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  • abastian00abastian00 member
    Pepper6 said:
    Just another day is crazy town aka BabyCenter. https://community.babycenter.com/post/a49875670/my_mom_wants_to_breastfeed_my_baby.bit_long
    True story...my friend came to the hospital right as DS was born and came back to my room and mentioned that if I had trouble bfing, there were other ways he could get milk and motioned at herself. I was definitely a bit shocked (horrified?) I know people do that but it is definitely out of my comfort zone. Thankfully my milk came in no problem and that conversation did not need to be revisited.
    Pretty sure the concept of a wet nurse has been dead for like 100 years. That just seems so.... wow.
    While I couldn't agree more at how awkward this is - what do y'all think of milk banks? Just curious...
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    rastrau said:

    I was planning to get the Medela PISA through my insurance but apparently I was "incorrectly informed" on the styles I can get. I don't know if this question is better here or in the breast pump thread that just started - but I have all Medela and Lanisoh bm storage accessories - if I got the Ameda Purely Yours or Hygeia Q pumps, would those be compatible with what I already have?

    I have the Ameda pump and I was able to use the Medela connections that hold the milk storage bags on. I did not have the Medela storage bottles, but I would imagine they'd have to have the same screw pattern as the storage bag holder and should be compatible.
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    abastian00 said:


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    emilyh107 said:

    Just another day is crazy town aka BabyCenter.

    https://community.babycenter.com/post/a49875670/my_mom_wants_to_breastfeed_my_baby.bit_long

    True story...my friend came to the hospital right as DS was born and came back to my room and mentioned that if I had trouble bfing, there were other ways he could get milk and motioned at herself. I was definitely a bit shocked (horrified?) I know people do that but it is definitely out of my comfort zone. Thankfully my milk came in no problem and that conversation did not need to be revisited.
    Pretty sure the concept of a wet nurse has been dead for like 100 years. That just seems so.... wow.


    While I couldn't agree more at how awkward this is - what do y'all think of milk banks? Just curious...

    I think they are a great resource for those who can't breast feed. They also take great care to screen the mom and milk so I would be comfortable using the milk. I also think moms who donate milk are fabulous. I could not wait to be done pumping last time - an hour a day at work was a pain.

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    LilNunz1 said:
    I was planning to get the Medela PISA through my insurance but apparently I was "incorrectly informed" on the styles I can get. I don't know if this question is better here or in the breast pump thread that just started - but I have all Medela and Lanisoh bm storage accessories - if I got the Ameda Purely Yours or Hygeia Q pumps, would those be compatible with what I already have?
    I have the Ameda pump and I was able to use the Medela connections that hold the milk storage bags on. I did not have the Medela storage bottles, but I would imagine they'd have to have the same screw pattern as the storage bag holder and should be compatible.

    I think you might be able to use them. I have a Medela PISA. I pumped right into the bottles DD took to have accurate measurements of the oz. I used whatever kind of bag. I had a whole feeding set from Medela with different storage containers etc but found it easiest to pump right into the bottle.
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    emotionlotion said:
    I think I've read the whole thread a and didn't see this asked. Anyone have any good reading resources or firsthand experience with what a breastfeeding diet should look like for the mother? I'm really just starting to think about this and stressing. I know you need a lot of food while BFing, and I've also heard there are certain things to steer clear of to help baby's digestion and sleep. I plan to start making freezer meals this week and want to keep an eye towards filling but nutritious. Any handy books or websites you found useful?

    I just ate a well balanced diet. I BF DD for 12 months. The last month i noticed a dip in my supply and tried tricks like oatmeal, more water etc. But overall, I didn't change my diet too much at all. I also did not have a child with many sensitivies to food etc.
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    ugabamafans said:

    This is a stupid question, especially since I pumped for so long with DS, but several people mentioned needing bigger flange sizes.  How do you know if you need a different size?  I just used the ones that came with my Medela PISA last time and never questioned it.

    I asked this question at my BF class earlier this week. The LC said if it is chafing it could signal that the size is too small or too big based on if it's chafing the areola or the nipple area. She said they can size you at the hospital, they have the flanges available at the hospital. Hope this helps!
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    MommaAshley12 said:

    ugabamafans said:

    This is a stupid question, especially since I pumped for so long with DS, but several people mentioned needing bigger flange sizes.  How do you know if you need a different size?  I just used the ones that came with my Medela PISA last time and never questioned it.

    I asked this question at my BF class earlier this week. The LC said if it is chafing it could signal that the size is too small or too big based on if it's chafing the areola or the nipple area. She said they can size you at the hospital, they have the flanges available at the hospital. Hope this helps!
    Good to know they'll size you at the hospital! Man I have so much to remember...
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  • ChristineBaker23ChristineBaker23 member
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    PS, anyone else getting crap for wanting to breastfeed from people who didnt? I'm getting SO SO sick of everyone around me telling me how I'm going to fail at breastfeeding and how they only could do it for 2 weeks, it's unrealistic, bla bla bla. I'm sorry it didn't work out for them, I truly am, and I expect it to be hard, but why so rude and telling me I'm going to "fail" before I even try or go on and on about how horrible it was? I'd love to know more than 1 person in my life that breastfed longer to help support me. I also get major crap for choosing to cloth diaper and told I'll fail at that too. What do you say to these people without coming off as judgmental of their choices?

    My father in law was completely unsupportive of breastfeeding with my first and even tried to tell me formula was better. I gave him a breastfeeding pamphlet and highlighted sections and then basically told him to bug off about it. Not another word from him.
    I know that's not quite the same as your situation but I shared to say stand your ground and tell them to shut up about it. Real friends will understand. And then find someone who has breastfed successfully and can be supportive of your decision that you feel comfortable talking to about it (maybe even one of the ladies here!) because it is tough to breastfeed when so many people around you have a negative opinion about it. Having a good support system is very important to sticking with it.
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    MommyP710 said:

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    PS, anyone else getting crap for wanting to breastfeed from people who didnt? I'm getting SO SO sick of everyone around me telling me how I'm going to fail at breastfeeding and how they only could do it for 2 weeks, it's unrealistic, bla bla bla. I'm sorry it didn't work out for them, I truly am, and I expect it to be hard, but why so rude and telling me I'm going to "fail" before I even try or go on and on about how horrible it was? I'd love to know more than 1 person in my life that breastfed longer to help support me. I also get major crap for choosing to cloth diaper and told I'll fail at that too. What do you say to these people without coming off as judgmental of their choices?

    just stick your tongue at them and say I told you so about a month or two into it? People at work always said I wouldn't be able to go without an epidural and it got to a point where I just didn't respond to those comments. Not sure why people feel the need to be negative about something that doesn't effect them whatsoever. Maybe their own insecurities? At any rate I had a totally unmedicated birth and can't wait til that discussion comes up when I go back to work. Just keep doing what you plan to do and ignore them!
    Ugh I get the same thing about the epidural too! I haven't strictly decided to not but I'm giving it a go without and everyone tells me I'll fail. I swear I will get through it just out of my own stubbornness! I also will be cloth diapering... don't even get me started on what side eye I've gotten for that...
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    MrsRahl said:

    MommyP710 said:

    MrsRahl said:

    PS, anyone else getting crap for wanting to breastfeed from people who didnt? I'm getting SO SO sick of everyone around me telling me how I'm going to fail at breastfeeding and how they only could do it for 2 weeks, it's unrealistic, bla bla bla. I'm sorry it didn't work out for them, I truly am, and I expect it to be hard, but why so rude and telling me I'm going to "fail" before I even try or go on and on about how horrible it was? I'd love to know more than 1 person in my life that breastfed longer to help support me. I also get major crap for choosing to cloth diaper and told I'll fail at that too. What do you say to these people without coming off as judgmental of their choices?

    just stick your tongue at them and say I told you so about a month or two into it? People at work always said I wouldn't be able to go without an epidural and it got to a point where I just didn't respond to those comments. Not sure why people feel the need to be negative about something that doesn't effect them whatsoever. Maybe their own insecurities? At any rate I had a totally unmedicated birth and can't wait til that discussion comes up when I go back to work. Just keep doing what you plan to do and ignore them!
    Ugh I get the same thing about the epidural too! I haven't strictly decided to not but I'm giving it a go without and everyone tells me I'll fail. I swear I will get through it just out of my own stubbornness! I also will be cloth diapering... don't even get me started on what side eye I've gotten for that...
    I was never against an epidural...I just really didn't want to have one if I could avoid it, for several reasons. 1. An enormous fear of needles 2. The potential to slow things down 3. What if I went through the trauma of getting one and it didn't work?

    I also want to dabble with CD. DH is adamently against it in that he refuses to participate, but is fine with me doing it, even though he thinks it's gross. Well, after seeing what we went through in a little over a week, I am going to a CD store tomorrow to officially begin my stash. I imagine I won't exclusively CD, more of a hybrid. But yea, other people like to share their opinions on that, too.
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    @MommyP710, I'm a total CD newb, but pocket diapers seem like they'll be very easy and primarily what I've found most people on the CD board use. Many are one size that grow with baby.  We got Bumgenius 4.0s to start with :) 
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    MrsRahl said:

    @MommyP710, I'm a total CD newb, but pocket diapers seem like they'll be very easy and primarily what I've found most people on the CD board use. Many are one size that grow with baby.  We got Bumgenius 4.0s to start with :) 

    I have a couple of bumgenius from my shower but they are entirely too large since Max is a preemie. I plan on getting the newborn simplex which ranges 6 pounds to 16 because he should fit them my entire maternity leave. If it goes well I'll invest in bigger ones down the line.
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    MommyP710 said:
    @MommyP710, I'm a total CD newb, but pocket diapers seem like they'll be very easy and primarily what I've found most people on the CD board use. Many are one size that grow with baby.  We got Bumgenius 4.0s to start with :) 
    I have a couple of bumgenius from my shower but they are entirely too large since Max is a preemie. I plan on getting the newborn simplex which ranges 6 pounds to 16 because he should fit them my entire maternity leave. If it goes well I'll invest in bigger ones down the line.
    Yeah the one-size ones don't work out until they are a little bigger, like about 10lbs I hear.  Mostly because of their skinny legs before then.  I didn't want to invest in a newborn stash, but you have a preemie, so you'll get more use out of them :) 
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    @mommyp710 I have heard simplex are really good! I picked up some Lil Joey's to try out too (they fit 4lb preemies and up).

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    katekat8721 said:

    @mommyp710 I have heard simplex are really good! I picked up some Lil Joey's to try out too (they fit 4lb preemies and up).

    I was looking at those also, but I think they won't last as long. The comments I read people complained they didn't fit once the baby was around 10 pounds. Max is already somewhere in the 6+ range.
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  • rainbowdashhrainbowdashh member
    I'm sorry some of you ladies aren't getting the support you deserve from your family. I think that's one of the biggest reasons some women end up giving up. It is hard, especially the first few weeks, and if all you have is negativity around you it makes it ridiculously hard. You can do it!
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  • babygabe614babygabe614 member
    @MrsRahl just echoing what others have already said... you are not alone. I have gotten SO MANY comments coming from people who have their own fears and hangups about BFing that it makes me want to rip my hair out. In fact, a friend's mom went on a huge tirade about it in the middle of a party and it was so uncomfortable because she was so adamant that I was "naive" and "stupid" for wanting to BF, and had the nerve to tell me I would give up on it after a week and if I didn't, "Well good luck being up by yourself half the night, then!" Uh, pretty sure I would be up either way but thanks random lady who isn't even related to me. Ugh. 

    Thankfully I have had a few people who have told me their BF success stories and it has made a huge difference. People are going to have comments and be judgmental no matter what you do, or how successful you are at it. Even if you get the hang of BF right away and it's a breeze, they will comment on how long you do it for, too short/too long, etc. Just know you'll always have support here, at least!

    People can suck it and I am all for a "Suck It!" thread a couple months from now. :)

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    (this has probably been discussed, i sawwy)

    Does anyone have a recipe for breastfeeding cookies? Or whatever they're called! When do you typically start eating them?

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    ugabamafans said:
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    @StrawberryDreams219‌ that's difficult to explain, but basically DH's family has major food/control issues. I usually lose weight when they visit and get by by eating on the go (alone) or keeping power bars (secretly) in the bedroom. I'm just not sure that will be enough while BF. BF is SO important to me, I don't want the lack of food or correct food to get in the way, but I'm also afraid the stress of constant confrontations and blow ups could negatively impact BF.
    @temurlang1 - I'm really late to the party, but will your DH not step up on your behalf?  You shouldn't have to battle for adequate food and nutrition in your own home after having a baby.  That is not ok.  I'm sorry that you're even having to worry about that.
    @ugabamafans DH does always back me up.  The problem is that he is not physically present most of the time, and that's when things happen.  He also genuinely doesn't see why I don't completely ignore his parents because that's what he would do.  I admit that I have called him at work and asked him to call them and intervene, which he did, but it only worked for that incident and the next day there was a new one.  This is actually my biggest worry at the moment, bigger than giving birth or anything else.  I don't know why they feel they are entitled to take over my whole home and life in that way.
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    mrsgerman said:

    MrsRahl comment got me thinking. Does anyone know the reason most people give up so easily anyways? Is it the pain? Inconvenience? I know a lot it might be a medical reason or supply issue but thats obviously not the case 100% of the time. I'm just curious because most people I know do give up before 2 weeks or don't even attempt. I only have a very few amount of friends who stuck with it for awhile and that I have been able to ask a million questions to. 

    From the people I know who have started and stopped within a month a lot of it is pain, not liking that their husbands can't help, or having people tell them it's not necessary after the first couple of weeks. One friend of mine just said she didn't produce enough. I wanted to give up in the first two weeks. It hurt so badly. I remember telling my H every time she nursed that I couldn't do it anymore. With the help of nipple butter, I stuck it out and I'm glad I did.
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    MrsRahl comment got me thinking. Does anyone know the reason most people give up so easily anyways? Is it the pain? Inconvenience? I know a lot it might be a medical reason or supply issue but thats obviously not the case 100% of the time. I'm just curious because most people I know do give up before 2 weeks or don't even attempt. I only have a very few amount of friends who stuck with it for awhile and that I have been able to ask a million questions to. 
    Below is a list of complaints I heard:
    • Pain
    • Lack of supply
    • Lack of support
    • Baby losing weight
    • Wanting to share feeding responsibilities
    • Convenience

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    katekat8721 said:

    (this has probably been discussed, i sawwy)

    Does anyone have a recipe for breastfeeding cookies? Or whatever they're called! When do you typically start eating them?

    I like this recipe https://www.food.com/recipe/oatmeal-chocolate-chip-lactation-cookies-by-noel-trujillo-192346

    I cut the sugar down (about 3/4 cup of each) and use a trail mix of nuts, chocolate chips, and dried fruit. They are DELICIOUS! I already made a batch and froze them (they freeze well) for once this LO arrives. I figure they will be a nice snack option, and if they help with my milk supply great! With DS, I started eating them once I went back to work to keep my supply up while pumping.


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    @ugabamafans thanks!  I've actually made a list of rules/issues that I have showed to DH that are things I really need him to emphasize/enforce.  It actually includes things like that they can't run the heater or shut off the AC, they cannot yell at the housecleaners, delivery people, etc., and that if they need to go to church with me they must behave respectfully inside the church.  And yes, these are all based on prior experience.

    Sadly, a hotel is not an option.  They are planning to stay for about 10 weeks and we cannot pay for that long in a hotel.
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    @MrsRahl I think it's competitiveness.  I have a friend who had a baby boy last year.  She has made so many comments to me that just seem like she's making everything a competition.  Like, she gained 60 pounds, but I'm at 30 right now, so she told me that's because she was so much thinner to start with (I'm actually quite petite, and 30 pounds is a HUGE percentage of my pre-pregnancy weight).  And how she had no symptoms and can't believe how much better she handled pregnancy (again, I'd say I've had a pretty good pregnancy, although I had severe MS for about 2 months).  She did BF, but if she hadn't I imagine she would have had the same approach as the people you know.  My plan is to do what I'm going to do, not mention it whenever possible (I assume I can get by without discussing CD), and if someone is super persistent I'm going to do a polite tell-off.  Like, "sorry you wish you were me" said nicely.

    @mrsgerman people I know who have given up early on BF generally don't have a lot of support.  Also, I think people don't always realize how much time/effort it's going to be, so they think they can't, not that they need more time.  I have a friend who literally tried for five minutes and said she couldn't do it.  Her doc and H didn't seem really interested in supporting her to BF.

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    mrsgerman said:

    MrsRahl comment got me thinking. Does anyone know the reason most people give up so easily anyways? Is it the pain? Inconvenience? I know a lot it might be a medical reason or supply issue but thats obviously not the case 100% of the time. I'm just curious because most people I know do give up before 2 weeks or don't even attempt. I only have a very few amount of friends who stuck with it for awhile and that I have been able to ask a million questions to. 

    I honestly think that the biggest two factors to make breastfeeding a success are determination on the part of mom and a strong support system (ie DH, pediatrician, family, friends). Other than legitimate medical issues, most people I saw who weren't able to successfully BF either weren't super determined to make it work, or got bad advice/pushback from someone in their support system. BF can be really hard at first, and mom can be really impressionable those first few weeks.


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    This board has provided some great information on CDs.  Do most moms who CD SAH?  Just wondering how child care providers respond.

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    (this has probably been discussed, i sawwy)

    Does anyone have a recipe for breastfeeding cookies? Or whatever they're called! When do you typically start eating them?
    I like this recipe https://www.food.com/recipe/oatmeal-chocolate-chip-lactation-cookies-by-noel-trujillo-192346 I cut the sugar down (about 3/4 cup of each) and use a trail mix of nuts, chocolate chips, and dried fruit. They are DELICIOUS! I already made a batch and froze them (they freeze well) for once this LO arrives. I figure they will be a nice snack option, and if they help with my milk supply great! With DS, I started eating them once I went back to work to keep my supply up while pumping.
    Awesome! That is the recipe I've been wanting to try, I'm glad that it's yummy! I'll cut the sugar down though and add some fruit to a batch. Mmm.

    @ugabamafans I'm going grocery shopping in like five mins, I'm going to try our regular grocery store. I'll let you know if I have luck!

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    PressLove said:
    This board has provided some great information on CDs.  Do most moms who CD SAH?  Just wondering how child care providers respond.
    I think it depends on the provider.  I know @chickpea912 CD her babies and she works.  I am home until October and plan to try it through then.  Beyond that it will depend on who is watching DS and whether they are willing or if I'll just do it when I'm home with him in the evenings and on weekends.
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    PressLove said:
    This board has provided some great information on CDs.  Do most moms who CD SAH?  Just wondering how child care providers respond.
    Both my husband and I work full time (or more), and we CD.  I have always used in home day care providers, and I've never had CDs become a problem.  I always go in to meeting a DCP WITH diapers in hand - often when people hear "cloth diaper," they have something different in mind than what my diapers actually are.  They're thinking big prefold squares with pins and rubber pants.  Obviously not my reality.  So that's my one hint.
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