Just hired and already having problems!

kimmybaby412 · May 2014

Hello, my name is Kim and I am 18 weeks pregnant. I just got hired at stop N shop and I was suppose to start work Tuesday. My boss does not know i'm preggo, and I do not plan on telling her. There was a clue that maybe she thinks I am because she said I can change my W2 if I have another baby this year.

So my first day yesterday, I was suppose to be in at 9 AM and had trouble getting up so I got in at 9:15 AM and I know that is late and apologized right away. She sent me home.

Then today, I left earlier and got there at 5 past 9 AM and got the same reaction if not worse. She then told me to go home again and said they don't really need me that bad and I have not started working for the Union yet, I am not an employee. I filled out all my paperwork, can she really fire me before I even start? She told me to come back tomorrow again at 2:30 to talk to her supervisor to decide what to do. I have had a lot of jobs and I have never been treated this way by a boss, especially the first week. I am really trying and really need this job, but do not like the disrespect that is already starting. It is just plain humiliating! Please help!

lct2008 · May 2014

I think the "disrespect that is already starting" is you coming in late for your first two days of work.

BlckRoses · May 2014

You were late your first two days of work because you slept in. That's plenty of reason to fire you. Unless you were extremely apologetic and acted mortified about being late and then made up for it by being extra early from then on out and working your ass off, I would have serious problems with you as an employee. But two days in a row and not seeming apologetic about it all, yeah, I'd show you the door.

peanutbuttervibes · May 2014

I would have most definitely fired you.

Meery82 · May 2014

Uh, yeah. Ditto to PPs. You don't get to come into work whenever you please just because you're pregnant. You've been late to your first two days at your job. I'm sure your boss thinks you are a complete flake who is going to continue to be late and have other "issues" arise. She can replace you in a minute with someone who is much more dependable. When you get a new job, make punctuality a priority and they may keep you for more than a couple days.

abbyful · May 2014

Um, yeah... I'm pregnant and I have a toddler to get ready and drop off at daycare, and I have to be at work at 7am.

You really need to get your shit together and show up to work ON TIME, preferably early. It's extremely disrespectful to be late, even more-so your first few days of work, and it shows you don't care about the job.

haliebabyx3 · May 2014

I really don't know how we can help you. It was on you to show up late, just think when the baby gets here. In the post you said "another" baby. Are you already a mom? Really you just need to organize your time a little better. Everyone understands things happen, but on the first two days? Doesn't give you a good reputation in the work place. I would have made sure to definitely leave way ahead of time for the first day.

MrsLaLaBug · May 2014

Another vote for get to work on time and you wouldn't be posting this... DUH.

Disneygeek77 · May 2014

If you keep your job, then realize they are being very kind and generous. However, I have a feeling you will be let go very soon.

Need to start looking for another job.

Manateearmz · May 2014

You have to be on time for work period. I don't think 9am is "optional".

If you reside in a no-fault state they certainly are well within ther rights to fire you. Good luck with the job hunt.

yeah. · May 2014

Um, then get to work on time. i don't know what you're looking for here. There is disrespect for sure, but it's on your part for showing up late the first two days. This is a no-brainer.

I'd have fired you already, pregnant or not.

MallardDucky · May 2014

As a manager this would not fly, I employ mostly teenagers and they know how to come into work on time.

You need to do some soul searching

24karat · May 2014

You'd be hard pressed to find an employer who won't fire you immediately for being late your first two days on the job. It's not disrespectful for them to do so, it's very disrespectful for you to be late. Being late because of an uncontrollable circumstance (road closure for an accident, etc) can be understood...but having a hard time waking up or underestimating the time it takes to get to work is pretty much inexcusable. No matter what you say verbally your actions are clearly saying to them that you don't care, work is not a priority, and you are not dependable. Pregnancy does not excuse this. If anything it should make you more determined to prove you are a reliable employee.

This (and your "humiliation") are not your boss's fault. The best thing you can do is own up to your mistakes, accept the consequences, and learn to be a better employee from it.

PrimRoseMama · May 2014

If you can't get up & be at work on time then no, you aren't "really trying". They can fire you if you are late every shift. Suck it up & act like adult.

Pregnant or not-- being late is an offense that will get you fired at any job at any time.

GinnyJ2012 · May 2014

I was a manager at my last job and I would have fired you the moment you walked in late on day two unless you had a very good reason. Why were you late?

Manateearmz · May 2014

GinnyJ2012 said:
I was a manager at my last job and I would have fired you the moment you walked in late on day two unless you had a very good reason. Why were you late?

She had trouble getting up.

By 9 am I've been awake for almost 4 hours. Because I have to be at work by 730-745. Welcome to adult life OP.

Meery82 · May 2014

GinnyJ2012 said:

I was a manager at my last job and I would have fired you the moment you walked in late on day two unless you had a very good reason. Why were you late?

Apparently she "had trouble getting up".

Manateearmz · May 2014

::sits back and waits to hear about how mean we are::

Meery82 · May 2014

Manateearmz said:

::sits back and waits to hear about how mean we are::

I'll bet you a bingo card she doesn't respond at all.

LilSip0611 · May 2014

Ditto what PPs said. Andplusalso, 9 AM is not early. You should have had no problem getting to work on time. If you can't wake up in time, you should go to bed earlier.

Weezy56 · May 2014

kimmybaby412 said:
Hello, my name is Kim and I am 18 weeks pregnant. I just got hired at stop N shop and I was suppose to start work Tuesday. My boss does not know i'm preggo, and I do not plan on telling her. There was a clue that maybe she thinks I am because she said I can change my W2 if I have another baby this year.

So my first day yesterday, I was suppose to be in at 9 AM and had trouble getting up so I got in at 9:15 AM and I know that is late and apologized right away. She sent me home.

Then today, I left earlier and got there at 5 past 9 AM and got the same reaction if not worse. She then told me to go home again and said they don't really need me that bad and I have not started working for the Union yet, I am not an employee. I filled out all my paperwork, can she really fire me before I even start? She told me to come back tomorrow again at 2:30 to talk to her supervisor to decide what to do. I have had a lot of jobs and I have never been treated this way by a boss, especially the first week. I am really trying and really need this job, but do not like the disrespect that is already starting. It is just plain humiliating! Please help!

This lack of personal responsibility amazes me. Why don't you hold yourself accountable for your actions. It will only get that much harder to get yourself out the door once you have a child.

The only disrespect here is coming from you.

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cMichelle0423 · May 2014

You're mentality on this blows my mind OP. Being late for your first two shifts is definitely a reason to be fired. Pregnant or not. Although I'm a SAHM now, I worked throughout my entire first pregnancy and wasn't late a single day. Nor did I leave early, no matter how shitty I was feeling. Yes, pregnancy can be hard to deal with, but you're an adult and you have responsibilities. In just a few months you're about to have even more responsibilities. If you can't be responsible enough to show up to work on time, how are you going to be able to raise a child?

mysticl · May 2014

dorothyzbornak97 said:

So you were late your first day and left early your second day? And they're disrespecting you?

Also, I'm 22 weeks pregnant (although it really doesn't matter) and I manage to get to work on time every day--sometimes, *gasp*, even early! Get it together.

She didn't leave early. She was late to work both days so they sent her home both days instead of letting her complete her shift. When she said she left earlier she meant she left her house earlier.

OP, they absolutely can fire you. I'm guessing she made a bigger deal of it on day two because it was becoming a pattern. She wasn't happy about it on day one but maybe gave you the benefit of the doubt thinking you didn't realize how long it would take to get there or something. Day two, not so much.

RayRay007 · May 2014

I can't believe she's surprised she got fired for showing up late on the first two days of work.

portentosa · May 2014

Nicb13 said:

I guess OP isn't coming back? And to think I almost didn't open this thread!

She'll be back. Just a little... later.

Manateearmz · May 2014

theresat858 said:
Bump stalk says she was active an hour ago, but hasn't read any of the replies yet.

Oh the suspense!

veetveet · May 2014

I'd fire you. I wouldn't think twice about it.

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lookame3639 · May 2014

Yeah.. your work ethic is...nonexistent. i manage to get to work early before my 9 am and I am pregnant. That's not an excuse to be late...that's on you.

As an employee i expect people the be on time so I can leave and pick up my son from school...the later you are the longer I have to stay and cover and a lot of times your 15 minutes means no lunch for me and late pickup for my son so I'd certainly be pissed if you did it 2 days in a row. You've already shown this job isn't required for you.

Eastie156 · May 2014

You are being disrespectful to your boss by showing up your first two days late. Honestly, you should be fired. Pregnancy has nothing to do with your situation. I understand you are tired, but a job is a job. You have to abide by the company's policies or risk what is happening right now to you.

portentosa · May 2014

Shoot. 9am is my lunch break. I start work at 3am... pregnant or no.

sandrabrooke · May 2014

9am is early???

haliebabyx3 · May 2014

She ran away guys.

kimmybaby412 · May 2014

Well I got another chance to show myself! And Yes I agree I should tell them Im pregnant. I did tell her I would like afternoon shifts better and agreed to do late morning shifts. I understand I was wrong and someone said I didn't apologize but i did. It's been 3 years work since i worked cuz my hubby usually took care of me. but i am going to take this job seriously and give it my best effort this time!

kimmybaby412 · May 2014

cMichelle0423 said:

You're mentality on this blows my mind OP. Being late for your first two shifts is definitely a reason to be fired. Pregnant or not. Although I'm a SAHM now, I worked throughout my entire first pregnancy and wasn't late a single day. Nor did I leave early, no matter how shitty I was feeling. Yes, pregnancy can be hard to deal with, but you're an adult and you have responsibilities. In just a few months you're about to have even more responsibilities. If you can't be responsible enough to show up to work on time, how are you going to be able to raise a child?

I raised a child and went to school full time. so i wouldn't judge people before you know them. I have a 2 year old son so this isn't my first rodeo. I'm a great mom. And I made a mistake but I have a chance to redeem myself. Next time I ask for help on here, I all second guess because there is a point to helping or going advice to being just plain rude!!

kimmybaby412 · May 2014

Yeah some people don't change and men can't accept responsibility.

PrimRoseMama · May 2014

kimmybaby412 said:
Yeah some people don't change and men can't accept responsibility.

I'm lol that you have your knickers in a twist about responsibility

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PrimRoseMama · May 2014

My husband is the bread n' bacon winner in our house hold. I worked before I had kids though. How old are these people?!

mysticl · May 2014

starla487 said:

If you are in an At-Will state, the employer doesn't have to give you a reason for canning you. Though - you have a pretty legit one there so it wouldn't be too hard to figure out.

Set more alarms.

Yeah, and the pregnancy only prevents you from being fired for being pregnant. Not from being fired for cause. I have run into people who think the pregnancy anti-discrimination law makes them termination proof.

Meery82 · May 2014

Nicb13 said:

kimmybaby412 said:

Well I got another chance to show myself! And Yes I agree I should tell them Im pregnant. I did tell her I would like afternoon shifts better and agreed to do late morning shifts. I understand I was wrong and someone said I didn't apologize but i did. It's been 3 years work since i worked cuz my hubby usually took care of me. but i am going to take this job seriously and give it my best effort this time!

I would probably laugh in your face for requesting shifts that work best for YOU, especially after you showed up late and basically blew the first 2 days at your new job.
And I'm sorry, but you can't use the excuse "I haven't worked for 3 years because my SO has been taking care of me". Everyone should have some sort of work ethic or sense of responsibility but apparently you don't...?

Once again, @nicb13, you have read my mind and typed it up for me!

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