AW: My RE tattletailed to my OB

MyFirstRaspberry · May 2014

I shall start with a quick back story.

Ever since my D&C on Jan 21 I've had sporadic bleeding and cramping. At one point it was consistent enough for me to think AF arrived. And I marked my temp chart as such and moved on. At my post op appt. I told my OB that I still was bleeding a little - he was not concerned. Before I went to see the RE, I emailed my OB and told him I was still bleeding sometimes - still not concerned. My OB did not follow my beta's down.

A week ago I started going to an RE. He just so happened to know my OB personally. I had blood work drawn at my first RE appt. The results showed I still had HCG in my system after 14 weeks post D&C.

RE office said do another blood draw Ras... so I did. Anyone up for guessing??
Yep, 15 weeks post D&C my HCG was still 55.

I emailed my RE and said I want an u/s to check for retained tissue. RE said, sure thing Ras you got it. I went to the u/s this morning. RE says, Ras your lining is really thick, you might need another D&C.

My first thought...

My second thought...

I said what a min Dr. RE, couldn't I avoid a D&C by taking a medication to force my lining to shed?
RE response: we'll maybe that is possible, I'm not sure if it would work - I'll need to talk with your OB about that.
Ras response: you do that Dr. RE guy, you do that.

I get a lovely voice mail from my OB.

OB: Ummm... Ras, so I got an email from Dr. RE. This is exactly why I told you to let me know if you did not get AF in April. Yes, we can treat this with medication. You need to come into the office right away.... but the office is closed now, so call on Monday. Oh, and I'm out all next week so you will have to see another Dr. in the practice.

I'm gonna need a drink (s)....

luciddreamer106 · May 2014

OMG, Ras. That is so frustrating. I'm sorry that you're still dealing with all of this. TP to your OB for not following up with you sooner. Do they not realize that sometimes it's hard to tell between your period and the abnormal bleeding? Sheesh. Shame on your OB for trying to put this on you

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LaRomana09 · May 2014

(((((((HUGS))))))) I would be so annoyed with both of them.

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buggirl72 · May 2014

I'm so sorry Ras. Can you find another OB practice because your OB kind of sounds like a douchebag?

Big ((((hugs)))) and I'm glad they are willing to go the medication route first.

MyFirstRaspberry · May 2014

GrailSeeker14 said:

OMG that's horrible! I agree with what luciddreamer said - perhaps the OB should have been a bit more vigilant about tracking your betas down/etc rather than putting it all onto you to differentiate between abnormal bleeding and regular AF... and then BLAMING you for it?!?! That's just plain rude. Since the OB's office is closed, can the RE's office provide the back-up to get medication going sooner so you don't have to wait through the weekend?

OB made it clear that he wanted me to come in for an appt. first before the medication is prescribed.

Its been 15 weeks, what's another few days. I'll get an extra few drinks in the weekend before I endure the pain of miso.

taberbtb · May 2014

That's awful your OB would try to put this on you like that!! TP to them!! I second what PP mentioned- is it possible for your RE to give you the medication you need since your OB has already ok'd it?

MrsG80inTN · May 2014

How incredibly frustrating! I'm sorry you're having to deal with this!!!!!

jlworden710 · May 2014

ugh, I hope the meds work out for you so you don't have to do another D&C.

jlworden710 · May 2014

p.s. tell your RE snitches get stitches... no tattleing (however in this case it will get you meds... so I suppose its acceptable)

renbee · May 2014

Jesus. I'm so sorry your doctors are being boneheads. It's so frustrating when they don't just listen to what their patients are telling them, an instead act like we don't know our own bodies. Hope your levels go down soon!

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TVLily · May 2014

Shame on your ob for putting that on you. I'm sorry this saga is continuing for you. I hope it's over soon.

megrae12 · May 2014

Ugh! I am so sorry, Ras. That is completely ridiculous. Lots of ((hugs)) hun.

loveinkw13 · May 2014

OMG, that is terrible. Drink up this weekend and big ((hugs)) to you

blackbird818 · May 2014

Giant ((((((hugs)))))). I hate this whole situation for you!! I'm reiterating my post on your wall. I just picked up some craft paint at joann's and my wine fridge is stocked. Lets do this!

bumpuser9524622 · May 2014

That sucks! I hope you don't need another D&C. (((Hugs)))

uneek1323 · May 2014

Oh no no no no no no no. I hate when doctors do that. Take every opportunity to get in clever, sarcastic jabs. I'm sorry you're going through this.

MoreThanSparrows08 · May 2014

Wow, how dare he try to blame you when he should have been more proactive in following up with you. What a jerk! ((hugs)) and lots of drinks coming your way!

HeyMrsPotter · May 2014

Ugh. How nice of your OB to leave you a blame-laden message over something he failed to follow up on. I'm sorry that happened, and so sorry you're still dealing with this. ((HUGS)) lady. If I could I'd buy you more than a few drinks this weekend.

Km380 · May 2014

Oh that's so ridiculous your ob blamed you. It's not like it comes with a little sign that says "hi it's me AF" to make it clear. I'm sorry you're going through this. I agree with PP might be time for a new ob. I'd buy you many drinks if I could

Soulbyte · May 2014

Really annoying. Really really. Really. I'm still at 50 since mar 24 and had 2 AF like occurrences in about 2.5 weeks. It's impossible to tell what is what so far as I can see. Am actually sitting here with wine now in solidarity.

katib77 · May 2014

To quote an old tgif show "How RUDE!" And an RE that's not sure about miso and has to check with an OB? Yeah, red flag. I mean, keeping them in the loop is one thing, but this sounded more than that.

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LizBlue · May 2014

That was crappy of him. I'm sorry you're still dealing with this crap. You deserve all the drinks. Go get them.

jbasore1123 · May 2014

katib77 said:

To quote an old tgif show "How RUDE!" And an RE that's not sure about miso and has to check with an OB? Yeah, red flag. I mean, keeping them in the loop is one thing, but this sounded more than that.

This exactly

MyFirstRaspberry · May 2014

buggirl72 said:

I'm so sorry Ras. Can you find another OB practice because your OB kind of sounds like a douchebag?

Big ((((hugs)))) and I'm glad they are willing to go the medication route first.

@buggirl72 I agree. I do plan to research a new OB after I get the meds I want.

katib77 said:

To quote an old tgif show "How RUDE!" And an RE that's not sure about miso and has to check with an OB? Yeah, red flag. I mean, keeping them in the loop is one thing, but this sounded more than that.

@katib77 I definitely made a mental note of this. I think what he was unsure about is if the miso was strong enough to force the lining out. Also, he probably wanted the OB to weigh in because the OB performed the D&C. Not trying to stick up for the RE but trying to understand the thought process.

MyFirstRaspberry · May 2014

And also... thank you everyone for the ((hugs)) and drinks. Much appreciated!

alleycat39 · May 2014

So so sorry you are dealing with this.

smcniff · May 2014

Sounds like a nightmare to me. ((((hugs)))) to you for having to deal with this.

Frenchteachermama · May 2014

I can't believe it!! ((Hugs))

LiaMadi1 · May 2014

Ras, a few notes on your situation... 1. (((Hugs))) beyond, beyond, beyond B. I love your sense of humor in this shitty situation Third, you are one strong lady to putting up with this. Drinks all around! I would be the bartender if I wasn't currently in the fetal position in bed from these ridiculous post septum removal surgery cramps. I make a mean Mai Tai...

nola219 · May 2014

And that's why I hate doctors! Big TP to your OB, and a big slap in the face to your RE! Big ((HUGS)) to you! The best doctors turn into total douchbags when they do or say something wrong, because they are NEVER wrong. 8-|