Birth month June 2014 board

raa4msu · April 2014

Went on the June birth month board and posted what I thought was just a harmless post about feeling like I'm nearing the end and possible early labor... I was ripped apart! Still trying to figure out what nerve I hit with everyone. I have posted in this forum and never got nasty response. Thank you, mamas

rockopera · April 2014

Someone explained how you were rude and insensitive on page 1 of that thread.

It is also rude to complain about boards on other boards here.

I know you probably want squee instant friends, or just attention from strangers...but that's not how BMB communities are here.

rockopera · April 2014

@krptcmschfmkr128‌ oh haiiii!!!!!

nicolemcm · April 2014

texasmama2014 · April 2014

You realize all the June moms are in their 3rd tri right?

Read247 · April 2014

Thank you @rockopera‌! And for those of you who wanna see. This is the bomb she dropped on our board: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12329623/anyone-feel-like-they-won-t-make-it-til-june
We're two months from our delivery month and had yet another premie born today.

ETA: we didn't even have our flame throwers turned on high. Sheesh. Put on your big girl panties and deal with it.

chickpea912 · April 2014

@raa4msu - You just joined The Bump, you'd been posting in 3rd Tri, and then you wandered over to June14 tonight. You basically treated that group of ladies as if they were Yahoo Answers or your own personal sounding board - it is VERY obvious you didn't look around to see the type of community you were walking into. You don't know our history (which wouldn't be immediately obvious, I know), but not only that, you didn't take two seconds to even LOOK at the threads at the top of the list - "Birth Announcements," "MommyP710 birth story," "Contractions & cramping," "Is your new home L&D," let alone the ever so helpful "New Here? Read first!" thread.

I'm sorry you didn't get the reception you were hoping for, and, to be honest, you didn't even ASK A QUESTION in your post. You basically said you were due the middle of June, felt a little funny, and maybe you were being a wimp. I'm not exactly sure what you were looking for, since you didn't ask a question, so, to be honest, you got what you got. You walked into a room of strangers, shared some details, and expected us to give a shit. Unfortunately for you, we've been a community for 8ish months, we've lost a number of babies, some more recent than others, and we have a good number of babies born very early. Could you know all of that? Probably not, but there is certainly enough VERY AVAILABLE information at the top of the screen in June14 to make that obvious.

So your post was obnoxious and offensive. Sorry, it's just how it is. Next time, look around and figure out where you are before you dive in.

izzetoot · April 2014

45 Ridiculous And Amazing GIFs Of Nene Leakes For Her Birthday

Love, June14

rainbowdashh · April 2014

Hahahahah like we weren't going to find this?

JulieSmiles · April 2014

chickpea912 said:

@raa4msu - You just joined The Bump, you'd been posting in 3rd Tri, and then you wandered over to June14 tonight. You basically treated that group of ladies as if they were Yahoo Answers or your own personal sounding board - it is VERY obvious you didn't look around to see the type of community you were walking into. You don't know our history (which wouldn't be immediately obvious, I know), but not only that, you didn't take two seconds to even LOOK at the threads at the top of the list - "Birth Announcements," "MommyP710 birth story," "Contractions & cramping," "Is your new home L&D," let alone the ever so helpful "New Here? Read first!" thread.

I'm sorry you didn't get the reception you were hoping for, and, to be honest, you didn't even ASK A QUESTION in your post. You basically said you were due the middle of June, felt a little funny, and maybe you were being a wimp. I'm not exactly sure what you were looking for, since you didn't ask a question, so, to be honest, you got what you got. You walked into a room of strangers, shared some details, and expected us to give a shit. Unfortunately for you, we've been a community for 8ish months, we've lost a number of babies, some more recent than others, and we have a good number of babies born very early. Could you know all of that? Probably not, but there is certainly enough VERY AVAILABLE information at the top of the screen in June14 to make that obvious.

So your post was obnoxious and offensive. Sorry, it's just how it is. Next time, look around and figure out where you are before you dive in.

@chickpea912 You are amazing. You word things so eloquently and provide honest, yet kind answers.

rainbowdashh · April 2014

CDK211 said:

ohyealovely said:

Hahahahah like we weren't going to find this?

@ohyealovely - I think she thought the title would throw us off...

It is a rather misleading title. Sneaky OP! Wow formatting problems.

stephpaez · April 2014

raa4msu said:
Went on the June birth month board and posted what I thought was just a harmless post about feeling like I'm nearing the end and possible early labor... I was ripped apart! Still trying to figure out what nerve I hit with everyone. I have posted in this forum and never got nasty response. Thank you, mamas

Ripped apart 'eh @raa4msu‌? No. Now stop trying to bash one board on another....it's the internet, where everything you post is out there for everyone to see!!! =D>

24karat · April 2014

Pretty sure there isn't a single board on TB where someone can be nonchalant and unconcerned about giving birth prematurely and not have it result in some very deserved flaming.

puttyeast · April 2014

I was very straightforward about why your post was a problem. And we just like to be snarky, salty hoes at the same time.

cMichelle0423 · April 2014

CDK211 said:

ohyealovely said:

Hahahahah like we weren't going to find this?

@ohyealovely - I think she thought the title would throw us off...

**********

Seriously laughed too hard at this!!

ChristineBaker23 · April 2014

Read247 said:
Thank you @rockopera‌! And for those of you who wanna see. This is the bomb she dropped on our board: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12329623/anyone-feel-like-they-won-t-make-it-til-june
We're two months from our delivery month and had yet another premie born today.

ETA: we didn't even have our flame throwers turned on high. Sheesh. Put on your big girl panties and deal with it.

I stole these from @izzetoot‌, she can have them

jennifermorse · April 2014

There is nothing wrong with what she said. She was expressing worries that she is having the same symptoms as she did when she had her first baby a month early. I realize we are all in our third trimester but that doesn't give you the excuse to be rude to a mom who was posting out of worry and needing advice and support from other moms. Shame on every single one of you that have anything negative to say about a mom who came here for help.

jennifermorse · April 2014

All you so called "moms" need to grow up and stop acting like children. She was worried and asking for help and she gets harassed instead? Seriously? This is the example we want set for our children? Grown women cyber bullying? Shame....

crhein26 · April 2014

jennifermorse said:

There is nothing wrong with what she said. She was expressing worries that she is having the same symptoms as she did when she had her first baby a month early. I realize we are all in our third trimester but that doesn't give you the excuse to be rude to a mom who was posting out of worry and needing advice and support from other moms. Shame on every single one of you that have anything negative to say about a mom who came here for help.

jennifermorse said:

All you so called "moms" need to grow up and stop acting like children. She was worried and asking for help and she gets harassed instead? Seriously? This is the example we want set for our children? Grown women cyber bullying? Shame....

@jennifermorse - you have been around TB for all of 2 seconds. You get no say about anything. OP - stop having your friends join to back you up!

ElTrain5 · April 2014

jennifermorse said:
All you so called "moms" need to grow up and stop acting like children. She was worried and asking for help and she gets harassed instead? Seriously? This is the example we want set for our children? Grown women cyber bullying? Shame....

"Bullying"

(I'm just gonna keep using this until it stops being perfect.)

rockopera · April 2014

Yes, this is the example I want to set for my son. To not put up with rampant stupidity, IRL or on the internet.

Her whining was very insensitive given the place she put it and what she expected from it. There are women who would GIVE ANYTHING to make it and stay pregnant to June. So no, the community they are in, and that supports them, has no obligation to stoke the hair of a complaining stranger, no matter the common state of their uteri.

p.s. We are not all in our third trimester. Thanks for playing.

tnd1218 · April 2014

jennifermorse said:
There is nothing wrong with what she said. She was expressing worries that she is having the same symptoms as she did when she had her first baby a month early. I realize we are all in our third trimester but that doesn't give you the excuse to be rude to a mom who was posting out of worry and needing advice and support from other moms. Shame on every single one of you that have anything negative to say about a mom who came here for help.

I held my tongue and did not reply to her insensitive post. If she would have taken 10 minutes to look at the boards before she posted she could have easily read (from just post titles) that many of our June moms have had their babies and did not make it to May much less June and many are in L&D hoping for one more day of pregnancy. It was absolutely insensitive of her to post her "concerns" without taking into consideration what others are actually dealing with. So please get out of here with the cyber bullying!

OP put your big girl panties on and realize how insensitive your post was and get over it!

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Read247 · April 2014

@jennifermorse‌ - if she had a legitimate concern she should call her doctor instead of posting on the internet. If she already had a premie then she would know the signs of PTL. But since she wasn't concerned enough about her health or the health of her unborn child enough to contact a medical professional then what she was doing was bitching about her pregnancy symptoms.

Starting a post titled "anyone feel like they're not going to make it until June?" to bitch about pregnancy symptoms on a board that already has several losses, premies, and moms on hospital bed rest was extremely insensitive and just plain rude.

If you don't understand that then you and your sanctimommy attitude can join your brain sharing friend when she heads over to babycenter.com.

Mztwilson · April 2014

@jennifermorse‌ who the f are you? Oh wait your one of those ladies who come on here and look for our sympathy pity and support without ever having to contribute to the board.

flerlgirl · April 2014

jennifermorse said:

There is nothing wrong with what she said. She was expressing worries that she is having the same symptoms as she did when she had her first baby a month early. I realize we are all in our third trimester but that doesn't give you the excuse to be rude to a mom who was posting out of worry and needing advice and support from other moms. Shame on every single one of you that have anything negative to say about a mom who came here for help.

Um, we have had several - like seven - moms have preemies on our boards. If she had looked around for twelve seconds she would have known that, yes, several people know for sure they aren't getting to June bc they get to go visit their kids in the hospital every day. Which is hard enough without coming back to read dumb questions by someone who clearly doesn't give a crap. Also, I lol'd at the phrase "shame on you." SHAME ON YOU ALL.

chickpea912 · April 2014

jennifermorse said:

There is nothing wrong with what she said. She was expressing worries that she is having the same symptoms as she did when she had her first baby a month early. I realize we are all in our third trimester but that doesn't give you the excuse to be rude to a mom who was posting out of worry and needing advice and support from other moms. Shame on every single one of you that have anything negative to say about a mom who came here for help.

@jennifermorse I should probably just direct you to the novel I wrote above, but I just have this NEED in me to say it all again.

The OP (original poster - just in case you're not hip to all the abbreviations - I see you are new here) has every right to post whatever she wants wherever she wants. It's a free internet. BUT... she posted in a community that has been active since September/October of 2013, so WE also have every right to respond in whichever way we like.

In her original post (in June 14, not on this particular board), she stated a few random thoughts and decided to post it as if this was her personal blog and we were her loyal readers. She didn't even ask a question. And unfortunate for her, given that she had never visited our community before (at least as far as I can see - she certainly hadn't ever posted there), she didn't know anything about it. She doesn't know our history, doesn't know what we have been through as a group of pregnant women, and while some of that would be rather difficult for a new visitor to ascertain, she clearly didn't even look around to see what was going on in this community. If she had, she would have seen - just from the titles - a number of threads about births that have already happened (even though we are currently 4 weeks away from the beginning of the month in which we are all due), a thread for women who are currently in L&D (labor and delivery), threads for women who are on bedrest, women announcing the birth of premies, etc. (I listed the titles of these threads earlier, if you want to check).

So yes, she got a less than warm reception. But thems the breaks. This is an internet message board filled with scores of women, all with different personalities, who have formed a bond. And a stranger came into our community, without any preamble, without any information, without a question she wanted answered, and shared a random thought. And we, being a community who support each other through thick and thin (again, that history that OP does not know), don't react well to being treated as if OUR SOLE PURPOSE on this message board is to coddle and fluff up any rando who walks in through our door. Especially given that we frequently have randos drive by, post a random thought, never to return to even read the heartfelt thoughts and suggestions shared by our members.

So thank you for supporting the OP. I'm glad she has someone out there who is willing to step up for her. I just hope she learned a lesson from this interaction that will someday help her.

And if she was legitimately looking for medical advice (AGAIN - SHE DIDN"T ASK A FUCKING QUESTION), then she should call her fucking OB. Not consult internet strangers.

cMichelle0423 · April 2014

@chickpea912‌ Couldn't have said it better!

TheMrs820 · April 2014

I used to get upset at first about snarky responses & gifs.......until I realized that sometimes pregnancy sucks & there have been some horribly sad things that have happened. Part of being supportive is to share in all of that & sometimes being salty & hilarious is the way to do it.

You can't just expect to jump on a board having never contributed any info, advice, support. I have been blessed with a fairly easy pregnancy compared to others & have not had many questions or issues to post about. However I have contributed to conversations & offered my advice / support, lay awake thinking/praying for some of these women & their situations, cried for some of them.....and i am sure that i am not the only one.

Your post was extremely insensitive and in support of all the June Mommas. ...
damn right you got some snark....you deserved it.

Do something stupid & get called out....buck up! We are snarky but not unforgiving......maybe try apologizing, introducing yourself & moving on.

Shit this was long & "rambly"......sorry

hubbs173 · April 2014

jennifermorse said:
There is nothing wrong with what she said. She was expressing worries that she is having the same symptoms as she did when she had her first baby a month early. I realize we are all in our third trimester but that doesn't give you the excuse to be rude to a mom who was posting out of worry and needing advice and support from other moms. Shame on every single one of you that have anything negative to say about a mom who came here for help.

So shame on me?? Shame on me for having my baby 12 weeks early, who has spent every moment of his life in a NICU and not at home!!! And shame on the other preemie moms, those sitting in a hospital praying to make it until June and those at home on bed rest, how dare they get angry at the OP and her stupid comments!!! Maybe instead of coming to the rescue of someone who clearly was being insensitive to our community and complaining about pregnancy symptoms I'd love to still have, you should check out the June 14 board and maybe if you have any sort of intelligence, you'll see why we weren't so welcoming!! And btw if she was that worried she should've called her dr!!

izzetoot · April 2014

@jennifermorse -You joined April 13 huh? So you're what a few weeks/months pregnant? I hope you have a nice looong pregnancy that lasts all the way up to your due date with no complications, bed rest, illness, infection, bleeding, cramps, hospital scares, sacrifice, or loss. And, if you choose to stay on the bump, that you can find it in yourself to give love, compassion, and support to the moms on your board that WILL go through these devastating times. Then maybe once you understand what all that is like, you will be able to contribute in a meaningful way to women who REALLY needs your help. But until then... GTFO (that means Get The F*ck Out, I know you're new so I wanted to be clear)

June 14 ladies - I

you all!! Set these crazies straight!!

diagonalley · April 2014

jennifermorse said:
There is nothing wrong with what she said. She was expressing worries that he is having the same symptoms as she did when she had her first baby a month early. I realize we are all in our third trimester but that doesn't give you the excuse to be rude to a mom who was posting out of worry and needing advice and support from other moms. Shame on every single one of you that have anything negative to say about a mom who came here for help.

There is absolutely a lot wrong with what she said. Here I am, sitting next to the isolette that my son is in because he was born on Sunday, six weeks early, and I have to read the crap from OP and then your crap. I would love to have had my son in June or even May. Her "worries" were crap and were expressed crappily. If she was genuinely worried she should be calling her doctor.

mablackbear · May 2014

I agree with jennifermorse. The veterans on this board acknowledge the OP's lack of knowledge and then tear her apart for it. I've been reading the Bump website my whole pregnancy (due in June as well), and was excited to finally find a post related to my birth month. I am not a savvy chat thread person. And after seeing the reaction to one person's question, I'm pretty sure I don't want to become one now.

This should be a safe place for folks to ask questions. That's what you're all here for. So telling her to ask her OB makes everyone sound hypocritical. I know I won't make friends with this post, but I am a nurse and I get what you might consider "dumb" questions pretty frequently. It's no reason to berate the newcomer...

By the way, I went to the original thread and I had to read through 30 responses to figure out why everyone was so pissed. I don't blame her for coming to another thread for clarification. I was confused, too.

24karat · May 2014

mablackbear said:
I agree with jennifermorse. The veterans on this board acknowledge the OP's lack of knowledge and then tear her apart for it. I've been reading the Bump website my whole pregnancy (due in June as well), and was excited to finally find a post related to my birth month. I am not a savvy chat thread person. And after seeing the reaction to one person's question, I'm pretty sure I don't want to become one now.

This should be a safe place for folks to ask questions. That's what you're all here for. So telling her to ask her OB makes everyone sound hypocritical. I know I won't make friends with this post, but I am a nurse and I get what you might consider "dumb" questions pretty frequently. It's no reason to berate the newcomer...

By the way, I went to the original thread and I had to read through 30 responses to figure out why everyone was so pissed. I don't blame her for coming to another thread for clarification. I was confused, too.

I'm confused...why did you think it'd be a good idea to bump a dead thread up just to berate others?

CJnKR2014 · May 2014

mablackbear said:
I agree with jennifermorse. The veterans on this board acknowledge the OP's lack of knowledge and then tear her apart for it. I've been reading the Bump website my whole pregnancy (due in June as well), and was excited to finally find a post related to my birth month. I am not a savvy chat thread person. And after seeing the reaction to one person's question, I'm pretty sure I don't want to become one now.

This should be a safe place for folks to ask questions. That's what you're all here for. So telling her to ask her OB makes everyone sound hypocritical. I know I won't make friends with this post, but I am a nurse and I get what you might consider "dumb" questions pretty frequently. It's no reason to berate the newcomer...

By the way, I went to the original thread and I had to read through 30 responses to figure out why everyone was so pissed. I don't blame her for coming to another thread for clarification. I was confused, too.

Read247 · May 2014

mablackbear said:

I agree with jennifermorse. The veterans on this board acknowledge the OP's lack of knowledge and then tear her apart for it. I've been reading the Bump website my whole pregnancy (due in June as well), and was excited to finally find a post related to my birth month. I am not a savvy chat thread person. And after seeing the reaction to one person's question, I'm pretty sure I don't want to become one now.

This should be a safe place for folks to ask questions. That's what you're all here for. So telling her to ask her OB makes everyone sound hypocritical. I know I won't make friends with this post, but I am a nurse and I get what you might consider "dumb" questions pretty frequently. It's no reason to berate the newcomer...

By the way, I went to the original thread and I had to read through 30 responses to figure out why everyone was so pissed. I don't blame her for coming to another thread for clarification. I was confused, too.

Really?? Because it was explained on the very first page like 5 responses in both on the original thread AND in this thread. Do you need glasses or are you just not very good at reading comprehension?

You're right about one thing though: you're not going to make any friends by posting this...

Way to bring something up that was dropped a month ago!

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