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March 2014 Moms
The Randomest Thread
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Re: The Randomest Thread
So DH's job/classes finally settled down and now he's back to the Mon-Fri 9-5 schedule. Before that he used to go to the gym every Tues & Thurs straight from work and get home at 8:15... Factor in shower time and he's not really available til 830. He also would go Sat 8a to noon. Plus, he's a jogger and usually goes for an hour run 4 days a week (then add stretch/shower time... So really like 1.5 hours.
He wants to go back to this exact routine. In his mind out lives and routine shouldn't change just because we have a baby... He also said that he'd be more than willing to take care of DS on other days do that I can get out of the house and be social etc...
I'm not in favor of this and it resulted in a huge argument. For one thing, I do all MOTN feeds. So, kinda sorta, I feel like a single mom from bedtime Monday night up until he gets home from the gym Tuesday night.... So nearly 24hrs. Same for Thurs. Plus factor in the Saturday time and the sporadic hour jogs.
He's seriously the most well rested and uninterrupted first time dad in the history of mankind.
I don't like the idea if trading off on free time. I'm trying to reduce the "single parent" time (Mon-Fri 9-5 makes sense... Beyond that makes less sense). I'm not dying to get out and be social... I'm just stressed at all the time I care for DS alone... And having time to leave him with DH does not solve the alone time problem.
He just keeps reiterating that just because we have a child doesn't mean our lifestyle has to change (i.e. He should be able to maintain his original gym routine).
I feel bad asking him to ease up on the gym...
Am I being unreasonable? I find myself talking in circles and not knowing if I'm just being a bitchy wife or not.... Ugh
ETA: the reason for the gym schedule is that he boxes... So it's specific training times w his coach that can't be changed.
The gym sessions need to be shortened. Period. Why does he get the mental break and not you? And the jogs need to be cut in half. Here's the thing - once you're out of the newborn/infant phase and your Lo STTN consistently and there a chance for BOTH of you to have some downtime, then the two of you can look to increase his time working out. But it is completely unreasonable of him to expect you to take all that additional time alone.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
It is ridiculous and selfish to think his life won't change after baby. H and I talked a lot about it before baby. He was afraid our active lives would be over. We finally came to the agreement that it wouldn't be over - just different. And that we should want it to be different. So now we trade our time for out personal stuff. And we trade out old personal stuff for together family time. It's kinda the whole point of transitioning from a couple to a family with children.
Emma Rose
Born 3.11.14
8lbs 14oz, 21.5 in
Thoughts?
This is a persistent fear of mine. I'm always double checking to make sure we have them!
Andplusalso hey everyone! It's been a bit overwhelming over here. Nothing too specific, just fussier than usual twins and a 3 year old getting used to new routines. So I've been a bit absent lately. Hoping things settle down and I can visit a bit more often!
Emma Rose
Born 3.11.14
8lbs 14oz, 21.5 in
I hope you make one! And then show us when your done!
@CruiseGirl28
I love all things nautical! More specifically anchors! I need to take pictures of the whole room. Its super cute
Engaged 12-12-10 Married 5-12-12 Baby Jaxon 3-23-14
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Yes! I said "but the baby is hungry"
It went way over his head because he said "well feed him and leave me alone" and even after I told him I was just being an ass he was like "so did you feed him?" I may need to get DH tested lol
Eta quote fail
But now H is up there draining the toilet to look around. Um, what do you think you're going to do? It's not like he's going to find something and fix it. This is going to be interesting. And hopefully not too expensive.
My confession: he wanted me to come look. I was napping in the couch with the baby. So I said no thanks, I'm good.
I'm not moving a sleeping baby (who normally refuses to sleep this long during the day) for something I can't possibly do anything about.
So 1.) No new water heater and
2.) Even after it's installed.....still there will be no hot water.
At least he gave MH the tips he needed to install it correctly and to code, and checked all the other work MH has done to make sure it was up to code (it is!) but.....did I mention we have no hot water? And haven't for going on a month?
FML.
I'm convinced every week is a growth spurt for Brooklyn.
Emma Rose
Born 3.11.14
8lbs 14oz, 21.5 in
I have no idea whats normal for an infant. Put in a call to the pedi to see how much tylenol i can give her..if any.