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Is my DH the only guy who...(this is sad)

laceloni81laceloni81
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doesn't want to have sex? 

This doesn't have to do with after DD either.  This is before, during and after DD.  He just isn't like the typical guy who 'thinks' sex all the time.  He is a conservative guy. I feel like the roles are totally reversed.  I feel like I am the phene.  Angel 

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Re: Is my DH the only guy who...(this is sad)

  • J+OJ+O
    That's different.

    My DH is the kind of guy who grabs your butt or chest anytime of day and is always ready for sex.
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  • laceloni81laceloni81

    I don't even know how that would be...

    I have some friends that their DH are like yours too.  I only wish.  hehe.  However I wonder if my DH was like that if I would be so willing. 

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  • Peanut's_MommyPeanut's_Mommy
    imageJ+O:
    That's different.

    My DH is the kind of guy who grabs your butt or chest anytime of day and is always ready for sex.

     

    ditto. 

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  • Gin*In*TNGin*In*TN
    My ex was like that. He was awful at sex, though, so I really didn't care if we never did it. I hated it. Complete waste of 2 otherwise perfectly good minutes of my life. (I wish I was making that up.)
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  • PMJacobsenPMJacobsen
    imageJ+O:
    That's different.

    My DH is the kind of guy who grabs your butt or chest anytime of day and is always ready for sex.

     

    same here!

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  • laceloni81laceloni81
    Ooo, when he gives it up its great but he isn't the groping type.  I guess I should be happy that he is good in bed then. 
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  • papagenapapagena member
    Sadly, I'm with you - I don't even want to say when the last time we had sex was.  It's too depressing.  What happened to my parents warnings about guys only wanting one thing?  WTH?
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  • bnsrlb15bnsrlb15

    sorry I'm lurking but my DH is the same way. We have sex like once every two or three weeks. Its GREAT when it happens but just not have to all the time. He was the same way before baby, during and after. Before I had DS I hated it because I felt like a phene but now i don't care cause my time's filled, but it used to make me feel crappy. He didn't mean for it to but it did. I thought something was wrong with him cause my brothers are both hounds. I just think my DH is more modest.

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  • ascbrideascbride
    Nope, my DH too. It's really hard because no one understands, I wish I had someone I could talk to about it that could understand. Everyone I know either has a DH or boyfriend that is so into it and they are "running" away from him, well I have the exact opposite. Actually the night we got pg was one of the only times that DH "went" after me in that way, LOL! But, yeah, it is sad and it's sad that I can totally relate to you ...
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  • JassieJassie

    I'm in the same boat, and can totally relate. My DH rarely initates sex, it's up to me to get things going. It really makes me feel unwanted. It was like this before, during, and after pregancy so it's nothing new. If it were up to me, we'd have sex every night, it's like our "roles" are reversed... it upsets me. I get so jealous of the girls on here who's DH's are always after them. I've talked to DH about it several times over the past 10 years we've been together, but nothing ever changes. He says he's attracted to me and wants sex, but I guess he doesn't like to be aggressive. Sad. I've tried waiting it out to see how long it would take him to attack me (lol), but I never make it past two weeks before I jump him haha. Oh well.... if any of you ladies wanna chat about it message me....

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  • lpennie16lpennie16 member
    This has only happened since the baby came. We used to do the dirty 3 or 4 times a week. Now I'm lucky if its twice. :-(
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  • JoshnEllenJoshnEllen member
    It may be a physical issue.....has he had his testosterone levels checked?  Low levels can result in a low sex-drive and low energy levels overall.
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  • Kat28655Kat28655
    My DH is the same way. It's very sad and frustrating. Before DD, it bothered me a lot more. I'm still bothered, but tired and busy. I'm sorry for both of us!!!
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  • zucchinigirlzucchinigirl
    Shoot, my DH is the total opposite... sometimes I wish he was like your DH!  I always turn him down now and I feel awful!
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  • ibfloridagirlibfloridagirl member
    I am in the same boat, i have always been the initiator, but since we moved to TX and DH became partner it has become even worse, literally in the past year we have had sex 4 times, 4 that's it and only once since DS was born.  Now that i am on BC i am totally ready to live it up, but nope, not DH.  It makes me feel really crappy about myself.
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  • Whitney ComeauxWhitney Comeaux
    imageJ+O:
    That's different.

    My DH is the kind of guy who grabs your butt or chest anytime of day and is always ready for sex.
    My DH also
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  • CindiLu1CindiLu1
    Sadly I'm in the same boat.  It has been almost a year.  Before DD it was about once a month.  I don't have advice...but you aren't alone.
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  • jerseycaptivejerseycaptive member

    Seriously, we just had sex 2 nights ago.  The last time before that... when I was still in my 2nd trimester.  Seriously.  I can't even believe I'm typing this.  My husband's excuses went from "I don't want to hurt the baby" to "Well, sex just isn't a priority right now"  Talk about a blow.

    No, you're not the only one.

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