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  • lookame3639lookame3639 member
    Brettx3Ashley said:

    It was all harmful. you're all cunts.

    Thanks...i wrote out 2 very thoughtful responses to your question. Also might i addwhen i was induced with my son 7 days early (so at 39 weeks) he still had to stay in the NICU overnight because his head blocked all his amniotic fluid(hence the slow leak) when he took his first breath guess what else he inhaled...All his amniotic fluid. I was also 50% effaced and 3 cm dialated at the time of induction.
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  • MaybeKatie10MaybeKatie10 member
    edited May 2014
    Brettx3Ashley said:
    This is cyber bullying. It's sad to see all you mothers treat a FTM is just asking a question this horrible. Take a step back. Think about how scared you were with your first child. It's ashame. I never said I planned on inducing early, so save your trolling for elsewhere.
    I just had my first child a couple of weeks ago and it really wasn't that scarey. Then again, my child came out fully cooked 2 days AFTER her due date and not a full month early. I imagine I'd be terrified if she came that early. You know, being that her health was super important to me and all...
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  • lookame3639lookame3639 member
    WhoCanItBeNow said:


    lookame3639 said:

    Here's an alternative to think about, aside from your baby's health.

    A woman who gets induced before she is ready to go into labor has a longer more painful labor. Why? Because her baby isn't ready to come and her body hasn't started the process, so your cervix isn't shortening, you aren't effaced and your not dialated at all or only maybe by a cm. Pitocin causes intense contractions that are usually one right on top of anouther. The labor itself can go on for about 24 sometimes close to 48 hours before a doctor will call for a c section and then your recovery will be a lot longer. Also sometimes with pitocin an epidural isn't as affective and you labor in pain or you labor feeling the labor on one side or in certain areas of your body.

    your baby will come when it's good and ready, when it's lungs are fully developed and when it's gained enough weight to support itself for a few hours.

    I understand your want to have your baby at a convenient time, heck I'd love it if my baby came at a time when I don't have to worry about my ex having my DS, I'm not going to force my baby to come though.

    I'm all for getting a point across, but this is dead wrong. Some have very easy c-section recoveries and some with vaginal births have very difficult recoveries. Does a c-section increase the likelihood of a longer recovery and is there a higher potential for complications? Yes. It is not a guarantee.


    This is true. She could have a c section and have a smooth recovery, I may be wrong but I thought with c sections they keep you in the hospital longer and there is more involved with cleaning the area and such...then again I only read up on sections when I was pregnant with DS (which was 7 years ago)
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  • allrightmeowallrightmeow member
    edited May 2014
    Brettx3Ashley said: This is cyber bullying. It's sad to see all you mothers treat a FTM is just asking a question this horrible. Take a step back. Think about how scared you were with your first child. It's ashame. I never said I planned on inducing early, so save your trolling for elsewhere.


    Oh girl no.  THIS is not cyber bullying.  This is being honest.  You wanted people to tell you that yes, we totally would get induced almost a full month early if it was convenient for us and or schedules.  That didn't happen, deal with it.  As a     mother I will do what is best for my unborn child. That means letting him/her come when they are good and ready.  I suggest you check your priorities. 

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  • allrightmeowallrightmeow member
    jessa8907 said:
    Brettx3Ashley said:
    This is cyber bullying. It's sad to see all you mothers treat a FTM is just asking a question this horrible. Take a step back. Think about how scared you were with your first child. It's ashame. I never said I planned on inducing early, so save your trolling for elsewhere.
    I'm just going to throw this out there that I am also a FTM and I have also asked many questions on these forums.You aren't being treated this way because you are a FTM, you are being treated this way because what you are wanting to do is incredibly selfish and uninformed.

    As for the bolded, you may not have outright said you were planning to induce early but you clearly were thinking about the possibility or this thread would have never existed.

    She was totally fishing for "do it" responses to justify her selfish desire to do it. 
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  • LindsayDesignerLindsayDesigner member
    @Brettx3Ashley‌ here is some advice, take it easy the last few weeks of June. Keep your feet up and drink plenty of water. Many FTMs go past their due dates. Theoretically you'll be one of them!
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  • brooklyngirl46brooklyngirl46 member
    Honestly, I think the doula advice is best. If you can't change your family, change what you can change. You can get your own support system. It's scary to think of doing this by yourself, but your LO is depending on you in the same way that you are depending on your family. You have to focus on yourself, and your LO, you both come first. When I think of making decisions that scare me, I focus on how LO is relying on me to do the best thing- and no one else. And that makes it easier to do the best thing.

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  • ktmcg22ktmcg22 member

    My doctor will only induce if you are the the 39th week of your pregnancy.

     

    Good luck.

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  • bethughkneebethughknee member
    SweetSouthernMomma08 said:

    In my area, FTM won't be induced or even discuss induction (unless medically necessary) until you are 41 wks.  :-D  enjoy that one, OP. 

    As a mom to a forced early induction, I wouldn't wish that on anyone.  Out of 5 people I know who were induced early for pre-e (just my bmb, and just these 5 off the top of my head, we had a ton)...2 LO ended up in NICU for extended periods of time.  3 were c-sections.  2 of those c-sections for failed inductions.  4 LO struggled gaining weight.  2 were almost considered FTT and almost hospitalized. 

    So, when you start wanting an induction for "convenience," I bet anyone of those other moms would be happy to tell you what you are asking for....At one point, I was happy to have a LO make it to 37 wks and would have been happy for DS to come any day after that.  Well, DS came at 37 wks and I wish I could have put him back in and let him grow more because he struggled so much for the first 2 months of his life. 

    Try visiting the premie board and reviewing some stories of those LOs that were born almost a month early.  Hopefully you will reconsider your selfishness and just snuggle that LO closer inside.

    All the bolded. @SweetSouthernMomma08 has all the things right.


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  • sandrabrookesandrabrooke member
    And I'm not sure if this is always true, but I've had friends induced....and they ALL hated it compared to their births that started naturally.  So, be selfish and save yourself the pain by waiting for it to happen naturally.  

    (well, as long as your not going past like 42)
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  • jess9802jess9802 member
    Eh, I'm about as pro-induction as they come, and inductions (medical or social) starting at 39w are generally associated with very good outcomes. But prior to 39w for social reasons? Prior to 38w for social reasons?? That's going to be a much tougher sell for your OB, the hospital, your body, and the baby. Without a medical reason, it's really ill-advised for lots of reasons that previous posters have shared with you. I don't think you'd be able to talk your doctor into inducing 15 days before your due date simply because your parents are going to be out of town, and I think in the meantime you should try to line up sources of support.


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  • danalawrencedanalawrence member
    Look, to me this is a non-issue bc any OB would say a firm no to the question. I think the real post here should've been, should I be hurt that my mother was unwilling to resched Europe when all this started more than six months ago? I had 31 weekers last time around, 4 weeks in NICU, I get the emotional and visceral reactions to the OP's question. I have to think she was oblivious to the risks to even ask, so I'll be gentle. Honestly if she goes into labor naturally before 6/19 chances are that baby is looking at NICU time (pre-37w) and she'd be alone to deal with it, no support system. That's ironically much harder in my view than delivering alone or with doula at 38w or 39w, but she doesn't realize that yet. FTM.
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  • IBackBevoIBackBevo member
    Lurking. PP is right. This is a non-issue. No OB is going to schedule an induction before 39 weeks in the absence of a medical reason. It would go against ACOG guidelines and they would have no leg to stand on in the event something went wrong. The most an ob would probably due prior to 39 weeks would be a membrane sweep. I had one of those and it did put me in labor, but I still don't really recommend it for various reasons that are beyond the scope of this thread.

    With that said, having just gone through a 3.5 day labor and 23 hours in active labor, I have to say that I do empathize with the OP. I had a doula and I still cannot imagine having done that without my husband there. So, OP, I would recommend trying to see if your husband could rearrange his work schedule or, at least, make sure he can come when you do go into labor even though it will be a bit of a drive. I would recommend a doula if you can afford one, but at this late date I doubt you will have many options. In my city, they book up months in advance...especially if they are affordable. I also would try to have a friend/support person as a backup for that 2 week period when your dh will be out of town and your family gone. The good news is that most first time Mom's go past their due date slightly so odds are in your favor that your family or dh will be around.
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    Honestly I don't understand why OP is butthurt? No reasonable doctor could endorse an early induction just because mom wants one.


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