UPDATE: Today was better. H has not apologized but is talking to me and acting normal for the most part. It turns out he knew I was getting a lot cut off, but was thinking my hair would be shoulder length. When we had previously discussed it, we referred to SIL's haircut, which is all chin length, so I do have layers that are shorter than that but still.
He had originally asked me a favor, to take Michelle to his work to meet a coworker today, and then asked me not to after he saw my haircut. I was ok with that since I needed the extra sleep anyway, so I didn't go.
He had wanted to cancel our dinner plans with friends for Sunday night also but now he's OK with it. We also went out to dinner tonight with Michelle, and he now says he's not embarrassed to be seen with me. He says that he doesn't like my haircut because I don't look like his wife anymore, I look like a different person.
I have to remind myself sometimes that DH is VERY anti-change, so it takes a bit more for him to adjust. Thank you all so much for your support. I am going to make replies now to your comments on this thread.
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So I was under the impression my husband had finally conceded to me chopping off my long hair. Apparently, he thought I was just getting a trim and was pissed when I came home with my new do. He says he hates it, he thinks I look like a boy, and is embarrassed to have me go out in public.
I like it, I don't think I look like a boy, but I am more hurt that my husband seems to care more about his own opinion of my hair than about me doing what makes me happy. What do you think? I am posting a separate poll since polls won't allow me to show pics.
Before and after pics:
Re: UPDATE: Mom Chop Debacle (pics)
Also tell him to suck it, you look great. Leave the house without him, then!
I'm sorry he said that. I think you look beautiful
When I came home he insists I said I was just getting a trim ( I never said that). He refused to talk to me all evening, and is canceling all our plans this weekend because he doesnt want people to see me.
He did have a bad day at work he said, so I am hoping that's all it is.
I don't like facial hair.... Yet he's had a beard since last aug. He recently shaved it to a goatee... I'm anxiously awaiting him to shave the rest. Even though I am not a big fan of the beard or goatee I would never say anything derogatory about him.
Your H is acting very childish and needs to get over himself.
You look beautiful with long hair and short hair! Personally I like the short hair better!!!
It seems that your husband has issues that run much deeper than your hair. This sounds like a seriously unhealthy possessiveness and control issue.
Plenty of husbands prefer their wife to have short or long hair, but to cancel plans as punishment for cutting your hair off is way extreme. I think it borders on a dangerous extreme.
Me: 31 | DH: 33
DS1: 12.23.13 | DS2: 05.06.16
BFP: 06.30.19 | EDD: 3.9.20
TTC3: 11.18
BFP: 02.05.19
CP: 03.07.19
*really traumatic recovery*
^^^^this exactly.
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
I have never really done anything with my hair before either except brush it or wear a ponytail, also because I am lazy and don't know how. I also kept it long so it is easy to put up and so I don't have to get it cut as often. It had gotten really bad though and I didn't like how damaged it looked. My hairstylist taught me how to style my new cut so I went out and bought my first blowdryer and round brush. This is all new territory for DH who hates change. I think it was all just a bit overwhelming for him. The canceling plans was not punishment for me but because DH was embarrassed for people to see my "boy" haircut.
He hasn't always been so inflexible, it's been worse since LO was born. He hates his job, so combined with loss of sleep and more stress of having a child, he's more irritable lately.
I have been in a relationship before that was very controlling and manipulative, and this is not like that.
He said "I don't know what you want me to say. Do you want me to lie to you??" And I said "no" because I want to know what he really thinks.