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Monday confessions...
Anyone have one? I feel the need to cleanse my soul. I feel kinda bad.
My mom came up to babysit yesterday and DS ended up puking and spiking a fever last night shortly after she left. She texted me first this morning to see how he was doing and I updated her that his temp is like 102 and he's not feeling too hot, but I gave him motrin and he's resting with me.
She then proceeded to send about 5 texts in a row asking "could he have bacterial meningitis? I sae that on the news the other day" as well as "are you gonna call his pediatrician? Yesterday he seemed so congested and I could hear him breathing, almost like he had fluid in chest. You should call". As well as "You should keep him out of daycare until his immunity is back up".
I finally just got annoyed and texted back, yeah, ill call the dr later. I got this. Thank you. I'll give you a call later, dont worry".
She didnt answer back after that so I'm sure she's a little butthurt. Now I feel kind of bad bc I know she means well and is just concerned, but when she does this, it sort of makes me feel like she doesn't think I know what I'm doing when it comes to my kid being sick. I know she doesnt mean it that way, but ugh. I just got irritated and that was my knee jerk reaction I guess. Somebody must've hit me with the bitch stick this morning.
My mom came up to babysit yesterday and DS ended up puking and spiking a fever last night shortly after she left. She texted me first this morning to see how he was doing and I updated her that his temp is like 102 and he's not feeling too hot, but I gave him motrin and he's resting with me.
She then proceeded to send about 5 texts in a row asking "could he have bacterial meningitis? I sae that on the news the other day" as well as "are you gonna call his pediatrician? Yesterday he seemed so congested and I could hear him breathing, almost like he had fluid in chest. You should call". As well as "You should keep him out of daycare until his immunity is back up".
I finally just got annoyed and texted back, yeah, ill call the dr later. I got this. Thank you. I'll give you a call later, dont worry".
She didnt answer back after that so I'm sure she's a little butthurt. Now I feel kind of bad bc I know she means well and is just concerned, but when she does this, it sort of makes me feel like she doesn't think I know what I'm doing when it comes to my kid being sick. I know she doesnt mean it that way, but ugh. I just got irritated and that was my knee jerk reaction I guess. Somebody must've hit me with the bitch stick this morning.
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Re: Monday confessions...
Mine- My kid bit someone at daycare on Friday and I didn't really care that much...
For background, he has been bit a TON, including 3 times in the last week. They are moving him to the next classroom soon so hopefully that will help. But when they told me he got bit, my first thought was no wonder since that is the example that has been set for him. I did talk to him about it, and hopefully he doesn't do it again. DS is almost 2.
That reminds me of stuff my mom does. She likes to imagine worst-case scenarios (like meningitis?) and then reacts to her imagined scenario. It's super annoying. Isn't real life dramatic enough without making things up?
Anyways, don't take it as a judgement on your parenting. It's not about you.
My confession is that I'm just not feeling up to my responsibilities today. I don't want to be a mom today. I want to stay in my bathrobe and eat cookies and read my book.
She's just recently become an empty nester (my brother moved out and is getting married), so I feel like maybe its affecting her more than she lets on...but idk.
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Also fever broke several times on its own over the weekend and it was gone all night. She is with her babysitter today having a movie day. I need this "break".
Tl;Dr: mommy guilt sucks
Sorry your LO is sick!
DD has been on a bath hating streak lately, which is weird because she used to love the bath.
Yesterday I lured her into the bath with the promise of bubbles, which didn't pan out the way I wanted because instead of blowing the bubbles, she simply ate them. Like, she would dip the bubble wand into the solution and lick the wand.
When she was distracted, I took the bubbles away from her and put them high in a shelf above the toilet. She didn't see them again until this morning when I was trying to brush her teeth, which turned into a full blown, snot running down her face tantrum.
Confession is that I let her lick the wand while I did her hair. I am a jerk.
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Fucking really? Hes been to the dr a few times now..and besides the normal run of the mill cold and ear infection (for which he's been treated for), what else are they going to do? He just came down with a fever last night. They're gonna tell me to push fluids and rest and call back if it persists. Just like the pedi said...first year of daycare seems like nonstop sickness.
Jfc. I cant take the melodrama today
He's a little extra sleepy, but other than that he seems alright now that he's had some motrin and a little breakfast. so we will see, I guess.
She's constantly asking "did you call the dr?" "Make sure you check on him before you go to bed". "Did you give him any medicine?"
Thanks mom. I know you're my mom and all, and you've done the mom gig longer than I have obviously, but wtf. I got it under control. If I need help/advice, I'll certainly come to you and ask forit.
I mean sure, I've only been a mom for 16 months, but honestly, when its your own kid, it comes pretty naturally. And when I do need advice on something, I have no problem asking her for it.
My mom and ILs are similar. And DH too. I don't like pressure and fear-mongering from grandparents.
Sometimes I feel like I'm "supposed to" tolerate their behavior, but I just can't.
I've never been a people-pleaser. I like things to be cut and dry. If you say something and I think it's out of line, I will call you out. I don't care if it's my mom or grandma or some old lady at the grocery store. I make my own choices, and I don't want advice unless I ask for it.
I don't have it half as bad as my brother. There is literally NOTHING he and his wife can do as parents that they aren't going to be judged for.
@ThisIsBrea I saw your post in the monday random thread that your LO has an ear infection...hope he feels better soon too.
My mom is not so bad about this stuff, but my MIL is. I've learned to not tell her anything till I know something, or till its over. She loves, LOVES, to play lawyer for DDs, esp DD1 who is 12. Anytime she is in trouble for something, or gets told no, she wants to run to grandma & feed her a poor pitiful me story. & grandma buys it every.single.time & text me her advise on the situation. It drives me freaking nuts & 9 xs out of 10 gets DD1 in even more trouble for involving grandma in some stupid preteen melodrama.
Case in point: DD wanted to have a sleepover & I told her no b/c #1 she has either had or went to a sleepover every weekend for the past month AND #2 I had told her all week to clean her room & bring down her dirty clothes to which she had completely ignored. So she wants, & I say no, you need to stay home this weekend & get your room clean. Next thing I know I get a text from grandma saying well maybe she can just come have a sleepover at my house instead of a friends. WTF makes that any different?!? A sleepover is a sleepover, right?!? I said no she really needs to clean her room & just hang out here this weekend. Grandma: Well I could come help her clean her room then she can just come home with me after. Ummmm not just no, but hell no. She is 12 & perfectly capiable of cleaning her own damn room & at this point doesn't need to be rewarded for doing it seeing as I have been telling her all week to get it done. So I say thanks, but no she can do it & Grandma says: Well maybe she just needs a break, she did have TCAP testing this week so maybe she is just stressed out & needs to relax Me: EXACTLY. Which is why she will be STAYING HOME THIS WEEKEND.
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Good luck to all of you with the sick babies! I hope they feel better ASAP & I think you are all perfectly capable of handling it!
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