My due date is July 4th however, my parents, brother and grandparents will all be out of reach the from June 19 to July 1st on a trip to Europe. My husband also has to work 4 hours away starting last week up until the last week of June. Obviously, this pregnancy wasn't planned... but I'm nervous out that nobody in my support/emergency contact will be available to help me if I go early. Plus, I really want my mom to be there for the birth of her grandchild. Has anyone been in a situation with similar circumstances? Can you choose to be induced early in this kind of circumstances? I'm paranoid and worried I'm going to be alone when its go time.
Re: Can you choose to be induced early?
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Thanks for all the positive feedback. It was a question to see if anyone else has been in the same situation and what they did. I'm not being selfish. I'm scared and looking for other experiences.
Thank you for giving your opinion without being a negative asshole.
First off, I want to inform you that I will not delete your post. I am only allowed to delete threads in extreme circumstances.
Second, every poster in this thread is right. If you choose to induce your baby before it is ready to come out on it's own you are indeed selfish. Make the right choice, choose your baby's health above all else.
Third, I don't care if it's abbreviated or not, "go fuck yourself and die" is inappropriate, against the Terms Of Use and I will not have things like that being directed towards the other members of this site. Consider this your first warning.
I would not go to a dr who would induce me a month early without an medical need (such as pre - e)
My father in law is a doctor and I always heard him say that it's unsafe to induce early and that any doctors that do this without a sound medical reason for fear of harm mother or baby are not smart doctors.
I would advise not to induce early. Babies generally do best being born between 38-40 weeks so if you have your child's well-being in mind then it would be safe to do this. Hire a doula or find a trusted friend to help you. Or even a friend that might not live close you could ask if she would come stay with you for a couple of days if your family is out of town. You could pay her even haha.
I'm worried too about having no one around (my family and husband's family both live 10 hours away) and we just moved to a new state and don't know a lot of people.
Why in the world anyone could think premature induction or a c/s without LEGITIMATE MEDICAL REASONS is a good idea is beyond me. You think you're scared now? What about when your baby is in the NICU struggling to breathe then potentially deals with lifelong health issues only because you wanted him/her born early? Your support network will be on vacation while you deal with recovery and a baby whose life may be on the line. Yes, it is selfish. Yes, it is dangerous. Yes, it is stupid. Yes, it is supportive to tell you so. Telling you that your idea is OK is NOT being supportive.
I am also issuing you a second warning for 13+ false abuse reports. The report button is only to be used when someone is breaking the TOU.
As a FTM too...um, no. No bullying here that I've seen. Educate yourself. Having your baby that early is dangerous for the baby's health! People have been spelling that out for you pretty well.
It was a question.
It was all harmful. you're all cunts.
A woman who gets induced before she is ready to go into labor has a longer more painful labor. Why? Because her baby isn't ready to come and her body hasn't started the process, so your cervix isn't shortening, you aren't effaced and your not dialated at all or only maybe by a cm. Pitocin causes intense contractions that are usually one right on top of anouther. The labor itself can go on for about 24 sometimes close to 48 hours before a doctor will call for a c section and then your recovery will be a lot longer. Also sometimes with pitocin an epidural isn't as affective and you labor in pain or you labor feeling the labor on one side or in certain areas of your body.
your baby will come when it's good and ready, when it's lungs are fully developed and when it's gained enough weight to support itself for a few hours.
I understand your want to have your baby at a convenient time, heck I'd love it if my baby came at a time when I don't have to worry about my ex having my DS, I'm not going to force my baby to come though.