If you got flamed

ToastieSimons · May 2014

would you just run off and leave the board?

I always wonder like our 2 must-not-be-named priors. It just seems lame that they can dish the flaming but as soon as it gets returned they run off.

EandIMommy86 · May 2014

Nope. I have been flamed several times and I am still here.

rockyrollgirl · May 2014

No. I learn from it and move on.

joyfullyfound · May 2014

I've been flamed before and felt like running away, but I stayed. It was early on, and I was an idealistic pregnant FTM who was overly judgey of everything and didn't understand the etiquette on here.

Personally, it depends on what a poster gets flammed for (obviously there are some things that cross a ling), but in general I respect someone for sticking around. I mean, look at Hav! We've let her have it so many times and she just keeps going, haha - and we love her! It's all forgotten (or at least forgiven) pretty quickly I've found.

Mrs.Greg · May 2014

When I first came to this board, I asked some pretty silly (stupid?) questions because I had a distorted view of my "duties" as a SAHM. I got flamed several times. Not enough to scare me off though! I laugh when I think back on the things I asked about!

jensriot · May 2014

I think it would depend on the offense. If I made a mistake I would probably apologize and try to move forward. People screw up all the time and I am perfectly capable of putting my foot in my mouth too. If it was clear the board really didn't want me to stick around (like was clear with one person I know of in the past), I would leave.

sschwege · May 2014

I've been flamed a couple of times, didn't scare me away. If I was repeatedly being flamed I would figure this wasn't the place for me and move on.

EandIMommy86 · May 2014

nowababy said:

Joyfully, Hav hasn't been here for a couple weeks since her last flaming!! Where you been girl? Busy with a new baby or something?

What happened? I wasn't here for that.

rosesandpetals · May 2014

I think getting flamed for one thing is nbd. If you're getting flamed regularly for different issues then it probably means the board isn't a good fit.

nonoemily · May 2014

It doesn't bother me if 90% of you don't agree with my POV. It's boring when everyone agrees and I'd prefer to offer a dissenting opinion than be all OMG ME TOO GUYS!!!

This board is so much more conservative than my own community, so I fully expect to be flamed from time to time.

zbeesma86 · May 2014

been there done that.

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bhuffman · May 2014

I would stick around.

Chapter79 · May 2014

Errr, I don't recall that I've ever really been straight up flamed? Unless people say it in their head and not to me. But no, I wouldn't leave. Shit happens. Sometimes 'we' say stupid things. I'm not that easy to get rid of (deepest apologies to you all)

dizzycooks · May 2014

Again? I thought we beat the "where's she go?" Horse to death already? I'd stick around, but I am too much of a conflict avoider to make a stink about much.

rosesandpetals · May 2014

nonoemily said:

It doesn't bother me if 90% of you don't agree with my POV. It's boring when everyone agrees and I'd prefer to offer a dissenting opinion than be all OMG ME TOO GUYS!!! This board is so much more conservative than my own community, so I fully expect to be flamed from time to time.

The board is conservative? Wut? That is weird coming from gun in the rocking chair person.

Guns in diaper bags are totally different, though.

rachie1019 · May 2014

nowababy said:
I'll just say this about that, if he were pulling his weight with their " guys" I'd have no problem at all with him not having another job. That's a sweet life to get to spend so much time with your family. And not easy work to take care of two adults. And if they didn't need more money, great!! But that's a lot if ifs that we don't know about.

Who were her "guys" anyway? I tried to figure it out. Was she a social worker who take care of people with special needs? Or family members maybe? I did get the feeling they lived with her. Just curious! I lurked a lot in the winter and got more active with posting just before she disappeared. Yes, I know why. She seemed conservative...

rosesandpetals · May 2014

rachie1019 said:

I'll just say this about that, if he were pulling his weight with their " guys" I'd have no problem at all with him not having another job. That's a sweet life to get to spend so much time with your family. And not easy work to take care of two adults. And if they didn't need more money, great!! But that's a lot if ifs that we don't know about.
Who were her "guys" anyway? I tried to figure it out. Was she a social worker who take care of people with special needs? Or family members maybe? I did get the feeling they lived with her. Just curious! I lurked a lot in the winter and got more active with posting just before she disappeared. Yes, I know why. She seemed conservative...

They were people with special needs who the state paid to live with her. She took care of them. made dinner, brought them to appointments, etc.

nonoemily · May 2014

roses&65335678 said:

nonoemily said:

It doesn't bother me if 90% of you don't agree with my POV. It's boring when everyone agrees and I'd prefer to offer a dissenting opinion than be all OMG ME TOO GUYS!!!

This board is so much more conservative than my own community, so I fully expect to be flamed from time to time.

The board is conservative? Wut? That is weird coming from gun in the rocking chair person.

Guns in diaper bags are totally different, though.

I live in a very liberal community. I don't know a single person IRL who goes to church or has conservative political views. And yes, this board is ultra-conservative compared to the other parents I know regarding extended RF, safety, vax issues, and basically every other controversial topic.

Which is part of the reason I enjoy this board/participate. If I wanted to know what the hippies thought, I'd just go ask them.

nonoemily · May 2014

TB says: vaccinate your children and rf til 2!

My family says: RF until you feel like it and vaxing is optional.

dizzycooks · May 2014

gwapes said:
@nonoemily how is this board more conservative on the topics of extended RF and vax issues?

I think she's trying to say extended rear facing is conservative.

rosesandpetals · May 2014

nonoemily said:

TB says: vaccinate your children and rf til 2! My family says: RF until you feel like it and vaxing is optional.

I dont think that word means what you think it means... lol. Not vaxing isn't a liberal thing, it's an idiot thing. (no offense.) I have confusion.

nonoemily · May 2014

roses&65335678 said:

nonoemily said:

TB says: vaccinate your children and rf til 2!

My family says: RF until you feel like it and vaxing is optional.

I dont think that word means what you think it means... lol. Not vaxing isn't a liberal thing, it's an idiot thing. (no offense.) I have confusion.

I don't mean liberal/conservative in the political sense.

nonoemily · May 2014

I mean conservative in the sense of cautious or careful.

nonoemily · May 2014

gwapes said:

nonoemily said:

nonoemily said:

It doesn't bother me if 90% of you don't agree with my POV. It's boring when everyone agrees and I'd prefer to offer a dissenting opinion than be all OMG ME TOO GUYS!!!

This board is so much more conservative than my own community, so I fully expect to be flamed from time to time.

The board is conservative? Wut? That is weird coming from gun in the rocking chair person.

Guns in diaper bags are totally different, though.

I live in a very liberal community. I don't know a single person IRL who goes to church or has conservative political views. And yes, this board is ultra-conservative compared to the other parents I know regarding extended RF, safety, vax issues, and basically every other controversial topic.

Which is part of the reason I enjoy this board/participate. If I wanted to know what the hippies thought, I'd just go ask them.

Oh. Well what sense to you mean it in?

When it comes to issues of parenting, this board tends to be more cautious and concerned of safety than people I know IRL

dizzycooks · May 2014

nonoemily said:

gwapes said:

nonoemily said:

nonoemily said:

It doesn't bother me if 90% of you don't agree with my POV. It's boring when everyone agrees and I'd prefer to offer a dissenting opinion than be all OMG ME TOO GUYS!!!

This board is so much more conservative than my own community, so I fully expect to be flamed from time to time.

The board is conservative? Wut? That is weird coming from gun in the rocking chair person.

Guns in diaper bags are totally different, though.
I live in a very liberal community. I don't know a single person IRL who goes to church or has conservative political views. And yes, this board is ultra-conservative compared to the other parents I know regarding extended RF, safety, vax issues, and basically every other controversial topic.

Which is part of the reason I enjoy this board/participate. If I wanted to know what the hippies thought, I'd just go ask them.

Oh. Well what sense to you mean it in?

When it comes to issues of parenting, this board tends to be more cautious and concerned of safety than people I know IRL

And yet you started by saying it's politically conservative..I think that's why people are confused.

nonoemily · May 2014

Sure. I didn't realize it would be confusing to use one word in more than one sense of it's meaning.

I'm not equating political conservative with people who take extra measures of caution, or rather, average measures of caution with their children or other important decisions.

trizzie · May 2014

I don't think I have ever been flamed? Disagreed with sure, but not flamed as far as I can recall.

ETA: but, no it wouldn't run me off.

AimeeL85 · May 2014

I've been flamed here and there, maybe nothing bad enough to really be called flamed, but it would depend what it was. If it happened enough that I felt I was very disliked, of course I'd leave. I like this board but if I stopped enjoying it, I wouldn't see a reason to continue participating.

ariel06 · May 2014

I was flamed a couple times when I was a new mom and relatively clueless. It was actually a good learning experience.

nonoemily · May 2014

Seasonal Affective Disorder.

rosesandpetals · May 2014

SAD is an actual thing. I'm not making excuses for her husband but it is more serious than just being a little sad in the winter.

lyingliarlies · May 2014

gwapes said:

CnAmom said:

I love winter and hate summer. I think I'm doing it wrong...

^ Same !

me three. i get depressed when it's too hot and nasty to go outside or it thunderstorms every afternoon.

thechickencoop · May 2014

CnAmom said:
I love winter and hate summer. I think I'm doing it wrong...

You are most definitely doing it wrong.

vlagrl29 · May 2014

No I never left, but I did belong to an FB page of bump moms and I couldn't stand all the crazy drama and cliques so I bailed and never looked back.

Aussie45 · May 2014

It depends on what I'm flamed for. Most stuff, eh, I don't really care. Stuff that I tell only a few people about and then the board knows and say shitty things about me, then I care.

Andrewsgal · May 2014

I got flamed for saying something about her husband too and I am still irritated with you bitches about that. I have been flamed a lot but that one was ridiculous. He husband is a douche and treats her like crap.

notkateanymore · May 2014

CnAmom said:

CnAmom said:

No. But then nobody seems to remember the one time I swear I got flamed, so I guess it was really no biggie.

What'd you do? huh? huh?

I told Hav her H was an asshole.

Oh so you told the truth?

No, I did not and would not leave if I got flamed.

notkateanymore · May 2014

nonoemily said:

TB says: vaccinate your children and rf til 2! My family says: RF until you feel like it and vaxing is optional.

Oh, so you mean your family is crazy and we're normal. That is more in line with gun in rocking chair.

notkateanymore · May 2014

auroraloo said:

Who doesn't have SAD, seriously? Everyone I know has it, pretty much. wow

I would have it if I lived by you...tooooo cold.

kcisthebombdotcom · May 2014

I have never been flamed and if I ever were I'd leave immediately as I am incredibly sensitive. :P

notkateanymore · May 2014

KC_13 said:

I have never been flamed and if I ever were I'd leave immediately as I am incredibly sensitive. :P

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