Would you let DH....

Re: Would you let DH....

• MRoxy0628 member

  May 2014

  I take issue with people telling me what I shouldn't have a problem with.  It's one thing to say, I would have no problem with this and another to tell someone they're wrong for feeling a certain way.
  
   Also, I don't think that someone not wanting their child to fly or travel a far distance without them necessarily means they think they're husband is not capable or untrustworthy. 
  

  

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• Flamingemu member

  May 2014

  MRoxy0628 said:

  I take issue with people telling me what I shouldn't have a problem with.  It's one thing to say, I would have no problem with this and another to tell someone they're wrong for feeling a certain way.
  
   Also, I don't think that someone not wanting their child to fly or travel a far distance without them necessarily means they think they're husband is not capable or untrustworthy. 
  

  This is where I don't agree. If it was stated, I don't want DH to travel with DD because I would miss them, or someotherreason, that is totally cool. But saying you wouldn't 'let' your DH do something that is completely safe and okay, is ridic. By not 'letting' your DH do something or go somewhere with your child you don't trust them enough.

  Be really honest with yourself about why you wouldn't 'let' DH take your kid - like Spunky above.
  

  
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• MRoxy0628 member

  May 2014

  Flamingemu said:

  MRoxy0628 said:

  I take issue with people telling me what I shouldn't have a problem with.  It's one thing to say, I would have no problem with this and another to tell someone they're wrong for feeling a certain way.
  
   Also, I don't think that someone not wanting their child to fly or travel a far distance without them necessarily means they think they're husband is not capable or untrustworthy. 
  

  This is where I don't agree. If it was stated, I don't want DH to travel with DD because I would miss them, or someotherreason, that is totally cool. But saying you wouldn't 'let' your DH do something that is completely safe and okay, is ridic. By not 'letting' your DH do something or go somewhere with your child you don't trust them enough.

  Be really honest with yourself about why you wouldn't 'let' DH take your kid - like Spunky above.
  

  I am honest with myself.  I think I've said this before (in other posts), but my reasons are related to my own anxiety as well as not really wanting to be away from her from an extended period of time.  I don't trust anyone as much as I trust myself, but my husband is a capable and trustworthy person.
  

  

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• Eastie156 member

  May 2014

  H has offered to take LO to his parents for the weekend before and I've turned him down. I've always wanted to go too. But of H wanted to take Ethan somewhere to visit family and I couldn't go, I wouldn't deny him.

  
  

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