does this look weird?

jlpev · May 2014

I gave my mil a design for dd's 1st bday shirt. The design was perfect except the 1. The 1 on the other design was squared not bubbled.
But this is what she made...to me the 1 looks like a penis! Something like those penis cake molds. Well i was very nice when i told her that but she got upset.
What do yall think?
I cant use the shirt. Dd wont have a penis on her shirt. No way...cant do it!

pevila · May 2014

If you hadn't said anything about it, I wouldn't have noticed... But now all I see is PENIS, PENIS, PENIS!

I think it looks OK as long as you don't say anything

:P

MomIn2013 · May 2014

I do see the penis (doesn't help that it's pink!), but if you hadn't mentioned it I really don't think it would be obvious.

bhuffman · May 2014

Oh, it's such a cute penis shirt!

jlpev · May 2014

Ok. Well i cant use it bc thats all i see. So does dh. Mil got pretty upset. I just cant do it!

LoriLee14 · May 2014

I don't see it

LoriLee14 · May 2014

Also, why can't she wear it after all the pictures? or during the cake smash and then throw it away.

notkateanymore · May 2014

I don't see it...is there is something really off about your DH's penis and that's what you're basing it on? FTR, all of the ones I've seen don't hook to the right at the top. Just saying.

notkateanymore · May 2014

Oh and I don't blame your MIL for being mad at all. You're adults, act like them.

raraavis28 · May 2014

I'm w/ PPs....wouldn't have noticed if you hadn't mentioned it. Get yo mind outta the gutter!! Jk

MomIn2013 · May 2014

Yeah, I can understand why she'd be pissed considering the time she probably spent to make it. I think it would be rude to not have her wear it after she's gone to that trouble.

bohemianlc · May 2014

It sounds like you are pretty set on not using the shirt and you have already told her that you think it looks like a penis, so I guess what's done is done in that regard. Honestly, I never would have thought the "1" looked like a penis had you not pointed that out. I doubt anyone else at a party for your baby would see that, either.

Personally, I would at least take a few photos of my baby wearing the shirt even if I didn't put it on the baby for a party. You did ask your MIL to make the shirt and she was generous enough to do so, which probably took a lot of time and effort, and that deserves some sort of thanks. If I were you, I think I would apologize for my remarks and tell her I just want the baby's first birthday to be perfect and perhaps overreacted. But that's just me. Ultimately you have to do what you feel is right.

Cherryblossoms07 · May 2014

It looks a little falical, especially given the color. However, I don't think it is so bad that I would be willing to piss off my own MIL by not having my one year old wear it.

jnksmom · May 2014

I don't see it.

Xtine22 · May 2014

I don't see it . After you mentioning it if I look really hard I guess I could see it, maybe.

magentawarped · May 2014

I can sorta see it, but really, are you 12? She worked hard on it. I don't see any way you could've nicely said "Thanks for the shirt, but we won't be using it cause I'm a perv and see a dick."

jlpev · May 2014

Thanks ladies. I was just taken back by it bc the 1 is totally different. I Apologized right after i told her. She told me she could do it just like the 1 i sent her but she changed it bc she thought it was girlier.
It just reminds me of those penis cake molds. I just wish she could have done it like the one i sent her.

dmartin726 · May 2014

KateMW said:
I don't see it...is there is something really off about your DH's penis and that's what you're basing it on? FTR, all of the ones I've seen don't hook to the right at the top. Just saying.

I actually did see one with a hook once. Thought about gonzos nose the whole same damn time...

Andrewsgal · May 2014

NandaB said:

thats not a penis, its just a weird looking 1, and you are a rude ass bitch if you told your MIL, who MADE the damn shirt that you thought it looked like a penis because you are a 14 year old boy. I mean, really, you and your H could have giggled about it in private, but you told her and hurt her feelings because the 1 looks weird? rude.

I feel like someone needs to take your penis shirt away and tell you there are other DILs who would like it.

Yes this! You and your DH need to grow the fuck up. I would love someone to lovingly make my kids shirts I pay $30 on etsy for from a stranger. You were unbelievably rude and obnoxious. You owe your mil a huge apology.

Mrs.Hizzo · May 2014

I see the penis. I think it's hilarious. I'd totally have my kids wear it and take tons of pictures to torment her with later in life.

jlpev · May 2014

dmartin726 said:

KateMW said:
I don't see it...is there is something really off about your DH's penis and that's what you're basing it on? FTR, all of the ones I've seen don't hook to the right at the top. Just saying.
I actually did see one with a hook once. Thought about gonzos nose the whole same damn time...

No its nothing like dhs... Just resembles those cake molds ive seen. But thats funny.

AprilLVE · May 2014

Kimbus22 said:

Mrs.Hizzo said:

I see the penis. I think it's hilarious. I'd totally have my kids wear it and take tons of pictures to torment her with later in life.

This. And WTF to you for telling your MIL you're not using it because it looks like a penis. That's fucking rude as hell. If I were her I'd be bitching to all my friends about my nasty, ungrateful DIL.

If you hated it that much you could have just not used it and claimed it got destroyed in the laundry or something. Or you could, you know, lighten up. It's a shirt.

Yes, this. I would just have laughed with my friends about it and kept my mouth shut to the person who took the time to make it.

Mrs.Hizzo · May 2014

OK, devil's advocate here...while I agree that the shirt looks like it took a ton of time to make and the OP should've just been grateful and kept her mouth shut, there is part of me that sympathizes because this is not the design her MIL agreed to make. This is exactly why I declined my MIL's offer to make my kids' crib bedding. I knew, KNEW, that she would take any design I gave her and "improve" on it, and I would have hated it but been obligated to use it. When MIL offers to make something and you say "Why, yes, please! Can you make THIS?" you sort of assume she'll be making THIS, not THAT, KWIM?

jlpev · May 2014

OK, devil's advocate here...while I agree that the shirt looks like it took a ton of time to make and the OP should've just been grateful and kept her mouth shut, there is part of me that sympathizes because this is not the design her MIL agreed to make. This is exactly why I declined my MIL's offer to make my kids' crib bedding. I knew, KNEW, that she would take any design I gave her and "improve" on it, and I would have hated it but been obligated to use it. When MIL offers to make something and you say "Why, yes, please! Can you make THIS?" you sort of assume she'll be making THIS, not THAT, KWIM?

Thank you! I also bought everything for it. I told her that i greatly appreciate her doing it & all the time she spent on it but it wasnt what i wanted. Mil & i are extremely close. So i felt like i could be honest. It hurt my feelings that she changed it on me.

dizzycooks · May 2014

I had to look really hard and use a lot of imagination to see what you see. I see it now. I would totally laugh with dh privately and maybe say something to a friend, but dang if my mil was willing to make down thing that stinking cute for my kid, I'd say thank you. End of story. Doesn't even matter that you bought the supplies.

jlpev · May 2014

She changed it without asking...seriously you would be OK with your mil doing that after she said she would do what I sent her? I highly doubt you would. Like I mentioned we are close & very honest with each other.

vlagrl29 · May 2014

I honestly didn't see a penis until you mentioned it

jlpev · May 2014

We are entitled to our own opinions. I just talked to mil & were good. She spoke to her bf & she showed her the shirt. She thought it looked like a penis also before mil told her what I thought it looked like.

bumpuser8448316 · May 2014

You could've just said, "oh! You rounded the one. I was really hoping for the square design I gave you." Maybe there was a reason she did that but when you rudely told her that her hard work looked like a man's genitals she didn't feel inclined to explain it to you.

There are polite and tactful ways to tell someone that you are disappointed that they didn't do as you asked. But, I'm guessing you just hate your MIL

zbeesma86 · May 2014

It's cute! I'd let Z wear that!

bumpuser924057 · May 2014

Ok, it could have and should have been handled differently with the MIL... but seriously, you guys don't think that's penis-like? I mean, she didn't embroider veins on it or anything, but it's definitely snicker-worthy.

I do not have the kind of relationship with my MIL where I could freely call out hidden genitals in her handcrafted gifts, so if this happened to me and I was bothered enough by it not to have her wear it at the party, I would stage a photo shoot beforehand and make a big deal about her wearing it for her "one year pictures" and then put her in something else for the party because I "didn't want it to get ruined." Too late for that now, I suppose.

HBirdie · May 2014

Penis would never cross my mind while looking at this shirt, which is adorable, by the way. As someone who loves doing various creative things and making things for people, I feel for your MIL. She put a lot of time, effort, and care into it and she was probably crushed at your reaction.

Andrewsgal · May 2014

Mrs.Hizzo said:

OK, devil's advocate here...while I agree that the shirt looks like it took a ton of time to make and the OP should've just been grateful and kept her mouth shut, there is part of me that sympathizes because this is not the design her MIL agreed to make. This is exactly why I declined my MIL's offer to make my kids' crib bedding. I knew, KNEW, that she would take any design I gave her and "improve" on it, and I would have hated it but been obligated to use it. When MIL offers to make something and you say "Why, yes, please! Can you make THIS?" you sort of assume she'll be making THIS, not THAT, KWIM?

oh give me a break she changed the shape of one number she did make this not that. OP sounds like a spoiled teenager.

MomIn2013 · May 2014

All I can think is, holy jeez, it's a t-shirt. I just can't imagine making this into a thing.

Andrewsgal · May 2014

Seriously OP if you are that close to MIL it seems to me even more of a reason not to be obnoxious and rude about the shirt. If you cared about her feelings it seems you just would have used the shirt.

kcisthebombdotcom · May 2014

jlpev said:

She changed it without asking...seriously you would be OK with your mil doing that after she said she would do what I sent her? I highly doubt you would. Like I mentioned we are close & very honest with each other.

Nope, I really wouldn't lose sleep over the shape of the number one. I would be more grateful that someone would take the time to do that vs being upset it didn't turn out exactly how I wanted.

outnumbered · May 2014

jlpev said:

She changed it without asking...seriously you would be OK with your mil doing that after she said she would do what I sent her? I highly doubt you would. Like I mentioned we are close & very honest with each other.

Yes I would be OK with my MIL doing that. She rounded the corners of a number on a shirt to be worn once, she did not pierce your daughters ears or cut her hair.

Andrewsgal · May 2014

KC_13 said:

jlpev said:

She changed it without asking...seriously you would be OK with your mil doing that after she said she would do what I sent her? I highly doubt you would. Like I mentioned we are close & very honest with each other.

Nope, I really wouldn't lose sleep over the shape of the number one. I would be more grateful that someone would take the time to do that vs being upset it didn't turn out exactly how I wanted.

THIS. I really can't believe we are talking about the shape of a number. I would just be super grateful someone was doing this for my child FREE?

dizzycooks · May 2014

Kc and AG see eye to eye...noted.

lyingliarlies · May 2014

outnumbered said:

jlpev said:

She changed it without asking...seriously you would be OK with your mil doing that after she said she would do what I sent her? I highly doubt you would. Like I mentioned we are close & very honest with each other.

Yes I would be OK with my MIL doing that. She rounded the corners of a number on a shirt to be worn once, she did not pierce your daughters ears or cut her hair.

i could see that if there's a long history of MIL being passive aggressive, that this could possibly be some bizarre calculated move to exert control over her grandchild's birthday party. but by your own admission, she was just trying to make it even cuter, & you have a good relationship, so clearly that's not the case.

i don't even know if i could utter the word "penis" to my MIL unless in a strictly medical context. hell i'm mortified that she probably saw a penis straw in the kitchen junk drawer.

notkateanymore · May 2014

I truly do not see a penis and I think there is something odd about the people who do.

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