Oh. My. Gosh. That is not okay. Apparently, breasts become an appropriate topic for conversation during and after pregnancy, especially if you're BFing. My MIL kept talking about my "titties" when I was BFing DS. I mean, she'd be holding him, talking to him in her baby voice asking him if he "wanted some of Mama's titties." It literally made me squirm from being so uncomfortable. I made DH tell her she had to stop. I hope I don't have to go through that again this time.
Omg. Sorry ladies, but both of these comments literally made me laugh out loud. Haha! That is the most ridiculous and uncomfortable/ inappropriate thing I may have heard yet! Why do people think this is ok?! Most people do not refer to breasts as "titties" ... why now?!
I thought it was bad when my aunt referred to me as "little mama". Now I feel as if this is so not cringe worthy!
I feel ya! I teach middle school-kids have no censors. A cpl of mine keep reminding me that i am huge and a few others keep asking me if i am sure they are not twins... Lovely
I HATE the "you're going to have a miserable summer, I feel so bad for you". My response " oh well, I feel bad for you because after June 20 I don't have to work and will just be home inside w my AC or in my pool... So no, it won't be that rough but thanks for the concern"... End of being a bitch lol
I have had several "great" comments like most of you, especially about surviving the heat of the summer. But the "best one" might have just happened today. During church today, a guy behind us said to me, "It's really nice to see you looking fat." Um, huh? I politely laughed and he tried to cover it by saying, "I just mean that you're normally so fit and everything and now you're not. Not that you're fat, but...you know..." Right...I know.
I got a "you're so slow!" today from dh while we were walking back to our car from the beach! JACKASS. I'm 30 weeks preg, barefoot in the sand, carrying a lounge chair, flip flops, and a bag. CHILL THE EFF OUT AND LET ME TAKE MY TIME! smh men...
I HATE the "you're going to have a miserable summer, I feel so bad for you". My response " oh well, I feel bad for you because after June 20 I don't have to work and will just be home inside w my AC or in my pool... So no, it won't be that rough but thanks for the concern"... End of being a bitch lol
I'm right there with you. Sure, summer will be hot (duh!) but I won't be working, I'll be just fine sitting on the beach!!
I guess this isn't a stupid comment but I hate that everybody starts a conversation with "How are you feeling?". This conversation goes two ways: A) I say it's going fine and then they look at me like I'm crazy and say "But you must be so miserable with heat/chasing toddler/this and that" I say it's going fine and then they tisk and say "Oh you are one of THOSE women who enjoy pregnancy, mine were all horrible, you are so lucky you don't have x and x and x" C) I make the smallest complaint ("Oh well, you know I'm getting pretty fatigued") and then they scoff and say "Just wait til you actually HAVE the baby, you have no idea!"
A patient said to me "You're a lot bigger than my daughter and she is due August 7". Thanks...
Last time I was pregnant, I ran into a lady at Target who stopped me and asked when I was due. I was due in two days. She excitedly exclaimed that her daughter was due in two days too. Then she looked me up and down and asked if I was having twins.
1. "Every time I see you you're bigger!." My friend's mom said this on Sunday to which my friend replied "Excuse the woman with the brain injury. Geez mom!". Friend's mom had a brain tumor which she is recovered from and cancer free.
2. "Oh, another boy? Well that will be ok." I keep getting these weird veiled sympathetic replies when people find out it's another boy. It's like they all need to treat me gently because I *must* be torn up inside about not having a girl? I don't know, it's very strange because it's not the type of reaction I've ever had when someone tells me they're having another of the same sex.
I teach dance classes and we just had our recitals this past week. I found out I was expecting right before we ordered costumes to I made a estimated guess of how big I'd be by this time and ordered a larger size. A coowoker sends his daughter to our studio or classes so he attended the recital. I was told by another cooworker that he had said the next day on break to other employees "if the show was next week, she wouldn't have for into her costumes"
Pardon me! Dance costumes aren't exactly designed to flatter a pregnant figure. So rude.
I got one from my MIL yesterday. Well, actually two right after each other. Her and FIL came over for burgers last night and while I was standing in the kitchen getting everything ready she kept staring at my belly and then goes "sorry Im staring, you're just so big! I don't think I was EVER that big!!" Then she turns around and says "SIL was NEVER that big either!". I was like Lady, I'm 5'3, you and SIL are both 6' tall. You guys have A LOT more torso to fill vertically than I do, my growing baby has to go SOMEWHERE. And thanks for making me feel bad, I thought I looked pretty good for how far along I am, and I still have 3 months to go, so Im only going to get bigger.
I would feel about 10X worse but I know my MIL isn't trying to be malicious about it. She's hands down one of the sweetest ladies, she just doesn't filter very well.... sigh.
At church yesterday a lady asked me, "When are you due?" and I said, "August." She then laughed hysterically and walked away.
I instantly get defensive about being asked my due date now, because most people seem to be asking just so they can express their disbelief that I'm not due until August. Fun.
At church yesterday a lady asked me, "When are you due?" and I said, "August." She then laughed hysterically and walked away.
I instantly get defensive about being asked my due date now, because most people seem to be asking just so they can express their disbelief that I'm not due until August. Fun.
I have been throwing up for going on 23 weeks now. Some of my pregnant friends or those who have been pregnant before keep telling me that they are envious of me because I have lost weight I just sarcastically say, "Yeah, puking and being nauseated for nearly six months so far has been just a delight."
Also, this morning my doctor also jokingly prescribed me daily visits to "Cook-Out" (a nasty fast food restaurant) to gain weight for my next appointment. Yeah, yeah, that's what I want to be feeding my baby...processed fast food. BINGO! No!
I think I must live in a pretty polite area because now that I'm obviously pregnant, I'm still not getting any comments or questions about it from people I've seen weekly for the last 4 years (and through the last two pregnancies.) It's nice to know that some people do adhere to the rule of don't ask a woman if she's pregnant unless her water just broke on your shoes or if the baby is crowning.
I'll admit that I'm bigger this time than before and I'm wondering how I'm going to get to Aug.
I'm horrified at some of the comments I've seen here! If anyone commented on my "jugs" or "titties" I don't know what I'd do!
Yesterday I came into the office and it was so hot in here! I turned down the air and then someone came a few minutes later and turned it off! I told my boss I was going to be working from home if they can't keep the office at a reasonable temp ( they like 80 seriously and I like 70) and then everyone started laughing and saying they were going to make t-shirts that say "Don't anger the pregnant woman!" I don't think it's funny to be feeling faint becuase it's so hot in here or that I'm being irrational!
I am sick of the ocmments too... and now I feel like I have to hide every time I want to snack on something at my desk because someone always comments "oh eating again?"
I'm a hair stylist and I have this client that every few weeks she comes on for a cut or color, every time she asks how far along I am.. I respond with where I am and she proceeds to tells how big my belly is and am I sure it's just one?! I want so badly to punch her in the neck.. 29wks and I've gained less then 8lbs seriously lady
Probably a month or so ago now, I was wearing my maternity shirt that says Due in August.. I had a woman ask me if that was true referring to my shirt.. Uhh no I just decided I would wear a maternity shirt with a due date to trick people.. Duhhh Some people I swear lol
Re: Stupid comments you've heard lately
Omg. Sorry ladies, but both of these comments literally made me laugh out loud. Haha! That is the most ridiculous and uncomfortable/ inappropriate thing I may have heard yet! Why do people think this is ok?! Most people do not refer to breasts as "titties" ... why now?!
I thought it was bad when my aunt referred to me as "little mama". Now I feel as if this is so not cringe worthy!
I'm right there with you. Sure, summer will be hot (duh!) but I won't be working, I'll be just fine sitting on the beach!!
There is no correct way to answer this question.
1. "Every time I see you you're bigger!." My friend's mom said this on Sunday to which my friend replied "Excuse the woman with the brain injury. Geez mom!". Friend's mom had a brain tumor which she is recovered from and cancer free.
2. "Oh, another boy? Well that will be ok." I keep getting these weird veiled sympathetic replies when people find out it's another boy. It's like they all need to treat me gently because I *must* be torn up inside about not having a girl? I don't know, it's very strange because it's not the type of reaction I've ever had when someone tells me they're having another of the same sex.
Pardon me! Dance costumes aren't exactly designed to flatter a pregnant figure. So rude.
I got one from my MIL yesterday. Well, actually two right after each other. Her and FIL came over for burgers last night and while I was standing in the kitchen getting everything ready she kept staring at my belly and then goes "sorry Im staring, you're just so big! I don't think I was EVER that big!!" Then she turns around and says "SIL was NEVER that big either!". I was like Lady, I'm 5'3, you and SIL are both 6' tall. You guys have A LOT more torso to fill vertically than I do, my growing baby has to go SOMEWHERE. And thanks for making me feel bad, I thought I looked pretty good for how far along I am, and I still have 3 months to go, so Im only going to get bigger.
I would feel about 10X worse but I know my MIL isn't trying to be malicious about it. She's hands down one of the sweetest ladies, she just doesn't filter very well.... sigh.
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
What the actual Fuck? What is WRONG with people?
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
I'm horrified at some of the comments I've seen here! If anyone commented on my "jugs" or "titties" I don't know what I'd do!
Yesterday I came into the office and it was so hot in here! I turned down the air and then someone came a few minutes later and turned it off! I told my boss I was going to be working from home if they can't keep the office at a reasonable temp ( they like 80 seriously and I like 70) and then everyone started laughing and saying they were going to make t-shirts that say "Don't anger the pregnant woman!" I don't think it's funny to be feeling faint becuase it's so hot in here or that I'm being irrational!
Some people I swear lol