

I never got the big birthday party for the babies......but I might change my mind once I actually have a child. My SIL had a big party for her kids first birthday. Rented a firehall and everything......the birthday girl slept the whole time.

As for the baby shower books and diaper raffle, I plan on doing BOTH! Mu ha ha ha ha !! I plan on making a couple sweet ass prize baskets for the diaper raffle though. No cheap crappy prizes. They will be worthy of their entry fee!

wallygirl · May 2014

I'm with everyone else on having parties. I will readily admit I went overboard on DD first bday party. It was a Parisian Sophie the giraffe theme. There were probably around 40 people there. However, that being said the only non-family invites were three of my best friends. I am the youngest of 9 kids so all of our family parties are quite large if everyone shows up.
Her second bday will be much more laid back but just as many people will be invited.

Nfranco973 · May 2014

emoxymoose said:
Also, to stir things up...
I don't understand why single women give their children the father's last name in cases where they aren't going to get married/ stay together, and especially if they know he's not going to stick around.
I know so many people who had children and gave them his last name and now he isn't around anymore and they regret it.

I have to disagree because my children have their father"s last name and we were never married but together for 15 years . Nothing is guaranteed to last forever even with a ring or marriage certificate. Although he's still very involved we are not together any longer. They are his children so they should bear his last name. Same thing with this baby, I'm recently engaged but not married and we have been together for almost 6 years. She will also bear his last name. Only thing in this life that's guaranteed is death and taxes.

emoxymoose · May 2014

Nfranco973 said:

Also, to stir things up...
I don't understand why single women give their children the father's last name in cases where they aren't going to get married/ stay together, and especially if they know he's not going to stick around.
I know so many people who had children and gave them his last name and now he isn't around anymore and they regret it.
I have to disagree because my children have their father"s last name and we were never married but together for 15 years . Nothing is guaranteed to last forever even with a ring or marriage certificate. Although he's still very involved we are not together any longer. They are his children so they should bear his last name. Same thing with this baby, I'm recently engaged but not married and we have been together for almost 6 years. She will also bear his last name. Only thing in this life that's guaranteed is death and taxes.

Guess I'm just an independent thinker, but I want my children to bear MY last name. To each their own, I know I'm in the minority but it's just how I think. I pushed them out of me, made them, sacrificed for them, and I want the same name as them.

mommymeg143 · May 2014

emoxymoose said:

Nfranco973 said:

emoxymoose said:
Also, to stir things up...
I don't understand why single women give their children the father's last name in cases where they aren't going to get married/ stay together, and especially if they know he's not going to stick around.
I know so many people who had children and gave them his last name and now he isn't around anymore and they regret it.
I have to disagree because my children have their father"s last name and we were never married but together for 15 years . Nothing is guaranteed to last forever even with a ring or marriage certificate. Although he's still very involved we are not together any longer. They are his children so they should bear his last name. Same thing with this baby, I'm recently engaged but not married and we have been together for almost 6 years. She will also bear his last name. Only thing in this life that's guaranteed is death and taxes.

Guess I'm just an independent thinker, but I want my children to bear MY last name. To each their own, I know I'm in the minority but it's just how I think. I pushed them out of me, made them, sacrificed for them, and I want the same name as them.

I see both sides. If the dad abandons the child and has nothing to do with them then I can see not wanting to give baby his last name. If the father is in the child's life and supports them than yes, they should have his last name.

MindyAndRyan · May 2014

emoxymoose said:

Guess I'm just an independent thinker, but I want my children to bear MY last name. To each their own, I know I'm in the minority but it's just how I think. I pushed them out of me, made them, sacrificed for them, and I want the same name as them.

I didn't change my name when I got married, so our LO will be First Middle MyLast HisLast. No hyphen, because my last name is 8 letters, his is 10, and that would just be cruel.

MrsG1019 · May 2014

AnnieRoo13 said:

lissydee said:

I think birthday parties for babies are pointless. Last year for DD's birthday we gave her a smash cake and a few presents for her to open at home and that was all. This year we are planning on taking DD to the aquarium in Nola instead of throwing her a party.
I agree. I think the themed, overly planned parties for infants and toddlers are more self gratuitous (for the parents) than about the kid. Give them cake and a playground (indoor or outdoor) where my kids and friend's kiddos can burn off energy and we're happy. Easy to plan, easy to clean up. And no one wrecking my house. Win.

Agreed. BIL and SIL are throwing a huge birthday party for their twins again this year. They will be turning two and the majority of the people there are adults- like 85% of the people. This party is clearly NOT for the girls, but for the parents. And of course the 40-50 people going are expected to bring gifts. It just seems a bit gift grabby to me more than anything. I'm not sure what the magic age is where kids can appreciate a birthday (maybe someone can enlighten me?), but I don't think 1 or 2 year olds need a huge party. My LO will have a small family party at first and once they start school they'll have a their own planned party- still not likely to be 40-50 people!

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Just this past weekend we went to a 1st birthday party for my best friends little boy -- 140 people, circus theme with a balloon maker, face painter, caricaturist, carousel jump house, catered, a 3 tier cake bigger than my wedding cake and every circus treat imaginable -- the mom spent about $4,000 & it was beautiful! I lived vicariously thru her cuz it's not something I'd ever do even if I had nothing better to do with that kinda money. NMS but to each their own!

Kristil2014 · May 2014

I don't understand why people have baby showers before the baby arrives. If I have a shower I want people to get to meet the actual baby.

I also don't understand people who let their dogs off leash in parks that are not off-leash parks. One of my dogs doesn't like other dogs. (He loves my other 2 dogs, but strange dogs he doesn't like.) We don't go to off-leash parks with him. But I should be able to walk him in another park without having to worry about other peoples dogs coming up to us on our walk.

MindyAndRyan · May 2014

mgg242 said:

My baby shower was co ed and we played jenga and beer pong (I didn't) as two of the games. It was awesome. I don't post on HDBD because I don't post here enough yet plus I'm a fatty and hate how I look right now.

@mgg242 that sounds awesome! I am asking for a co-ed shower. It is as much my baby as it is Ryan's, so I want him there, and I want my brother and dad and BFF's boyfriend, etc. I think we're still going to have some baby-themed games, but I want them to be entertaining for the men, too, and games/activities won't be forced on anyone. I also want to help plan my shower and help pay for it, but I don't know if my BFF and whomever else hosts (probably my aunt) will let me.

jessa1228 · May 2014

I stopped posting HDBD pics because I feel like I don't post enough anymore to justify it. And honestly, I haven't even opened a HDBD thread in a while.

My birthday is December 28, so it's during the winter AND during Christmas break from school, AND I share my birthday with my brother (we're not twins). Despite all that, my parents did (and still do) an excellent job of separating our birthday from the rest of the holiday season. It only sucked as a kid when it came to trying to plan a birthday party. More often than not we'd end up doing it sometime in the middle of January.

My UO: I don't think that students should be given a free ride to college based on a sports scholarship. Academic scholarship? Yes. But not sports.

lisaren · May 2014

Ok I'm going to hdbd and looking through everyone.

Nfranco973 · May 2014

jessa1228 said:
I stopped posting HDBD pics because I feel like I don't post enough anymore to justify it. And honestly, I haven't even opened a HDBD thread in a while.

My birthday is December 28, so it's during the winter AND during Christmas break from school, AND I share my birthday with my brother (we're not twins). Despite all that, my parents did (and still do) an excellent job of separating our birthday from the rest of the holiday season. It only sucked as a kid when it came to trying to plan a birthday party. More often than not we'd end up doing it sometime in the middle of January.

My UO: I don't think that students should be given a free ride to college based on a sports scholarship. Academic scholarship? Yes. But not sports.

Kids who are chosen for sport scholarships also have to maintain their grades as well. It's not like they are failing and solely are chosen based on their sportsmanship.

hiketheworld · May 2014

My UO- I think matching your purse to your shoes is ridiculous. I'm not talking about black shoes/bag, but the bright colors- red, pink, yellow etc.

I don't understand a baby shower post-birth! Why would you want a new baby around a bunch of germs? Plus I can't imagine that I'd feel up to socializing with a group of people while figuring out how to breastfeed/survive with a new baby. To me, it sounds like hell on earth. Of course I'm an introvert and will probably be way overprotective of my baby at first.

kaimee27 · May 2014

MindyAndRyan said:

Mine is lame.

I hate cereal. I think it is the most disgusting, vile thing. The smell of it makes me want to barf. And when Ryan tries to kiss me after he eats cereal, I just want to tell him to back the fuck up. (I don't; I just hold my breath.)

I will eat super crunchy granola with yogurt, but that is it. Or Chex mix, but that is different.

I don't mind cereal, but will only eat it dry. I just have a big glass of milk with it.

lisaren · May 2014

There were three girls on hdbd I did not recognize.

Which is fine, but I'm
Nosy and want to know more.

runningmama14 · May 2014

Nfranco973 said:

jessa1228 said:
I stopped posting HDBD pics because I feel like I don't post enough anymore to justify it. And honestly, I haven't even opened a HDBD thread in a while.

My birthday is December 28, so it's during the winter AND during Christmas break from school, AND I share my birthday with my brother (we're not twins). Despite all that, my parents did (and still do) an excellent job of separating our birthday from the rest of the holiday season. It only sucked as a kid when it came to trying to plan a birthday party. More often than not we'd end up doing it sometime in the middle of January.

My UO: I don't think that students should be given a free ride to college based on a sports scholarship. Academic scholarship? Yes. But not sports.
Kids who are chosen for sport scholarships also have to maintain their grades as well. It's not like they are failing and solely are chosen based on their sportsmanship.

Ok, I don't know where you went to college, but most schools that I'm familiar with don't have grade requirements for athletic scholarships, other than maintaining eligibility. None of the schools that offered me scholarships had any grade requirements beyond that...

Considering the schools, especially division 1 schools, are making millions and millions of dollars off the kids playing sports, I think it is a fair exchange. If the scholarship system didn't exist, there would be such a mass exodus of athletic talent from collegiate sports, which would probably lead to a decrease in all types of scholarships.

lizgrace03 · May 2014

runningmama14 said:

I stopped posting HDBD pics because I feel like I don't post enough anymore to justify it. And honestly, I haven't even opened a HDBD thread in a while.

My birthday is December 28, so it's during the winter AND during Christmas break from school, AND I share my birthday with my brother (we're not twins). Despite all that, my parents did (and still do) an excellent job of separating our birthday from the rest of the holiday season. It only sucked as a kid when it came to trying to plan a birthday party. More often than not we'd end up doing it sometime in the middle of January.

My UO: I don't think that students should be given a free ride to college based on a sports scholarship. Academic scholarship? Yes. But not sports.
Kids who are chosen for sport scholarships also have to maintain their grades as well. It's not like they are failing and solely are chosen based on their sportsmanship.
Ok, I don't know where you went to college, but most schools that I'm familiar with don't have grade requirements for athletic scholarships, other than maintaining eligibility. None of the schools that offered me scholarships had any grade requirements beyond that... Considering the schools, especially division 1 schools, are making millions and millions of dollars off the kids playing sports, I think it is a fair exchange. If the scholarship system didn't exist, there would be such a mass exodus of athletic talent from collegiate sports, which would probably lead to a decrease in all types of scholarships.

Yeah, it's pretty much a necessity for colleges to offer these scholarships in order to keep their athletic programs strong since SO MUCH revenue comes from those. Our student athletes are SUPPOSED to get certain grades and they have study halls and stuff they're supposed to go to, but for some of the sports it doesn't seem to do much good. For other sports, like women's soccer comes to mind, I've had great experiences with the students.

Allisonville · May 2014

I don't think there's anything wrong with a big 1st birthday party! We had like 75 people at Madi's. I made lots of yummy food and it was fun. I kept a tiny human alive for a whole year, that deserves to be celebrated!

I'm already super excited for her 2nd birthday party this year, but am trying hard not to really plan it yet because I will be 6 months pregnant and want it to be more low key. I know she will have so much fun running around the backyard with her cousins though, I can't wait.

I also have no problem with the elf on the shelf . I think she'll think it's fun so I want to do it. Not as a disipline technique ("be good or the elf will tell on you" seems like a bit of a cop out) but because it seems like a fun Christmas tradition.

MsMolly520 · May 2014

lisalynnmama said:

My UO is that I dislike mini-vans. However, I will probably end up with one so I will have to learn to love one, I guess.

^^This. I should've never said "never!!" We bought a Honda Odyssey last weekend. I'll have three under two in November so it had to be done. I feel like I should be more excited to have a new vehicle but I just can't. It's got some great features (umm, a cool box for your drinks?!) and the sliding doors are nice. I guess I just need to get used to the fact that I'm now a mini-van mom.

FishyMom · May 2014

Wicked22 said:
Don't flame me but I hate grammer nazis. I will be the first to admit that I'm horrible at spelling but I'm way better then I used to be. In school I was always the math person, I never understood all the rules to grammer or spelling. Spell check is my friend but even then sometimes there is just no help and no matter how many times I reread everything I type I always fine something wrong.

I will admit I am a comma whore!! I pass that thing all around sentences! Ha...

I would post on hdbd but I'm not sure I'm regular enough to post, so I don't.

my uo: I really don't like when people touch my belly (not sure how unpopular this actually is). It drives me crazy, especially cause it is mostly fat they are touching cause baby girl is ALOT lower.

Oh and I think I may have a slight addiction to exclamation points!!

Snuffy007 · May 2014

nonoemily said:
I feel sorry for my kids having winter birthdays. Summer birthday parties are way more fun.

My sister and I are both winter babies, so my mom threw us "half birthday" parties in the summers while we were in elementary school. I always thought it was to kind of spread things out with Christmas and all--when I got older, she told me she just couldn't stand having a bunch of kids stuck in our tiny house all hopped up on sugar

hiketheworld · May 2014

I have a winter birthday and I think they are great! You can do fun activities like sledding, ice skating, skiing or indoor Rock climbing! You could go bowling or indoor roller skating. Your friends are in school so its easy to invite everyone and few people will have other plans. There are so many options! I also hate summer because it is just too darn hot! Anything over 75 makes me retreat to the AC.

DoubleUp8 · May 2014

MeganMullikin said:

I hate showers. They are so awkward and dumb. I had a bridal shower which sucked so I declined a baby shower. I wanted just a nice dinner or something out with a couple friends sil's. but they couldn't get their shit together and put aside their differences.

I would MUCH rather go visit the baby and bring a gift then.
You MUST go to a shower that has a cheese ball with crackers. That's the only reason people have showers. It's a huge ball of CHEESE. Nom nom nom...

We could always rethink the November mums badge:

mommymeg143 · May 2014

@doubleup8 I NEED all of that, in my mouth, now!!

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