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Vacation without D/S?

I'm wondering if anyone has taken a vacation without their child and how it went?  We would like to take a vacation that would be about a week long and our son will be 22 months.  D/S would stay with one grandmother half of the time and the other grandmother the other part of the time. He is VERY used to one grandmother as she watches him while I work, but he sees my mother less frequently as she spends part of the year in FL and lives an hour away the rest of the year.  D/S is good being away from us for 1-2 nights at the time at either grandmother and there are no issues at all (and he seems to even act better behaved than he does with his father and me). We technically could bring him with us, but his father and I were hoping to have a vacation by ourselves as we are just getting back together after an 8 month separation.

I already feel guilty just thinking about being away from him for so long, so I'm not sure what I should do :(  I keep stressing out about him feeling like we "abandoned" him.  Has anyone had a toddler-free vacation that went well?  Thanks for your help!!

 

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  • We took our first trip without DS when he was 9 months old.  Went to a wedding in Mexico and left him with my parents for the 4.5 days (I had to calculate the exact length of time apart because I was still nursing and needed to stock up enough).  It was great.  Sure, we saw some kids at the resort we were staying at and the sister of the bride brought her 2 month old with her and it made us miss DS, but we really enjoyed our trip of just us.  I think the only other trip away was last month when we went to Colorado for a weekend and it just didn't make sense to take him with us for a short trip with time zone changes and it was daylight savings that weekend.  I certainly enjoyed the break.  

    I've never had any concern about DS thinking we "abandoned" him.  We're also able to use Facetime regularly, so that's nice to be able to check in and it's so cute when he sees us on the screen and he gets a huge smile on his face.  Sure, we miss DS, but we also enjoy our DS free time.  
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  • We went to Chicago for about 5 days without our DD and yes, you will always miss them and wonder how they are but it was also very nice to be able to spend time with my DH alone.  We were able to talk, stay up late, and be how we use to be before we became parents.  I don't think she felt like we "abandoned" her.  She enjoyed her time with her grandparents and was very happy to see us when we returned.
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  • DawnLillyDawnLilly
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    We are going to Amsterdam the end of May. We will be gone for a week. My mom, DH's mom and DH's dad are going to take turns coming and staying at our house with DS. Prior to this the longest away time was 3 days. That 3 days went so fast though. We were gone for a wedding. Enjoy your time!
  • DH and I went to Hawaii for 5 days when DD was 17 months. My MIL and her husband stayed at our house so DD could keep her same routine. We Face Timed them every night and it worked out great. Kids this age have no concept of time, so don't feel like he will think you're abandoning him. Enjoy your adult time- it's one of the best gifts you can give yourself and your son.
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  • I'm so glad that I found this post. DH wants to take an adults-only vacation to Hawaii and DS is 15 months. I feel such guilt for considering it, but I know that DS will have an awesome time with his grandmothers. And the grandmothers would LOVE to take care of him. I think it will be win-win.

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  • That's what grandparents are for :) If relatives you trust are offering to watch him, definitely don't feel guilty. Those are good memories for him too. I always enjoyed spending a week with Grandma, you get to do special things and it's never as bad the parents think. You can plan other family vacations that include the children.

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  • That's what grandparents are for :) If relatives you trust are offering to watch him, definitely don't feel guilty. Those are good memories for him too. I always enjoyed spending a week with Grandma, you get to do special things and it's never as bad the parents think. You can plan other family vacations that include the children.

    This.  Go on vacation.  Don't feel guilty.  You will miss him but if you feel he is in good hands, you will also enjoy yourself.  We all need a break once in a while!
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  • amb04006amb04006
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    We just got back from the beach on Friday.  DS is 13 months, and he stayed with my mom.  I missed him of course, but I thoroughly enjoyed myself and would go without him again tomorrow, no question :).  It was amaaaazing to just get to enjoy DH, relax, shop, and eat without interupption!  DO IT!

    Just wanted to add that the only time he had stayed the night away from us before that was one night a couple weeks ago as a "practice run" for vacation.  He did great, he's still totally on schedule.  I have absolutely zero regrets.

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