I mentioned in another post about a friend joking about her 4 year old finding her passed out in her closet covered in vomit after a night of drinking.
People mentioned I should report it but I think I didn't mention her husband was home taking care of the kids.
So she drank, passed out, husband got up with the two kids, one came to find her in the closet, covered in puke and passed out.
Her mom and my mom are good friends. Her mom was probably a functioning alcoholic, but seems to have mellowed with age.
My mom does say her friend, my friends mom, does mention being concerned for daughter and the grand kids, but not for drinking issues, more for
how my friend over schedules them, her and her husband use babysitters too much, etc. so she is critical.
My friend is a very successful CFO, her husband is a doctor. If I say something I am pretty sure our friendship will be over.
Should I mention anything? We go out to coffee maybe 3 times a year, that is about it. So not super close. But we were at one point.
Question is, in that scenario, would you try to talk to her about her drinking or leave it?
Re: Should I report this?
If it's true what she says that her and her DH are taking turns getting wasted and there is always a sober parent available I'm not sure that there's anything illegal about that even though it's obviously totally messed up.
Of course, people with addictions are often good at lying and justifying their behavior. So...
I would trust your instincts on this one. If you feel like their kids are at risk (from neglect, being in the car with a drunk parent behind the wheel, etc.) that's worthy of reporting.
Yeah, I don't think you're really going to get anywhere with CPS, like AG said, her husband was supervising the kids. What happens next all depends on how much you want to invest yourself in the situation. You could either do nothing, and probably phase out of being friends naturally or say something to her and risk cutting ties immediately.
I feel that if she shared that story with you, she probably knows that she has an issue and it might've been a cry for help? Her husband is really the one who should spearhead any sort of intervention, if I were her I would wonder if he cared about me at all. (because he isn't addressing the issue)
Or maybe it just sounds worse than it is and her mother can tell her she needs to be more mindful of what she's putting on FB because people are getting the wrong impression.
I wouldn't report it now knowing the dad was home but I seriously could not be friends with someone like that and there's no way I'd keep my mouth shut or laugh it off if she says anything like that again.
I know everyone keeps saying the dad was there- no worries. But what happens when he isn't there?
Perhaps keep and eye out and let her know this kind of behavior is very unbecoming.