I feel like I need to see a pic of how long the grass is in @gearup's lawn. Like, for some reason I feel like it's longer than just a little bit too long.
I used to get @quartermisses and @supersecretstatus confused all the time when we were pregnant. Both married to men in the military and both had two girls. Now I have it straight, and I'm starting to confuse @carriet2018 and @dh13.
This kinda walks the line between fffc and uo, but here goes. It grinds my gears when people get so up in arms about others wanting approval or validation from this board. Is it really so surprising that people want to be liked by a community of people with whom they interact frequently? Who cares if most of us never have and never will meet irl? I've never met a lot of my coworkers in person due to working in a satellite office but it's still nice to hear that I am liked and respected. Why should it be any different with a social group?
I don't think that wanting to be liked by others makes a person insecure and I think everyone cares to some degree about what other people think of them. If you truly give no fucks at all, you are probably a psychopath or a narcissist. Of course, there has to be a balance between not caring enough to make sure you aren't an asshole and caring so much that you go too far for others approval.
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I agree, I think of this group as a community and it is beyond natural to crave acceptance from a group. The only thing I get a little tired of is the constant need for validation (not from you specifically!), I admittedly have AASE but I just assume that if the group hates me then I would know about it. On the flip side of the coin, I think it is borderline sociopathic for someone to cling to a group that clearly doesn't like you/wants you to be around.
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I get what you are saying and don't entirely disagree. I actually originally phrased my intro to say something like "I don't understand why" instead of "it grinds my gears when" but I *do* understand why. It probably is annoying and does seem a little compliment grabby when you are not in a position of having to wonder what or if people think of you. But if you don't get regular callouts or have private inside jokes with others on the board, it can be easy to wonder if anyone notices you. And there definitely are people who are more memorable than others. It's a fact of life with this large of a group.
I guess my point is mostly that there will be plenty more posts that seem to be begging for validation and attention and telling people that they shouldn't be interested in knowing how they are perceived is sort of like telling them not to be human.
I feel like I need to see a pic of how long the grass is in @gearup's lawn. Like, for some reason I feel like it's longer than just a little bit too long.
Give me a few mins. and I will post a picture. I mean, it's not like I am wading through it knee deep, but it is long enough to be obvious that 90% percent of my lawn is composed of weeds rather than grass.
I feel like I need to see a pic of how long the grass is in @gearup's lawn. Like, for some reason I feel like it's longer than just a little bit too long.
Give me a few mins. and I will post a picture. I mean, it's not like I am wading through it knee deep, but it is long enough to be obvious that 90% percent of my lawn is composed of weeds rather than grass.
Oh, lawd. I can't wait! Sidenote: I think you mentioned your H is military. Is he deployed? I was just thinking if he was, maybe that was why they were mowing for you, which is actually really sweet.
Andplusalso I feel like I should add that I totally understand that is a reason that some people have #allthecallouts and #alltheinside jokes and it is often because they put themselves out there! They share personal stories and experiences so that people feel like they know them. They ask people to be their friend and send private messages, Facebook things happen, whatever, so that they develop private jokes/friendships/etc outside of the larger group. If you want to feel like people know and remember you, you have to give them something to know and remember you by.
Adding that so it doesn't sound like I'm attacking people for being popular or well liked.
@NRyan55 and the rest of the O13 royalty- with great popularity comes great responsibility. I think your love tits and approval mean a lot to plenty of people on the board. Also, I just spent an embarrassing amount of time (way more than my lunch hour!) posting on behalf of others who might not even agree with me.
I used to get @quartermisses and @supersecretstatus confused all the time when we were pregnant. Both married to men in the military and both had two girls. Now I have it straight, and I'm starting to confuse @carriet2018 and @dh13.
It helps that work blocks 90% of gifs and siggys.
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did work block this gif?! does your work hate michelle tanner?
I can see this one! Woohoo.
Sometimes I see a box that says "Friends gif" or "Full House gif". Gee thanks work.
Also on HDBD, I could only see about 5 pics. @Tyranosaurausbeck's always came through though!
I feel like I need to see a pic of how long the grass is in @gearup's lawn. Like, for some reason I feel like it's longer than just a little bit too long.
Give me a few mins. and I will post a picture. I mean, it's not like I am wading through it knee deep, but it is long enough to be obvious that 90% percent of my lawn is composed of weeds rather than grass.
Oh, lawd. I can't wait! Sidenote: I think you mentioned your H is military. Is he deployed? I was just thinking if he was, maybe that was why they were mowing for you, which is actually really sweet.
He is, and he is. It is a nice gesture, but they have done it before he was deployed a couple of times. They have never said anything to me directly related to the upkeep of my yard, but made a couple comments about our mutual neighbor needing help with mowing because "they don't know when it's time to mow the grass again".
Again, I should appreciate the gesture, regardless of their motivation, but I can't because I am a little too prideful. (Imagine me saying I'll do it my damn self while beating on my chest) Thus, a confession is born!
I feel like I need to see a pic of how long the grass is in @gearup's lawn. Like, for some reason I feel like it's longer than just a little bit too long.
Give me a few mins. and I will post a picture. I mean, it's not like I am wading through it knee deep, but it is long enough to be obvious that 90% percent of my lawn is composed of weeds rather than grass.
Oh, lawd. I can't wait! Sidenote: I think you mentioned your H is military. Is he deployed? I was just thinking if he was, maybe that was why they were mowing for you, which is actually really sweet.
He is, and he is. It is a nice gesture, but they have done it before he was deployed a couple of times. They have never said anything to me directly related to the upkeep of my yard, but made a couple comments about our mutual neighbor needing help with mowing because "they don't know when it's time to mow the grass again".
Again, I should appreciate the gesture, regardless of their motivation, but I can't because I am a little too prideful. (Imagine me saying I'll do it my damn self while beating on my chest) Thus, a confession is born!
Meh. I would have been irritated about it before, but if I was in your position now of being basically a single mom with a small baby, I'd be all, mow it up neighbors! And throw some weed n feed on it plz, thx.
Sawyer's eczema has flared up so bad again that I was actually embarrassed to bring him to stroller strides this week. I was worried I would be judged as a shitty parent (I've been to the dermatologist 2x this week) . Then I felt totally ashamed of myself. So I ended up going anyways. All of the other moms were really nice about it and offered some tips to help.
What is about motherhood that has turned me into a self conscious little girl again?
I don't care who posts. There are plenty of other regs that I would rather scare off of the board than @LC122, but I don't because I don't care enough.
I feel like I'm missing a lot but I've had a busy morning so I'll be back.
I feel like your FFFC should be who you would rather scare off @petdocd
And sorry about your LO. It can be hard not to internalize all the insecurities about the littles.
So my MIL has been in town visiting for a week now. I was really excited for her to come and help out. I work until 11pm and LO had been getting up at 6am lately and I am TIRED. I had all these visions of nursing LO and handing him over to his grandma to snuggle while I went back to bed. Guess how many times that has happened...zero. She sleeps for like 12 hours a day and is a shitty cook. To top it off I have had the most miserable cold/flu all week. My husband kept telling me to ask her to help so one day I nursed LO and we took a nap in my bed. He woke up after about 30min and I asked MIL to watch him for a bit so I could get some more sleep. Turns out I couldn't fall back asleep and when I walked out 15 minutes later she was all "Oh, I gave him a bottle BTW"
She took it upon herself to take 4 PRECIOUS ounces of breastmilk out of the fridge for no reason at all.
I tired to act all no big deal about it but in my head I was all:
She can go home anytime now.
TL;DR: My MIL is of no use to me so I would rather she go on home. I am a brat.
As a spinoff of what @Lee81 was saying (and I agree with): I'm one of those people who wants to be liked by all and it gives me the sads to think some on here don't rly give two shits about me. On the flip side, I believe I have bonded with some really awesome people as well and I lurve them for it!!
Meh. I would have been irritated about it before, but if I was in your position now of being basically a single mom with a small baby, I'd be all, mow it up neighbors! And throw some weed n feed on it plz, thx.
If they would just do it when I wasn't home, it wouldn't be that big of a deal, but no...they have to be all like "look at her, young, healthy and in the prime of her life just sitting on her ass in the ac while we poor middle aged people do her dirty work".
Ok, I am totally making them the villain - I kid, I kid. They are nice, I am crazy.
As a spinoff of what @Lee81 was saying (and I agree with): I'm one of those people who wants to be liked by all and it gives me the sads to think some on here don't rly give two shits about me. On the flip side, I believe I have bonded with some really awesome people as well and I lurve them for it!!
I feel like something is brewing with you. Weren't you the one who said something in the AMA the other day about people being 2 faced bitches or something? What's up, buttercup? Do you have beef? Come sit next to Auntie Sleepy and tell me of your feels.
Meh. I would have been irritated about it before, but if I was in your position now of being basically a single mom with a small baby, I'd be all, mow it up neighbors! And throw some weed n feed on it plz, thx.
If they would just do it when I wasn't home, it wouldn't be that big of a deal, but no...they have to be all like "look at her, young, healthy and in the prime of her life just sitting on her ass in the ac while we poor middle aged people do her dirty work".
Ok, I am totally making them the villain - I kid, I kid. They are nice, I am crazy.
@petdocd - Not really the same, but when LO has a scratch on his face I feel like other mothers think I am responsible. He is my second, I should be over it, but I wear my feelers a little too close to the surface.
I am really glad you got a positive reaction, every little bit counts when you are feeling a little unsure.
And because most of my posts have somehow turned away from the topic at hand...
My second FFFC:
The gymnastics class that I am taking my daughter to, the one that will postpone my mowing duties....yeah that one is a make up class. Earlier this week, I literally forgot to take DD to gymnastics class. I didn't really have anything else going on, and I had that nagging feeling that I was somehow less busy than I should be - but I was actually catching up on Call the Midwife and playing candy land when we should have been there. It didn't even cross my mind until bedtime when my daughter asked me why we didn't go. I, of course, lied to her and told her it was cancelled and she would go next week.
It's not like it happens every single week at the same time or anything........
@petdocd - Not really the same, but when LO has a scratch on his face I feel like other mothers think I am responsible. He is my second, I should be over it, but I wear my feelers a little too close to the surface.
I am really glad you got a positive reaction, every little bit counts when you are feeling a little unsure.
I get so embarrassed about scratches too! I'm always explaining what happened.
As a spinoff of what @Lee81 was saying (and I agree with): I'm one of those people who wants to be liked by all and it gives me the sads to think some on here don't rly give two shits about me. On the flip side, I believe I have bonded with some really awesome people as well and I lurve them for it!!
Giirrrlll, you gotta give yourself more credit! We all lurve you. You're kind, genuine, and extremely thoughtful...which are pretty much some of the best personality traits you can have.
@petdocd - Not really the same, but when LO has a scratch on his face I feel like other mothers think I am responsible. He is my second, I should be over it, but I wear my feelers a little too close to the surface.
I am really glad you got a positive reaction, every little bit counts when you are feeling a little unsure.
I get so embarrassed about scratches too! I'm always explaining what happened.
D always rubs her eyes so hard. They are often red or even bruised. People always say "She must be so tired" inside I feel so guilty. I know I can't stop her, but I wish I could.
As a spinoff of what @Lee81 was saying (and I agree with): I'm one of those people who wants to be liked by all and it gives me the sads to think some on here don't rly give two shits about me. On the flip side, I believe I have bonded with some really awesome people as well and I lurve them for it!!
I feel like something is brewing with you. Weren't you the one who said something in the AMA the other day about people being 2 faced bitches or something? What's up, buttercup? Do you have beef? Come sit next to Auntie Sleepy and tell me of your feels.
I used to get @quartermisses and @supersecretstatus confused all the time when we were pregnant. Both married to men in the military and both had two girls. Now I have it straight, and I'm starting to confuse @carriet2018 and @dh13.
As a spinoff of what @Lee81 was saying (and I agree with): I'm one of those people who wants to be liked by all and it gives me the sads to think some on here don't rly give two shits about me. On the flip side, I believe I have bonded with some really awesome people as well and I lurve them for it!!
I feel like something is brewing with you. Weren't you the one who said something in the AMA the other day about people being 2 faced bitches or something? What's up, buttercup? Do you have beef? Come sit next to Auntie Sleepy and tell me of your feels.
As a spinoff of what @Lee81 was saying (and I agree with): I'm one of those people who wants to be liked by all and it gives me the sads to think some on here don't rly give two shits about me. On the flip side, I believe I have bonded with some really awesome people as well and I lurve them for it!!
I feel like something is brewing with you. Weren't you the one who said something in the AMA the other day about people being 2 faced bitches or something? What's up, buttercup? Do you have beef? Come sit next to Auntie Sleepy and tell me of your feels.
I didn't say there was, I asked if she thought there was!
I really don't have much beef, just the sads sometimes. I'm not too keen on comebacks or being hilarious like you & some others so sometimes I feel left out. But that's totally on me, nothing anyone personally did. I'm just being a #negativenancy today!
As a spinoff of what @Lee81 was saying (and I agree with): I'm one of those people who wants to be liked by all and it gives me the sads to think some on here don't rly give two shits about me. On the flip side, I believe I have bonded with some really awesome people as well and I lurve them for it!!
Giirrrlll, you gotta give yourself more credit! We all lurve you. You're kind, genuine, and extremely thoughtful...which are pretty much some of the best personality traits you can have.
As a spinoff of what @Lee81 was saying (and I agree with): I'm one of those people who wants to be liked by all and it gives me the sads to think some on here don't rly give two shits about me. On the flip side, I believe I have bonded with some really awesome people as well and I lurve them for it!!
I didn't say there was, I asked if she thought there was!
I really don't have much beef, just the sads sometimes. I'm not too keen on comebacks or being hilarious like you & some others so sometimes I feel left out. But that's totally on me, nothing anyone personally did. I'm just being a #negativenancy today!
Oh. I don't really know how to respond to that except through gifs, because humor is my defense mechanism. So:
As a spinoff of what @Lee81 was saying (and I agree with): I'm one of those people who wants to be liked by all and it gives me the sads to think some on here don't rly give two shits about me. On the flip side, I believe I have bonded with some really awesome people as well and I lurve them for it!!
I didn't say there was, I asked if she thought there was!
I really don't have much beef, just the sads sometimes. I'm not too keen on comebacks or being hilarious like you & some others so sometimes I feel left out. But that's totally on me, nothing anyone personally did. I'm just being a #negativenancy today!
Oh. I don't really know how to respond to that except through gifs, because humor is my defense mechanism. So:
I used to get @quartermisses and @supersecretstatus confused all the time when we were pregnant. Both married to men in the military and both had two girls. Now I have it straight, and I'm starting to confuse @carriet2018 and @dh13.
I didn't say there was, I asked if she thought there was!
I really don't have much beef, just the sads sometimes. I'm not too keen on comebacks or being hilarious like you & some others so sometimes I feel left out. But that's totally on me, nothing anyone personally did. I'm just being a #negativenancy today!
Oh. I don't really know how to respond to that except through gifs, because humor is my defense mechanism. So:
I'm not wearing my Nerdy shirt today at the movies. I needed to wear long sleeves because it's supposed to rain and be cold at the concert and I don't want to change my shirt later because I'm too lazy and don't want to add to my laundry.
Are you going to X-Men: DOFP?!?!
Yes, it's supposed to be great so I'm excited.
DH saw it last night and said it was great...and he can be a harsh critic when it comes to comic book movies.
Ok real one. At 8:30pm EST I will be screaming and crying like a child when Barry Gibb walks out on stage and he begins to sing. I have waited almost my ENTIRE lyyyyyfe for that moment and never thought it would happen after his brothers passed away. Most of you don't even know who he is but he is a music LEGEND. Not for all of the disco stuff but for almost 50, yes 50 years of amazing music. Bee Gees for lyyyyyffe!!!!!! Jalee exclamation poooooints!!!!
I got to see them in Vegas for their One Night Only tour. I'm so glad I got to see them before Mo passed away. FYI-- An interview with Barry will be on CBS Sunday Morning. Enjoy!
That's awesome! I actually already cried in the shower because they are gone and their kids r supposed to sing in their place.
Ok real one. At 8:30pm EST I will be screaming and crying like a child when Barry Gibb walks out on stage and he begins to sing. I have waited almost my ENTIRE lyyyyyfe for that moment and never thought it would happen after his brothers passed away. Most of you don't even know who he is but he is a music LEGEND. Not for all of the disco stuff but for almost 50, yes 50 years of amazing music. Bee Gees for lyyyyyffe!!!!!! Jalee exclamation poooooints!!!!
I got to see them in Vegas for their One Night Only tour. I'm so glad I got to see them before Mo passed away. FYI-- An interview with Barry will be on CBS Sunday Morning. Enjoy!
That's awesome! I actually already cried in the shower because they are gone and their kids r supposed to sing in their place.
Yes, I heard Mo's daughter is singing. I'm really not sure how I feel about what Barry is doing. Has he put out new music solo? Can't wait to hear about the show.
I might be starting a new job next week, which is exciting because I need a new job and this one could potentially be a foot in the door to a new career. But I'm terrified that I'm not cut out for the work (culinary field), and I have really enjoyed being a SAHM these last few weeks.
Im going to have a break down today. Work is massively busy, 500 customers left for the day when I got in. Found out I have to do it all by myself. My phone isn't working right so very little tb time or ability. And about 80% of the people invited to the (bday/memorial day) bbq tomorrow won't be there. Which makes me feel sooo loved let me tell you.
Oh, another one. DH and I are generally pretty healthy eaters. We shop the edges and don't keep much junk food around. The other day I was at the store and decided to look in the freezer aisle and found frozen French fries for 39 cents a bag! So we have had French fries four days in a row and still have more in the freezer. #eatallthecarbs #stillbetterthanMcDonalds #right?
I use the handicap parking space at big stores (Walmart, target) if I'll be in for <10 min or my diaper bag is especially heavy. I think this might be more of a spark than a flame though
Re: FFFC
I'm late, but here is my first FFFC:
I used to get @quartermisses and @supersecretstatus confused all the time when we were pregnant. Both married to men in the military and both had two girls. Now I have it straight, and I'm starting to confuse @carriet2018 and @dh13.
It helps that work blocks 90% of gifs and siggys.
I agree, I think of this group as a community and it is beyond natural to crave acceptance from a group. The only thing I get a little tired of is the constant need for validation (not from you specifically!), I admittedly have AASE but I just assume that if the group hates me then I would know about it. On the flip side of the coin, I think it is borderline sociopathic for someone to cling to a group that clearly doesn't like you/wants you to be around.
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I get what you are saying and don't entirely disagree. I actually originally phrased my intro to say something like "I don't understand why" instead of "it grinds my gears when" but I *do* understand why. It probably is annoying and does seem a little compliment grabby when you are not in a position of having to wonder what or if people think of you. But if you don't get regular callouts or have private inside jokes with others on the board, it can be easy to wonder if anyone notices you. And there definitely are people who are more memorable than others. It's a fact of life with this large of a group.
I guess my point is mostly that there will be plenty more posts that seem to be begging for validation and attention and telling people that they shouldn't be interested in knowing how they are perceived is sort of like telling them not to be human.
Adding that so it doesn't sound like I'm attacking people for being popular or well liked.
I can see this one! Woohoo.
Sometimes I see a box that says "Friends gif" or "Full House gif". Gee thanks work.
Also on HDBD, I could only see about 5 pics. @Tyranosaurausbeck's always came through though!
year old sons to see Ted when it came out. They sang the thunder song the whole way home.
And sorry about your LO. It can be hard not to internalize all the insecurities about the littles.
She took it upon herself to take 4 PRECIOUS ounces of breastmilk out of the fridge for no reason at all.
I tired to act all no big deal about it but in my head I was all:
She can go home anytime now.
TL;DR: My MIL is of no use to me so I would rather she go on home. I am a brat.
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Giirrrlll, you gotta give yourself more credit! We all lurve you. You're kind, genuine, and extremely thoughtful...which are pretty much some of the best personality traits you can have.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
D always rubs her eyes so hard. They are often red or even bruised. People always say "She must be so tired" inside I feel so guilty. I know I can't stop her, but I wish I could.
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@quartermisses
Dead. LITerally laughed out loud. Good thing it's empty at the office today.
I didn't say there was, I asked if she thought there was!
I really don't have much beef, just the sads sometimes. I'm not too keen on comebacks or being hilarious like you & some others so sometimes I feel left out. But that's totally on me, nothing anyone personally did. I'm just being a #negativenancy today!
@afolske106 C'mere, you.
@afolske106 C'mere, you.
Awe shucks!!
I don't know QM personally, but I can't imagine her putting up with the bs that sss husband pulled on the regular.
CT can give me an awkward hug any flocking day!
@bkeane
I got to see them in Vegas for their One Night Only tour. I'm so glad I got to see them before Mo passed away. FYI-- An interview with Barry will be on CBS Sunday Morning. Enjoy!
That's awesome! I actually already cried in the shower because they are gone and their kids r supposed to sing in their place.Complete breakdown imminent. Co