It's our birth month!!!we made it!!!

Hrhodes78 · May 2014

Holy crap I'm having a baby this month!!!!

deanna1313 · May 2014

I know! It's so scary and exciting all at the same time! Yay!!!

ujocdeelovely · May 2014

Yay!! Let the laboring and contractions begin!!

Krisd6 · May 2014

Reality is coming fast!!!
It is so exciting

bazingaa · May 2014

Yes, I suppose as M14 moms most of us will be having a baby this month.

SweetTea420 · May 2014

Can't wait to hear more birth stories and more importantly see more cute baby pictures!!!

gutsysneakers · May 2014

I can't believe it is May. Holy shit, reality is hitting...

His(1&only)wife · May 2014

Very exciting!!! DS1 this morning was very happy and said "now baby brother can come"

sparklingdiamond · May 2014

Ah! Finally! I remember when it seemed so far away!

kat8805 · May 2014

Sadly, not everyone made it, and not everyone has been blessed with a take home baby. It's sweet that you are excited, but just yesterday, we had a VERY late loss. Please be kind and remember that while you celebrate, and welcome your LO into your family, others are grieving a very tragic loss.

usernewname · May 2014

kat8805 said:

Sadly, not everyone made it, and not everyone has been blessed with a take home baby. It's sweet that you are excited, but just yesterday, we had a VERY late loss. Please be kind and remember that while you celebrate, and welcome your LO into your family, others are grieving a very tragic loss.

This.

As much as I am excited to meet my LO, our hearts are hurting for those who should have made it. Its unimaginable and I can't even begin to understand what it would be like. And I still can't even understand how it happens to someone so late in the game.

ksyknelvr73 · May 2014

kat8805 said:

Sadly, not everyone made it, and not everyone has been blessed with a take home baby. It's sweet that you are excited, but just yesterday, we had a VERY late loss. Please be kind and remember that while you celebrate, and welcome your LO into your family, others are grieving a very tragic loss.

Exactly. I just feel like there should be some sensitivity shown right now.

mirdamae03 · May 2014

You may edit your title to remove the "we made it" bit.

runningyogimama · May 2014

mirdamae03 said:
You may edit your title to remove the "we made it" bit.

Exactly this, @Hrhodes78‌. It's in poor taste given the timing.

Miles2Go · May 2014

kat8805 said:
Sadly, not everyone made it, and not everyone has been blessed with a take home baby. It's sweet that you are excited, but just yesterday, we had a VERY late loss. Please be kind and remember that while you celebrate, and welcome your LO into your family, others are grieving a very tragic loss.

Agreed. Tact- this post needs a little. Be excited, but perhaps edit your title out of respect.

pistolpackinmomma · May 2014

I'm glad I'm not the only one who took issue with this. Yes it is May but sadly not everyone has made it.

awc1986 · May 2014

I admit that i did cringe when i saw this. Perhaps OP wasn't aware of the situation when they posted? I think a title change would be respectful, given the timing.

fatbarbie0226 · May 2014

While it is important to remember the May mom's who have had losses, I don't think we should flame people for being excited that our birth month has finally arrived. Yes, we need tact and dignity and maybe the title here is a little inappropriate, given the timing, but I don't think we should suck the excitement of having a baby away from those who are here and ecstatic for a new addition to their family.
We still love reading the announcement board and seeing everyone's little babies! It is such a precious and exciting time!
Yay it's May! Yay we're having babies! It ok to be excited! But tactfully, given the recent news.

awc1986 · May 2014

@fatbarbie0226 - Perfectly put.

Miles2Go · May 2014

fatbarbie0226 said:
While it is important to remember the May mom's who have had losses, I don't think we should flame people for being excited that our birth month has finally arrived. Yes, we need tact and dignity and maybe the title here is a little inappropriate, given the timing, but I don't think we should suck the excitement of having a baby away from those who are here and ecstatic for a new addition to their family.
We still love reading the announcement board and seeing everyone's little babies! It is such a precious and exciting time!
Yay it's May! Yay we're having babies! It ok to be excited! But tactfully, given the recent news.

Who's flaming? I don't see a single one.

spacepotatoes · May 2014

@fatbarbie0226 I think it is the title that the OP is catching flak for, not the excitement. Everyone is still allowed to be happy about making it to May but I agree, we should be tactful about it and respectful of others' circumstances.

runningyogimama · May 2014

Miles2Go said:

fatbarbie0226 said:
While it is important to remember the May mom's who have had losses, I don't think we should flame people for being excited that our birth month has finally arrived. Yes, we need tact and dignity and maybe the title here is a little inappropriate, given the timing, but I don't think we should suck the excitement of having a baby away from those who are here and ecstatic for a new addition to their family.
We still love reading the announcement board and seeing everyone's little babies! It is such a precious and exciting time!
Yay it's May! Yay we're having babies! It ok to be excited! But tactfully, given the recent news.
Who's flaming? I don't see a single one.

This. Simply gentle suggestions to someone who may not be aware....

pistolpackinmomma · May 2014

mary97 said:
The timing is a bad but I see nothing wrong with being excited it's finally May. It's been a long journey and we are towards the end. After the post yesterday, MFM finding a potential problem this morning that they will check again in a week, I could really use some positive right now and when I saw this post I got a little happy again because all I wanted to do this morning is cry.

Again. No one said don't be excited but just that saying yay we made it isn't the best choice of words given yesterday's news.

Bayberry12 · May 2014

kat8805 said:

Sadly, not everyone made it, and not everyone has been blessed with a take home baby. It's sweet that you are excited, but just yesterday, we had a VERY late loss. Please be kind and remember that while you celebrate, and welcome your LO into your family, others are grieving a very tragic loss.

I'd just like to add that we haven't "made it" until our little ones are here, safe, in our arms, and alive.

mrspopsicle · May 2014

I'd just like to add that we haven't "made it" until our little ones are here, safe, in our arms, and alive.

Quote fail

The worrying never goes away and doesn't decrease because your baby is born. You never stop worrying, it just evolves. Are they moving enough? turns into are they breathing and then are they safe. Eventually it will be are they keeping up in school? Being bullied? Driving safely? Marrying the right person?

Welcome to motherhood - we get to worry for the rest of our lives!

pandadair · May 2014

mrspopsicle said:

I'd just like to add that we haven't "made it" until our little ones are here, safe, in our arms, and alive.
Quote fail The worrying never goes away and doesn't decrease because your baby is born. You never stop worrying, it just evolves. Are they moving enough? turns into are they breathing and then are they safe. Eventually it will be are they keeping up in school? Being bullied? Driving safely? Marrying the right person? Welcome to motherhood - we get to worry for the rest of our lives!

*2nd quote fail*

Dd you read @bayberry12's siggy? I feel like this thread is going to start verging on the territory of meta.I think she made a perfectly valid, inarguable point as a late loss mom.

And FFS (not directed at you @mrspopsicle) no one flamed anybody. It's just bad timing for that wording and all anyone said was maybe change the title? Pretty sure no one said we are no longer allowed to be excited.

mrspopsicle · May 2014

I'm not even going to try to quote because it doesn't seem to be working for me.

I'm on mobile so no siggys, but maybe I came across wrong. I wasn't directing it at @Bayberry12‌ or anyone else. More a "general" you. I was actually agreeing with her and taking her point further.

Of course we will all feel huge a sense of relief when we hold our babies safely in our arms for the first time, but that sigh of relief will happen a million more times as worried mothers with babies of all ages.

hfooter · May 2014

Miles2Go said:

While it is important to remember the May mom's who have had losses, I don't think we should flame people for being excited that our birth month has finally arrived. Yes, we need tact and dignity and maybe the title here is a little inappropriate, given the timing, but I don't think we should suck the excitement of having a baby away from those who are here and ecstatic for a new addition to their family. We still love reading the announcement board and seeing everyone's little babies! It is such a precious and exciting time! Yay it's May! Yay we're having babies! It ok to be excited! But tactfully, given the recent news.
Who's flaming? I don't see a single one.

Wondering the same damn thing.

fatbarbie0226 · May 2014

hfooter said:

Miles2Go said:

fatbarbie0226 said:
While it is important to remember the May mom's who have had losses, I don't think we should flame people for being excited that our birth month has finally arrived. Yes, we need tact and dignity and maybe the title here is a little inappropriate, given the timing, but I don't think we should suck the excitement of having a baby away from those who are here and ecstatic for a new addition to their family.
We still love reading the announcement board and seeing everyone's little babies! It is such a precious and exciting time!
Yay it's May! Yay we're having babies! It ok to be excited! But tactfully, given the recent news.
Who's flaming? I don't see a single one.

Wondering the same damn thing.

--------- quote box fail
I didn't say anyone specifically was flaming. Just a bit of a buzz kill. OP was just trying to share her excitement (and a lot of us are also excited for it to be May!) and people jumped all over her for poor word choice. As I stated before, losses are terrible and sad, but you can still be excited for others and for your new addition! And, I don't know about you, but I haven't had a good buzz for a long time... so I'll take anything I can get!

Edit: quote box

ABColeslaw · May 2014

fatbarbie0226 said:

Miles2Go said:

While it is important to remember the May mom's who have had losses, I don't think we should flame people for being excited that our birth month has finally arrived. Yes, we need tact and dignity and maybe the title here is a little inappropriate, given the timing, but I don't think we should suck the excitement of having a baby away from those who are here and ecstatic for a new addition to their family. We still love reading the announcement board and seeing everyone's little babies! It is such a precious and exciting time! Yay it's May! Yay we're having babies! It ok to be excited! But tactfully, given the recent news.
Who's flaming? I don't see a single one.

Wondering the same damn thing.
--------- quote box fail I didn't say anyone specifically was flaming. Just a bit of a buzz kill. OP was just trying to share her excitement (and a lot of us are also excited for it to be May!) and people jumped all over her for poor word choice. As I stated before, losses are terrible and sad, but you can still be excited for others and for your new addition! And, I don't know about you, but I haven't had a good buzz for a long time... so I'll take anything I can get! Edit: quote box

Oh dear Lord. Be excited, but employ some tact. Losses aren't just terrible and sad, they are life changers. Late losses.....well your excitement is not more important that showing some respect for a decent period of time. FFS, get over yourself "I have the right to be excited" You sound like a child. Yes I'm still excited for my baby, but today I am sad for a fellow member of this board, why? Because I know she will never be the same ever again. She isn't just sad dude. All anyone was saying was "please change your words a little" That is not an unreasonable request.

sisterjanet · May 2014

@fatbarbie0226 "Buzz kill?" You lost me there, 100%. Yes, we can be happy and relieved that we made it so far. Yes we can celebrate our personal milestones, and we're due this month, yay, whatever.

That said, a lot of women have had serious bad things happen on this board. We've had late losses, and we've had scary situations resulting in early babies. I'm no good at anger, but you describing serious things going on around you as a "buzz kill," you have no idea the rage that fills me with.

LoveIsAll25 · May 2014

Seriously, just change the title. It's insensitive. I usually log on first thing in the morning but after reading about ashtog's loss late last night I honestly wasn't in the mood for anything today. And then I log in at 8:30pm and I see this post. What if she logs in to update us on her status and the first thing she sees is a celebration post. Maybe I am overreacting...but w/e just stating how I feel.

RedInLove · May 2014

fatbarbie0226 said:
I didn't say anyone specifically was flaming. Just a bit of a buzz kill. OP was just trying to share her excitement (and a lot of us are also excited for it to be May!) and people jumped all over her for poor word choice. As I stated before, losses are terrible and sad, but you can still be excited for others and for your new addition! And, I don't know about you, but I haven't had a good buzz for a long time... so I'll take anything I can get!

... I don't even know how to respond to this.

jschwind22 · May 2014

Wait. @fatbarbie0226. Did you just call a woman's late loss a "buzz kill"? That's disgusting.

ABColeslaw · May 2014

@fatbarbie You have a private message.

Pat_gina · May 2014

Yay for May.... I am super excited. It's been a long wait, but finally here. May you have a healthy delivery- best wishes :-)

Hrhodes78 · May 2014

Wow. This went so down the wrong path I'm shocked. I,like everyone else, think that it's a horrible situation that she is in. That goes without saying and my heart breaks for her. I can not imagine the pain she is enduring now.

However, I will NOT change any part of my subject line, statement or feelings I have regarding my happiness. I have just as much right to express joy as others do about sadness.

I can't believe I even have to address something like this. Such a shame.

pandadair · May 2014

Hrhodes78 said:

Wow. This went so down the wrong path I'm shocked. I,like everyone else, think that it's a horrible situation that she is in. That goes without saying and my heart breaks for her. I can not imagine the pain she is enduring now. However, I will NOT change any part of my subject line, statement or feelings I have regarding my happiness. I have just as much right to express joy as others do about sadness. I can't believe I even have to address something like this. Such a shame.

I... what?

WorldsBestDH · May 2014

Hrhodes78 said:
Wow. This went so down the wrong path I'm shocked. I,like everyone else, think that it's a horrible situation that she is in. That goes without saying and my heart breaks for her. I can not imagine the pain she is enduring now.

However, I will NOT change any part of my subject line, statement or feelings I have regarding my happiness. I have just as much right to express joy as others do about sadness.

I can't believe I even have to address something like this. Such a shame.

This kindergarten "me me me" attitude is exactly what's wrong with the human race.

Try thinking about someone else. It might surprise you.

CamrynnsMommy · May 2014

Hrhodes78 said:

However, I will NOT change any part of my subject line, statement or feelings I have regarding my happiness. I have just as much right to express joy as others do about sadness.

And this is why you are an insensitive prick.

Miles2Go · May 2014

Oh ffs.

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