I've been wondering, did you ladies even worry about a birth plan with multiples? Ladies on my BMB are starting to wonder about a birth plan, and I'm sitting here like, "well, I'd like x, y, and z, but realistically?" I guess I'll go over it with my OB like last time, but really, did you worry about it too much? If you've had a singleton, too, how did a birth plan differ with multiples? There's a few things I'd like that could probably be done even with a C-section (skin-to-skin, DH being by my side, DH cutting cords, DD first person to meet babies after us) that I suppose I should run by my OB.
Re: Birth Plan?
So yeah....I'd say it's a good idea to think about some of those details but don't get too attached to a birth plan either.....same as a singleton birth, I suppose, except that your chances of any plans going out the window are higher w/ multiples.
I wanted a vag delivery and so we talked about that early on. When A stayed breech, we switched to scheduling c/s but didn't talk too much about what that would be like and I would have liked to know a bit more about what happens during a c/s.
In the end for me it didn't matter, though.
For me though, it would be a lot less about the actual "birthing" process and much more about our preferences around it and for our babies-- I don't actually expect that I will get much "say" in things like birthing positions or how many people are around though... Things that ARE important though is for us to have it emphasized what we want to happen to our babies after the birth (ie. skin-to-skin and BF asap, delaying exams & ointment until after bonding) and things I don't want done to me (ie. episiotomy, forceps used, or any medication that may make me sleepy or out of it). For me it feels important to have this documented as many of those things are a matter of course with a hospital birth.
I have a feeling though our birth plan will focus much less on birth options, and mostly on after-care and "ideal conditions" though. we'll see, maybe my partner will have more concrete ideas on this after we do more learning and will want something different.
queer couple - 32 (me) & 33 (my love) years old - donor sperm,
Our IF/TTC journey since Nov 2012.
Me: dx of DOR in Nov. 2012. Low AMH, AFC - 6, Normal FSH, SS-A (RO) Antibodies (Autoimmune issues), tubes clear, Sono (November 2013) NORMAL! <p>
7 IUI's - December 2012-September 2013. Medicated, Injected, Triggered.... all BFN.
My Love: (the amazing @Healz413)
Normal AMH & FSH, AFC ~27, blocked tube dx'd via HSG in 2012. Hydrosalpinx & ovarian cyst dx'd in May 2013.
dx of Stage IV Endo & bilateral salpinectomy in June 2013.
Partner IVF#1a- December 2013 - H's eggs, my Ute - CANCELLED due to low response
Partner IVF #1b - February 2014 - H's eggs, my Ute - ER February 4 (10 retrieved, 3 fertilized), Transfer Feb 7 of one Grade 1 and one Grade 2 day 3 embryos. 1 - Day 3, Grade 1 frosty saved. BFP - 6dp3dt via FRER, Beta #1 - 110, Beta #2 175, Beta #3 - 348, Beta #4 - 2222!, Beta #5 - 4255. Ultrasound (6w1d) - 2 heartbearts!
We lost our beautiful Twin baby girls on June 18, 2014. Tavin Sara and Casey Elizabeth were born at 21 weeks gestation and were absolutely beautiful, precious, amazing babies. We miss our daughters every day and love them with all our hearts.
For Jodi:
Please minimize the use of adhesive tape as I am very sensitive to the tape.
I would prefer the use of Toradol to narcotics unless I am unable to tolerate the pain on Toradol if I have a c-section
I am very sensitive to narcotics; if they must be used please give anti-nausea medication (Zofran) with any narcotic.
Please do not use surgical glue/dermabond on me as it causes scarring (please see right hand pinky and ring fingers)
Although I agree to have an epidural catheter placed to be used in the instance of a c-section, I intend to try to go med-free and request that pain medication is not offered to me. I will ask for it should I decide I need it.
We are going to be taking our placentas home with us for encapsulation. Please notify the lab this prior to sending them so they can be released to us. They need to be kept cold (we have brought a cooler).
For our girls:
It is important to us to have their weights photographed. If for some reason Jason is not in the room when they are born and they are medically stable please have a nurse take a photograph recording their weights if possible.
We do not consent to the Hepatitis B Vaccine for either of our girls
We do not consent to Erythromycin ointment for either of our girls
Twin A is Emerson Lily (Emmy). Twin B is Ellis Willow (Ellie).
C-Section:
If general anesthesia is used, please initiate skin to skin contact with Jason as soon as possible.
If general anesthesia is used and the babies are stable please assist with initiating breastfeeding as soon as possible even if I am still groggy (it takes me a very long time to awaken completely from GA)
Labor/Vaginal Delivery:
Although we understand monitoring is necessary we would prefer to keep monitoring to a minimum and allow as much movement as possible. We would like to try telemetry first before resorting to being monitored in the bed.
Please help me to remain as upright as possible during pushing in the OR.
If possible we would like for the cord to stop pulsing before it is cut. Jason would like to cut the cords.
Our pediatrician is:
Diana Lopusny, MDEmerson Lily 6 lbs 13 oz & Ellis Willow 6 lbs 9 oz
queer couple - 32 (me) & 33 (my love) years old - donor sperm,
Our IF/TTC journey since Nov 2012.
Me: dx of DOR in Nov. 2012. Low AMH, AFC - 6, Normal FSH, SS-A (RO) Antibodies (Autoimmune issues), tubes clear, Sono (November 2013) NORMAL! <p>
7 IUI's - December 2012-September 2013. Medicated, Injected, Triggered.... all BFN.
My Love: (the amazing @Healz413)
Normal AMH & FSH, AFC ~27, blocked tube dx'd via HSG in 2012. Hydrosalpinx & ovarian cyst dx'd in May 2013.
dx of Stage IV Endo & bilateral salpinectomy in June 2013.
Partner IVF#1a- December 2013 - H's eggs, my Ute - CANCELLED due to low response
Partner IVF #1b - February 2014 - H's eggs, my Ute - ER February 4 (10 retrieved, 3 fertilized), Transfer Feb 7 of one Grade 1 and one Grade 2 day 3 embryos. 1 - Day 3, Grade 1 frosty saved. BFP - 6dp3dt via FRER, Beta #1 - 110, Beta #2 175, Beta #3 - 348, Beta #4 - 2222!, Beta #5 - 4255. Ultrasound (6w1d) - 2 heartbearts!
We lost our beautiful Twin baby girls on June 18, 2014. Tavin Sara and Casey Elizabeth were born at 21 weeks gestation and were absolutely beautiful, precious, amazing babies. We miss our daughters every day and love them with all our hearts.
If I've learned one thing through my life it's that you can't plan anything! But that doesn't mean you can't be prepared. Our plan is to write down what we would like to happen in certain situations. During labor I'd like such and such music played, who I want in the room during each stage, etc. And then do a loosely guided plan for each situation. If we can do vaginal, this is how I would like it to go, if we have to do a C-section, this is how I would like it to go, etc. And of course, after the birth this is who we want to visit, this is what we want/don't want, etc. Like PPs said, just don't get too attached to any one part of it. Unless it's something you're absolutely not willing to budge on, for instance, my husband knows (as will the doctors and nurses) that forceps and vacuum will ABSOLUTELY NOT be used during my birth. Just know your options and make sure your partner knows what you want in case you are unable to tell the staff yourself.