Sex???

nataliehirt · April 2014

I owe my husband lots of make-up sex once this baby comes because I have been so disinterested the whole time I am been pregnant. He has been absolutely amazing, and not complained a bit (well mostly). I am now 39 weeks, and ready for this baby to come out. People keep telling me that we just need to have some sex to try to have entice the baby to arrive. Maybe I am over thinking this, but I feel bad asking my husband for sex now. I have been no, no, no, for months now, and all of a sudden at my biggest point I look at him and say lets get it on. I feel like I would be using him as a means to an end. It just feels so clinical, and not at all romantic. After all this time I feel like he deserves a little romance. What do I do?

jessicastanley · April 2014

I know for a fact my husband will jump on it when it's time.
Have you talked with him about it? I don't think he'll mind!

fyafighterwife86 · April 2014

If it were me, I'd bring it up in a casual way and say something like 'I've heard sex can help ripen the cervix' and see what he says. If he asks if you're feeling up to it, I'd jump on the opportunity.
It might be a 'wham bam, thank you ma'am' type of sex but let's be for real- you need the sperm and he needs to get his rocks off.
I can't speak for everyone else but for me- sex is extremely comfortable so DH is on a time clock. He's got matter of minutes before I start bitching hahah. Poor guy.

MissLadyTay · April 2014

We are the opposite. MH does not like pregnant sex and has turned me down for months. I put my foot down last week and said he put this baby in there and he can help me get it out!!! So we had the worst sex ever, me grunting and trying to get comfortable and him trying in vain to make it somewhat enjoyable. In hindsight it's pretty funny. But it did bring on some contractions! We are going to do it again tonight. I know he's excited, ha.

Soupy84 · April 2014

I was discussing this with DH tonight. We too have not had sex (maybe had it once) since BFP. He knows I plan to "use and abuse" him (as best as a pregnant woman can!) come 40 weeks if the baby hasnt made an appearance.

ho11yday · April 2014

Unlike with my first pregnancy, I'm totally disinterested in sex this go around. However, DH wouldn't feel bad by the fact that I suddenly wanted sex, whether it was because I experienced a surge of horniness or because I wanted baby out. In fact he'd probably jump for joy if I asked for sex regardless of the reason. But if you are really concerned, you could just tell him it's third trimester horniness.

jsaffer01 · April 2014

Me and DH have had sex a few times during this pregnancy, the last time was about around 28wks, I was so uncomfortable. And he hasn't asked for it since. But I totes plan on using him soon to help move stuff along. And I have a feeling he isn't going to mind being "used" one bit.

cindythelou · April 2014

I say start things off with a nice blow-j for him - after that, I'm sure he'd love to do you. (For the record, he'd probably love to do you anyway.)

awc1986 · April 2014

I saw the title of this thread and thought "lol, whut?"

Jennyinheaven · April 2014

nataliehirt said:
I owe my husband lots of make-up sex once this baby comes because I have been so disinterested the whole time I am been pregnant. He has been absolutely amazing, and not complained a bit (well mostly). I am now 39 weeks, and ready for this baby to come out. People keep telling me that we just need to have some sex to try to have entice the baby to arrive. Maybe I am over thinking this, but I feel bad asking my husband for sex now. I have been no, no, no, for months now, and all of a sudden at my biggest point I look at him and say lets get it on. I feel like I would be using him as a means to an end. It just feels so clinical, and not at all romantic. After all this time I feel like he deserves a little romance. What do I do?

I don't know about yours but my husband doesn't mind in the least if I "use" him for sex big as a house or not he is just happy to get some.

LunaBug924 · April 2014

DH and I just had sex the other night for the first time in 2 months, and it was awful!
But we've reached a point where we both have our motives and we'll just muddle through it. He needs to get his rocks off and he wants this baby to come out. I really just want the baby out so I'm willing to do whatever it takes! It's so un-romantic, but we both understand that it's a means to an end right now and doesn't reflect how we really feel about eachother. I'd talk to your DH and see how he feels. I'll bet he jumps you the first chance he gets.

FTR, we had sex again tonight- doggy style with a ton of pillows to prop me up from underneath. Not too bad if I do say so. Get creative with positions, it's definitely a bumpy ride at this point! Lol.

Lild09 · April 2014

We were having sex often enough up until like a month ago when I started getting super uncomfortable and getting hard kicks to the cervix. My DH is sweet and doesn't want to hurt me or make me uncomfortable lol

I'm sure he won't mind helping me get baby out if I go overdue...heck maybe even before lol

KBowen715 · April 2014

I agree with all PP. We started having the sex conversation after my pretty-accurate-doctor put LO's weight at 7.5 pounds with three weeks left to go (my other babies were just shy of 9 pounds, and I'm a small person). MH says I can use him as long as I'm touching him. Poor guy....

andoll8 · April 2014

MissLadyTay said:

We are the opposite. MH does not like pregnant sex and has turned me down for months. I put my foot down last week and said he put this baby in there and he can help me get it out!!! So we had the worst sex ever, me grunting and trying to get comfortable and him trying in vain to make it somewhat enjoyable. In hindsight it's pretty funny. But it did bring on some contractions! We are going to do it again tonight. I know he's excited, ha.

This - last night. The resulting contractions actually woke me up trhoughout the night, so the plan is to make daily attempts from here on out (currently 38W + 3).

Meg&Austin · April 2014

Currently at 39w and id like to try this whole sex to.coax baby out but at my last check my doctor made it prerty clear our lil girl is very head down. Not gunna lie kinda ruins the mood for both of us grrr

flowerx2 · April 2014

I'm in the same situation, but I know for a fact my DH won't feel hurt because I need his sperm now. He figures after this baby comes it will be 6 weeks before he gets any so it is his last chance for now.

amberlowe08 · April 2014

Ugh.. I wish I could get my boyfriend to have sex with me right now. Not that I want it... He knows I'm using him purely for sperm. He also knows it is said to bring on contractions so he is all freaked out about it. He's excited to be a Daddy, but now that the delivery is almost here I think he is silently freaking out and trying to prolong it. Men.. I told him he has no clue what it feels like to be me and he better start doing me. I feel like there are worse things I could be asking of him.

Sdufort1216 · April 2014

same here my poor husband has been so good and not asking for it but I thought I'd be nice and try yesterday for his sake and it hurt so bad I wanted to die... he could tell by my face I was soooo not having fun so of course he felt awful and that was that. lol maybe in a couple weeks I'll try again to hopefully get baby to move on out

sheriot · April 2014

We are the opposite. I've been the one who has wanted to have sex, H is uninterested. We did it last weekend, it brought on a few contractions. Hoping for some sex ASAP because mama needs some action. And also it will help "ripen the cervix" and stuff.

I agree with @Kimbus22 -- I'm sure your H would be down for a few "pity bangs" (made me laugh) before you all don't have an option for a little bit.

kat8805 · April 2014

I'm saddened by my lack of want this pregnancy. DH doesn't seem to mind either way. But this week he does seem to be hinting at it. Last night, between getting comfortable/rolling over a million times, and contractions that kept waking me up, I guess he was woken a few times. Once around 4:30 he asked me if I wanted him to "poke the yolk", all I could do was giggle.

Orgasms = contractions, semen is said to help rippen the cervix, and from experience, doggy style is most comfortable, and hides belly from a nervous H. Good luck ladies... At this point, I've given up, but I'm also scheduled for an extraction on Monday.

usernewname · April 2014

My MW told us lots of sex and orgasms to get things going.

Surprisingly DH hasn't been turned off this entire pregnancy. Me neither but tiredness usually wins or I feel too large to be intimate.

One thing I miss is the passion as it's been more of just getting it done and over with.

Bootsie327 · April 2014

This may be a dumb question, but it relates to sex specifically so I'm posting it here instead of the dumb question thread. What is it about sex that allegedly can help induce labor? I always thought it was the peen-against-cervix action to help soften it up, but I know orgasms cause contractions, too. Now I'm seeing stuff here from PPs about sperm but I'm not sure how that comes into play. Can someone school me? Is it all of the above? I'm just curious. If I can get some AND coax out LO at the same time, I'm all about it! I'm full term today, and will be induced in 3 weeks on my due date if he's not out yet because I'm at risk for becoming pre-eclamptic, so anything I can do to get him out sooner, I'm willing to try!

Bootsie327 · April 2014

ashtog said:

MH and I have been having sex regularly throughout the whole pregnancy, but we're at that point now where I am doing anything to prep my cervix or bring on contractions.. and he knows that. so I have found that if I come right out and I'm like " oh, guess what you get to do tonight." he feels a little ... used. so, I just have been applying the art of semi-seduction, and that's been helping me get my way

@bootsie327

The bumping of the cervix will just really irritate it and maybe bring on some contractions, what you want is the prostaglandins in his sperm to ripen your cervix, as well as when you have an orgasm it releases oxytocin which is the natural form of pitocin they give you to induce in the hospital after we have sex I lie in bed for an hour and let his prostaglandins do their job- brings on some extremely painful contractions.

Thanks for the info!

That's definitely good to know.

oscarwao · April 2014

My DH thinks pregnancy is sexy. He also seems to think that it is awesome that my usually non-existent ass is now so fat it has its own gravitational pull. I've concluded that I married a weirdo

I don't mind DHD, but I can't wait to be able to do so without a giant belly in the way.

Sdufort1216 · April 2014

so I'm almost 37 weeks and baby is 2 weeks ahead in growth so could it start contractions for me already? even being 3 weeks from due date?

amberlowe08 · April 2014

kat8805 said:
I'm saddened by my lack of want this pregnancy. DH doesn't seem to mind either way. But this week he does seem to be hinting at it. Last night, between getting comfortable/rolling over a million times, and contractions that kept waking me up, I guess he was woken a few times. Once around 4:30 he asked me if I wanted him to "poke the yolk", all I could do was giggle.

Orgasms = contractions, semen is said to help rippen the cervix, and from experience, doggy style is most comfortable, and hides belly from a nervous H. Good luck ladies... At this point, I've given up, but I'm also scheduled for an extraction on Monday.

"Poke the yolk" this May be the best thing I have ever heard.

Bootsie327 · April 2014

amberlowe08 said:

I'm saddened by my lack of want this pregnancy. DH doesn't seem to mind either way. But this week he does seem to be hinting at it. Last night, between getting comfortable/rolling over a million times, and contractions that kept waking me up, I guess he was woken a few times. Once around 4:30 he asked me if I wanted him to "poke the yolk", all I could do was giggle. Orgasms = contractions, semen is said to help rippen the cervix, and from experience, doggy style is most comfortable, and hides belly from a nervous H. Good luck ladies... At this point, I've given up, but I'm also scheduled for an extraction on Monday.
"Poke the yolk" this May be the best thing I have ever heard.

Agreed! Haha

jfletcher3113 · April 2014

I'm sure he'll be stoked to get it on, and won't feel like he's being used. The guy has been without sex for nine months, he probably doesn't care how he gets it at this point! I say go for it, and don't feel weird about it.

yvanehtnioj · April 2014

OP I do not mean to insult you in any way but I have to say this: You're overthinking it.

Just do what you need/want, he'll be fine!

kat8805 · April 2014

Bootsie327 said:

amberlowe08 said:

I'm saddened by my lack of want this pregnancy. DH doesn't seem to mind either way. But this week he does seem to be hinting at it. Last night, between getting comfortable/rolling over a million times, and contractions that kept waking me up, I guess he was woken a few times. Once around 4:30 he asked me if I wanted him to "poke the yolk", all I could do was giggle. Orgasms = contractions, semen is said to help rippen the cervix, and from experience, doggy style is most comfortable, and hides belly from a nervous H. Good luck ladies... At this point, I've given up, but I'm also scheduled for an extraction on Monday.
"Poke the yolk" this May be the best thing I have ever heard.

Agreed! Haha

I can't even confirm that he was awake when he said that... He's a special one, that's for sure.

Mimaloo · April 2014

Sex? What is sex?

raebee18 · April 2014

I'm lucky I've been horny this whole pregnancy and my Husband totally loves my preggo body. Especially the growth I've experienced up top. For me being on top is the most comfortable or lying on my side with him behind me. Right away after they mentioned that sex and nipple stimulation could help when you're close to your due date he volunteered that anytime I needed help he'd be sure to be there. I've taken him up on that a few times in the middle of the night. My crazy pregnancy dreams all seem to be sex related so I wake up completely ready to go. Luckily I haven't been super sensitive down there it doesn't hurt it's actually easier for me to orgasm right now. It also usually helps me get 1-2 hours of solid sleep that I hadn't been getting before. But no contractions for me so far, I'm 38+3 right now so I was kinda hoping to at least get a few...

neems1982 · April 2014

You gotta do what ya gotta do! Sex didn't help me go into labor with DS1 though.

NorthernGal248 · April 2014

I told my husband about this post - he threw his hands in the air and said "Use me woman!!! Please Use me!!!" hehe I think I have him going desperate.

lauralou3x3 · April 2014

You ladies are lucky to have men that are willing to be used. My belly freaks out my husband when it comes to sex. Esp since I told him his sperm will help move things along....he says that's "weird". He just looks at it as his daughter is in me and he won't be able to stop thinking about that. Good thing I'm too uncomfortable to care right now.

jsaffer01 · April 2014

I asked MH if he cared that I "use" him if baby isn't moving along. He looked at me, and said "what kind of question is that? I'll have sex whenever for whatever reason, let's do it now" so by that response I know MH is on board whenever I need him.

lrmrtn · April 2014

DH hasn't been that interested in sex this whole time but we've had other stressful things going on so that's also a factor. I've been too exhausted and uncomfortable to complain. I don't think he'd care if I was using him to get the baby out though since he knows how miserable I'll be if I go late. We aren't much of the romantic types anyway so I wouldn't have to sugar coat it.

momo214 · April 2014

Sex for me has been so uncomfortable but I'll give in every few weeks when DH is super persistent bc, well... It's relationship building and what's a few minutes out of my day

So Tuesday was our anniversary and so we did the deed and then sure enough that night I had regular contractions and had to go into L&D at 35 weeks for PTL. Basically no more sex for us! I swear that was what did it.
Anyway, regarding using DH as a means to an end isn't TTC also kind of a means to an end. This is y'all's time together to bond and strengthen your relationship before baby comes. Enjoy it (if you can).

83edwards · April 2014

fyafighterwife86 said:

If it were me, I'd bring it up in a casual way and say something like 'I've heard sex can help ripen the cervix' and see what he says. If he asks if you're feeling up to it, I'd jump on the opportunity. It might be a 'wham bam, thank you ma'am' type of sex but let's be for real- you need the sperm and he needs to get his rocks off. I can't speak for everyone else but for me- sex is extremely comfortable so DH is on a time clock. He's got matter of minutes before I start bitching hahah. Poor guy.

If I said "ripen the cervix" to my husband there is no way in hell he would touch me with a ten foot pole. Geez....just fake it and he will never know. Seduce him!

julesf817 · April 2014

83edwards said:

fyafighterwife86 said:

If it were me, I'd bring it up in a casual way and say something like 'I've heard sex can help ripen the cervix' and see what he says. If he asks if you're feeling up to it, I'd jump on the opportunity. It might be a 'wham bam, thank you ma'am' type of sex but let's be for real- you need the sperm and he needs to get his rocks off. I can't speak for everyone else but for me- sex is extremely comfortable so DH is on a time clock. He's got matter of minutes before I start bitching hahah. Poor guy.
If I said "ripen the cervix" to my husband there is no way in hell he would touch me with a ten foot pole. Geez....just fake it and he will never know. Seduce him!

hahaha i said it to my DH and his response was "I'll ripen your cervix ANY time you want!"

he's a charmer.

83edwards · April 2014

Jules51814 said:

83edwards said:

fyafighterwife86 said:

If it were me, I'd bring it up in a casual way and say something like 'I've heard sex can help ripen the cervix' and see what he says. If he asks if you're feeling up to it, I'd jump on the opportunity. It might be a 'wham bam, thank you ma'am' type of sex but let's be for real- you need the sperm and he needs to get his rocks off. I can't speak for everyone else but for me- sex is extremely comfortable so DH is on a time clock. He's got matter of minutes before I start bitching hahah. Poor guy.
If I said "ripen the cervix" to my husband there is no way in hell he would touch me with a ten foot pole. Geez....just fake it and he will never know. Seduce him!

hahaha i said it to my DH and his response was "I'll ripen your cervix ANY time you want!"

he's a charmer.

I wish mine was like that right now......he isn't interested AT ALL.

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