I don't understand what the big deal was. Don't we complain all the time about people with no kids giving parenting advice?? So why get all butt hurt when getting called out on it?
I figured maybe she was just having "one of those days" and feeling emotional or insecure. If she comes back, cool. If she stays away forever because of what was said in that thread then she's right. Maybe this isn't the place for her. Hope her and the baby are doing all right though.
Speaking of ex regulars, I noticed Luna C was commenting in some of the social groups a little whole ago. If the info in her siggy is stil up to date things seem to be going ok with her.
Come to think of it, there's another regular I haven't seen in several days... but I think she might be lying low. Hope she's okay too :-/
I've been thinking of a regular lately too... maybe we're thinking of the same one... crunchy granola super hip mom chick? Big into spinning babies lol
Come to think of it, there's another regular I haven't seen in several days... but I think she might be lying low. Hope she's okay too :-/
I've been thinking of a regular lately too... maybe we're thinking of the same one... crunchy granola super hip mom chick? Big into spinning babies lol
Yeah, I think we're all on the same page. I know there are some issues. If anyone is in touch with her, I'm sending her good thoughts.
Don't worry guys, awesomely smart granola mom will be back with a new name
Yay, very good! When that happens I will be PMing you because I know I'm going to be confused lol. Glad she's doing ok and the offer still stands to crotch shot whoever is messing with her!
Aw man. I love @wtfisup. I'm sad if she's not coming back but if she doesn't I hope she's doing her awesome thing wheresoever she feels good doing it.
And if she's lurking and sees this, hey lady, i miss your feminist self! hope you and your baby are doing well!
I also hope @wtfisup is doing well! I liked her presence on the board.
Just as an aside, I don't complain about non-parents giving parenting advice, as long as it is well reasoned or researched.
Maybe because I've already received quite a few pieces of dubious advice from "experienced" parents...and been witness to some objectively poor parenting...I take quite a bit parenting advice with a grain of salt.
There's nothing wrong with FTMs giving advice, as long as it's not presented as fact, which in this case, it routinely was.
I think it often probably the classic "lack of tone" problem that all electronic communication seems to have. Generally IRL we get more context in our conversations and would know a researched opinion from an actual experience. Where are the emoji that covey contextual ambiguities and subtitles of meaning?
I agree with @Merie412. You don't have to agree on everything to be friends, have a discussion, or be a part of this community. IRL if I get into a disagreement with a friend we may step back for a day or two, sometimes offer an apology (if needed).... But you get over it and move forward.
But if someone decides "I don't think this relationship is a good one for me. I don't feel like I fit in." I'm not going to chase them down and beg them to stick around. What happens the next time we disagree?? Do we have to constantly do this song and dance?
Sometimes one thing will work wonders for one pregnancy/baby and be complete crap for the next. As a third time mom I may say something worked for me but doesn't necessarily mean it will work for someone else but to be offended over it is a bit extreme. I've learned a lot of new information from ftm's and shitty info from stm's+ and vice versa. I just prefer people don't say things so matter of fact because it naturally makes me want to discredit them.
Aw man. I love @wtfisup. I'm sad if she's not coming back but if she doesn't I hope she's doing her awesome thing wheresoever she feels good doing it.
And if she's lurking and sees this, hey lady, i miss your feminist self! hope you and your baby are doing well!
I also hope @wtfisup is doing well! I liked her presence on the board.
Just as an aside, I don't complain about non-parents giving parenting advice, as long as it is well reasoned or researched.
Maybe because I've already received quite a few pieces of dubious advice from "experienced" parents...and been witness to some objectively poor parenting...I take quite a bit parenting advice with a grain of salt.
And even good advice from an awesome experienced parent might just not work for me!
One of the things I really like about this board is a diversity of opinion. Even when I don't agree with someone's approach, sometimes they make me think things through in a new way, and that can be very valuable. So I think it's kind of too bad if someone leaves because they feel they're not adding or their perspective doesn't "fit in" because I don't think it should have to fit in. But I also agree with PPs that if someone feels that way, so be it. I've honestly been quite surprised that people have actually left, but it's their call of course.
I'm juat going to put this here, but I think we are missong someone else, too. I would tag her but I'm afraid maybe she had a loss and I missed it. It was christine m? Anyone know who I'm talking about?
Hi, folks. Please understand that just because someone's status shows as "last active" on this site doesn't mean they're lurking here. The Bump is quite an expansive website with many forums, pages, and resources. If your login info is saved to your computer, it "logs" every time you visit any aspect of the site.
As someone who chose to leave this particular forum, any time my Google search brings me back to the site, I'm getting these notifications due to the tags. I could delete the account, but I would like the option to continue to be active in other spaces. If you don't mind, please do not tag me.
Hi, folks. Please understand that just because someone's status shows as "last active" on this site doesn't mean they're lurking here. The Bump is quite an expansive website with many forums, pages, and resources. If your login info is saved to your computer, it "logs" every time you visit any aspect of the site.
As someone who chose to leave this particular forum, any time my Google search brings me back to the site, I'm getting these notifications due to the tags. I could delete the account, but I would like the option to continue to be active in other spaces. If you don't mind, please do not tag me.
It's a little dramatic to leave a whole board (many members of which
obviously like you because they tagged you) just because your feelings
were hurt when you got called out on coming across as a know it all in
the newbie thread.
It's something that an apology could have
taken care of in like two seconds. "Man guys, I'm sorry I didn't know I
was coming across like that!"
Most the people who tagged you are
people who care about you and want you to come back.... and you come
back just to ask these folks not to tag you because it's annoying to see a little notification thing you could easily ignore?
Umm, correct me if I'm wrong, but the (teeny, tiny) little notification box doesn't even show up for me unless I go to the forum part of TB. Just sayin.
Re: @wtfisup?
I don't understand what the big deal was. Don't we complain all the time about people with no kids giving parenting advice?? So why get all butt hurt when getting called out on it?
I figured maybe she was just having "one of those days" and feeling emotional or insecure. If she comes back, cool. If she stays away forever because of what was said in that thread then she's right. Maybe this isn't the place for her. Hope her and the baby are doing all right though.
Yeah, I think we're all on the same page. I know there are some issues. If anyone is in touch with her, I'm sending her good thoughts.
Just as an aside, I don't complain about non-parents giving parenting advice, as long as it is well reasoned or researched.
Maybe because I've already received quite a few pieces of dubious advice from "experienced" parents...and been witness to some objectively poor parenting...I take quite a bit parenting advice with a grain of salt.
yep it's her just saw her new name hiiiiiiiiii!!!!!
Baby #1: expected June 2014
But if someone decides "I don't think this relationship is a good one for me. I don't feel like I fit in." I'm not going to chase them down and beg them to stick around. What happens the next time we disagree?? Do we have to constantly do this song and dance?
It's a little dramatic to leave a whole board (many members of which obviously like you because they tagged you) just because your feelings were hurt when you got called out on coming across as a know it all in the newbie thread.
It's something that an apology could have taken care of in like two seconds. "Man guys, I'm sorry I didn't know I was coming across like that!"
Most the people who tagged you are people who care about you and want you to come back.... and you come back just to ask these folks not to tag you because it's annoying to see a little notification thing you could easily ignore?
eta: removed tag - forgot quoting auto tagged
*cough* Voldemort *cough*
Good luck with your pregnancy. May this thread rest in peace!