Hi!
Well I had quite the ordeal on Tuesday night and wanted to share. Welcome to the third trimester, and so long to my drug-free pregnancy I was aiming for...
Short story: I had a kidney stone attack, ended up spending the night in the high-risk/antenatal unit and fortunately passed the stone, avoiding surgery!
(very) Long story:So, Tuesday I woke up feeling kind of off, at 5 a.m., and took a bath. Got through the day ok, but I feel a lot of urgency to pee - yet, no pee came out - and what did kind of trickled, no proper 'pee stream' could be made. I definitely did not drink enough water that day, but still. It was odd. I had a nutritionist appointment in the afternoon and asked to have my pee tested for a UTI. They obliged, but said it was likely the baby sitting on my bladder (later, the OB triage nurse said "um, a little soon for that").
I came home and around 5 p.m. got some serious, telltale flank pain that to me had kidney stone written all over it. I called my MFM and the NP taking calls said to try two tylenol and to rest, but if it got unbearable to go to OB triage after calling her back to alert them I was coming in. I took another bath and got the dry heaves, twice (always pretty to puke in the tub). I laid down for a while and tried relaxation techniques, only to find myself vomiting again from the pain. I called back deciding it was time to go in, and then texted J to come and get me!
The OB Triage was a great experience. WAY superior to an ER! They first monitored the baby for about 30 minutes. I was in *so much pain* but I just tried to breath and her rhythmic heartbeat was relaxing. I rated my pain an 8 of 10 - and I have a pretty high pain tolerance. It took quite a while and then finally they gave me morphine. So much for my drug-free pregnancy:(. It did
absolutely nothing to address the pain, at all, and I was sent for a kidney ultrasound. That was less than awesome as it felt like I had a knife in my side and they were pushing and ultrasounding all over it. I whimpered through it. They definitely saw stones (duh) and I headed back to OB triage.
Luckily, even before the u/s my MFM was there and said she was admitting me. It was kind of a relief to just know I could settle in and honestly, in my head there was no better place to be! They moved me to my room (now I'm at a 9 of 10 pain) and said "we need to do an internal cervix check" - ug. Good news was it was high, long, and closed. The bad news was it was seriously uncomfortable. No one at any point was worried about the baby which was reassuring.
Finally at around 9:30 p.m. they gave me a different drug ("the big guns"..."we use this for drug addicts"...) that worked great for about 2 hours but could only be administered every 3 hours - so I started resting/sleeping for 2 hour chunks, waking in pain and watching the clock till my next dose but that was tolerable. Meanwhile, the doc came in (this was right after I got painkillers, and J ran home to get clothes as she has to work at 4 a.m. so I was alone and whacked out) - to tell me I'd almost certainly require surgery in the morning to put in a stent to allow the stone to pass. She said "We can't leave you this way." I was cut off from water or food at midnight.
So when J returned I told her about surgery and she was shocked (I was too, well, as shocked as you can be on drugs that make you not care about anything) - so she arranged for my sister to come in case I needed surgery since J had to be at work (the manager of that shop was out drinking, so she didn't trust him to cover for her as he was drunk when she called at 11:30 p.m....). This was stressful but I was kind of like "whatever we have to do - keep the baby safe and stop this agony." The nurse I had was awesome and kept up on my meds, but kept saying "no one has ever passed a stone in my 20 years ... I've never seen one." Thanks for the pep talk, Mary.
Well they were hydrating me like mad via IV, and gave me a pill to relax my ureter, and so I was peeing a LOT more which was great. I woke up around 5:30 a.m. with no pain. Now, the drugs are awesome but you still feel pain, just not so bad that you can't handle it. At this point - it was totally GONE. I tried to put off the next dose of meds, suggesting maybe I passed the stone, but Mary said "we're on top of it now so it's best to stay that way" and shot me up. Then she checked my pee (she strained it all)
after the shot and I hear her say "Huh?!" from the bathroom. She got her charge nurse and low and behold, I managed to pee out the 3mm stone!! They came over and showed me and congratulated me. Apparently my stone made the rounds because all the nurses had never seen one that passed! (They do high-risk OB, and basically push you to surgery ASAP, minimizing your chance to pass it on your own like a non-pregnant person might be able to do given enough time).
The urologist came at 6:30 a.m. and said, "well I have all the consents for the surgery you no longer need"

. She gave me follow-up instructions and basically I will likely need to get some treatment after the baby is born. It's not uncommon to develop stones in pregnancy, and I even went for an "all clear" CT scan in June last year before we tried again to be sure nothing was amiss and I didn't have stones then. They did a 40-minute monitoring of the baby, had me eat a few times and then discharged me around 2:30.
The good out of this:
- I got a dry run of going to L&D
- I had a great experience there - everyone did what they said they were going to do, set expectations and gave us consistent messages
- I was in the high-risk OB ward, and realized how lucky I was! One woman just delivered twins after 65 days of hospital bed rest; and my nurse had two patients on magnesium for high blood pressure/pre-e who she had to help pee because they were a fall risk. My kidney stone was small potatoes.
- The food wasn't bad, once I was allowed to eat and surgery was off the table I had both lunch and dinner; and J had lunch too ($8)
- My urologist, MFM, MFM fellow, and both nurses I had told me kidney stone pain actually surpasses labor pain! So now labor will be a breeze, right? (says she who wants an unmedicated birth but was begging for drugs on Tuesday...hm...we'll see). My MIL texted at the time, having had both, that she would birth 100 babies over 1 kidney stone attack.
Oddly, I hardly was worried about the baby - I think because she was monitored right away and I could feel her moving. J told me she was terrified about the baby more than anything, but thankfully she concealed that worry from me because she didn't want me more stressed or worrying about her. I think I was in too much pain to think about anything else, and I felt very safe with the hospital and doctors.
Anyhow, that is my story! It was quite an ordeal and I am happy to put time between me and that experience! I'm dealing with the aftermath of my narcotic binge - itchy, constipation expected - but overall, phew. I'm just so glad that is OVER.
Thanks for listening/reading!!! 
Re: AW: I went to L&D and all I birthed was a 3mm kidney stone...
A & K, married 7/1/13.
After 10 months of ttc via medicated IUIs and two early losses, we finally got our boys- Perfect premie twins born 5/27/14.
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle
Me: 30 DW (aka C): 29
Together since 2/15/11 ~ Legally married in NY on 9/29/12
***CP mentioned***
We've been working on baby #1 since July 2013 using Open ID donor sperm. 8 IUI attempts with 5 actual IUIs and one chemical pregnancy. We have one fresh IVF cycle under our belts as well as a FET. I have endometriosis and a uterine septum that was corrected via surgery in November 2013.
11/14/14 - Second HSG shows that tubes are still clear and ute is looking good.
12/6/14 - Started BCPs in prep for IVF #2
12/22/14 - Saline u/s and endometrial scratch (All was clear and OUCH!)
1/2/15 - Began stimming for IVF #2
****All Welcome!****
We are Mommas to four fur babies - 3 dogs and 1 cat.
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
Me: 30 DP: 30
TTC#1
IUI#1 9/26/13 BFN
IUI#2 10/26/13 BFP beta #1 99 #2 456
2/20/2014 Brynlee Madeline is taken too soon at 19weeks she was perfect
IUI#3 6/10/14 BFP beta #1 276 beta #2 722 20w A/S shows we are having a girl
CageyMack
37, married to my favorite person in the world, DW! One darling surfer-girl (12) and one darling, sweet boy born 3/16/13.
5/2013 Started TTC #3, DW's turn: 5/2013: Diagnostics (shg) and surgery (polyp rem.) for best chances. July-Oct: IUI # 1-4, medicated, monitored, triggered. All BFN. IVF in Jan May. Sheesh. Whoop! IVF#1 cycle started 4/2/14. 5/1: 19 eggs retrieved, 8 matured, ICSI'd. 4 fertilized. Only 2 to transfer/freeze stage. 5/6: Two embryos transferred. 5/15: Beta #1 9dp5dt is 134! BFP! 5/19: Beta #2 13dp5dt is 672! B'erFP! 5/21: Beta #3 15dp5dt is 1853. Yay!
"Things separate from their stories have no meaning. They are only shapes. Of a certain size and color. A certain weight. When their meaning has become lost to us they no longer have even a name. The story on the other hand can never be lost from its place in the world for it is that place.” ― Cormac McCarthy, The Crossing
We're queer. I'm 33, have severe stage 4 endo, and had both fallopian tubes removed. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.
Our IUIs
with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.
Our IVFs:
IVF #1 my eggs November/December 2013: Cancelled IVF due to poor response
IVF #2 my eggs/Manada's uterus January/February 2014
BCPs and lupron overlap Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
BFP eve of 6dp3dt; Beta 1 (11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (15dp3dt): 348; Beta 4 (19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (21dp3dt): 4255
1st ultrasound (3/6 6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm.
***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***
FET #1 December 2014
Queer coupled and having a BABY with the love of my life! Love my life and wouldn't have it any other way!
First IUI 1/22/2013 BFN: 2/7/2013, Second IUI 2/21/2013 BFN: 3/9/2013, Third IUI 4/23/2013 BFN: 5/8/2013, Fourth IUI 5/24/2013 BFN: 6/7/2013, Fifth IUI 6/24/2013 BFN: 7/8/2013
C began IUI's
7/23/2013 C's first IUI BFN, 8/21/2013 C's second IUI BFN , Took a break in September and October, 11/05/2013 C's 3rd IUI (TWW...we meet again...) BFN, Took off the month to switch to an RE. 01/01/2014 C's 4th IUI...BFP!!!!!!!! Beta #1- 17, Beta #2- 34, Beta #3-140.... 6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014
03/21/2014 IUI #10...BFP!!! Beta #1- 48, Beta #2- 416, Beta #3- 1018. GROW BABY GROW!!!
1st Ultrasound 4/22/2014 Baby Squints is PERFECT! Measuring at 6w2d with a heartbeat of 129. EDD: 12/12/14.
Ultrasound at 18 weeks on 7/14/2014. Baby is healthy and growing just as she should!
Check out my blog at: http://journeytoparenthoodandmakingmilk.blogspot.com/
Baby Oliver born 11/27/13
TTC stats with donor sperm...
IUI #1 with trigger, 1/4/13 - BFN
IUI #2 with trigger, 2/1/13 BFN
IUI #3 with tigger, 2/28/12 BFP EDD 11/21/13
Baby Hayden Frances born 12/20/14 at 11:11 a.m... Our perfect little miracle. Here's how we got here:
My lovely wife:
5 IUI's January 2013-June 2013- 3 Cycles with Clomid- BFN
Myself: Genderqueer guy who hopped in the driver's seat of the baby making train
IUI #6- 7/23- Monitored and Trigger on Day 12, with one 16mm follicle and one 18mm follicle- BFN
IUI #7- 8/21- Not monitored, 50mg Clomid- BFN
September and October: Missed Cycles due to vacation and a Half Marathon
IUI #8- Monitored and triggered on day 15, with one 23x18mm follicle- BFN on 11/19/2013
December: Moved onto to see an RE to make a good plan.
IUI #9- 1/1/2014 Natural Cycle, BFP on 1/15/2014, 6W Ultra-Sound Reveals nothing in Gestation Sack... Natural M/C at 7W, 2/3/2014
IUI #10 3/21/2014- Natural Cycle- BFP on 4/1/2014 (please don't be an April Fools. Beta #1 13dpiui- 48, Beta #2 16dpiui- 416, Beta #3 1018...
1st Ultrasound- 4/22/2014- 6w4d HB- 134!
Check out my Blog at: http://pregnantboithinksoutloud.blogspot.com/