how should i tell my hubby about baby?

mcgovernrita20 · May 2014

so I recently found out we are expecting and I really want to let my hubby know in a cute way not just hey im pregnant I was planning on sending my positive pregnancy test to him in the mail since he fixes phones he is constantly getting packages so I thought hey why not put it in a nice box all fixed up and send it to our house lol any other ideas??

Manateearmz · May 2014

I've seen a lot of people on here put a sign on the nursery door that says "under construction".

Personally, I shoved a pregnancy test in his face so I'm not the best for ideas.

Cchewning · May 2014

With ds I put a tshirt on our dog that said big sister. This time I sent a letter priority mail with a fake letterhead from stork couriers or something letting him know that his expected bundle would be arriving on or around Nov 24th. We own a shipping store, which is why the letter was cute for us.

sandrabrooke · May 2014

Just go up to him and say "I'm pregnant".

Sofia2529 · May 2014

By recently, do you mean the past 24 hours or longer?

If you're set on doing something similar to what you wrote in your OP, use a onesie or a bib to get the point across instead of something you peed on.

lucymcgillicudy1010 · May 2014

Another for just tell him you're pregnant. Waiting to tell him and mailing your old pee test is ridiculous and a wee bit gross.

KateLouise · May 2014

I sketched a stick figure family portrait with a stick figure baby going sidewyas across my stick figure belly. I said, "hey I drew you a family portrait on your computer" and let him work it out.

It took him a couple of seconds. It was cute watching his face, but I did it within an hour of me taking the test. Basically as soon as he was awake.

EleanorKr · May 2014

WhoCanItBeNow said:

"Guess what? I'm pregnant!"

Anything else is obnoxious and attention whorey. And it's downright bitchy to not tell him right away. He should have known before you posted it here.

And don't send a used pee test in the mail. That's fucking disgusting.

I'm all for just telling him "I'm pregnant". That's how I did it.

But technically, can it be called attention whorey if it is just for your husband?

Mommy62408 · May 2014

I told DH immediately after getting results.....he didn't know I suspected or was testing though. We will find a fun way to tell DD and parents, but DH should find out ASAP

Beevol · May 2014

I'm on the just tell him bandwagon, and maybe come up with something cute when you tell your/his parents if you have the urge to do a cute thing.

wishiwaspreggo · May 2014

I think you should tell him through performance art. An interpretive dance is always nice.

splotch716 · May 2014

With this being our first child I wanted to do something where I would be able to capture his reaction. I took him to one of those photo strip booths. For the first pic I made him close his eyes and I had a sign that said "We are pregnant but he doesn't know it yet." The next picture I whispered it in his ear. This one caught part of his surprised and happy look as well as the third one. The last picture has us holding up a sign saying : Baby L arriving December 2014." We only showed the photo strip to our parents. It is a great picture strip to put in our scrapbook.

Manateearmz · May 2014

Wonder if she told him yet, or if she is still waiting on the mail.

MNgirl326 · May 2014

With DS - I showed him the pee stick

With this one- I showed him the pee stick.

I figured why mess with tradition

caitlindenise · May 2014

I was surprised to get a squinter one late afternoon after getting 9 months of BFNs. I had a cute way picked out too but I was too excited to wait until the next day to do it. So.... I asked my hubby to come into our room and said, "I think I should get double the Mother's Day gifts this year (we have a 2 yr old). Of course, he asked "why". And then I handed him the stick.

lolipoprock · May 2014

With our daughter I told him as soon as I took the test. There really is no need for all that extra stuff lol. And mailing someone a pee test is disgusting girl! For this pregnancy my husband told ME that I was pregnant haha. We had been out at a club with some friends and when we got home I decided to take a test because i hadnt been feeling well. I had too many glasses of wine and completely forgot I took the test by the time I got off the toliet. I left it on the counter and he went in to use the bathroom and when he came out and told me that I was pregnant lmao

blw1003 · May 2014

I had bought a bib so when I got my results, I gavea bib that said I love my daddy! It was simple, and it was so cute to watch his face go from the slightest bit of confusion to pure excitement. This time around, I just asked him what he thought about the possibility of sharing his birthday. I'm due Christmas eve and his birthday is Christmas day.

Dani0329 · May 2014

My husband was deployed when I found out, right before work and he was unreachable. I had bought mom and dad pregnancy books the night before I tested because I had a feeling. I asked him to skype when I got home from work, and while I was recording the conversation asked him when his amazon order was getting in. When he went to check, he saw the pregnancy books.

If he was here I honestly would have jumped on the bed and woke him up with "I'M PREGNANT".

Please no pee in the mail!

LaStella25 · May 2014

I found out I was pregnant yesterday. My DH was still sleeping. So I went and snuggled with him and told him the news. It really didn't occur to me to do anything other than talk to him RIGHT AWAY. I have come up with a plan to tell my dad, who wants a grandchild more than ANYTHING. I'm going to wrap a little fishing pole, baby Crocs, and a sun hat. He'll get the picture!

sweetpea2003 · May 2014

I have typically found out I was pregnant while DH was at work or away. With DS, I found out when he was on a 4 day ski trip with his brothers so I had a few days to put something a little more creative together. But that was just to keep myself from telling him over the phone which took a lot of restraint.

This time, I found out while he was at work (the Thursday before Easter). I made a card that said something like "The Easter bunny brought us a Christmas baby" and put it on his pillow with a small stuffed bunny that I purchased last year when I was expecting (m/c). He found it when he went upstairs to change after work. It was subtle, which I wanted because we aren't telling our kids until at least 13 weeks or so.

With my DD's pregnancy (IVF), my husband actually told me I was pregnant. I was terrified on beta day and had the nurse call him instead of me. I wanted him to break the news to me (good or bad), and not a phone call or voicemail. He told me with a thumbs up while on the phone. Best thumbs up I have ever gotten .

drpayne · May 2014

I used words.

Shaking my head at mailing a pee stick.

path75 · May 2014

I think its great to do something special. We are all different and having that memory would be great. It it a special moment you will share forever. I heard of people buying onsies. That is maybe a better idea. With me we werent expecting to be pregnant but if we were trying I definitely would want it to be special. Ignore the nay sayers this is your moment. By the way congrats!

DrBatlyMD · May 2014

With my first two I just told him as soon as I took the test.

This time, I got an ice cream cake and wrote "thanks for knocking me up" on it. Thought it would be kind of special and funny. But mostly, I wanted ice cream cake.

Lola918 · May 2014

From personal experience, guys don't seem nearly as excited about the pee stick as we are (maybe because for them it's someone else's pee on it, totally understandably gross). So I would agree with everyone else that mailing the stick is probably not a good way to accomplish "cute."

I do think it can be nice to do something special - after all, in most traditional couples guys get to plan something grandiose for an engagement and pregnancy is the one time we can return the favor.

I reused one of the packages we'd received to "send" it to my husband, and inside I placed a fake packing slip saying our order was received and would be delivered around the 2nd week of Jan., and that a complimentary welcome kit was included in the present package. We had been trying so I had bought a tiny baby hat, a bottle of juice (non-alcoholic) bubbly to celebrate, a little calendar where I tabbed trimesters and due date, and a white board for keeping track of baby names. I wanted a few unrelated items that would not be obviously related to babies (except the baby hat) to puzzle him a bit. I had that all ready to go hidden under our bed so it was probably 30 mins between when I found out on the stick and when he "found" the package on our doorstep! It was definitely worth it to do something special, and to see his face.

And, like most of the other women here, I'm way too impatient to keep the secret any longer than that!

Good luck to you all!

gloryfades09 · May 2014

congrats! there are some good cute ideas posted on here.

and i just want to say that this is my first time posting. i've been hesitant due to to the horribly rude/condescending comments i've seen on here from a lot of members. it's ridiculous. everyone needs to be a little nicer. maybe not call people gross or an attention whore (relax and be an adult....this is an internet forum).

but congrats again and good luck telling your husband. i'm sure he'll be super excited whichever route you go

PrimRoseMama · May 2014

gloryfades09 said:
congrats! there are some good cute ideas posted on here.

and i just want to say that this is my first time posting. i've been hesitant due to to the horribly rude/condescending comments i've seen on here from a lot of members. it's ridiculous. everyone needs to be a little nicer. maybe not call people gross or an attention whore (relax and be an adult....this is an internet forum).

but congrats again and good luck telling your husband. i'm sure he'll be super excited whichever route you go

Yeah.... Lurk more.

Manateearmz · May 2014

gloryfades09 said:
congrats! there are some good cute ideas posted on here.

and i just want to say that this is my first time posting. i've been hesitant due to to the horribly rude/condescending comments i've seen on here from a lot of members. it's ridiculous. everyone needs to be a little nicer. maybe not call people gross or an attention whore (relax and be an adult....this is an internet forum).

but congrats again and good luck telling your husband. i'm sure he'll be super excited whichever route you go

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Probably best to avoid lecturing regulars on their behaviour in your FIRST post, mmkay?

allrightmeow · May 2014

gloryfades09 said:

congra09 ts! there are some good cute ideas posted on here.

and i just want to say that this is my first time posting. i've been hesitant due to to the horribly rude/condescending comments i've seen on here from a lot of members. it's ridiculous. everyone needs to be a little nicer. maybe not call people gross or an attention whore (relax and be an adult....this is an internet forum).

but congrats again and good luck telling your husband. i'm sure he'll be super excited whichever route you go

@gloryfades09 There is way more support offered here than snark. If you get snarked, you've earned it.

Marcilene1 · May 2014

splotch716 said:

With this being our first child I wanted to do something where I would be able to capture his reaction. I took him to one of those photo strip booths. For the first pic I made him close his eyes and I had a sign that said "We are pregnant but he doesn't know it yet." The next picture I whispered it in his ear. This one caught part of his surprised and happy look as well as the third one. The last picture has us holding up a sign saying : Baby L arriving December 2014." We only showed the photo strip to our parents. It is a great picture strip to put in our scrapbook.

You win.

AlanaB2010 · May 2014

Ok, the photo booth thing is VERY sweet. But really, I'm surprised that so much of this is A THING, because DH and I talk constantly and there are no surprises. Much prefer to see the test together and have a nice hug/laugh/cry than to orchestrate something elaborate.

drpayne · May 2014

AlanaB2010 said:

Ok, the photo booth thing is VERY sweet. But really, I'm surprised that so much of this is A THING, because DH and I talk constantly and there are no surprises. Much prefer to see the test together and have a nice hug/laugh/cry than to orchestrate something elaborate.

This. I can't imagine keeping it a secret from him for any length of time. I tell him immediately. This is the weirdest part about this thread to me.

Cryssteen · May 2014

nevermind

MNgirl326 · May 2014

gloryfades09 said:

congrats! there are some good cute ideas posted on here.

and i just want to say that this is my first time posting. i've been hesitant due to to the horribly rude/condescending comments i've seen on here from a lot of members. it's ridiculous. everyone needs to be a little nicer. maybe not call people gross or an attention whore (relax and be an adult....this is an internet forum).

but congrats again and good luck telling your husband. i'm sure he'll be super excited whichever route you go :D

Actually he wasn't- I mean he got there- but at first he was more shocked and surprised and scared then anything. I'm glad I didn't do some cutesy way of telling him, because his reaction would have been disappointing. And then I would have been sad and then whole thing would have been a giant a let down.

Not all husbands are SUPER excited the second then find out. It can take a bit to sink in.

So, please don't assume all men react the same.

Lola918 · May 2014

I'm really disappointed with some of the comments on this thread, and I want to join ranks with @gloryfades09 on calling out the bullying.

Maybe you think peeing on a stick and then mailing it is a bad idea, and maybe you don't understand why someone would share the news on an internet forum before they share it with their husband, but are both of those actions really warranting some of the rude replies?

The person who started this thread just got the biggest news of her life, and is clearly super excited. Her intentions are obviously good, she wants to do something nice for her husband, AND she hasn't said or done anything that's insulting or hurtful to anyone else. Congratulations to the rude repliers, you've probably made her feel stupid and ashamed on a day when she should be feeling uplifted and optimistic. And on what? on a few sentences she wrote? You don't know who she is, what her situation is, and her whole story. Maybe her husband is away on a trip and she wants to wait til he's home to tell him in person, but the news are so huge she had to share them somewhere.

And lastly, your seniority on this forum doesn't give you the right to be mean, and doesn't make your comments and opinions more valid than those of others.

allrightmeow · May 2014

@Lola918 and I'm really disappointed that a grown woman is throwing around the word bullying. It seems to be the new blanket buzz word when people use when they don't hear what they want to hear.

OP got suggestions and thoughts on her idea. She asked a bunch of strangers on the internet. Actually putting a used pregnancy test in the mail is more than a little gross. There are literally thousands of other things that she could do to make the announcement to him.

I don't know about you but, when I have huge "biggest news of my life" news I can't contain, I turn to my IRL friends and family. I do not sign up for a website that makes me wait 48 hours before I can post my first comment.

Lola918 · May 2014

If the word "bullying" vexes or offends you, let's forget I used it - I'm happy to retract that part of my comment. OR I can make myself really worthy of gifs and replace it with "cyberbullying," now THAT's a buzzword!

What I think is really important at the end of the day is that unless someone says something that is hurtful or demeaning or derogatory to others, there's no reason to be mean to total strangers on the internet.

Most of the comments on here were really nice, and my previous comment is only geared towards the few that weren't, and to show support for @gloryfades09, with whom I agree.

Manateearmz · May 2014

Is it bullying if I didn't even read my lecture?

allrightmeow · May 2014

Lola918 said:

If the word "bullying" vexes or offends you, let's forget I used it - I'm happy to retract that part of my comment. OR I can make myself really worthy of gifs and replace it with "cyberbullying," now THAT's a buzzword!

What I think is really important at the end of the day is that unless someone says something that is hurtful or demeaning or derogatory to others, there's no reason to be mean to total strangers on the internet.

Most of the comments on here were really nice, and my previous comment is only geared towards the few that weren't, and to show support for @gloryfades09, with whom I agree.

No, using cyber bullying still makes you look silly and uninformed because cyber bullying is a real thing that happens that wrecks peoples lives. Using it and then throwing a little smiley face behind it makes it trivial.

OP is not going to hang herself because she was told it was yucky to have her stale urine test processed by the USPS.

splotch716 · May 2014

drpayne said:

AlanaB2010 said:

Ok, the photo booth thing is VERY sweet. But really, I'm surprised that so much of this is A THING, because DH and I talk constantly and there are no surprises. Much prefer to see the test together and have a nice hug/laugh/cry than to orchestrate something elaborate.

This. I can't imagine keeping it a secret from him for any length of time. I tell him immediately. This is the weirdest part about this thread to me.

He told me that he wanted an "epic" reveal not just handing him the HPT. I only kept it from him for a few hours because I had decided months ago how I was going to tell him. I fulfilled his wishes and was able to capture the moment for our child to see later.

Lola918 · May 2014

Sure you can keep criticizing my posts, my words, etc, all I'm saying is - be a little nicer. This is supposed to be a positive place.

Seems like the message isn't getting across though!

Nuclearcupcake · May 2014

You honestly think you can show up and change the tone of an entire community. That's cute.

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