I can't wait for this person to become a mom.

TarheelMama202 · May 2014

So, there's this girl that I know of-- I don't really know her, but she went to college with some of my friends. She started following me on instagram several months ago. She has a blog. This girl is in her early twenties, does not have children, is not engaged or married. One of my friends sent me the link to this post she wrote a few days ago and I. Just. Could. Not. Handle.

Read this and enjoy. I do not have any remorse about straight-up copy/pasting this from her blog, either, because it is just that foolish:

"Everyone has a right to their own parenting style, however in my personal opinion (as a nanny to 3 infants.. and an aunt to 6 babes) I think breastfeeding should be done by age 1 (props to mom's who can make it to that point), child wearing should stop at age 2 (they need independence..and no offense but I doubt your parents wore you around that much and you turned out just fine), co-sleeping with children really should not be happening unless something out of routine is going on (take it from a nanny..you are creating problems in so many more ways than one..and I really believe in some quality alone time when it comes to parenthood..set boundaries folks), STOP judging cloth diapers people (they are not bad and you are lying to yourself if you wouldn't want to save 20 grand a year..) and finally...it is really not hard to dress your child nicely for cheap (marshalls..ross..carters..gap clearance..etc.). Now those are my personal opinions and you can feel free to differ!"

TarheelMama202 · May 2014

Also, no hating on people who aren't engaged/married. I was just listing that as a means of saying that she really hasn't had any formative life experiences.

PhieryBFly · May 2014

Oh my gosh! I would LOVE to slap that girl upside the head with research that blows her opinions out of the water!

TarheelMama202 · May 2014

Teacher Clark said:

Oh my. I can't wait for her to figure out that nannying is still no where close to the real deal, and then see how well she sticks to her ideals.

YES, Teach! My thoughts precisely.

I've been missing you!

DublinMama · May 2014

Few thoughts:

1. I use disposables, but I do not spend anywhere near 20 g's a year on them.
2. I truly and really don't care what others do with their kids. But I will say this....90% of the choices I've made as a mother were kid based on DS' personality. He likes his own sleeping space. So whether I wanted to co-sleep or not, it wasn't happening. He is not a cuddler. He was not into the moby, but dug on the Ergo. It's touch and go now. If he wants to be held and is happy to be in it, I'm psyched. If not, I try to alter my strategy. It has nothing to do with how much independence I want him to have.
3. My kid wears clothes from Wal-mart most of the time because he goes to daycare and gets play-doh and black beans all over them. He doesn't need to be fancy for that, even on the cheap. Why does anyone care how a baby is dressed unless it's not appropriate for the weather?

Disagreeing with someone's choices does not, by default, make your choices the "right" ones. Mother or not.

TarheelMama202 · May 2014

I think the issue I have with it is exactly what DC said. Until you've been a parent, you get zero say. And you ABSOLUTELY do not get to judge other moms.

I think we all know I could give two shits about how someone feeds, dresses, or tears their child in any way or form. Please do not think that's my problem with this.

TarheelMama202 · May 2014

Rears, not tears. WTAF.

Drea926 · May 2014

I get it Tarheel, you advocate tearing up children lol.

DublinMama · May 2014

TarheelMama202 said:

I think the issue I have with it is exactly what DC said. Until you've been a parent, you get zero say. And you ABSOLUTELY do not get to judge other moms. I think we all know I could give two shits about how someone feeds, dresses, or tears their child in any way or form. Please do not think that's my problem with this.

Oh, not at all! I just don't get why she gives one lol. Especially with children not her own. I've been a nanny. A live in one, at that. At the end of the day, they're still someone else's children.

eddy92482 · May 2014

All I can say is I had a personal opinion when I was an aunt....then I became a mom....man was my world turned upside down....poor girl.....the interwebz is forever. Now she has blogged forever the world to see....

jesuisfatiguee · May 2014

She's a real peach.

And who spends $20 grand on diapers a year? Are you joking?

kleigh926 · May 2014

Um..... I'm really not even sure I could hold myself back from responding to that. And it would not be too pretty. $20,000 a year on diapers? Really?! Are the diapers she's seen lined with gold?

TarheelMama202 · May 2014

The $20 K on dipes and the clothes part were killing me.

jesuisfatiguee · May 2014

verovladamir said:
Follow up....

Am I a bad mom if I wear sweatpants? Right now I'm totally wearing PJs with moose on them that say "I moose be dreaming...."

Where did you get them? I want some!

Rynleigh · May 2014

TarheelMama202 said:

The $20 K on dipes and the clothes part were killing me.

I was trying to figure out who would spend $1666/mo on disposable diapers. That's like, over 40 boxes a month.... I assume she meant 2 grand.. thou that's still an absurd number... I don't even spend that much on my twins' diapers... like I won't even have spent $500 in all of 2014 on diapers by new year's...

TarheelMama202 · May 2014

Rynleigh said:

TarheelMama202 said:

The $20 K on dipes and the clothes part were killing me.

I was trying to figure out who would spend $1666/mo on disposable diapers. That's like, over 40 boxes a month.... I assume she meant 2 grand.. thou that's still an absurd number... I don't even spend that much on my twins' diapers... like I won't even have spent $500 in all of 2014 on diapers by new year's...

Can we all find these people who are apparently spending $20K per year on diapers and demand that they give us half of that cash? Cause y'all, I don't make much more than that. Give me da monies.

kbates85 · May 2014

Oh dear.

I have this friend that's in her early thirties, lives alone, has never been in a long term relationship or had kids. She is FULL of amazing opinions. I just can't. Our friendship has pretty much gone into the toilet.

This is the part that pisses me off a little because the friend that has the kids always get blamed when their friendships when childless friends fall apart. The thing is you can only listen to so much bullshit before you want to throat punch the person.

lbonga1 · May 2014

I think it's funny she talks about saving money by using cloth diapers, but then she suggests Gap is cheap, unless she was only referring to their clearance items.

I'm just glad all of my childless friends don't try to offer me their opinions and aren't afraid to say they have no clue what it's like when it comes to parenting.

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