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March 2014 Moms
rockopera
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FFFC
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Re: FFFC
Married : ** 09/09/2011 ** BFP : 07-18-13 ** Baby #1 is a GIRL , Born 03/12/14 **
** BFP 2 : 01- 05-15 ** EDD 09-11-15 **
We did the same when the boys we're born with the formula and diapers. The nurses told us to empty the cart every day and even brought in extra for us.
NO REGRETS.
I couldn't sleep during that time so i went and got her out and put her in bed with me. Slept amazing after that.
I'm a little regretful. She probably would have slept the whole night in there. Oh well.
She'll never leave if i have that mindset!
I'm not going to SD's graduation dinner, but I'm making MH go. I will take her out next week when it's our week to have her, but I will not go to Friday's with her hateful mother (who has been nothing but awful to me since MH and I got together), and her hateful parents. I think it's important that hubs goes because it's his little girl and she asked him to go, but we'll take her some place nice next week. I am going to commencement, but again I won't be near her mother and I don't want that woman to even see my baby.
I love breastfeeding. I don't always like it, though. Some days I really don't want to be tied to the sofa while she comfort nurses (like last night... but she's all stuffy and she needed mama!). Some days I just want to leave the house without a baby, not worrying if DH has enough pumped milk or if she'll even accept the bottle. Sometimes I just want to lay on the couch alone without being touched. But, then, I kind of hate the idea of anyone else feeding her at all.... I love my snuggly nursing time. Most of the time.
I feel like I'm the only FTM in the world who doesn't freak out about every little thing. I don't have a parenting book, I don't compare what I'm doing to what other moms are doing, and IDGAF when people try to give me unsolicited advice (like the swing-sleeping thing I've been lectured on five million times). I haven't been concerned about my milk supply since Kara got above her birth weight. I don't obsess over how much or when she eats or poops or sleeps, as long as she's happy and all signs point to a healthy baby. I feel like a STM in a FTM's body.
I still don't understand how this works... I got an itemized receipt for my portion of the hospital stay, and we were charged- an absurd amount- for EVERYTHING. folic acid, 1mg tab? $7. Two oz of lansinosh ointment? $11.50. Etc. So insurance basically chopped that amount down and then paid a percent of it, but we still had to pay a bunch. So, if I had declined everything ("no thanks, I have ibuprofen in my purse instead of paying $7 for it...") wouldn't that have decreased the final amount I paid? So that's why I don't understand asking for more...can't you buy it cheaper in the store than they charge in the hospital? Even if you never see the itemized receipt, everything you ask for or take will be billed to you, or at least your insurance company! (Am I missing something?)
I don't know any of the background on this, and I hope you don't feel guilted into bfing if you don't want to, but if you DO want to keep bfing, I hope you know there are ways to increase your supply, or if you want to, are able to seek out some non-judgemental support to see if there is anything else you can do.
If someone snatched my baby, I would absolutely not hesitate to use it, even if they were running away from me.
Flame away!!
They were like "well, we can't do anything more than what you're doing but you can bring her in if you feel like you need to."
I was like.... "Am I a terrible mom for not feeling like I have to bring in my 7-week-old just to be patted on the head by the doctor and reassured that she will survive the sniffles? Eh... Whatever."
The difference is just that I love her and adore her more than I could ever have imagined. Her smile and the way she turns her head when she hears my voice mean the world to me.
But as far as the choices I make in caring for her and keeping her safe? I would have made the same choices for other people's children 10 years ago. I'm either a crap mom or I was an awesome nanny. :P
I don't know any of the background on this, and I hope you don't feel guilted into bfing if you don't want to, but if you DO want to keep bfing, I hope you know there are ways to increase your supply, or if you want to, are able to seek out some non-judgemental support to see if there is anything else you can do.
Thankfully no one is judging me and my husband keeps telling me it's my choice, I'm just being hard on myself. I plan to discuss it with my doctor at my PP appointment on Monday and seek advice this weeked from a local breastfeeding group. I think my supply has been low since the beginning and no one at the hospital or the LC I had to see for the two weeks after we were discharged offered suggestions to increasing my supply other than to nurse more frequently.
Keyword: May.
I also feel mommy guilt over wanting to hold someone else's baby instead of my own. WTF!
I stopped tracking feeds/diaps since he regained birth weight and haven't worried since. If I had hot water, I would be showering without him in the bathroom and without a baby monitor. I actually don't own a monitor (I guess I'll get around to it when we move him to his own room --- another thing I'm not stressed about.) I am not the slightest bit upset at the thought of his 2-month shots. Whatevs---needs to be done. I accidentally bonked his head on a cardboard box today (foolishly bending over with him in the wrap) and I didn't melt down with guilt, just thought, "eh, lesson learned!" I suck the gunk off his paci when it falls on the floor and pop it back in his mouth.
Maybe I was a mother in a previous life? Maybe it's the Paxil doing the talking? Maybe after all my birth drama nothing feels scary? IDK....but I'm sooooo glad I'm not alone!
She's sleeping. I can hear DH doing the 'shh shhh shhh' dance upstairs. No guilt!
I pay my dad's cell phone and he pays my car insurance
I'm also not concerned about her two-month shots. If she cries, I'll cuddle her and probably nurse her. NBD.
@pepperedmoth I'm with you. I don't know when he ate or how much or how many dirty diapers he's had. The shots aren't bad, they get over it quick.