Anyone have 2+ kids that share a birthday month?

MrsT0514 · May 2014

So, I know this is sort of "putting the cart before the horse" so to speak (and the fact like I'm like a minute pregnant) but the thought has crossed my mind and I'm suddenly feeling a shitload of mom guilt over the fact that my DS and baby #2 will share the same birthday month.

Anyone have experience with this scenario? How do you handle birthdays? Besides an obvious financial PITA as well as crappy weather for birthdays, please tell me my son won't hate me for having his brother/sister in the same month.

LaurelBee · May 2014

My sister and I are almost 2 years apart, just a week short. When we were young, we'd have combined birthday parties. But when my sis got too cool to share a party with her little sister, we had separate parties. Today is her bday actually! Our older half-sister is also a May baby, but she lived with her mom, so we didn't get to see her much as kids. My nieces' birthdays are one day apart (4yrs difference) and they love it!

Ireland05 · May 2014

My boys are 3 days apart in January. My due date was actually DS1's third birthday. They are too young to care right now, but we only are doing parties for milestone years (1, 5, 10, etc.) otherwise they will each get their own diviner/cake on their own day.

My sister and I were 4 days apart, and we only fussed about joint birthday celebrations occasionally. It wasn't really a big deal. We aren't huge birthday party people though.

MrsT0514 · May 2014

@Holls2011 I never said this concern was a logical one! Haha

PeanutButterFox · May 2014

My girls are February and March, but their birthdays are 10 days apart. The only person it's a problem for is me, because I'm the one that does all the birthday planning/prepping/cooking/baking. Kids don't care about this stuff.

MrsT0514 · May 2014

@Ireland05‌ that will be our situation, except my son and baby #2 will be 2 years apart, both in january.

aglenn · May 2014

DH and his sister were born on the same day 3 years apart, plus it is in December, so he does gripe in a goodnatured way about sharing his birthday with his sister AND with Christmas every year. I don't think he was able to have the big birthday parties that he might have otherwise. It's not really something that he's actually truly upset about or anything, though.

MrsT0514 · May 2014

PeanutButterFox said:
My girls are February and March, but their birthdays are 10 days apart. The only person it's a problem for is me, because I'm the one that does all the birthday planning/prepping/cooking/baking. Kids don't care about this stuff.

This is what I'm hoping the case will be! That its all in my head right now and they really wont GAF when push comes to shove.

I'm thinking i may just be a victim to racing thoughts/shift in hormones right now.

RondackHiker · May 2014

My brother and I are almost exactly two years apart. He came home from the hospital on my birthday. My older sister asked my grandma to bring me a cake that year since my parents were understandably a bit busy (three kids under four).

I have no resentment or hatred toward my parents. They picked up gifts we'd like throughout the year. They planned fun birthdays at home with friends. We each got one expensive party out at a place like chuckiecheese, but otherwise they were all at home.

myskyegirl · May 2014

My niece and nephew share the same birthday date, but 3yrs apart. When they were younger they shared parties, but had separate big age parties, ie when my niece turned 16 and nephew turned 13 they had separate parties, but on different days.

ToastieSimons · May 2014

Both of my boys share the same birth month. In fact they almost share the same day, I started going into labor on DS1's birthday but it died off and I didn't go to the hospital till the next night so they ended up 2 days apart.

Why would you feel guilt over it? Their birthday is a day, not a month long.

NeneCakies · May 2014

Our sitter is in this boat right now. There was a party last Saturday and another one this Saturday. We are attending both because cake. Oh and the kids love each other. The oldest got a little jealous at her baby brother's party but now she will have her own right away and get over it quick.

Spin313 · May 2014

DS's and DD's birthdays are within a week of each other (and DD was born on my birthday). They seem to like having birthdays close together and never get jealous about the other receiving gifts since the other will have a turn/just had a turn.

So far, no issues with birthday celebrations. We usually do a family party for DS the weekend before his birthday, and do a family party for DD the weekend after hers/mine. DS has had friend parties for the last two years, and DD has had play date brunches.

MrsT0514 · May 2014

@ToastieSimons‌ TBH, Idk why I'm feeling such guilt. My head is up my ass right now, to be perfectly honest. We didnt think it was going to happen this quickly, and although we obviously both want 2 kids, and we both agreed to go for it, the shock of it is actually becoming reality is hitting us.

That, and although MH is happy about it, he was really hoping for a spring/summer baby...so yeah. We're thrilled to be expecting again, but in the same token, I'm scurred!

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MrsT0514 · May 2014

@TyrannosaurusLex‌ holy cow! All 3 of her kids in the same month??? Talk about impeccable timing!

MissyC979 · May 2014

My due date for DS2 was the day after DS1. He ended up being 10 days late, but they're still close together. DS1 referred to DS2 as his birthday present the whole time I was pregnant. So sweet.

We plan to have joint birthday parties for a when they are young. Their birthdays are between Thanksgiving and Christmas, so it isn't realistic for us to plan two family parties in that month.

MrsT0514 · May 2014

@MissyC979‌ this is where my thinking is. Between thanksgiving, then Christmas, then new years, then DS's birthday is January 2nd (though we didnt have his bday party til the 101th this year), and then baby#2 should be due around the 23rd ish (?)...its gonna be hectic.

Also, although DS was born on the 2nd, his due date was the 19th.

MrsT0514 · May 2014

TyrannosaurusLex said:
@MrsT0514‌ all 3 with the exact same due date. It's freaky and a huge joke for everyone who knows them. Just what DO they do in January? (All oct babies)

Holy shit. Thats insane!

MrsT0514 · May 2014

Plus I guess with baby #2 due at the end of january, we could possibly push the party off til beginning of Feb if we did separate parties...right?

MrsT0514 · May 2014

Apparently im overthinking the shit out of this.

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MrsT0514 · May 2014

Yeah, I mean, I dont mind doing joint parties for every year birthdays, but milestone birthdays I'd want to do separate (1,5,10,16, etc). And that just seems really overwhelming.

SuperTreesa · May 2014

DD1 and 2 have birthdays 2 yrs and 11 days apart. For now we have a joint birthday party. I don't plan on changing that anytime soon.

They can have their own themes but it will be the same party for quite a while. I figure when they start inviting friends from school we might split things up.

ASmallWonder · May 2014

My kids' birthdays are three weeks apart but in different months. This year Aiden had a friends party and Quinn will have a small family party since it's his first birthday. Next year I envision a friend party again for Aiden but then a small joint family party for the two of them and as they get older we'll have to see how we/they feel about joint parties.

My brother and I have birthdays just a few days apart. At some points in our lives we had joint parties when it was a big undertaking like the year we had it at Chuck E. Cheese, the year we had a pony and the year we had a costume party. As we got older those parties turned into sleepovers with our closest friends so we each got our own. Older than that and we always had a joint family pizza party for us both.

azzyberry · May 2014

Edited: wrong post.

MrsWindyCity · May 2014

They don't share a month, but their birthdays are < 2 weeks apart. I had a ton of mom guilt when I learned my due date. Anyway, we had a joint party this year and we will probably do that for the foreseeable future with family. As they get older they will have their own friend parties, and we'll always do something special with them on their actual birthday.

DS1 was fine with this. When I asked if it was okay they share a party he said, "Will there be two cakes?" and when I said yes, he was down.

Ireland05 · May 2014

MrsT0514 said:
Yeah, I mean, I dont mind doing joint parties for every year birthdays, but milestone birthdays I'd want to do separate (1,5,10,16, etc). And that just seems really overwhelming.

At least their milestone years won't be at the same time (new LO is one when the big one is 3, etc.), so you'll only have one big party at a time.

billybumbler · May 2014

Growing up I had a friend whose mother got pregnant with her little brother and had a due date close to my friend's birthday. So mom scheduled a C-section on the same day so they would share a birthday and she could save on the party. I always thought that was weird. \anecdote

As long as you don't plan someting like that I don't see a problem/issue at all.

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MrsT0514 · May 2014

Yeah you guys bring up some great points. I would def have no issue eith joint parties while they're still too young to really give a shit. Then, as they get older, we can do each kid's party with friends if they want and still fo joint family parties. Thanks for the insight/tips!

Littledeer84 · May 2014

I also shared a birthday month with my sister. She was born 2 days before I turned 1 and came home on my first birthday! For the most part we really liked it - when people asked if we were twins we would say "almost!" I always got mad though, for the 48 hours we were the same age, because she would rub it in my face that she was as old as me. We had joint parties when we were little kids. Then as we got older we didnt really do the party thing - my parents lets us each have a sweet 16 type party but that was it. I really like it now. We usually plan something fun together during our birthday week, and we get some grown up time without kids!

4Speedy · May 2014

My kids have birthdays 4 days apart. They LOVE having birthdays so close together. We celebrate "birthday week" and have a blast that week. This year we went to DIsney for their birthdays and it was truly magical. We could not have such big birthday extravaganzas if we weren't celebrating both birthdays at one. My kids are 5 & 8 and they get as excited for each other's birthdays as they do their own.

MrsT0514 · May 2014

@4speedy I absolutely LOVE the birthday week idea! That sounds like so much fun!

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