Since there are 20 posts about this BS let's discuss this here!

KMW08 · May 2014

I have nothing further to add on this, except being a late-comer to the board is not an excuse. My edd is 11/28 and I was a later intro-er. As stated before, it is what you make of it. The more you post, the more you'll be known & recognized. That's seriously all there is to it.

And big hugs to RedbirdFly & Maelara. I can't even imagine, I'm sorry you went through that hell.

MollMoll4 · May 2014

lisaren said:
This is what I'm doing... You start shit, the whole whining and boohoo the board hates me and you start spewing your negativity, you're on ignore.
I will gif something so ridiculous behind every single one of your comments that you will have no choice but to shut up or leave. Or we can have a gif war. Whichever.
I'm not wasting anymore energy or time on these assholes.
The way I see it, we're all equals. How you choose to play here is your choice, just be prepared for the ignore gif war if you start the shit.

I like the idea of a gif war... Tell me more.

Kristy774 · May 2014

KMW08 said:
I have nothing further to add on this, except being a late-comer to the board is not an excuse. My edd is 11/28 and I was a later intro-er. As stated before, it is what you make of it. The more you post, the more you'll be known & recognized. That's seriously all there is to it.

And big hugs to RedbirdFly & Maelara. I can't even imagine, I'm sorry you went through that hell.

This is an excellent point.

ed16564 · May 2014

Seriously you guys- we have this thread like every two weeks. Can we get the fuck over this?

You know what's great about the Internet vs real life- if people are mean to you- you can just leave- use another pregnancy forum- get the hell out.

No one is making you stay here and listen to things you think are rude- instead of trying to reform a group of people on the Internet- just love on.

Seriously can we stop doing this every f'in time someone's feelings get hurt.

jaminjeff · May 2014

It's an effing message board. Good God.

CPM13 · May 2014

I'm going to jump in. Because I can. Because (as stated earlier in this thread) this is the INTERNET and we are all free to post when and if we want.

I think sometimes some responses to posts can seem or be a bit blunt and abrupt. This doesn't bother me. I meet blunt people all the time face-to-face. And I think online it's easy to write short answers that can be interpreted as blunt in a rude way. And often I think when people here ask questions other people just want to give their answers (which are their *opinions*) as soon as they can. So that adds to the potential bluntness.

BUT aren't we ADULTS? I mean seriously... if people are this sensitive in their real lives they are wasting A LOT of unneeded energy on people that they are not required to like/be friends with/hang out with. No one here (I assume) is your boss or your mother-in-law or your cranky next door neighbor. No one is FORCING you to talk to these people. If you think they are mean or rude than ignore their answers and simply reply to the people whose answers made you happier.

This exhausts me. I have tried in the past to stay out of these debates because I just think some people are being immature and overly sensitive but for some reason today I felt the need to speak up. Sorry for the rambling. I am all fired up.

runningmama14 · May 2014

CPM13 said:
I'm going to jump in. Because I can. Because (as stated earlier in this thread) this is the INTERNET and we are all free to post when and if we want.

I think sometimes some responses to posts can seem or be a bit blunt and abrupt. This doesn't bother me. I meet blunt people all the time face-to-face. And I think online it's easy to write short answers that can be interpreted as blunt in a rude way. And often I think when people here ask questions other people just want to give their answers (which are their *opinions*) as soon as they can. So that adds to the potential bluntness.

BUT aren't we ADULTS? I mean seriously... if people are this sensitive in their real lives they are wasting A LOT of unneeded energy on people that they are not required to like/be friends with/hang out with. No one here (I assume) is your boss or your mother-in-law or your cranky next door neighbor. No one is FORCING you to talk to these people. If you think they are mean or rude than ignore their answers and simply reply to the people whose answers made you happier.

This exhausts me. I have tried in the past to stay out of these debates because I just think some people are being immature and overly sensitive but for some reason today I felt the need to speak up. Sorry for the rambling. I am all fired up.

This so reminds me of the Simon Dempsey/David Thorne deal. If you aren't familiar, read this hilarity:
https://happyplace.someecards.com/workplace/david-thorne-makes-co-workers-life-a-living-hell/

I think I'll start calling people Simon on here when they get all worked over nothing

Singingmama10 · May 2014

Thank GOD I don't work with David Thorne! thanks for sharing that, it gave me a good laugh.

About all of this "cool kids" stuff. Like everyone else said, if you feel left out participate! I am not able to write every day and quite honestly, I don't think I have much to contribute yet. Thanks MY issue not those who post all the time and have their inside jokes. You can't get mad at someone because you are jealous of the relationships they have fostered. If you are upset, then start talking and stop complaining.

With that said... like PP have also stated, I don't think this will stop anything in the long run. There will always be people that will complain, because lets face, that's what they like doing. If you don't like something ignore it and move on please

. Now can we All move on and enjoy each other company like we did a week ago

?

mamathompson7 · May 2014

So, I pretty much just lurk here, and post rarely, BUT now I am SUPER curious about what all went down and who said what and who wants to take something back..... who are these cool kids? Any links?

Please don't hate on me!

runningmama14 · May 2014

mamathompson7 said:

So, I pretty much just lurk here, and post rarely, BUT now I am SUPER curious about what all went down and who said what and who wants to take something back..... who are these cool kids? Any links?

Please don't hate on me!

This weekend there was some drama around the post titled "concerns about the direction of this board" and "an apology". I think those are the thread names anyway.

I think this post is more about the fact that every week or so someone who doesn't post much (and sometimes seems like they haven't even read much) comes on and criticizes the regular posters for not being 1000% puppies and rainbows all the time and for having running conversations and jokes.

brooklyngirl18 · May 2014

i know I'm super late to this party here and didn't really comment on much of what went down over the weekend because i was on my computer for very short periods of time and everything i wanted to say was already said many times over. i love titted a lot but am still backed up on these boards. i usually can monitor while i'm at work but this happened on a weekend so I'm backed up. whatever now I'm ranting.

i just want to say that I'm brand spanking new the the bump- i joined shortly after BFP and have never been a part of any other online community. it took a few days to learn the ropes and lurk before i started posting and over time became comfortable with all you wonderful ladies. i can't stand when people come one and complain for not being accepted or bullied or the cool kids clubs or whatever because it's simply not true. i didn't know the 'rules'. i remember seeing a lot of intros then seeing someone say intros were super annoying so i was worried about intro-ing. i didn't want to be annoying but i also wanted to just say hi before randomly posting on other people's threads. the point is i figured it out and just did my thing. i think I am considered a reg but maybe I'm not. either way it doesn't really matter. i get out of the board what i put into it and i value everyone on here (well except a few) its horrifying that we came together as a group to support our mod in a terrible situation and someone had to bring drama but it is what it is. i for one will continue support lisa and all our other loss moms as well as all the ladies on this board. this drama is so high school and i look forward to moving on and spending the rest of our pregnancies and however long after hardcore connecting like the whore knights we are.

sparklingwhit · May 2014

I'm just going to say that I understand why some people might feel bullied. The way women socialize on these boards is totally different than the way that they do in real life. So if you aren't used to constant sarcasm and snark or if you don't read a post in the same light that the poster intended it can leave you feeling a bit "bullied". It's just a matter of getting used to it.

I've personally been on several boards with differing personalities. There are always going to be arguments and disagreements, that's just life. When someone doesn't have an opinion that is the "norm" they tend to get ganged up on a bit. That's just how these boards go. It's not that people are trying to "bully" it's that you have a different opinion and people are very excited to tell you their opinion on the matter. That's what happens in forums. People on forums like to respond. When they all respond and have different opinions, that also tend to be sarcastic, you may not like it, but it's not bullying.

I had to stop commenting on one of my own posts because I did start feeling down on myself because some of the responses were very negative and didn't really answer my original question, but unfortunately that is just how the cookie crumbles. You've got to have really thick skin to be on public forums. If you don't have thick skin you are better off getting your information from your family friends and doctors in your world.

missnacholover · May 2014

sparklingwhit said:

I'm just going to say that I understand why some people might feel bullied. The way women socialize on these boards is totally different than the way that they do in real life. So if you aren't used to constant sarcasm and snark or if you don't read a post in the same light that the poster intended it can leave you feeling a bit "bullied". It's just a matter of getting used to it.

I've personally been on several boards with differing personalities. There are always going to be arguments and disagreements, that's just life. When someone doesn't have an opinion that is the "norm" they tend to get ganged up on a bit. That's just how these boards go. It's not that people are trying to "bully" it's that you have a different opinion and people are very excited to tell you their opinion on the matter. That's what happens in forums. People on forums like to respond. When they all respond and have different opinions, that also tend to be sarcastic, you may not like it, but it's not bullying.
I had to stop commenting on one of my own posts because I did start feeling down on myself because some of the responses were very negative and didn't really answer my original question, but unfortunately that is just how the cookie crumbles. You've got to have really thick skin to be on public forums. If you don't have thick skin you are better off getting your information from your family friends and doctors in your world.

I do not fall in this category. I'm sarcastic, snarky, and tell it like it is IRL too.

sparklingwhit · May 2014

missnacholover said:
I do not fall in this category. I'm sarcastic, snarky, and tell it like it is IRL too.

Cool! That's you! You probably wouldn't get along with the girls that feel easily bullied IRL either

I'm just trying to help with the understanding of why some girls might feel that way and also why they should get over it. Not trying to overgeneralize. Just pointing out the tone that I feel from most boards I'm on. Trying to help everyone get a better understanding of each other. So we can all be one big happy freaking family!!! LOL!

krgriffin26 · May 2014

Maelara · May 2014

missnacholover said:

sparklingwhit said:

I'm just going to say that I understand why some people might feel bullied. The way women socialize on these boards is totally different than the way that they do in real life. So if you aren't used to constant sarcasm and snark or if you don't read a post in the same light that the poster intended it can leave you feeling a bit "bullied". It's just a matter of getting used to it.

I've personally been on several boards with differing personalities. There are always going to be arguments and disagreements, that's just life. When someone doesn't have an opinion that is the "norm" they tend to get ganged up on a bit. That's just how these boards go. It's not that people are trying to "bully" it's that you have a different opinion and people are very excited to tell you their opinion on the matter. That's what happens in forums. People on forums like to respond. When they all respond and have different opinions, that also tend to be sarcastic, you may not like it, but it's not bullying.
I had to stop commenting on one of my own posts because I did start feeling down on myself because some of the responses were very negative and didn't really answer my original question, but unfortunately that is just how the cookie crumbles. You've got to have really thick skin to be on public forums. If you don't have thick skin you are better off getting your information from your family friends and doctors in your world.

I do not fall in this category. I'm sarcastic, snarky, and tell it like it is IRL too.

This is me too. I am no different on here than I am in RL. At all. My whole family is snarky and sarcastic. So is DHs family. We all have fun with it and laugh at ourselves. This is why it's so baffling to me why so many people get so butthurt. Believe it or not, I'm considered the overly sensitive one in the family.

missnacholover · May 2014

Maelara said:

sparklingwhit said:

I'm just going to say that I understand why some people might feel bullied. The way women socialize on these boards is totally different than the way that they do in real life. So if you aren't used to constant sarcasm and snark or if you don't read a post in the same light that the poster intended it can leave you feeling a bit "bullied". It's just a matter of getting used to it.

I've personally been on several boards with differing personalities. There are always going to be arguments and disagreements, that's just life. When someone doesn't have an opinion that is the "norm" they tend to get ganged up on a bit. That's just how these boards go. It's not that people are trying to "bully" it's that you have a different opinion and people are very excited to tell you their opinion on the matter. That's what happens in forums. People on forums like to respond. When they all respond and have different opinions, that also tend to be sarcastic, you may not like it, but it's not bullying.
I had to stop commenting on one of my own posts because I did start feeling down on myself because some of the responses were very negative and didn't really answer my original question, but unfortunately that is just how the cookie crumbles. You've got to have really thick skin to be on public forums. If you don't have thick skin you are better off getting your information from your family friends and doctors in your world.

I do not fall in this category. I'm sarcastic, snarky, and tell it like it is IRL too.
This is me too. I am no different on here than I am in RL. At all. My whole family is snarky and sarcastic. So is DHs family. We all have fun with it and laugh at ourselves. This is why it's so baffling to me why so many people get so butthurt. Believe it or not, I'm considered the overly sensitive one in the family.

We'd be snarky BFFs IRL.

renbee · May 2014

Ummmm @missnacholover, I didn't think it was possible, but I love you even more for choosing Paul Rudd as someone you'd leave DH for. LOVE HIM!

lisaren · May 2014

How I am here is exactly the way I am in the real world. I get on my friends nerves. A lot. I'm the one that's usually cheering people on when it's my own personal issue.
I talk in text how I talk in real life. Which is why I never type lol. I type hahahaha. I'm weird. I don't care.

Also, clearly we all agree this shit will keep happening. So let's just all agree to not feed into it.

renbee · May 2014

Pssssst - look who's on the leaderboard this week!

Maelara · May 2014

lisaren said:
How I am here is exactly the way I am in the real world. I get on my friends nerves. A lot. I'm the one that's usually cheering people on when it's my own personal issue.
I talk in text how I talk in real life. Which is why I never type lol. I type hahahaha. I'm weird. I don't care.

Also, clearly we all agree this shit will keep happening. So let's just all agree to not feed into it.

I think your idea of a gif party instead of replying to these type of posts is uber fantastic. I'm going to have to learn to gif!

Anyone have any good gif web pages?

mamatohne · May 2014

I agree I am who I am. I spent a lot of time when I was younger trying to please people. I have learned that people like me better when I'm just me anyway. And @sparklingwhit‌ please go back and read the definition of bullying. Please and thank you.

sparklingwhit · May 2014

tarynleann said:

I agree I am who I am. I spent a lot of time when I was younger trying to please people. I have learned that people like me better when I'm just me anyway. And @sparklingwhit‌ please go back and read the definition of bullying. Please and thank you.

Again, not saying that it's bullying, just saying that I understand where some people might feel that way. I post a bit on this board and I keep coming back so obv I like a lot of you or I would got crawl in a hole somewhere and never come back. I just get the feels I guess...

mommymeg143 · May 2014

I freakin' love all of you on this board. I can't imagine how boring this board would be if we only talked about pregnancy related issues. I mean, we are here to discuss topics related to our pregnancies BUT throwing in some nachos and cake to spice things up is what keeps it interesting.

I've been to other boards and holyshitballs we really are unicorns and sprinkles compared to others. I've been on this board since mid-March and have yet to see someone who was flamed that didn't deserve to be. It is completely irrational for someone to think that they can come into a "community", post something negative, and be met with a postivie response. Nope, not going to happen. If someone approached me negatively IRL, I naturally wouldn't respond with a hug.

In getting to know most of you, I think everyone has for the most part (ahem...fartscrap) an awesome personality. I think the snark and sarcasm is funny. This is why we say get to know the board, introduce yourself, reply to more post than your own because if you jump in from time to time and someone says something to be funny, you will indeed take it wrong which leads to a shit ton of white knighting. No bueno.

I think we will continue to see this through November because people choose not to read or interact. (Which I am grateful to a few of those because it lead to the BEST THREAD EVER) I think we should just ignore those mistakes and treat them to a gif party whenever this happens. (@lisaren, just for you!)

And now...my favorite gif of the week...

runningmama14 · May 2014

lisaren said:
How I am here is exactly the way I am in the real world. I get on my friends nerves. A lot. I'm the one that's usually cheering people on when it's my own personal issue.
I talk in text how I talk in real life. Which is why I never type lol. I type hahahaha. I'm weird. I don't care.

Also, clearly we all agree this shit will keep happening. So let's just all agree to not feed into it.

Ahh, I don't know if I can agree to that! Not putting someone in their place when they so deserve it?!? That's just not in my nature.

silverwings72 · May 2014

I was checking out another board over the last few days and those women are meeeeeaaaaannn. I won't say what board it is but I can honestly say I feel much more safe and accepted here. I learned from my own mistakes that honesty is no excuse for cruelty, I try to pay attention to that when I'm posting or in real life as well.

DoubleUp8 · May 2014

I have a mantra for @lisaren's fight them with gifs plan:

Ok, I had to add this too because I found it and thought it was hilarious:

nonoemily · May 2014

Dude, what is going on around here? I was gone for two weeks and you all have been busy with all kinda of crazy. I don't even know if I can catch up.

krgriffin26 · May 2014

This...this is what happened

american horror story animated GIF

mommymeg143 · May 2014

krgriffin26 said:

This...this is what happened

Ohhhh girl, this is MY show!! I can't wait for the new season!!

krgriffin26 · May 2014

@MeganMullikin I LOVE it too! The hubs and I can't get enough of it. We missed the first 2 seasons but watched them both (in about 2 weeks) right before Season 3 started and we are hooked! Season 4 needs to hurry

mommymeg143 · May 2014

@krgriffin26‌...agreed!! I had so hoped that Coven wound have another season. There was rumor that they were going to extend it but decided not to. I'm so excited for Salem though!!

lisaren · May 2014

runningmama14 said:

lisaren said:
How I am here is exactly the way I am in the real world. I get on my friends nerves. A lot. I'm the one that's usually cheering people on when it's my own personal issue.
I talk in text how I talk in real life. Which is why I never type lol. I type hahahaha. I'm weird. I don't care.

Also, clearly we all agree this shit will keep happening. So let's just all agree to not feed into it.
Ahh, I don't know if I can agree to that! Not putting someone in their place when they so deserve it?!? That's just not in my nature.

-----------/
Putting someone in their place is one thing. But rehashing the same thing over and over is another.
There's always going to be asshats everywhere. I will stand up for myself and the board in general but I refuse to waste anymore of my energy on people who really are just asshats.

And to be honest, and maybe I'll be all bitch for this, after I accepted the apology from shin chick she never even fuckin acknowledged she got it. I think at the very least a thank you would/should have been sent.
Even if it was in pm.

runningmama14 · May 2014

lisaren said:

runningmama14 said:

lisaren said:
How I am here is exactly the way I am in the real world. I get on my friends nerves. A lot. I'm the one that's usually cheering people on when it's my own personal issue.
I talk in text how I talk in real life. Which is why I never type lol. I type hahahaha. I'm weird. I don't care.

Also, clearly we all agree this shit will keep happening. So let's just all agree to not feed into it.
Ahh, I don't know if I can agree to that! Not putting someone in their place when they so deserve it?!? That's just not in my nature.
-----------/
Putting someone in their place is one thing. But rehashing the same thing over and over is another.
There's always going to be asshats everywhere. I will stand up for myself and the board in general but I refuse to waste anymore of my energy on people who really are just asshats.

And to be honest, and maybe I'll be all bitch for this, after I accepted the apology from shin chick she never even fuckin acknowledged she got it. I think at the very least a thank you would/should have been sent.
Even if it was in pm.

I'm just a born debater! Needing to have the last word is a weakness of mine, but I feel I do a pretty good job of not getting all "un-huh" as my argument :-) I try to keep it a notch above klassy.

As for the no acknowledgement thing, yesterday was such a cluster in so many regards. I thought you handled it well.

lisaren · May 2014

Well I can def be a "snap to the Z formation" kinda girl

strujillo84 · May 2014

Listen, Listen............ (I just wanted to use this)

lisaren · May 2014

strujillo84 · May 2014

lisaren said:

Love men on film.

ed16564 · May 2014

Oh my word. Seriously ladies. LET IT GO! I am more sensitive and "sweet" than sarcastic irl- and even on this board- but I can get along with the snarky girls fine. It's called not being self centered and taking it personally. If someone says something snarky- so what, it has no bearing on who you are as a person. I don't get why we are even still talking about this.

In REAL news my ass hurts and I'm pretty sure it's sciatica which stinks because I am only 14 weeks.

lisaren · May 2014

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