@FarmBoysWife I'm sorry today is so difficult. Creepy internet hugs. You are not a terrible person, it is just a tough transition. You all will get there.
I'm sorry @FarmBoysWife i hope it gets better tonight. When Jackson was under the uv light in the hospital he lost his voice from crying and I know how heartbreaking that is he fusses at me for about a half hour when I get home from work like he's yelling at me. Sunday after 2 12 hour shifts in a row he was inconsolable for at least an hour. I hope Ethan starts feeling better. It'll get easier as you all transition to the new normal. **hugs**
@FarmBoysWife I'm sorry it is rough transitioning. Hopefully it settles down soon. I go back in 3 weeks and I am the sole income, I am already dreading it.
I would offer hugs, but I am not a hugger and I get the impression you aren't either. So...internet fist bump?
Married 11/23/11, TTC starting 10/12, BFP#1 11/30/12, Adoption of stepson finalized 03/19/13,Loss of our daughter at 20w4d due to incompetent cervix 03/27/13, BFP#2 06/28/13, DS2 born 3/1/14.
I'm happy I won't be a SAHM. I am really enjoying my time with A now but I also really love my career and no part of me is interested in putting it on hiatus.
But MH is staying home! No crazy babysitters for us!
I'm happy I won't be a SAHM. I am really enjoying my time with A now but I also really love my career and no part of me is interested in putting it on hiatus.
But MH is staying home! No crazy babysitters for us!
This is me too. My H is going to be a SAHD. I love my career and get a lot if satisfaction out if working every day.
@FarmBoysWife sorry your night has been rough. I hope it gets better and tomorrow goes smoothly.
____________ Emma Rose Born 3.11.14 8lbs 14oz, 21.5 in
@fbw sorry things are rough.
I'm another one who never thought I'd want to SAH, but now that i only have 3 weeks of maternity leave left, it's all I want. I think part of it is I'm bored with what I teach. I'm hoping to switch after next year and hopefully that will help.
@wisconsincheese12 Clearly I missed something in the past. What is this MIL camera thing you speak of? It sounds creepy...
@farmboyswife So sorry things are so rough for you I hope tomorrow is way better than today!
Also, I also have concerns with childcare... my MIL is generally responsible but sometimes not so much. I didn't realize how much of a nervous nelly I'd be once I became a mom. THEN I started thinking about full time child care when I go back to work in September and I got super sad. Whoever watches my child will be, intentionally or not, instilling values in him... will be seeing milestones while I'm at work... like what if he takes his first steps at daycare?? What if he says his first word at daycare?? (when do they say their first word...?) I started thinking about this in the shower and started bawling.... ugh
I am putting my career in a different direction. Before BFP I worked my ass off to become icu charge nurse now since being out for so long and LO is here I want to be a SAHM. I am changing departments and only working per diem as a clinical skills educator. I would leave completely but I don't want to loose all of the years I have already put in at the hospital.
Brooklyn has been an angel baby all day and evening. DH and I just keep nervously looking at each other wondering WTH is going on. She didn't even fuss during her normal "witching hour" and has taken three good naps today.
It's a good thing I finally managed to work enough odd jobs for family that I can afford to start going to the gym every day. @_@ That, and I'm a human pacifier today.
I'm much more lenient with my family than with the ILs! My family respects my wishes, doesn't intrude, gives my baby back when she needs me, doesn't ask stupid or redundant questions (EVERY time I see SIL she asks me if I still BF) and (this one's huge) doesn't use screechy baby talk 24/7. My boy recently asked me why MIL "talks like that." She still uses baby talk to address him. He's 7.
Side note: I'm dreading this weekend. There's a surprise party for DH's grandma and allllll the ILs will be there. I'm still angry and want to be a jerk and not let them hold the baby, but I don't think DH would let me get away with it. Is it bad that I'm going to try to time her feedings so she'll have to eat during the party?
Bubba, born Jan. 2007 * Sissy, born Apr. 2009 * Baby Sister, born Feb. 2014
Add me to the list of trusting my family more than the ILs. But the last time my MIL tried to take the baby from my husband, it was to try to pass her off to a nanny or maid to take my baby away.
@kewii - dafuq? 1)Your MIL has nanny/maids? 2) DAFUQ! She didn't even ask you if you were ready to be rid of your baby for the time being?
1) Yup. But keep in mind that we live in a very wealthy country and labour is cheap. The nannies are actually for my SIL's kids--who live in the house. Actually, the whole family lives in the house except for us.
2) Yup. But at least it was better than last time when LO was 2 weeks old and tried to convince us to leave her alone in the house while everyone went outside to have tea.
I trust both my in-laws and my parents, but of the four of them my mom is BY FAR the best with A. MIL gets all fluttery and uncertain; the men enjoy him but hand him back if he fusses.
My mom, however, is the baby whisperer. This is likely because I was the most colicky baby known to man and she had to learn some skillz. She never forgot them.....
We discovered with DS1 that my in-laws are really awkward with babies. It amazes me sometimes that they managed to raise two kids. DH feels the same way so he's good about helping me supervise and give them instructions when we see them. They have learned from it and are a little better this time around. At least they recognize when they really need to hand a baby over.
My parents have had a little more experience as I have 2 nieces under 4 that they spend a lot of time with. My brother is also way more uptight about all the baby-raising rules and doesn't hesitate to call our parents out so they are very well-trained. My mom and I are also very similar in mannerisms and how we approach things with babies so that helps too.
My FIL is awkward with the baby, letting him flip a little too much. And handed him back quickly. But my MIL passed away right after we found out we were pregnant. I often imagine how irritating she would have been with her 30 year old advice. But she would have loved the hell out if every minute. I wish I could have been aggravated with everything she did or said.
My dad was more hands on than I thought. He even sang to him to try to calm him down. My mom was fine. And listened to me when I told her to back off or do something different. Unfortunately, with her health problems and medications, I can't leave her alone for long periods of time.
No one lives close, so we aren't missing out on the free babysitting. But I do wish things were different on a number of fronts.
@proudmommy030614 - Was it you that I saw on the High Risk board that had to do blood thinners?
Probably I was on them for most of my pregnancy due to a blood clot and I am still on them for hopefully a few more weeks. It sucks!
Same here. I was wondering if you had to take them for your other kids? I'm starting to think about the next LO. I've been told I have to take them with every other pregnancy, and I am wondering how hellish an entire pregnancy worth of lovenox would be like.
@kewii - dafuq? 1)Your MIL has nanny/maids? 2) DAFUQ! She didn't even ask you if you were ready to be rid of your baby for the time being?
No I never had to take them before it was a freak thing and I was told the same thing. My clot was found pretty early so I had along time on them, it wasn't so bad I got used to it. I would totes have another LO and go through it again but we have 3 and arent having anymore.
I would like to share that A just slept from 10:30 pm through to 5am. Then after his usual morning marathon nursing/diaper change/nurse more session, he slept from 7 to 9:30.
I went to pump and realized I left my flanges on the drying rack at home. Good thing it takes 3 minutes by car to get from work to home. I wanted to just nurse M, but she was conked out in the MammaRoo so here I sit, pumping...with all my parts now!
I did that a few times with DS1. If I didn't live so close to where I worked I would have bought parts just to keep there.
How is it possible I actually weigh LESS than before I got pregnant, but NONE of my PP jeans freaking fit????
I need to start doing crunches or something. Which will be a breeze, what with all that free time I have.
Seriously here too! My stomach is still pretty squishy but my hips are much wider now. I can get some pairs to button but boy are they tight. I can tone squishy but will the hips go back or should I just invest in new pants?
Another ditto here! Hips are wider. It's hard to button my pants but they otherwise fit! I feel bad buying new clothes while were on one income right now though
I can't keep up with bumping anymore now that I'm back to work we are expecting horrific thunderstorms and tornados right as school is getting out this afternoon...
@addisonsmom22 B is currently napping on my chest but I'm planning a trip to Starbucks as soon as she's up and fed because if I don't get out of the house at least once a day I go insane.
Buhhh... why did I sign up to write a paper this semester? The last thing I feel like doing right now is footnotes.
My mother took J after I fed him this morning so that I could get work done, because I have this paper, bar applications are due, and then studying for the two finals I have next week. I've written a whole two pages in the last hour... while bumping and online shopping. I really should be working...
I scored such a good deal last night! I got a $230 double stroller (which I've been NEEDING so we won't be housebound all day with the daycare kids) for $45!!! I've been looking for one for awhile, but since I didn't want the style where one kid sits in front of the other, finding an affordable one proved to be a challenge. Now LO can hang in the Ergo while I push the other two littles (7 months & 16 months) and the big girls can walk or ride their bikes. Love me some FB garage sale groups!
Bubba, born Jan. 2007 * Sissy, born Apr. 2009 * Baby Sister, born Feb. 2014
I honestly couldn't get it all done without my mom. As much as we don't get along, I'm SO grateful I have her to look after J whenever I need a minute. I don't know how you ladies do it without having help all day.
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I would offer hugs, but I am not a hugger and I get the impression you aren't either. So...internet fist bump?
Me: 28 DH: 27
But MH is staying home! No crazy babysitters for us!
Me: 28 DH: 27
@FarmBoysWife sorry your night has been rough. I hope it gets better and tomorrow goes smoothly.
Emma Rose
Born 3.11.14
8lbs 14oz, 21.5 in
@farmboyswife So sorry things are so rough for you
Also, I also have concerns with childcare... my MIL is generally responsible but sometimes not so much. I didn't realize how much of a nervous nelly I'd be once I became a mom. THEN I started thinking about full time child care when I go back to work in September and I got super sad. Whoever watches my child will be, intentionally or not, instilling values in him... will be seeing milestones while I'm at work... like what if he takes his first steps at daycare?? What if he says his first word at daycare?? (when do they say their first word...?) I started thinking about this in the shower and started bawling.... ugh
It can't just be "over" just like that, can it?
I'm addicted to hummus.
It's a good thing I finally managed to work enough odd jobs for family that I can afford to start going to the gym every day. @_@ That, and I'm a human pacifier today.
Side note: I'm dreading this weekend. There's a surprise party for DH's grandma and allllll the ILs will be there. I'm still angry and want to be a jerk and not let them hold the baby, but I don't think DH would let me get away with it.
Mad as hell
I really wish I could fix whatever is upsetting her
Ugh sometimes i hate my body. But its regulating so i should get used to it.
Sorry, but not happening.
2) Yup. But at least it was better than last time when LO was 2 weeks old and tried to convince us to leave her alone in the house while everyone went outside to have tea.
My mom, however, is the baby whisperer. This is likely because I was the most colicky baby known to man and she had to learn some skillz. She never forgot them.....
My parents have had a little more experience as I have 2 nieces under 4 that they spend a lot of time with. My brother is also way more uptight about all the baby-raising rules and doesn't hesitate to call our parents out so they are very well-trained. My mom and I are also very similar in mannerisms and how we approach things with babies so that helps too.
My FIL is awkward with the baby, letting him flip a little too much. And handed him back quickly. But my MIL passed away right after we found out we were pregnant. I often imagine how irritating she would have been with her 30 year old advice. But she would have loved the hell out if every minute. I wish I could have been aggravated with everything she did or said.
My dad was more hands on than I thought. He even sang to him to try to calm him down. My mom was fine. And listened to me when I told her to back off or do something different. Unfortunately, with her health problems and medications, I can't leave her alone for long periods of time.
No one lives close, so we aren't missing out on the free babysitting. But I do wish things were different on a number of fronts.
No I never had to take them before it was a freak thing and I was told the same thing. My clot was found pretty early so I had along time on them, it wasn't so bad I got used to it. I would totes have another LO and go through it again but we have 3 and arent having anymore.
BLISS.
I need to start doing crunches or something. Which will be a breeze, what with all that free time I have.
Another ditto here! Hips are wider. It's hard to button my pants but they otherwise fit! I feel bad buying new clothes while were on one income right now though
My mother took J after I fed him this morning so that I could get work done, because I have this paper, bar applications are due, and then studying for the two finals I have next week. I've written a whole two pages in the last hour... while bumping and online shopping. I really should be working...
I honestly couldn't get it all done without my mom. As much as we don't get along, I'm SO grateful I have her to look after J whenever I need a minute. I don't know how you ladies do it without having help all day.