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March 2014 Moms
The Randomest Thread
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Re: The Randomest Thread
On another note - if thoughts could kill, MH would be dead right now.
Backstory - we had a rough day today that included refusal of the afternoon nap and a nasty giant poopsplosion resulting in me needing to change and wash her onesie, the mamaroo newborn insert, and another bath for her.
Lo went down around 7:30 as she refused her nap and had been up since noon. She woke just before 2, we changed her and I nursed her for an hour and she fell asleep. Success! (MH has been very anti-prolonged sessions as it affected my recovery but I am going to get my supply up, damn it!!) she goes down at about 3am.
4:20 rolls around and we wake to a sound and a smell. He pops out of bed and says, "that's it, I'm done with newborn diapers" and before I can stop him, he's got her out of the rnp and is off to change her even though she hasn't complained and is fast asleep.
Big mistake. Because not only is she clean, she's awake and now cranky. I get her reswaddled and say to MH that it's his turn to get her down. I go back into the bedroom and lie fine and he starts pacing with her but she's screaming. Msybe 2 mins go by. He then says "stop" in a harsh tone and all I hear is her sobbing. I get out of bed, figuring to nurse her down to find that he has left her in pitch black in the crib while he went to make a formula bottle.
I am PISSED. I get her out if the crib, start to soothe her and start nursing. He comes back in with the bottle and I admonish him for leaving her there like that. He asks what to do with the bottle and I tell him to put it in the fridge and go to bed. I was up nursing hr down until 5:10.
Jerk.
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
I really want to fast forward to a point when LO is going more than 3 hours between feedings at night... But I don't want to miss out on this newborn cuteness.
So exhausted.
Maybe I'll try napping more during the day so I can survive the night. Maybe I'm putting him down too early... I've been aiming for the 9ish hour because that's about the time I turn into a zombie... But if I just let him nap at the 9ish session and do a closer to midnight bedtime... Maybe he'll last longer? Ugh then the little voice in the back of my head is saying a midnight bedtime is a dangerous habit to establish because when I go back to work that will not fly.
Tell me I'm over thinking things... Sooo sleepy....
I know he just wants to have a plan and strike pre-emptively but you don't wake a sleeping baby!!!
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
And @SomersIsles I have a good sleeper of a baby so maybe what works for me won't help you at all, but pretty much I prioritize my sleep above everything except the baby's needs. Whenever he is quiet and content/sleeping I am also sleeping until I feel I have had enough sleep!
Some days this means that I am not out of bed until 1, or no housework gets done, but that and reading time are the two things I need to maintain my sanity and happiness...so that's what I do!
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
My heart hurts and I just spent my commute to work sobbing.
Harper was a very, VERY planned IVF baby and we had numerous discussions regarding our readiness to start IVF and have a baby. It makes me upset that he wasn't honest about it in the beginning. I of course told him this before I left, but I think it fell on deaf ears.
Me: 28 DH: 27
I think he was having a bad morning after working all night. He has since apologized and said that he loves Harper and is so happy she's here. I don't think he expected his life to change so much when she arrived and he's having a SGR moment of late.
Me: 28 DH: 27
I'm such a freaking failure.
Emma Rose
Born 3.11.14
8lbs 14oz, 21.5 in
@FarmBoysWife fx you'll get to be a SAHM very very soon!
We haven't had success with the crib yet. I use the bedside bassinet that rocks... Not sure what I'm going to do when we transition to the crib... Which obviously does not rock lol
Flame me, but i put her down on her side and back against the pnp side to see what would happen during a nap and she slept for three hours.
@saisongbird I agree with all of the above, especially that you can PM me any time and also that having my DH fill in some of the missing pieces was very helpful. I sat down with him and explained how hurt I was that I couldn't remember and that I needed him to recount as much detail as he could for me. He didn't understand at first because he thought "not much happened" and everything is fine now so I shouldn't feel so down about it. But I explained again, with tears, that I just really needed him to tell me exactly how things went, what I did, if I held her, when I first breastfed, what our parents said when they met Kara, and so on because I couldn't remember any of it and it was killing me.
He did tell me a lot about those "missing hours," and I felt much better after that and a good cry. It was so hard for the first month or so... I felt so guilty and cheated out of those memories. But time and new memories with Kara have really helped me heal that pain.
Also... I hope I'm not out of line saying this, but I really wish that your H wasn't so quick to shoot down breastfeeding. I know your recovery has been rough and you certainly need to do whatever it takes to stay healthy and feed your child... but you seem to really want to make BFing work and it just hurts my heart that maybe he's not as supportive of that as you need him to be (although it seems to be because he's so worried about you... which is well-intentioned).
Emma Rose
Born 3.11.14
8lbs 14oz, 21.5 in