Does anyone feel this way?

GalLaura · April 2014

I've been seeing how many of the June 2013 momma's are pregnant! Congrats to you all. My dh keeps saying let's just see what happens and stop using contraception.

So my question for you all... Does anyone feel that they need to spend more time with there June 2013 baby before having another? I feel like if I have another baby now that I'll be taking away so much of my time and attention from my lo. I know giving him a sibling is important too but I just want him to have 100% of me. Maybe I'm feeling this way since I can't wait too much longer since I'm 40 already.

whitney2302 · April 2014

I'm not ready for another either. My best friend just had a baby Friday. I felt no baby fever at all while visiting them! I definitely want another but am in no rush. I'm trying to soak up all that I can with DS!

dmlk413 · April 2014

I'm in the same boat and it's part of the reason I don't want more kids. My husband has crazy hours so I take care of DD by myself a lot plus work full time. It's already hard to give her enough attention and I think it would be really unfair to her if I had another one.

TheTamedShrew · April 2014

subliminalrabbit said:
My feeling is that if it's something you really want, you'll figure it out. People have two littles all the time. The biggest thing I've learned from this experience is that our capacities for love are endless.

Very well said, rabbit!

hamburgeruniversity · April 2014

Loooooooong time lurker who is finally jumping in on TB...I feel the same way as many of the PP. For many reasons I lean toward being one and done, but honestly, the biggest concern I have now is my ability to devote enough time and attention to DS, let alone DS plus another. I think the biggest thing for me is the fact that we both work full time with sizeable commutes, two dogs, and all the other adult responsibilities. I know other people juggle all that and multiple kids gracefully, and I respect that (and am in total awe). But the thought of another is a lot for me right now...I keep telling myself to give it another year, or 5

LiLi23 · April 2014

I broke down and ugly cried the night before I was going in to be induced with my second after I put DD to bed. I felt awful for totally shaking up her world by adding another person to her life. I wasn't sure if I could love anyone else as much as I love her. But after DS was born all of those feelings went away and I couldn't imagine him not being here. They have so much fun together; it's really amazing to watch them play and interact.

I think it's normal to feel that way. Sure, it's overwhelming at times, but it gets better. And easier. The pregnancy part was a lot harder on me with a one year old (my kids are 23 months apart), but you figure out a way to get through it, bc we're moms and that's what we do

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LiLi23 · April 2014

@libberluru‌ :x Hey girrrrrl!

cafecreme · April 2014

I do at some points, but if you think about it, you'll have 10 extra months with your LO before baby #2 comes along. I think to myself "how could i ever love another child other than C?". Like, it doesn't seem possible. She's our whole world now. I sometimes feel like we could just have one child, but then I think of how me and my sister were best friends growing up, and I want her to have the same experience with a sibling close to her age.

Just enjoy the alone time you have with him now. Things will work out.

ASmallWonder · April 2014

It's kind of easier when you realize that subsequent children will never have a life of being the only one and getting all the attention. Your first is ahead of the game there no matter when you have another baby. But it's honestly true - new babies just add to the love, they don't take away. It grows in ways you don't even think possible. Think you can't love a new baby as much as your first? You can. And know what else? You can love the first one even more than you already do. It's kind of like how you have new feelings for your DH watching him be a daddy. Watching your oldest be a big brother or sister is amazing.

jennOK · April 2014

dmlk413 said:
I'm in the same boat and it's part of the reason I don't want more kids. My husband has crazy hours so I take care of DD by myself a lot plus work full time. It's already hard to give her enough attention and I think it would be really unfair to her if I had another one.

This is us exactly. H has awful hours and a long commute with his new job. I work full-time and it's just me and baby most of the other. Money is also tighter than it was. We are going to wait another year. We love LO, but he's enough for us to handle right now.

WasNotWas · April 2014

I had serious guilt when I was pregnant with Tyler, but someone told me the greatest gift you can give your child is a sibling.

But it's tough to have 2. There is no way around it. The tough part isn't love-related, that's easy. When I am utterly overwhelmed is when they do something amazing and my heart explodes.

GalLaura · April 2014

Thanks, ladies. It's nice to see all your responses and your insight!

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