We found out were having a boy last week and did a gender reveal this past weekend. I always saw our family with all girls and I think most people did too. I keep getting all these comments like "Oh now you'll have the perfect family" or "One of each how perfect." Maybe Im being too sensitive but it kind of pisses me off and make me uncomfortable. I keep responding with things like "Oh well I think every family is perfect" but I don't know if Im being too defensive. This last year has been really hard not knowing if we would ever even get to have another child so I think thats why. Would our family be less perfect if DD was an only? Would you just smile and say thanks?
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Re: "Perfect" Family
Oscar born October 2011
Miscarriage at 8 weeks (August 2013)
DD due September 1, 2014
I don't think most people think about what they are saying before they speak. Obviously, had it been a girl, they wouldn't have said things like, "What a tragedy - 2 girls!" but they definitely imply that with their comment about the baby being a boy, unintentionally, of course.
I get a lot of weird disappointing sighs when I tell people I am having a boy, usually followed by, "Are you ok with that or did you want a girl?" like there is a rule that all women must want only girls. I don't think they mean ill, they just aren't realizing how ridiculous they sound when they say crap like that. No one ever probably said it to them when they were pregnant.
This is for all the caterpillars that never became butterflies. And for all the butterflies that never felt the wind in their wings. And for all the hearts that had hopes and dreams of a wondrous flight together.
This is for all the caterpillars that never became butterflies. And for all the butterflies that never felt the wind in their wings. And for all the hearts that had hopes and dreams of a wondrous flight together.
However, if I were having another girl and got any negative comments about it not being a boy, that would irritate me. We would've been happy with either sex, and in some ways it would've been nicer to have another girl (I could reuse DD's clothes, for one thing).
First round of Clomid in May 2012= BFP #1, DD born January 2013
BFP #2 in January 2014, DS born September 2014
I'm with Grace - I've started being very open about how hurtful comments like that can be.