So as not to take away from Dimples' BFP post below, Monday Chit Chat...

melody921 · May 2014

I am SO hungry right now. I have already eaten breakfast quinoa with milk and two chocolate chip cookies with some peanut butter, in addition to coffee. But it's not even noon, and I could inhale my entire lunch. At this rate, I'm going to use up all my calories before I ever get to dinner.

Pokedot · May 2014

@kdsmith43 you have a pm!

BPer · May 2014

I had second breakfast this morning.

And I am already hungry for lunch.

For shame.

BPer · May 2014

So I ordered 3 really cute maternity dresses from GAP last week, and paid for upgraded shipping because I wanted to make sure they were here by vacation, and their standard shipping usually takes 9 days to get here.

I check the tracking this morning, and they are at the FedEx facility down the street from my house, and have been since Friday. This morning's update was "Not due for delivery".

So, you just hold it there?! Because I was given a 3-5 day delivery commitment, you couldn't possibly just be awesome and drop them off a day early? Jerks.

melody921 · May 2014

LoisLayn23 said:

BPer said:

LoisLayn23 said:

I'm already plotting ways to get my body back (finally) after this kid is out. But then I remember how much I wanted to eat all the fancy cakes the store carried last time so I'm doubtful I'll be able to control myself.

I have big plans for T25.

...but bacon...and pizza...

I feel the same way.
I could totally do paleo. Except cheese. and wine. and milkshakes.

I could never do paleo, for cheese alone.

linzeek44 · May 2014

My twin sister got married this weekend! Since we had a small wedding, this was the first wedding with a lot of our family. She was radiant, my other sister officiated and did a short, sweet, super funny ceremony, I did a reading, ERy made it down the whole aisle and didn't take his bow tie off, and her dog sat right down for the ceremony.

And then I got my heel stuck in a grate on the floor of the wine room and DH tried to pull it out and the heel broke. And then I couldn't get out of my dress because the zipper was messed up so we had to rip it.

E was hilarious on the dance floor. He woke up the next day with wild hair, bags under his eyes, asking for "party? Party, mama?"

jenndub · May 2014

I do a slightly modified version of Paleo. It consists of potatoes in every form, especially french fries, 17 or 18 pounds of bread daily and then extreme amounts of chips and mangoes. I also drink a huge Coke every day. Oh, and cheese. All of the cheese. Am I doing it wrong?

melody921 · May 2014

jenndub said:

I do a slightly modified version of Paleo. It consists of potatoes in every form, especially french fries, 17 or 18 pounds of bread daily and then extreme amounts of chips and mangoes. I also drink a huge Coke every day. Oh, and cheese. All of the cheese. Am I doing it wrong?

Haha, this is more my speed, only replace the Coke and chips with coffee and cookies. Mmmm.

Holly_1007 · May 2014

jenndub said:

I do a slightly modified version of Paleo. It consists of potatoes in every form, especially french fries, 17 or 18 pounds of bread daily and then extreme amounts of chips and mangoes. I also drink a huge Coke every day. Oh, and cheese. All of the cheese. Am I doing it wrong?

. And yet, you are so skinny. I'm jealous!

Holly_1007 · May 2014

Also,consider this my formal apology for blowing up your IG feeds this weekend.

jenmbott · May 2014

@kdsmith43 Another vote for short

@pokedot I love your hair. I wish I could get a cut like that but my hair is too thin. I have to decide what I want to do with my hair by early June (my next appt.) I'm dying to chop it but I know how much I like to have it off of my neck in the summer.

Holly_1007 · May 2014

MIL sent all the leftover food home with us. Tons of stuff that I would never buy, chips and dips and just so much junk. I don't want it in the house because I don't want the boys eating it, so I'm eating it while they are napping/resting.

Eastie156 · May 2014

mnkate said:

DH "forgot" to tell me that he took a vacation day today and would be at a golf tournament - which would be going until late tonight. It's pouring cats and dogs right now. I can't stop snickering. Hope he's having a great time. Bahahahahaha!!!!

@mnkate this is the type of scenario that I would snicker at with my H too.. serves him right.

Eastie156 · May 2014

H and I looked at houses this weekend. We saw one that we love on Saturday. It's in our budget, but it would be a heck of a commute for us both. (1 1/2 hours each way) H is totally ok with it, but I don't know if I can wrap my head around that commute. My current commute is 30 minutes and H's is about 20 mins....the pluses: we'd be closer to my family, our own house, property, etc. the minuses: we'd be closer to my family, the commute and I'm not 100% sure I'm quite ready to leave the city. I think I need one more year. Plus H has a year of Law School left... it'll be a ridiculous year if we move that far away.

Edit: so I'm torn. It's a beautiful house, fully updated and in our budget. The housing market is so slow and we've been casually looking for almost a year and there's nothing we've agreed upon until now.

Holly_1007 · May 2014

Eastie156 said:

H and I looked at houses this weekend. We saw one that we love on Saturday. It's in our budget, but it would be a heck of a commute for us both. (1 1/2 hours each way) H is totally ok with it, but I don't know if I can wrap my head around that commute. My current commute is 30 minutes and H's is about 20 mins....the pluses: we'd be closer to my family, our own house, property, etc. the minuses: we'd be closer to my family, the commute and I'm not 100% sure I'm quite ready to leave the city. I think I need one more year. Plus H has a year of Law School left... it'll be a ridiculous year if we move that far away.
Edit: so I'm torn. It's a beautiful house, fully updated and in our budget. The housing market is so slow and we've been casually looking for almost a year and there's nothing we've agreed upon until now.

commuting into the city sucks. I did it for 6 months and will never do it again. Awful awful awful.

Flamingemu · May 2014

Eastie156 said:

H and I looked at houses this weekend. We saw one that we love on Saturday. It's in our budget, but it would be a heck of a commute for us both. (1 1/2 hours each way) H is totally ok with it, but I don't know if I can wrap my head around that commute. My current commute is 30 minutes and H's is about 20 mins....the pluses: we'd be closer to my family, our own house, property, etc. the minuses: we'd be closer to my family, the commute and I'm not 100% sure I'm quite ready to leave the city. I think I need one more year. Plus H has a year of Law School left... it'll be a ridiculous year if we move that far away.
Edit: so I'm torn. It's a beautiful house, fully updated and in our budget. The housing market is so slow and we've been casually looking for almost a year and there's nothing we've agreed upon until now.

That is a huge decision. DH & I picked long ago to live in a smaller home, closer to the city, over a huge home and a long commute. I just can't do it. My nerves get rattled about 45 mins into a commute, so that is my cutoff.

Holly_1007 · May 2014

So, I got DH a tent for Father's Day, but I'm thinking of maybe surprising him with a night camping on Father's Day weekend? Just loading up the car and not telling him where we are going. Think this is an awful idea? Or better yet, can it pull it off? Haha

BeebopandBuddy · May 2014

Holly_1007 said:

So, I got DH a tent for Father's Day, but I'm thinking of maybe surprising him with a night camping on Father's Day weekend? Just loading up the car and not telling him where we are going. Think this is an awful idea? Or better yet, can it pull it off? Haha

I think it sounds like a nice idea. If he's as oblivious to what is going on in the house as my DH, you should be able to pull it off easily.

Holly_1007 · May 2014

Father's Day is June 15th

BeebopandBuddy · May 2014

So sorry BME.

Maya told me she doesn't love me yesterday. I knew that she would start saying things like that eventually because I remember some of the posts with those of you that have 3 or 4 year-olds and the awful things they say. It still stung. She apologized later when DH made her.

MarisaKathleen · May 2014

Came back from my 1 hour of orientation and had 4 missed calls. All from the same number. 2 voicemails. To give me 2 different phone numbers. I called back, it was a Mom calling about her son. HER SON IS 37!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LyndseylovesHugh · May 2014

My doc scheduled my c-section on Friday, for some reason knowing the date makes it seem so much closer! 64 days to go!

I'm going to vent now...my dad and step-mom put me in the middle of a big fight over money this morning and I'm really upset about it. I've spent the entire morning between crying and being really pissed that they put me in this situation. To make a long story short, my dad still owns and rents out his childhood home in San Jose, ca. I have expressed on numerous occasions that when my H gets out of the Army we may move to the Bay Area and if we do I would like to live in that house (it's in a great school district that is hard to get in to). I have never talked to my dad about specifics, I don't know what arrangement we would work out money wise because it is years from now and I don't even know if we will end up there. But I have always assumed we would pay them rent. Apparently my stepmom thinks that either my dad told me I can have it for free or I assumed this. They use the rent from that house as part of their income so she thinks that they will not be able to live once this "agreement" my dad and I have becomes a reality.

I know that this fight is about money in general and really doesn't have anything to do with me, but it still really hurts. They've been married for 20 years, she knows me well, she should know I would never expect something like this and I would never put them in a bad financial situation. I've never even asked them to borrow $20, but all of a sudden I'm expecting you to just give me a million dollar house? Seriously? I've been totally self sufficient since the day I graduated college, H and I work hard to save money and live within our means, I would never expect a hand out from anyone and she should know that about me.

Sorry, that ended up being really long, but it feels good to get it out. I normally have a very good relationship with her so I felt really blindsided by this, pissed that I was put I the middle at all and just hurt in general.

BillyMollyEmmy · May 2014

I am addicted to Sammydress.com and ordered all the things this weekend. I hope they are as cute in person as they are on the website!!!

melody921 · May 2014

Eastie156 said:

H and I looked at houses this weekend. We saw one that we love on Saturday. It's in our budget, but it would be a heck of a commute for us both. (1 1/2 hours each way) H is totally ok with it, but I don't know if I can wrap my head around that commute. My current commute is 30 minutes and H's is about 20 mins....the pluses: we'd be closer to my family, our own house, property, etc. the minuses: we'd be closer to my family, the commute and I'm not 100% sure I'm quite ready to leave the city. I think I need one more year. Plus H has a year of Law School left... it'll be a ridiculous year if we move that far away.
Edit: so I'm torn. It's a beautiful house, fully updated and in our budget. The housing market is so slow and we've been casually looking for almost a year and there's nothing we've agreed upon until now.

That commute would be a deal-breaker for me. DH commutes about 45 minutes, which can get much longer if there's a crash or some other problem. I'd keep looking since you've been kind of casual about it up until now.

melody921 · May 2014

Holly_1007 said:

So, I got DH a tent for Father's Day, but I'm thinking of maybe surprising him with a night camping on Father's Day weekend? Just loading up the car and not telling him where we are going. Think this is an awful idea? Or better yet, can it pull it off? Haha

That sounds like so much fun.

BeebopandBuddy · May 2014

LyndseylovesHugh said:

My doc scheduled my c-section on Friday, for some reason knowing the date makes it seem so much closer! 64 days to go! I'm going to vent now...my dad and step-mom put me in the middle of a big fight over money this morning and I'm really upset about it. I've spent the entire morning between crying and being really pissed that they put me in this situation. To make a long story short, my dad still owns and rents out his childhood home in San Jose, ca. I have expressed on numerous occasions that when my H gets out of the Army we may move to the Bay Area and if we do I would like to live in that house (it's in a great school district that is hard to get in to). I have never talked to my dad about specifics, I don't know what arrangement we would work out money wise because it is years from now and I don't even know if we will end up there. But I have always assumed we would pay them rent. Apparently my stepmom thinks that either my dad told me I can have it for free or I assumed this. They use the rent from that house as part of their income so she thinks that they will not be able to live once this "agreement" my dad and I have becomes a reality. I know that this fight is about money in general and really doesn't have anything to do with me, but it still really hurts. They've been married for 20 years, she knows me well, she should know I would never expect something like this and I would never put them in a bad financial situation. I've never even asked them to borrow $20, but all of a sudden I'm expecting you to just give me a million dollar house? Seriously? I've been totally self sufficient since the day I graduated college, H and I work hard to save money and live within our means, I would never expect a hand out from anyone and she should know that about me. Sorry, that ended up being really long, but it feels good to get it out. I normally have a very good relationship with her so I felt really blindsided by this, pissed that I was put I the middle at all and just hurt in general.

Just from the information that you provided, I think this fight sounds more about something going on between them than anything to do with you. Sorry it's upsetting you though.

BeebopandBuddy · May 2014

BillyMollyEmmy said:

I am addicted to Sammydress.com and ordered all the things this weekend. I hope they are as cute in person as they are on the website!!!

I ordered some things too and then I read some terrible reviews about their shipping. I'm so worried about it now. I just got a shipping notification for the stuff I ordered, so I hope it isn't an issue.

melody921 · May 2014

IndigoVader said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

So sorry BME.

Maya told me she doesn't love me yesterday. I knew that she would start saying things like that eventually because I remember some of the posts with those of you that have 3 or 4 year-olds and the awful things they say. It still stung. She apologized later when DH made her.

That is the worst..the first couple of times it is heartbreaking, but they really don't know what that means to us.One day they will say it, and you will think,"I don't like you much right now either," and feel pretty bad about that too. Toddlers are adorable evil goblins that have come to prepare us for the demons they become as teenagers.HUGS, mom.

Totally been there. DS can be the sweetest kid, or the most cutting. It's uncanny what these little ones can come up with that's so mean.

melody921 · May 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

Came back from my 1 hour of orientation and had 4 missed calls. All from the same number. 2 voicemails. To give me 2 different phone numbers. I called back, it was a Mom calling about her son. HER SON IS 37!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I repeat everything I've ever said about you having the best on-the-job stories. WTF, talk about helicopter parenting.

BPer · May 2014

I found out through reading the FB post of a mutual "friend" that my former-BFF, and bridesmaid in my wedding is getting married...like in the next couple of days.

I had absolutely no idea. I tried to make myself feel better by telling myself that maybe it was some small-thing...but they just checked into a resort upstate.

That's a shitty feeling.

melody921 · May 2014

SharkFarts said:

Wait, why are those dresses so cheap?

I'm wondering the same thing! Is there a catch?

ETA: How is everything "one-size"?

tinyhumantoe · May 2014

Do you guys keep old work emails? I keep them all.

I just had two people ask me if I had so-and-so's contact information. I did an outlook search and found them both, on an email where the askers were included, which made me wonder why they didn't do the search themselves.

LyndseylovesHugh · May 2014

BeebopandBuddy said:

LyndseylovesHugh said:

My doc scheduled my c-section on Friday, for some reason knowing the date makes it seem so much closer! 64 days to go!

I'm going to vent now...my dad and step-mom put me in the middle of a big fight over money this morning and I'm really upset about it. I've spent the entire morning between crying and being really pissed that they put me in this situation. To make a long story short, my dad still owns and rents out his childhood home in San Jose, ca. I have expressed on numerous occasions that when my H gets out of the Army we may move to the Bay Area and if we do I would like to live in that house (it's in a great school district that is hard to get in to). I have never talked to my dad about specifics, I don't know what arrangement we would work out money wise because it is years from now and I don't even know if we will end up there. But I have always assumed we would pay them rent. Apparently my stepmom thinks that either my dad told me I can have it for free or I assumed this. They use the rent from that house as part of their income so she thinks that they will not be able to live once this "agreement" my dad and I have becomes a reality.

I know that this fight is about money in general and really doesn't have anything to do with me, but it still really hurts. They've been married for 20 years, she knows me well, she should know I would never expect something like this and I would never put them in a bad financial situation. I've never even asked them to borrow $20, but all of a sudden I'm expecting you to just give me a million dollar house? Seriously? I've been totally self sufficient since the day I graduated college, H and I work hard to save money and live within our means, I would never expect a hand out from anyone and she should know that about me.

Sorry, that ended up being really long, but it feels good to get it out. I normally have a very good relationship with her so I felt really blindsided by this, pissed that I was put I the middle at all and just hurt in general.

Just from the information that you provided, I think this fight sounds more about something going on between them than anything to do with you. Sorry it's upsetting you though.

It totally is, and logically I know that. I know that if she wasn't upset and her head was clear she would realize what she is saying is crazy, but it's still not what I wanted to deal with this morning. I felt like telling both of them to grow the fuck up and deal with these issues like adults and between the two of you, don't drag others into your fight.

thebanich · May 2014

I will eat barbeque chips until I feel sick.

But don't you dare open up some barbeque sauce around me or I will puke.

BPer · May 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

Do you guys keep old work emails? I keep them all.

I just had two people ask me if I had so-and-so's contact information. I did an outlook search and found them both, on an email where the askers were included, which made me wonder why they didn't do the search themselves.

I save 95% of my emails. I've always had jobs where it's important to cover your ass and be able to find things quickly for audits and such. I've always felt bad for whoever had to go through my email after leaving a job.

LyndseylovesHugh · May 2014

melody921 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

Came back from my 1 hour of orientation and had 4 missed calls. All from the same number. 2 voicemails. To give me 2 different phone numbers. I called back, it was a Mom calling about her son. HER SON IS 37!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I repeat everything I've ever said about you having the best on-the-job stories. WTF, talk about helicopter parenting.

When I worked as a recruiter I had a father come down to our office and confront me about why I didn't hire his adult daughter. This was a professional position and this person was a college graduate. Wtf is wrong with people? Cut the cord already! I would DIE if my parents did something like that.

BeebopandBuddy · May 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

Do you guys keep old work emails? I keep them all.

I just had two people ask me if I had so-and-so's contact information. I did an outlook search and found them both, on an email where the askers were included, which made me wonder why they didn't do the search themselves.

I keep them for the last year. I don't like keeping too much because it feels like too much to sift through. I find that I don't usually need ones that are older than that.

melody921 · May 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

Do you guys keep old work emails? I keep them all.

I just had two people ask me if I had so-and-so's contact information. I did an outlook search and found them both, on an email where the askers were included, which made me wonder why they didn't do the search themselves.

No, we're forced to get rid of them after a set period of time.

Hyaline · May 2014

melody921 said:

Eastie156 said:

H and I looked at houses this weekend. We saw one that we love on Saturday. It's in our budget, but it would be a heck of a commute for us both. (1 1/2 hours each way) H is totally ok with it, but I don't know if I can wrap my head around that commute. My current commute is 30 minutes and H's is about 20 mins....the pluses: we'd be closer to my family, our own house, property, etc. the minuses: we'd be closer to my family, the commute and I'm not 100% sure I'm quite ready to leave the city. I think I need one more year. Plus H has a year of Law School left... it'll be a ridiculous year if we move that far away.
Edit: so I'm torn. It's a beautiful house, fully updated and in our budget. The housing market is so slow and we've been casually looking for almost a year and there's nothing we've agreed upon until now.

That commute would be a deal-breaker for me. DH commutes about 45 minutes, which can get much longer if there's a crash or some other problem. I'd keep looking since you've been kind of casual about it up until now.

DH used to have a 1 1/2 hour commute and said never again...and especially not now with a kid. It's doable, but it takes such a chunk out of the day, and that chunk comes from family/personal time. Blarg.

I would keep looking. But hey--the more you look, the more you see, and the more you know about what you both want!

tinyhumantoe · May 2014

@eastie156 1.5h each way?! Ahhh! Don't do eet! You'll never see that lovely home with a commute like that!

I have a 1.5h commute, but most weeks I'm able to work from home Tues and Thurs to take the edge off. I still struggle with it! On the weeks when I do have to be in all 5 days, it sucks the energy straight out of me. I think long commutes eat your life. Just thinking about it makes me well up with angst.

Think about it this way....... I spend more than an entire day's worth of work time in the car each week driving to and from work. If you work 5 days/wk, your time spent spent in the car is 2 work days' worth of hours (15-16h/wk)! Your mornings and nights are stolen M-F. If you have a high demand job, it will take away from your job as well. For that kind of time, you could live closer and put 2 hours of overtime in every day and still come out ahead, with more family time and more work completed.

I am in a situation where I'm a bit fucked on location. DH has worked at his job for almost 15 years and it's in our best interest for him to stay there forever. I'll never leave my job. We'll eventually buy a home that will cut ~10 min off my drive and add 10 to his. Oh, and the GAS MONEY. It's a lot! If you have a nice car you like driving, you'll be looking for something else in the next couple years. It costs me $20/day to go to work and I drive a car with decent gas mileage.

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