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January 2015 Moms
LadyXaverian
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Playdate: Ask a second (or third, or fourth) time Mom anything!
LadyXaverian
member
In chat a few nights ago, a couple of us talked about doing a thread like this from time to time. A thread where first time moms can ask those of us who have BTDT (been there, done that) anything they want. Kind of like the "newbie playdate" thread on TTGP, it is intended to truly be flame free and a place where you can ask all of the silly (or not silly) questions you want without worrying what others will think.
These can be questions about pregnancy, delivery, newborns... whatever. I expect that the types of questions asked will evolve over the months as our pregnancies progress.
This isn't MY thread to start, and I don't think it needs to be a thread that is always started on the same day by the same person, but if we want to do that, that's fine, too.
Anyway, first time moms, ask away! 2nd, 3rd, 4th time moms, feel free to chip in! 
Our sweet girl is 3!
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Re: Playdate: Ask a second (or third, or fourth) time Mom anything!
I was intrigued so I checked it. You sneak
1. you won't be wearing regular clothes, or even your smaller maternity clothes home from the hospital. You will still look 9 months pregnant. It was effing depressing for me, lol. Nobody told me it would take weeks and months to look like I wasn't pregnant, lol.
2. @NatureLovers um no... definitely tighter. Trust me, after 6 weeks post vaginal delivery, you will be scared shitless to have sex because it's like virgin sex all over again, lol. That thing is like elastic and gets just as tight again after being left alone. God says "you're welcome" lol!
3. If you're lucky (or maybe not so lucky, lol) your boobs are going to engorge like the Hoover Dam a few days after you give birth. If you think pregnancy boobs are big, just wait. I swear to you, I think I had like freaking E size boobs when my milk came in. I chose not to breastfeed, so I was all kinds of miserable. Nothing made it feel better... the only thing you can do to make it feel better is to express it, and you can't if you're not breastfeeding because you'll just make more milk. I swear I could have breastfed a small village if I had wanted to. I had a breast augmentation a few years after I had my daughter, and that was NOTHING compared to when my milk came in. My advice: get in the shower with the water on your back, lean over, and let that milk flow out, lol. Put towels on the bed, constantly wear a bra, and bind your boobs with an ACE bandage if you aren't going to breastfeed.
When I think of more things, I'll let you know!
DD: 10 (born August 2004)
Married 03/01/14
TTC#2
BFP: 05/17/2014 EDD: 1/25/15 MMC: 06/30/2014
Don't let other moms make you feel like shit because you do things differently than they do. Trust me, you are that baby's mom and you are with him/her 24/7. I promise you know what to do before another mother... and if you're asking advice, take it with a grain of salt. Try what you want, and do away with the rest. Babies are actually pretty resilient.
Don't let OLDER mothers try to judge you either (the whole "back in my day, we did such and such with our babies" routine).... Honey, it's 2014 (2015 when our babies will be here) and we will use the technology and new things that mankind has created to make our jobs easier, better, etc. Just because they didn't do it/have it doesn't mean we have to do things they way they did "back then." Shit, it's ten years since I had my daughter and just about everything is different. Am I gonna use the bumbo seat, the 3D ultrasound, etc... you damn right I am!
DD: 10 (born August 2004)
Married 03/01/14
TTC#2
BFP: 05/17/2014 EDD: 1/25/15 MMC: 06/30/2014
DD: 10 (born August 2004)
Married 03/01/14
TTC#2
BFP: 05/17/2014 EDD: 1/25/15 MMC: 06/30/2014
I had pretty easy deliveries and minimal tearing on the 1st...but everything goes back.
It was more than true for me. I cried and cried. I did not think they could get any bigger and it hurt like fuck. I had no clue what to do with them. I had zero bras that fit them and that size was not sold in any store so I had to order some and wait for them to arrive and hope and pray they fit. Ugh. So much crying lol
Thanks!! I'll have a new name in no time!
It didn't hurt much when my milk came in, and I breastfed fine with #1.
I was pretty smug about breastfeeding after #1 was so easy, and assumed that I would be great at it. I had to quit at 6 months after trying everything to BF #2. Boy did I feel dumb.
The epidural did not slow down my labor. It made it possible to have labor without being arrested for homicide.
Losing weight...is so hard. I still wear maternity clothes sometimes. I actually never stopped. The maternity sundresses are so darn comfortable!
I guess the thing I wasn't expecting to not be able to breastfeed nearly at all. But my thyroid levels were all over the place and j was so stressed because we were in the process of buying a house. I'm hoping this time it will go better.
I was also surprised at how easy it was for me to lose weight while BF.
Dec '12 & Jan '15
And...the my breast friend pillow (NOT boppy) and the football hold for nursing saved my life. For real.
I was not prepared for BFing problems, reflux colic and dairy allergies. I mean I knew about it, but I didn't really GET it until I was there.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
I did not poop. Either time. My DH would have gleefully let me know if I did.
I would say that one thing to do with breastfeeding is to drink a TON of water. More than you think you need. And eat lots of healthy foods all day long. And to not worry and give baby a bottle because you don't think he/she is getting enough. Their tummies are so small at first-the size of a marble.
And you can pump extra in the beginning, but don't pump to replace a feed (like, don't pump while DH gives a bottle) for as long as possible. Like until you go back to work or have to leave the baby for some reason.
If you don't feel like you are pumping enough, get help immediately. More water. Fenergeek. Lactation consultant. Hospital grade pump. Don't wait-remedy that right away.
1. Read books, visit kellymom.com, talk to BFing moms, get a good pump. Feed on demand. Throw everything you know about baby "schedules" out the window and feed, feed, feed. Know that dairy can take 2 weeks to leave your system so if you expect a dairy allergy you have to really give it up, not just kind of give it up. Seek help, seriously, seek help when it gets hard. LC are there for a reason, use their help.
2. I tore, it hurt, I got stitched up and everything is fine. My first poop after giving birth was um, difficult, other then that I survived.
3. I was terrified of this, and I really think it effected my pushing and made me an ineffective pusher. if it happens it happens. Nobody cares.
A kiss he will never forget- Disney World 2014
2. I'm pretty sure you either tear or get cut. I don't think you can avoid it. I tore sideways and I wish they'd have given me an episiotomy. I cried every time I peed for two weeks.
3. Common. Your nurse will be discreet. Shit happens.
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