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Return of the vaguebooker...
I know its Mothers Day, and I love my MIL...but it really irks me when she pulls the passive aggressive vaguebooking crap.
We live 2 hrs away from all of our family, and usually we will take a trip down to celebrate Mother's day on a different weekend, since we celebrate Mother's day just us, usually going out and doing something as a family.
Well, this month has just been crazy hectic so we havent gotten a chance to visit. We called and wished each mom a happy Mother's day and we're planning to visit them soon.
Well what do ya know...my MIL just decides to randomly post on fb "a son is a son til he takes a wife, but a daughter is a daughter for LIFE!!" One of her friends commented "nah my son will always be my son" and she replied "wait til he takes a wife".
I mean whatever, she's always been one to put her entire life on fb (not my style, but to each their own I guess), and I choose not to engage in drama on social networking sites, but c'mon. This kind of irks me. I try to understand that it may be difficult for her to have her son living far away, but the passive aggressive comments are doing nothing productive for her in the situation. She's the one thats always busy with her social life and chooses to never make the time to come visit, and then she lays the guilt on MH for not coming to see her. Its a two way street, lady. Give us a break here.
I mean, we get along and everything, and maybe I'm taking it too personally, but how should I handle stuff like this? Ignore it like usually do? Continue to kill with kindness? I'm not trying to be an insensitive bitch to how she feels, but I hate how she's always putting the guilt trip on MH for stuff.
We live 2 hrs away from all of our family, and usually we will take a trip down to celebrate Mother's day on a different weekend, since we celebrate Mother's day just us, usually going out and doing something as a family.
Well, this month has just been crazy hectic so we havent gotten a chance to visit. We called and wished each mom a happy Mother's day and we're planning to visit them soon.
Well what do ya know...my MIL just decides to randomly post on fb "a son is a son til he takes a wife, but a daughter is a daughter for LIFE!!" One of her friends commented "nah my son will always be my son" and she replied "wait til he takes a wife".
I mean whatever, she's always been one to put her entire life on fb (not my style, but to each their own I guess), and I choose not to engage in drama on social networking sites, but c'mon. This kind of irks me. I try to understand that it may be difficult for her to have her son living far away, but the passive aggressive comments are doing nothing productive for her in the situation. She's the one thats always busy with her social life and chooses to never make the time to come visit, and then she lays the guilt on MH for not coming to see her. Its a two way street, lady. Give us a break here.
I mean, we get along and everything, and maybe I'm taking it too personally, but how should I handle stuff like this? Ignore it like usually do? Continue to kill with kindness? I'm not trying to be an insensitive bitch to how she feels, but I hate how she's always putting the guilt trip on MH for stuff.
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Re: Return of the vaguebooker...
But usually, he tends to ignore her passive aggressiveness and completely tune her out. He does get snippy with herhere and there if/when she gets too "over the top" about stuff, or if it annoys him enough, but I guess he's dealt with her attitude for so long it doesnt phase him much anymore.
But, he's also a nonconfrontational person in general. He feels like if he ignores it long enough, it goes away. I, OTOH, usually have no qualms with letting someone know how I feel. But shes not my mom...so I try to let him deal with her for the most part.
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Looks like this situation is about to fix itself.
Seriously speaking though...she does this shit to herself. And then wonders why her sons get so annoyed at her.
Yeah...we literally JUST got on fb late last year, mainly bc all of our family lives out of state, so its nice to keep them in the loop and show pics of DS. But really..MIL knows how to throw a dose of drama into everything.
I haven't felt like the target of MIL's posts but she did make a point of talking about how excited she was to see her granddaughter sitting on her couch texting her friends this weekend. I'm sure the passive aggressive was completely lost on my niece.