I told DH that it's bad for pregnant women to breathe in cleaning chemicals (not a total lie), so cleaning the bathroom is his job now. Really I just don't feel like scrubbing the toilet/shower
@lissydee I beat level 575 the other day and that's where I'm stuck because the levels don't go any higher than that. I'm on level 241 in Dream World and I hate that stupid owl lol I wish every day that they'd stop doing updates and adding levels so then I'd have no choice but to stop playing.
Then I have my mom who, when she can't beat a level I've already beaten, calls me to go into her Facebook to play for her. So all the levels I hate but beat, I actually have to attempt more than once. Ugh.
There's a half bath (toilet & sink) off our bedroom and there's a full bath across the hall that we recently completely remodeled. I got so used to using the bathroom in our room during the remodel that I only use the new one for a shower. However, I store the tp in the big bath and it happens about twice a week where I have to waddle to the other bath (across carpeted areas) in the middle of the night to get tp.
Also, I hardly ever flush after the 1st use. Pee, it might get flushed once a day. #2, sometimes I'm afraid it's going to clog the toilet so I prefer it to sit and soften a while before I flush.
BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbowBaby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!
I finished Gone Girl and had nothing else to read so I promptly bought Gillian Flynn's other two books, figured the puzzle out very early in each of them, and finished them way too quickly.
My house is a disaster and I have 3 hours to get it cleanish for when I have to go pick up my husband. Studying for finals, reading, and sleep took precedence.
My husband and I haven't had sex in two months. He thinks it's because pregnancy killed my sex drive but that's only half true. It's only killed my desire to have sex with someone else.... DIY has been a frequent thing for weeks now and he doesn't know.
@amandarae529 i started playing a puzzle game instead lol kind of defeats the purpose but at least i dont want to throw my phone across the room anymore.
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I finished Gone Girl and had nothing else to read so I promptly bought Gillian Flynn's other two books, figured the puzzle out very early in each of them, and finished them way too quickly.
My house is a disaster and I have 3 hours to get it cleanish for when I have to go pick up my husband. Studying for finals, reading, and sleep took precedence.
@RedBirdFly - I did the same thing when I read her books a few months ago
I cried at Hallmark yesterday picking out a Mother's day card for my mom. I was feeling emotional anyway and then I found the perfect card and just burst into tears. It was really embarrassing!
Also, I've noticed that I am starting to do the pregnancy waddle a little already. Not sure why I am walking like this when I don't have a big belly, but it's more comfortable for some reason.
I finished Gone Girl and had nothing else to read so I promptly bought Gillian Flynn's other two books, figured the puzzle out very early in each of them, and finished them way too quickly.
My house is a disaster and I have 3 hours to get it cleanish for when I have to go pick up my husband. Studying for finals, reading, and sleep took precedence.
@RedBirdFly - I did the same thing when I read her books a few months ago
I read all three books at once too, and came to the conclusion that there is something very very twisted in Gillian Flynn's mind... I was so disturbed by her other two books. Gone Girl was fucked up, but nothing in comparison to the other two!
I hate cleaning my house, like HATE it. If you saw me IRL, you'd never think this of me. My house isn't dirty because I have kids and a husband but if I was single with no kids and no husband, you guys might see my on an episode of hoarders. Luckily I have them to keep me in line.
I hate cleaning. I especially hate cleaning up after myself. Do you guys know how hard it is to teach your kids to do something that you struggle doing yourself? Its my biggest fault in life. I'm ok with it, I accept it, I don't let it get out of hand, but I still hate it.
I kind of can't stand when parents tell me how old their kid is in months. I like round numbers or even someone saying "amlost" or "just turned". BTW everyone I am 351 months old!
From 10-11 am, I don't hardly do anything at work anymore. I am so hungry by that time, I just sit at my desk watching the clock and thinking about food.
I hate cleaning my house, like HATE it. If you saw me IRL, you'd never think this of me. My house isn't dirty because I have kids and a husband but if I was single with no kids and no husband, you guys might see my on an episode of hoarders. Luckily I have them to keep me in line.
I hate cleaning. I especially hate cleaning up after myself. Do you guys know how hard it is to teach your kids to do something that you struggle doing yourself? Its my biggest fault in life. I'm ok with it, I accept it, I don't let it get out of hand, but I still hate it.
I'm so glad you said this because I am the exact same. My house is never as tidy as my inlaws'. One SIL genuinely loves to clean. I hate it so much and it is the biggest fight DH and I get in. He will clean, but generally shoves stuff in different spots. He has stepped up a ton since I'm pretty couch confined right now with HG. It makes me feel better when I get that reality check that not everyone likes to clean.
I told DH that it's bad for pregnant women to breathe in cleaning chemicals (not a total lie), so cleaning the bathroom is his job now. Really I just don't feel like scrubbing the toilet/shower
I told mine the same thing. And then he came with me to a doctor's appointment and was reading the little booklet where it said that cleaning chemicals are OK with proper ventilation. Dicks.
I hate cleaning my house, like HATE it. If you saw me IRL, you'd never think this of me. My house isn't dirty because I have kids and a husband but if I was single with no kids and no husband, you guys might see my on an episode of hoarders. Luckily I have them to keep me in line.
I hate cleaning. I especially hate cleaning up after myself. Do you guys know how hard it is to teach your kids to do something that you struggle doing yourself? Its my biggest fault in life. I'm ok with it, I accept it, I don't let it get out of hand, but I still hate it.
This is me to a T! My room was always messy as a kid/teen. I knew where everything was but it drove my parents nuts! I had a clean pile of clothes and a dirty pile...
I'm better now at my own house but only because I have a DS running around. DH and I fight about it all the time. (He isn't any better though so we just get mad at each others piles, mine are accepatable, his are not and visa-versa)
I kind of can't stand when parents tell me how old their kid is in months. I like round numbers or even someone saying "amlost" or "just turned". BTW everyone I am 351 months old!
I can handle 15 months, 18 months or even 21 months since they grow so fast at that age. After they are two though it drives me bonkers. They are 2 or 2 1/2 not 27 months. (Although on pregnancy/parenting boards I understand it because we might be talking about a particular age that something happens.)
That being said our toddler room at Church is until 36 months, it was two hard explain otherwise!
I kind of can't stand when parents tell me how old their kid is in months. I like round numbers or even someone saying "amlost" or "just turned". BTW everyone I am 351 months old!
Lol. I do this and every single time I will immediately kick myself thinking, "why didn't you just say one and a half?? This stranger doesn't need to know that he is exactly 19 months!!" I guess in the moment I'm trying to be accurate.
I love that so many people can relate to my messiness and that you and your DH's fight about it too! This, (and me not wearing my Bluetooth in the car) are our biggest and pretty much only fights.
Ummm I haven't done the deed with hubby since I got my BFP. Too worried about another mc and I was so sick I wouldn't have anyway. Now that I'm feeling better I still have zero sex drive. He's been "serviced" if you will in between gagging episodes. Where is this magical sex drive everyone speaks of??????
Same here! I shaved my legs today though, so we'll see what happens. My gaggy feeling has gotten better, but we still haven't gotten it on since the BFP. DH says he feels weird that there's a baby growing so closely to where his penis will be. I can't say I totally disagree, but I'm also past the point of caring. My dreams are getting pretty seriously sexy and I don't think I can take the break much longer.
I love that so many people can relate to my messiness and that you and your DH's fight about it too! This, (and me not wearing my Bluetooth in the car) are our biggest and pretty much only fights.
I think as mom's/women we often downplay that part of our lives. I am really good at the 1 hour clean. I can throw everything into my room/closets and run a vacuum/sweep in about an hour. Then light a few candles or open a few windows if it's "stuffy". If you want to come to my house and come inside, I need at least an hour, more if I haven't showered.
Kind of gross but I know that if I eat a Big Mac from McDonalds i'll have to run to the bathroom with in a half hour after eating it. I have not pooped since monday so I ate a Big Mac last night for dinner. This did not worked as planned and in fact it back fired because it went the other way. Thank you all day sickness, I'm 13 weeks you can go away now please.
My co-worker is 23 weeks and she just came downstairs to bitch to me that she still has m/s almost every day. I wanted to cry thinking if that happens to me.
Kind of gross but I know that if I eat a Big Mac from McDonalds i'll have to run to the bathroom with in a half hour after eating it. I have not pooped since monday so I ate a Big Mac last night for dinner. This did not worked as planned and in fact it back fired because it went the other way. Thank you all day sickness, I'm 13 weeks you can go away now please.
My co-worker is 23 weeks and she just came downstairs to bitch to me that she still has m/s almost every day. I wanted to cry thinking if that happens to me.
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My MIL was sick the entire 9 months with all 3 of her children. Poor woman!
Yeah, I'm messy too. DH likes things really tidy, but doesn't like to do the cleaning up himself, to which I say FU MIL! We used to fight about it all the time. About 3-4 years ago, we hired a cleaning lady to come every two weeks. I still have to pick up before she comes, so she's not cleaning around piles of mail and dirty dishes, but I love not having to scrub the toilet or bathtub and not having to dust. DH cleans the floors on the weekend she doesn't come and tolerates the mess in between visits. It's actually one of the best things we've ever done for our marriage. I'll never give up my cleaning lady!
i'm so with all you ladies and cleaning. i'll cook 3 meals a day 7 days a week if i never have to clean again. thankfully dh doesnt say anything but on the other hand he doesnt care so he doesnt clean either. ive dropped many hints that our tub needs a good scrub (like he can't see that himself) but it hasn't magically been done yet. im seriously thinking about hiring a cleaning lady but i feel guilty because we cant really afford it and i feel its my 'responsibilty'. god damn gender roles.
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Yeah, I'm messy too. DH likes things really tidy, but doesn't like to do the cleaning up himself, to which I say FU MIL! We used to fight about it all the time. About 3-4 years ago, we hired a cleaning lady to come every two weeks. I still have to pick up before she comes, so she's not cleaning around piles of mail and dirty dishes, but I love not having to scrub the toilet or bathtub and not having to dust. DH cleans the floors on the weekend she doesn't come and tolerates the mess in between visits. It's actually one of the best things we've ever done for our marriage. I'll never give up my cleaning lady!
I think I might have to invest in a cleaning lady! That sounds great. I work out of my house and my office stuff tens to take over the dining room even though I have an office upstairs. So much easier to work downstairs...
A cleaning lady might help me keep all that junk where it belongs!
Yeah, I'm messy too. DH likes things really tidy, but doesn't like to do the cleaning up himself, to which I say FU MIL! We used to fight about it all the time. About 3-4 years ago, we hired a cleaning lady to come every two weeks. I still have to pick up before she comes, so she's not cleaning around piles of mail and dirty dishes, but I love not having to scrub the toilet or bathtub and not having to dust. DH cleans the floors on the weekend she doesn't come and tolerates the mess in between visits. It's actually one of the best things we've ever done for our marriage. I'll never give up my cleaning lady!
I think I might have to invest in a cleaning lady! That sounds great. I work out of my house and my office stuff tens to take over the dining room even though I have an office upstairs. So much easier to work downstairs...
A cleaning lady might help me keep all that junk where it belongs!
It does keep me in check! It's a nice little nudge that is then rewarded by a sparkling clean house the next day. Totally worth it!
i'm so with all you ladies and cleaning. i'll cook 3 meals a day 7 days a week if i never have to clean again. thankfully dh doesnt say anything but on the other hand he doesnt care so he doesnt clean either. ive dropped many hints that our tub needs a good scrub (like he can't see that himself) but it hasn't magically been done yet. im seriously thinking about hiring a cleaning lady but i feel guilty because we cant really afford it and i feel its my 'responsibilty'. god damn gender roles.
I grew up in a house where my mom worked far more hours than my dad and was the primary wage earner. My dad did a lot of the house stuff (with our help when we were old enough). My mom did the laundry and cooked dinner and that was it. They had a fairly even division of chores.
DH grew up on a farm with a SAHM and parents that are a generation older than mine (real 50's values). They had very obvious "gender roles". His father has not done a day of housework in his life. I vividly remember one of the first times I visited his family, sitting in the living room on a Saturday morning. My FIL said he was hungry for a good breakfast. "What sounds good?" "Steak and Eggs." So my MIL hops up, runs to the store in town and returns with everything for making steak and eggs, whips it up in the kitchen and then serves it my FIL while he never even moves from his chair.
It is so hard to get my DH to realize that I am equally (probably more) busy than he is outside of the home and it is not my job to do anything around the house. His helping isn't a favor to me. It's both of our responsibilities and we both need to do it. I really hate his mother some days.
I ate McDonald's two days in a row this week! I made myself feel better on Wednesday by telling myself it was mchappy day and I was doing it for the kids! Thursday I was just straight up craving a double cheeseburger and fries!!!!
i'm so with all you ladies and cleaning. i'll cook 3 meals a day 7 days a week if i never have to clean again. thankfully dh doesnt say anything but on the other hand he doesnt care so he doesnt clean either. ive dropped many hints that our tub needs a good scrub (like he can't see that himself) but it hasn't magically been done yet. im seriously thinking about hiring a cleaning lady but i feel guilty because we cant really afford it and i feel its my 'responsibilty'. god damn gender roles.
I grew up in a house where my mom worked far more hours than my dad and was the primary wage earner. My dad did a lot of the house stuff (with our help when we were old enough). My mom did the laundry and cooked dinner and that was it. They had a fairly even division of chores.
DH grew up on a farm with a SAHM and parents that are a generation older than mine (real 50's values). They had very obvious "gender roles". His father has not done a day of housework in his life. I vividly remember one of the first times I visited his family, sitting in the living room on a Saturday morning. My FIL said he was hungry for a good breakfast. "What sounds good?" "Steak and Eggs." So my MIL hops up, runs to the store in town and returns with everything for making steak and eggs, whips it up in the kitchen and then serves it my FIL while he never even moves from his chair.
It is so hard to get my DH to realize that I am equally (probably more) busy than he is outside of the home and it is not my job to do anything around the house. His helping isn't a favor to me. It's both of our responsibilities and we both need to do it. I really hate his mother some days.
i think we have a lot in common! dh's mom was a sahm and both my parents worked. my mom did all the housework until she got a cleaning lady but my dad pulled his weight other ways. dh dad is very successful and mil is a sahm. she too had a cleaning lady but had much more traditional gender roles than my house. dh definitely helps out around the house (lawn garbage his own laundry etc) but cleaning is primarily up to me. i also feel like when he cleans he doesnt do that great of a job so i end up cleaning again. i just need a cleaning lady already lol.
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Kind of gross but I know that if I eat a Big Mac from McDonalds i'll have to run to the bathroom with in a half hour after eating it. I have not pooped since monday so I ate a Big Mac last night for dinner. This did not worked as planned and in fact it back fired because it went the other way. Thank you all day sickness, I'm 13 weeks you can go away now please.
My co-worker is 23 weeks and she just came downstairs to bitch to me that she still has m/s almost every day. I wanted to cry thinking if that happens to me.
Threw up till 39 weeks and 3 days last time...fun fun fun
I kind of can't stand when parents tell me how old their kid is in months. I like round numbers or even someone saying "amlost" or "just turned". BTW everyone I am 351 months old!
Lol. I do this and every single time I will immediately kick myself thinking, "why didn't you just say one and a half?? This stranger doesn't need to know that he is exactly 19 months!!" I guess in the moment I'm trying to be accurate.
I usually consider my audience - if I'm at a baby class with other moms, I say he's 15 months. If a stranger in the grocery store asks how old he is, I say he turned one in February.
Like the PP, I work more than my husband, and so he needs to help out more around the house than he was used to growing up. It isn't easy for me to have my husband be the one my son runs to for comfort, and it isnt easy for him to manage the house and our son, especially during the holidays when I work 80 hours a week.
And while my husband is a great father, it drives me nuts that he can read pre nfl draft commentary, draft commentary, post draft commentary, and commentary on the post nfl draft commentary! But he can't read anything about potty training or sleep cycle establishment.
And then he asks me for help, because obviously I know the answers. Because, you know, when I gave birth all of this magical mommy knowledge got sucked right in.
Yeah, I'm messy too. DH likes things really tidy, but doesn't like to do the cleaning up himself, to which I say FU MIL! We used to fight about it all the time. About 3-4 years ago, we hired a cleaning lady to come every two weeks. I still have to pick up before she comes, so she's not cleaning around piles of mail and dirty dishes, but I love not having to scrub the toilet or bathtub and not having to dust. DH cleans the floors on the weekend she doesn't come and tolerates the mess in between visits. It's actually one of the best things we've ever done for our marriage. I'll never give up my cleaning lady!
I'm not too messy, I usually clean up behind myself, but DH is, and I cuss MIL at least weekly in my head for never making him do a damn thing. When we have money in the budget, the first thing I want is a cleaning lady. I don't mind do daily things like laundry, dishes and sweeping the floor, but the big stuff like bathrooms, dusting, etc. are just so hard to find more time for.
Like the PP, I work more than my husband, and so he needs to help out more around the house than he was used to growing up. It isn't easy for me to have my husband be the one my son runs to for comfort, and it isnt easy for him to manage the house and our son, especially during the holidays when I work 80 hours a week.
And while my husband is a great father, it drives me nuts that he can read pre nfl draft commentary, draft commentary, post draft commentary, and commentary on the post nfl draft commentary! But he can't read anything about potty training or sleep cycle establishment.
And then he asks me for help, because obviously I know the answers. Because, you know, when I gave birth all of this magical mommy knowledge got sucked right in.
YES!
I work from home and yes my toddler is home with me most days. DH doesn't get that I can't do dishes, laundry, pick up toys AND be done with all my work on Friday afternoon.
It's one or the other. Either I get all my work done and the house is a disaster OR I have to finish my work on Saturday while he takes care of DS. I can't physically do both.
(We will probably move to daycare when this LO is born since I know I can't do both!)
I don't know how you do it. That is not an easy feat, especially when you also have a child home with you. I am sorry he doesn't recognize this all the time.
Re: FFFC
It's twin girls!! Born on 11-2-14!
Today I spent $1 to be able to finish a level and wouldn't you believe...now I have unlimited lives for like...the WHOLE day?
There goes anything I was going to do today at work.
Then I have my mom who, when she can't beat a level I've already beaten, calls me to go into her Facebook to play for her. So all the levels I hate but beat, I actually have to attempt more than once. Ugh.
Also, I hardly ever flush after the 1st use. Pee, it might get flushed once a day. #2, sometimes I'm afraid it's going to clog the toilet so I prefer it to sit and soften a while before I flush.
BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbow Baby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!
DX: Uterine Septum - Resection 9/5/13 || MTHFR Hetero A1298C || My Chart
My house is a disaster and I have 3 hours to get it cleanish for when I have to go pick up my husband. Studying for finals, reading, and sleep took precedence.
Logan born October 31, 2011
Married 10/12
DS 11/14
Ectopic 2/16
PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
IUI x 3- BFN
Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
FET- 6/17- BFP!
Due Feb 15, 2017
Married 10/12
DS 11/14
Ectopic 2/16
PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
IUI x 3- BFN
Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
FET- 6/17- BFP!
Due Feb 15, 2017
Also, I've noticed that I am starting to do the pregnancy waddle a little already. Not sure why I am walking like this when I don't have a big belly, but it's more comfortable for some reason.
Me: 34; DH: 38; SD: 9
TTC #1 since November 2013
BFP #1: 2/4/14--EDD 10/14/14--CP 2/8/14
BFP #2: 3/1/14--EDD 11/15/14--MMC at 12w6d (baby stopped developing at 11w4d)
D&C 5/13/14; Retained Tissue Found: Cytotec 5/30/14; 2nd D&C 6/20/14
BFP #3: 12/13/14--EDD 8/27/15--MMC at 7 weeks (no fetal pole and measuring 1 1/2 weeks behind)--Cytotec 1/9/15
January 2015: Off to RE for RPL testing
I hate cleaning. I especially hate cleaning up after myself. Do you guys know how hard it is to teach your kids to do something that you struggle doing yourself? Its my biggest fault in life. I'm ok with it, I accept it, I don't let it get out of hand, but I still hate it.
Me 32 and DH 40
Fur-baby named Bella
1 MC Nov. 2013
DD born Nov. 2, 2014
Little 2 EDD Oct. 1
Same here! I shaved my legs today though, so we'll see what happens. My gaggy feeling has gotten better, but we still haven't gotten it on since the BFP. DH says he feels weird that there's a baby growing so closely to where his penis will be. I can't say I totally disagree, but I'm also past the point of caring. My dreams are getting pretty seriously sexy and I don't think I can take the break much longer.
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My MIL was sick the entire 9 months with all 3 of her children. Poor woman!
i'm so with all you ladies and cleaning. i'll cook 3 meals a day 7 days a week if i never have to clean again. thankfully dh doesnt say anything but on the other hand he doesnt care so he doesnt clean either. ive dropped many hints that our tub needs a good scrub (like he can't see that himself) but it hasn't magically been done yet. im seriously thinking about hiring a cleaning lady but i feel guilty because we cant really afford it and i feel its my 'responsibilty'. god damn gender roles.
Married 10/12
DS 11/14
Ectopic 2/16
PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
IUI x 3- BFN
Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
FET- 6/17- BFP!
Due Feb 15, 2017
i think we have a lot in common! dh's mom was a sahm and both my parents worked. my mom did all the housework until she got a cleaning lady but my dad pulled his weight other ways. dh dad is very successful and mil is a sahm. she too had a cleaning lady but had much more traditional gender roles than my house. dh definitely helps out around the house (lawn garbage his own laundry etc) but cleaning is primarily up to me. i also feel like when he cleans he doesnt do that great of a job so i end up cleaning again. i just need a cleaning lady already lol.
Married 10/12
DS 11/14
Ectopic 2/16
PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
IUI x 3- BFN
Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
FET- 6/17- BFP!
Due Feb 15, 2017
And while my husband is a great father, it drives me nuts that he can read pre nfl draft commentary, draft commentary, post draft commentary, and commentary on the post nfl draft commentary! But he can't read anything about potty training or sleep cycle establishment.
And then he asks me for help, because obviously I know the answers. Because, you know, when I gave birth all of this magical mommy knowledge got sucked right in.