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What do you love about DH?

I was just thinking how lucky most of us are to have such loving, supportive partners to go through this 'journey' with us. I was at the counsellor today & he said 'think of the good things you do have in your life- some women would crawl over broken glass to have a loving husband'. It made me realise how often I take him for granted & don't appreciate him enough! So let's pay tribute! I'll go first: I love that DH will do anything to cheer me up on a rough day - massages, cups of tea, dinner date, chocolate and making me laugh.

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  • I love everything about him, good and bad. I love how since my IBS & GERDS and now our fertility struggles he has become more protective of me. I have always been the one protecting him from things.
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  • DH has a way of being my balance... sometimes its the most annoying thing in the world, but in hindsight its always what the situation needed. When Im freaking out and going nuts, he is there to calm my spirits. When Im frustrated and ready to quit, he talks it out rationally with me. When something goes wrong Im on level 10, he steps in and takes over and things just seem to magically get into place. 

    Im grateful for him, for our love, and for our commitment to each other. He may not be much to the next lady, but damnit, he's ALL right with me. 
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    Waited a long time, tried a lot of stuff, science made me a mom.
     Loss and IF veteran. Current mom of DS 5.5, DD 2, and sometimes DH 40. Due June 2021 with TWINS
  • My H is the kindest, calmest most patient man I've ever met He balances me and talks my spazzy hyper ass off the ledge on a daily basis. He loves me for me- flaws and all.  He may not be the biggest romantic out there but shows his appreciation in so many other way.  

    ****SIGGY WARNING****


     Hashimoto's with irregular cycles  DH- 37 Severe oligoasthenoteratozoospermia

    TTC since May 2012

    HSG- all clear

    March 2014 - RE appt. 
    April 2014- Saline sono all's good, terrible SA results - 8 sperm found all abnormal
    May 2014- Fert Urology- Bilateral varicoceles, recommend Donor Sperm
    12/2014-  Surprise natural BFP  EDD 7/31/15 Plan:  Starting foster to adoption, natural cycles




  • kushie77 said:
    My H is the kindest, calmest most patient man I've ever met He balances me and talks my spazzy hyper ass off the ledge on a daily basis. He loves me for me- flaws and all.  He may not be the biggest romantic out there but shows his appreciation in so many other way.  
    This is definitely my husband.  He isn't the biggest romantic, but he shows his love in other ways. :)

    DH: 34  
    Aug 2013 - SA: Counts & Motility = great, Morph = 1%; RE didn't seem too concerned

    Me: 26
    Jan. 2014 - Blood work ordered by obgyn:  Prolactin = high & AMH = low (0.73)
    Feb. 6, 2014 - Repeat blood work ordered by obgyn:  Prolactin = normal & AMH = low (0.9)
    Feb.  20, 2014 - First appointment with RE
    Feb. 24, 2014 - HSG scheduled;  DX:  one tube definitely open & one tube could be blocked
    Mar. 7, 2014 - CD 21 Blood work for Progesterone; DX:  Progesterone level at 5.2; shows I ovulated but was low
    Mar. 28, 2014 - Laparoscopy; DX:  Tubes open.  Found some endometriosis and had that removed.
     
    History:
    Started TTC:  June 2012
    June 2012 - March 2013:  When it Happens/it happens method = BFN
    March 2013:  Started using Fertility Friend
    Cycles 1 - 15 with Fertility Friend = BFN
    Cycle 16 - Benched due to Laparoscopy
    Cycle 17 - Natural Cycle = BFN
    Cycle 18 - Natural Cycle = BFN
    Cycle 19 - Natural Cycle = BFN
     

    Current Cycle:
    Cycle 20 = Natural Cycle


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  • He is sweet and thoughtful (most of the time). I have bought an outfit or two here and there and he makes sure they stay in the attic because he doesn't want me to get upset looking at them. I never do, but it's sweet of him to think of it. He always understands when I don't want to go to baby showers or see 1000 pictures of babies on FB, etc. He always makes me laugh and feel better. And he's handsome :)
    Love 2010 | Marriage 2011 | TTC #1 since 2012
    PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
  •  I love how calm and level headed H is. We just found out we are not only battleing my IF but also MFIF, and instead of freaking out, he said "we will figure this out, we will start a family." He's always my shoulder to cry on and calm me down when I am having my worst days.
  • My DH is amazing. He has stuck by me with my crazy family, thought I would lose him when we were dating because of the crazy rules. Its all the little things he does, playing a song that reminds him of me or us. Or leaving me a giant stuffed animal and a not in bed waiting for me if hes going to be gone. Always saying he wishes he could take everything on so I didn't have to.

    And with his goatee he looks like Jason Aldean, just sayin...lol :x
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    I love this thread and it put a smile on my face just thinking of my husband!

    I love that my DH is so hardworking, driven, and passionate. I love how he puts in so much effort and love in everything he does. Sometimes it drives me crazy how much of a perfectionist he can be and how he is not laid back about some things, but I really admire how he tackles life.

    I also love through this IF journey that his personality shows through. He has MFI and he bought a microscope to monitor his little guys to see if he's making any improvements in whatnot. I love my husband and I can't imagine life without him! :)

     

    Me: 29, DH: 30

    Married: April, 2011; TTC: July, 2012

    Dx: MFI; June '14 IVF w/ ICSI: 11R, 8M, 5F... 1 5dt, beta #1: 213, beta #2: 621, beta #3: 8545!



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  • My DH is literally the most thoughtful person I know and the most supportive too. And he always tells me thank you for everything I do and never complains if I go a while without doing anything lol. (I have to remind myself to keep up because if I don't he will literally take care of every chore etc.) The other day he made me a grilled cheese sandwich and I thanked him for making it and he sort of scoffed and was like "making a grilled cheese sandwich is the LEAST I can do for you after all the dinners you've made!" (I do actually do most of the cooking but only because I get home earlier). He also tells me I'm beautiful all the time even when I look horrible!!! And he makes me laugh all the time like this morning after my follie scan when he asked me "so how big do they get again before they burst?" LOL!!

    Me: 32  DH: 33  Married: March 2004

    July 2006: started TTC
    2008: HSG (normal), couple rounds of clomid through gyno
    2008 - 2010: dragging my feet out of fear and procrastination
    October 2010: first consultation with RE, dx PCOS and fibroids (DH slightly low count/motility)
    Oct. 2010 - Dec. 2012:  In DENIAL! avoided the issue because I was scared of surgery
    January 2013: returned to RE, fibroids grew significantly
    February 2013: second HSG, fibroids pushed on tubes which blocked them somewhat
    March 2013: MRI to determine what type of surgery may be necessary

    July 29, 2013: fibroids (5) removed via robotic laparascopy
    August 2013 - Nov 2013 : benched due to recent surgery

    IUI #1, Dec. 24, 2013, BFN 
    IUI #2, Jan. 25, 2014, BFN
    IUI #3, Feb. 25, 2014  BFN
    IUI #4 canceled due to lack of response to letrozole
    IUI #4.1 April 28, 2014, BFN

    May 16, 2014: wtf consult, start prepping for IVF in June and add injects for one last IUI in the meantime
    IUI #5 started letrozole and bravelle but canceled after HSG led to new diagnosis

    May 21, 2014: third HSG, tubes blocked, one at the beginning, one hydrosalpinx??
    June 11, 2014: consult, approved to move on to IVF because the hydro is not completely blocked therefore allowing fluid to move through slowly rather than backwards
    IVF #1 August 8, 2014 - 3dt of 2 embryos, BFN
    September 17, 2014 - 4th HSG, the right tube is very patent (open!!) dye went straight through this time. Weird!
    October 2, 2014 - started metformin treatment
    November 14, 2014 - blood work, brought A1C down from 5.8 to 5.5

    November 26, 2014 - RE finally back from vaca and reviewed my chart, no more IVFs for rest of calendar year
    December 1, 2014 - Right after Thanksgiving, I called a new clinic and got in right away! Plan for IVF
    December 17, 2014 - ER! 29 retrieved (!!), 16 mature, all 16 fertilized (ICSI)

    IVF #2 December 20, 2014 - 3dt of 3 embryos, BFN

    We are done with treatment unsuccessfully. :(


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  • Aww great idea @amykeir!  

    I love that my DH provides a sane and rational counterpart to my obsessiveness with this process.  He holds and comforts me if I need it but then he reminds me that we have each other and that we should be grateful for the time we have right now that belongs to just us.  

    He also cheers me up by getting me chocolate or making me laugh.  He makes dinner.  He is such a wonderful "daddy" to our dog Jasmine.  And I just have so much fun with him!!  He's awesome.  
    **Formerly EastBayBride508**

    Me 34   Him 33

    Me - Left salpingo-oophorectomy at 19 due to large cyst/torsion  and 2 large uterine fibroids found at age 30
    Him - Borderline low sperm count (correcting through Fertility Blend supplement)

    Married 8/20/2011
    TTC #1 since Jan 2013
    First appointment with RE 10/2013.  
    April 2014 - Clomid 100mg CD3-7.  HCG shot CD10 IUI #1 done on 4/12/14 (CD12) ....BFN
    May 2014 - Break cycle to repeat saline sonogram and re-group.  Travel to Kauai 5/7-5/12 (Yay!!)
    June 2014 - Clomid 150mg CD4-8.  HCG shot CD14.  IUI#2 done on 6/9 and 6/10 (CD15-16) w/ Prometrium suppositories during TWW .... BFN
    July 2014 - Clomid 150mg CD3-7.  Ultrasound CD12 - 4 mature follies! HCG trigger shot CD12 AM.  IUI#3 on CD13 w/ Prometrium suppositories during TWW ....BFN
    July 2014 - Repeat ultrasound done to measure size of fibroid - 8x9cm (the size of a grapefruit!) Surgery referral made.
    August 2014 - MRI done which revealed 2 fibroids: a 13x15cm fibroid as well as an 8x7cm one.  Super freak out mode over surgery plan.  OB-GYN/surgeon said surgery would most likely have to be a laparotomy (open abdominal surgery)
    August 2014 - After a 2nd opinion, plan to take Lupron x 2 months to shrink fibroids then laparoscopic/robotic myomectomy.  Surgery date is set for Nov 21st!  
    November 2014 - Robotic myomectomy done (2 large fibroids removed, mild endo found).  Benched x 3 months

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  • DH always knows how to make me smile, even when I want to be upset! He's my Superman :)
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  • Love this post, because I love that every woman can truly be married to the "best" husband in the world! Marriage (a healthy one) is so cool that way! I tell my DH that he's not the man of my dreams... he's way more awesome than I ever dreamed for myself. 
    When I'm scrolling through all the baby news on FB, I try to remind myself of the many friends who aren't married... and count my blessings :) 
    Me-37, DH-38
    Married in 2006, TTC #1 since Jan 2012

    Baby Boy born June 1, 2015

    He settles her in her home as a happy mother of children, praise the Lord! (Psalms 113:9)
    And the peace of God, which surpasses all understand, will guard your heart and mind in Jesus Christ (Philippians 4:7)

  • I love my husband so much. I love that he doesn't hold a grudge. I can be the grouchiest grump there ever was and snap at him over and over and he will just sit closer to me and tell me he loves me. It's so reassuring that I don't have to hide my bad days from him. He knows me in and out. We have been together for 15 years and although IF is the biggest challenge I think we have faced, I know it won't break us. I truly love that man to the core of my being and I know he feels the same.



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    Me (35) no known issues DH (37) MFI. TTC 21 months (24 cycles)
    Dx MFI with low to normal count, low motility, morphology 3%
    HSG normal, ultrasound and labs on me all normal. 

    1 cycle of Clomid 50mg and TI, unmonitored by OBGYN= BFN
    1 cycle of Clomid 50mg and IUI, unmonitored by OBGYN= BFN
    Started seeing an RE!!
    2 more cycles of clomid 50mg (great response), with IUI and Pregnyl trigger (4.8-8 mil good ones after wash) = all BFN
    1 cycle of clomid 50mg (3-7) followed by Follistim 75iu (7-11) + IUI = BFN
    December 2013 DH saw urologist and is taking Anastrozole, CoQ10, and L-Carnitine
    IUI #5 natural cycle (needed a med break) = BFN
    IUI #6 Follistim 75iu (CD3-10) + Pregnyl (CD11) + IUI (final count after wash 300K) = BFN
    IUI #7 Follistim 75iu (CD3-9) + Pregnyl (CD11) + IUI on 2/20 (post wash count 12.5 million)= BFN
    IUI cancelled (DH OOT) Clomid 50mg (CD3-7) 1 follicle +(not well timed) TI = BFN
    IUI #8 and last one!! Clomid 100mg (CD3-7) +OPK before US + IUI 4/17 (post wash 8.5 mil)= BFN

    Pre-IVF testing complete! SHG great and measurements taken! Labs for infectious diseases completed, FSH (5.4), TSH (1.6), Prolactin (11), AMH (2.6), Estradiol (40).

    Started BCP 5/29 and Lupron 6/11 prep for IVF #1! Started follistim 225u/day on 6/28. Monitoring on 7/2 >15 follicles measuring 11-14, E2 758. Monitoring on 7/5 all ready to go!! Great follicle sizes and lining is at 9. Tigger 7/5, ER 7/7 16R 9M 3F. Stimmed too fast in just 7 days. 7/10 3dt of 2 8-cell grade 2 & 4. 7/14 P4 >60.
    Holy crap BFP!!!
    Beta #1 (14dpo) 7/21 112 Beta #2 (16dpo) 7/23 286 a Beta #3 (18dpo) 7/25 761 Beta #4 (21dpo) 2631!!! Hold on tight little embies!!
      First Ultrasound 8/7- 1 perfect little bean with a beating heart 117bpm!! EDD 3/30.
    Second ultrasound 9/2 Little bean measuring a few days ahead with a heart rate of 161!



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  • I know this is kind of last week's news but I really love this post! Without my supportive and amazing and kind and solid husband I think this process would break me in two! Having someone like him in my life every day makes me so happy and so grateful and gives me the strength to keep going...I try to always tell him that I just don't know how I could be me without him. Nice to hear all you other ladies pushing onward through all this stress and pain and heartache have amazing people backing you up too!
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