Got your fools mixed up.....

ABColeslaw · May 2014

Oh I read the post, you have a way with wording. I'm going to give you some transparently honest, read no snark intended, advice. If you want to stick around the bump, learn to roll with things and apologize and clarify as needed.

It isn't easy I guess. I myself had to eat shit a couple weeks ago for a post I participated in VERY out of character. And I was wrong, there was no good excuse and I had to say as such. I was called out on it, and I accepted that the only way to move forward was to say "You're right, I was out of line, there is no good reason for what I did, and I'm very sorry for my part in this"

Pat_gina · May 2014

I guess truth be told, I don't see how I was out of line with yesterday's comments on "we made it" I saw people bashing a woman who was excited about it being our birth month, I know another lady just lost a baby, it's hard to be sad & happy all at once. But I found it ok to grieve where need be and rejoice in the other post... I am only human.. I then get told to F off, I get private messages about me not changing a totals if a post- I DID NOT create, and I am the bad guy who needs to apologize??

The post I made about pitocin, c-sections, and epidurals was only because I wanted moms that have experienced such things to let me know their opinions or thoughts- I was ripped in to on that too.

I so posted about being exhausted- and it was like I had 2 heads, how dare I say I am tired....

I just don't see how anything is a win-win.

I like to read others stories- whether good, bad or ugly- it's helpful. But the way I have been treated here is something I have never experienced-

I can honestly say I am sorry for falling in to childish ways and letting others negativity get the best of me. But am I wrong for justifying my thoughts or trying to make people see differently then what the accuse me of?

Thank you for your input on autism, I appreciate, in all honesty, you taking a moment to be real.

Pat_gina · May 2014

Changing a title- I did not post.

awc1986 · May 2014

Well shit. I think we've finally reached new levels of crazy on the may BMB!

momthatlifts · May 2014

Pat_gina said:
I guess truth be told, I don't see how I was out of line with yesterday's comments on "we made it" I saw people bashing a woman who was excited about it being our birth month, I know another lady just lost a baby, it's hard to be sad & happy all at once. But I found it ok to grieve where need be and rejoice in the other post... I am only human.. I then get told to F off, I get private messages about me not changing a totals if a post- I DID NOT create, and I am the bad guy who needs to apologize??

The post I made about pitocin, c-sections, and epidurals was only because I wanted moms that have experienced such things to let me know their opinions or thoughts- I was ripped in to on that too.

I so posted about being exhausted- and it was like I had 2 heads, how dare I say I am tired....

I just don't see how anything is a win-win.

I like to read others stories- whether good, bad or ugly- it's helpful. But the way I have been treated here is something I have never experienced-

I can honestly say I am sorry for falling in to childish ways and letting others negativity get the best of me. But am I wrong for justifying my thoughts or trying to make people see differently then what the accuse me of?

Thank you for your input on autism, I appreciate, in all honesty, you taking a moment to be real.

Ok I can say from personal experience that they were not bashing in anyway. They were very polite in simply asking her to change the title. IF I were in ops situation, I would have just said: ok you're right I apologize, I'll change the title. Its a simple as that and this all could have been kept civil.

usernewname · May 2014

Crazy came out to play!

CamrynnsMommy · May 2014

btcruiserlove said:

CamrynnsMommy said:
@btcruiserlove‌, we can see you. Come out to play!

I'd love to hear your thoughts on how "vicious/viscous" we all are.
Do you have any idea how psychotic you sound? I don't come on here to play your games...I left that bs a long time ago. I come on here to make myself feel better. I don't thrive off drama you same 5 people on here who go out of your way to make people feel stupid and shitty. I truly believe in karma...and I highly advise you do too. Life is too precious and short for this crap.

And yet you're playing...

Welcome back, love.

julesf817 · May 2014

Pat_gina said:
I guess truth be told, I don't see how I was out of line with yesterday's comments on "we made it" I saw people bashing a woman who was excited about it being our birth month, I know another lady just lost a baby, it's hard to be sad & happy all at once. But I found it ok to grieve where need be and rejoice in the other post... I am only human.. I then get told to F off, I get private messages about me not changing a totals if a post- I DID NOT create, and I am the bad guy who needs to apologize??

You seem to be a bit slow on the uptake. Let me try to explain this clearly to you. Nobody bashed the "we made in!!!!" thread's OP for being excited about her baby or for posting her thread. Still with me? Nobody said "dont be excited!" Several posters pointed out that the title of her thread "we made it!!!" which happened to be sitting right under the loss thread, might be hurtful to the loss mom if she saw it. Are you still with me? We're talking about the title of the thread. Title. Do you understand how that title might be hurtful to a woman who didn't make it? It was suggested to the OP to change the title, which she refused to do because she's incredibly selfish. And then you defended her and called us mean and vicious for pointing that out to her. Do you really not understand why that thread title might have been hurtful? The TITLE. Nobody has said for a second that anyone else here shouldn't be excited about their baby.

usernewname · May 2014

Its one thing to be human, we make mistakes everyday.

The difference here is that you have choice before action. That post reply button can be pressed AFTER rereading your statements and questions and reconsidering if they are insensitive, hurtful or silly. You've made comments that are all insensitive, rude and stupid really. I'm not one to say things on here, but you has the power to choose what we say on here and how we say it.

The title was insensitive as it was posted HOURS after I read about ash tog. She's not "that lady" - she's a mama who didn't get to bring her baby home. All those months of excitement, planning and preparation were torn from her so unfairly. We are all excited about our babies, but it would have been nice to have ONE day in which her grieving was respected.

In addition, you've posted discussions asking questions that got you real answers. Answers you didn't want to hear. We aren't going to beat around the bush. And I'm glad there is a group of women I can ask a question and get a real answer. I've been flamed for my comments here and there, but some humility goes a long way. In addition to some humour for being snarked.

Before I get all sappy ... love you bishes!

spacepotatoes · May 2014

Lissiehoya said:

Because it's annoying me and just searching for the title of the study gave me this information from this report about the study:

"The increased autism risk in the JAMA study likely stems from an underlying problem with the pregnancy, rather than any of the methods used to jump-start labor, says lead author Simon Gregory of the Duke Institute of Molecular Physiology. ... Authors of the JAMA study note their research doesn't definitively prove a link betwen labor induction and autism. They say doctors shouldn't change the way they manage labor and delivery based on their study, which was funded by the Environmental Protection Agency."

"There was no increase in autism risk among women who had C-sections, Gregory says."

"Women shouldn't be afraid to have their labor induced, says JAMA study co-author Chad Grotegut, a Duke maternal-fetal medicine specialist. The risk of harm to a baby in distress is far greater than the modest risk of autism."

Yeah, but guys, somebody should have just TOLD her this. Would have totally solved everything. Google is hard.

@Jules51814 and @florassecret

Pat_gina · May 2014

Ok, get it, got it, good- I was upset as I was being told how rude I was that I personally wasn't changing the title- I didn't post the thing, so therefore couldn't change it. I was getting private messages about how inconsiderate I was- there was obviously a mix up. It's all good. I don't care to have issues...

Wishing you all happy, healthy deliveries- I cannot wait to meet my daughter. Best wishes!!!

sthomas1222 · May 2014

Pat_gina said:

Ok, get it, got it, good- I was upset as I was being told how rude I was that I personally wasn't changing the title- I didn't post the thing, so therefore couldn't change it. I was getting private messages about how inconsiderate I was- there was obviously a mix up. It's all good. I don't care to have issues... Wishing you all happy, healthy deliveries- I cannot wait to meet my daughter. Best wishes!!!

Uhm pretty sure not a single person asked you to change the title since we all know only OP can do that...

Kris2011RN · May 2014

This just shows what kind of a person you are (OP) for bringing this back up.

Karma's a b****

Pat_gina · May 2014

Are you all done?? Cause I sure am. Obviously, I wouldn't have posted this if I was not being asked to change something... I think this is now been beaten to death. Have a nice day/night- thanks!

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