We dicussed benefits of December... Drawbacks anyone?

EmuTavi · March 2014

I don't know about you all but the majority of our families live 3 hours away. It's difficult for them the travel to us so I'm kind of bummed that we won't be driving to visit them for Thanksgiving & Christmas (I figure I should probably stick close to home for Thanksgiving as I'll be in my 39th week I think and for Christmas I'll have a newborn). I'm a planner so I think ahead to all of this, am I overeacting?

longcat07 · March 2014

are you kidding? i'm psyched to have an excuse to not be running all over creation during the holidays. my family live on the east coast though, and i'm in MN. it's a bear of a trip. if they want to see me, they can come to me for once. lol

the only drawback i can think of is no easy option for outdoor birthday parties, so if your house isn't big enough (and mine isn't), you'll have to rent a space.

SCSmith2011 · March 2014

Yeah the birthday party thing will kind of suck. SD has an October birthday and we've never chanced an outdoor party for her. But for the two parties we've had a home people have been able to spill outside since the weather cooperated. Also the holiday season already gets busy with holiday parties.

EmuTavi · March 2014

I forgot about that drawback @longcat07, hubby mentioned it last night. We both have warm weather birthdays so we're not used to thinking like that.

longcat07 · March 2014

haha i have an early april birthday but never really had a party. DS's birthday is monday and i haven't attempted other than a family party yet. he's only 4, so it's just a matter of time before he wants a party with friends.

hellopartyof5 · March 2014

People combining their birthday and christmas presents?

jaztastic · March 2014

I am always afraid of snow storm-labor/delivery fiasco. Being big in the winter scares me a little bit in terms of the loss of balance so many of friends talk about, combined with ice and bad weather... EEKK

Also I have to agree with the thought of having to plan around major holidays to celebrate LO bday. With the struggle of IF I can tell bdays are going to be a big deal. So making sure they feel celebrated during that season separately from the holidays might be a challenge.

mandypandy33 · March 2014

Christmas is my favorite time of year but I worry about future birthday parties clashing with Christmas festivities! I want my kiddo to still feel special on their birthday and not squished between holiday craziness! I'm due Dec. 4th so who knows...I could have a thanksgiving baby! :-)

AlwaysForgetful · March 2014

I know several with December birthdays. Either they had "combined" gifts or sometimes their birthdays were forgotten.

Belle3184 · March 2014

My only concern was I didn't want my kid to feel cheated with a birthday and Christmas so close. I think it really isn't much of an issue now that I think about it though. I will just be careful to make his or her birthday special and not be lost in the holidays.

BankerBSN · March 2014

I am a December baby and DH is a November baby. No holiday have ever gotten in the way of our birthday celebration. I never once felt cheated.

Meether · March 2014

I have a December child and it's fine. Sucks that she will never have an outdoor party but hopefully we are moving out of the NE. We timed this one to be a dec baby although he/she won't be as close to Christmas as my first is. Also, seeing that she gets presents all at once, it's overwhelming for her, and also she gets frustrated seeing everyone celebrate their birthdays during the year lol.

MrsT1108 · April 2014

Posting from Dec '12 Seriously, stop thinking about your child's birthday and the holidays. My son was born 5 days before Christmas. If you put your brain into it, it's not hard to make sure your child doesn't feel "shafted". Also as far as combining Christmas and birthday gifts is just messed up. Here's a first clue, don't use Christmas wrapping paper for his/her birthday wrapping paper! Also, once the child gets old enough, give them the option to possibly celebrate their birthday say on their half birthday, this gives them the chance to do something out doors. First and foremost just be thankful you are pregnant. If there are any of you truly thinking "oh my gosh my kid is going to compete with baby Jesus", you should have planned getting KU a little better.

chicorojo · April 2014

Ive had both my kids like a week early. So far I'm due on the third.. and I am really hoping I am not gonna miss Thanksgiving dinner because its my favorite meal of all time. Its silly and not a big deal but I have thought about it haha. I'm not too concerned with Christmas because I am at the beginning of the month. I do have a sister that was born on the 30th and has been the victim of double gifting all her life she hates it ! I also have a hard time in the winter (not being able to do my usual outdoor activities, and lack of sunshine gets me a little down) but I am hoping having a new baby is a good excuse to stay in and snuggle and I won't get as stir crazy

mking23 · April 2014

I have a cousin whose birthday is Christmas Eve. Our family (her mom in particular) always made a point to celebrate her birthday on a different day and make it her special day. I think if you make it a priority then they won't feel shafted.

BrideLinds · April 2014

My birthday is a week before Christmas and yes, some relatives will combine gifts but it never bothered me. My parents always made my day special. I LOVE Christmas time so much and having my birthday in December made it that much more of an exciting time of year. Sharing the month with my baby is going to make it even better too.

marriedinaugust · April 2014

My MIL's bday is the 21st, my DH's is the 24th and my nephew's is the 25th. This baby will join them and I can guarantee s/he won't get combined presents because our families have been through holiday days for years! My family is so big that shared birthdays happen in every month.

weddingcaketaster · April 2014

I have an early January bday, and my parents always gave me the choice of waiting for bday presents until the summer. It was nice!

brittandjp · April 2014

I worry about the birthday issue, but DH and I have already discussed how we'll always make sure birthdays are still special and not lost in the shuffle. Worst case scenario, we celebrate (party wise) a couple weeks early.

I am a big advocate for not getting induced (unless medically necessary), so that's my biggest worry. I REALLY don't want to go any closer to the 25th. Peanut's EDD is already the 14th. I'm hoping he or she comes early! With DD I was 5 days late and that's after having my membranes swept - twice. Hoping we don't need to resort to that this time around.

megth · April 2014

I already once experienced the post partum period in the winter after DD (Nov. bday) and am not looking forward to doing that again, although I've promised myself to do better this time. At least with December I'm a little further into it. Plus I'm one of those bah humbug types, so being pregnant and having a baby so close to the holidays will probably frustrate me. But whatever. The 5 freakin Christmas parties can suck it! There's a baby here!

jlamb1206 · April 2014

jaztaz1 said:

I am always afraid of snow storm-labor/delivery fiasco. Being big in the winter scares me a little bit in terms of the loss of balance so many of friends talk about, combined with ice and bad weather... EEKK

Also I have to agree with the thought of having to plan around major holidays to celebrate LO bday. With the struggle of IF I can tell bdays are going to be a big deal. So making sure they feel celebrated during that season separately from the holidays might be a challenge.

These have been my concerns however as a perpetually cold person I am hoping the "pregnancy warmness" will allow me a comfy warm winter until delivery. We just moved into a new house and wanted to have a huge Xmas but will probably do a big Thanksgiving instead, during which time I will shamelessly use my huge belly as an excuse to get everyone else to do all the prep.

rzakhia · April 2014

Lucky for me I'm on the other side of the world (good old Aussie) so pool parties and lots of sun for my lil one!

The only 'downer' I can think of is that during that time of year nearly everything u can buy at a shop goes up in price... But if u do ur Xmas and bday shopping earlier on in the year it shouldn't be a problem!

chrissykzd · April 2014

not really too worried about having a December baby. other than the fact that December honestly kinda sucks for my family. my mom died on Christmas Eve 2010 & we lost our baby girl this past Christmas Day. this will actually give me something to look forward to in December from now on and instead of being sad and depressed, we will actually have something happy to celebrate! might even help me want to celebrate Christmas again. please don't get me wrong, we have kids so we still celebrated, just haven't really wanted to in the past 3 yrs. i'm actually looking forward to having a December baby

JaymeeLH · April 2014

My nephews birthday is dec 11 and he never seems to have a problem, lately they've been holding off on having a big birthday party for him until February so all of the holidays have died down. We usually do one big gift each for him and then some smaller presents like small Lego sets and then do the same for Christmas that way he still gets presents for each but it doesn't kill anyone's wallets

LupeVallejo · April 2014

MrsT1108 said:

Posting from Dec '12 Seriously, stop thinking about your child's birthday and the holidays. My son was born 5 days before Christmas. If you put your brain into it, it's not hard to make sure your child doesn't feel "shafted". Also as far as combining Christmas and birthday gifts is just messed up. Here's a first clue, don't use Christmas wrapping paper for his/her birthday wrapping paper! Also, once the child gets old enough, give them the option to possibly celebrate their birthday say on their half birthday, this gives them the chance to do something out doors. First and foremost just be thankful you are pregnant. If there are any of you truly thinking "oh my gosh my kid is going to compete with baby Jesus", you should have planned getting KU a little better.

THIS… exactly.

Quit your bitching! I'm hoping and praying so hard for a December baby I can bring home and hold in my arms. Period.

megth · April 2014

LupeVallejo said:

MrsT1108 said:

Posting from Dec '12 Seriously, stop thinking about your child's birthday and the holidays. My son was born 5 days before Christmas. If you put your brain into it, it's not hard to make sure your child doesn't feel "shafted". Also as far as combining Christmas and birthday gifts is just messed up. Here's a first clue, don't use Christmas wrapping paper for his/her birthday wrapping paper! Also, once the child gets old enough, give them the option to possibly celebrate their birthday say on their half birthday, this gives them the chance to do something out doors. First and foremost just be thankful you are pregnant. If there are any of you truly thinking "oh my gosh my kid is going to compete with baby Jesus", you should have planned getting KU a little better.

THIS… exactly.

Quit your bitching! I'm hoping and praying so hard for a December baby I can bring home and hold in my arms. Period.

Discussing the pros and cons of having a baby in December really isn't that big of a deal. Of course we're all grateful to be pregnant.

jayellekay · April 2014

I think it goes without saying we are all grateful to be pregnant, no matter what month our child is born in.

That said...December is tough! It's always such a busy month with all the preparation and celebrations leading up to Christmas and New Year's, that it will be hard to schedule birthday parties and whatnot, especially for those late December b-days, like mine probably will be. The no-outdoor-party thing is also tough. My daughter is a March baby, and in North Dakota, that's still the middle of winter. It kind of blows that we always have to have her party indoors, but such is life!

ElizaRae92 · April 2014

The drawback of my baby being due on Christmas Eve is the fact that they'll have combined gifts. They won't have their own special day for themselves. I'm already feeling kinda bad about that.

blessdtxas · April 2014

I would say, having friends and relatives that work in retail. I know it's a really busy time of the year, and really hard (if not impossible) to get off work. I want my loved ones to be able to be there for the delivery and it not compromise their jobs. Hopefully they have understanding bosses, I know sometimes that's not the case!

mrsadav · April 2014

ZoeyH14 said:
I forgot about that drawback @longcat07, hubby mentioned it last night. We both have warm weather birthdays so we're not used to thinking like that.

Oh wow I didn't think of that either. DH and I are both summer babies so Ya.... This will be new for us. Also dreading having to travel with a new born. Hoping people will come to us but I always hear how my mil traveled from NJ to VT when dh was only 3 weeks old *eyeroll* so we shall see. We're also keeping it quiet and my sisters in law are trying to plan a huge trip for early February to visit my in laws on their cross country trip for my mil birthda. Hopefully we can push till mothers day next year

LadyRoarsome · April 2014

All of my family lives close so Im not worried about traveling. It's my turn to have Christmas at my house, which is nice because I won't want to take a newborn out in the bitter cold. My qualm with it is the no outside parties. E is a thanksgiving baby, and now we're having a Christmas baby. I hate inside parties, it is what it is though. I don't feel though that this baby will be overlooked at the holidays and miss their birthday.

Daneicy80 · April 2014

I'm not really concerned with the future birthdays it's more just the logistics of this year. I hope to be out of the hospital and home for Christmas... mostly for my older two. But whatever happens, happens. Also it looks like I'll be doing a lot of online shopping for gifts this year... but I will be on mat leave so maybe shopping will be easier!

kim1730 · April 2014

I'm most concerned about all the people and all their germs for the first 2 months, especially around the holidays.

MAdams728 · April 2014

I was crazy about people's germs with my newborn, and she was born in May. With a winter baby, I think I can legitimately be a hermit at first and people will understand a bit better.

I'm not worried about a holiday birthday. It's only as big of a deal, or as little of one, as you make it.

feliciaw86 · April 2014

I live in Wisconsin and winters suck! I already get really scared driving in a foot of snow with my 3 yo, now I'll be driving 2 mph to het anywhere safely. My birthday is Jan. 2nd, I never got any Christmas backlash shaft, but several parties were cancelled due to snow storms.

Edited because my phone sucks.

elleon1978 · April 2014

Truthfully, if this was planned, I would have avoid November - January for birthdays. I think they get lost in the shuffle of the holidays and I LOVE the holidays

We practically forget my MIL's bday almost every year because she is the 19th and my hubby still gets the 'dual' present and he is Jan 27th.

November wouldn't be a bad month though

10ECGirl · April 2014

I've thought a lot about this and feel bad for being negative about it, but my concerns are:

1. I don't want a late Nov/Thanksgiving baby (I'm due on Dec 2nd and everyone I know is going early these days!) mainly because it falls close to two other family members birthday's, one I'm not particularly fond of. If they shared a bday I would die!

2. If baby comes a little late, it could fall on the date my step grandfather passed away last year, and even though some family members think it would be neat, I think it's creepy.

I know these sound petty and I have no control, but just being honest. I'm a summer baby and always thought I'd have a spring/summer baby so this winter business is really throwing me! I'm hoping in the end, if it does happen one of the two ways above I'll just be so thrilled I won't care about those little things anymore.

abcmom12 · April 2014

biggest drawback I see is budgeting for the excess expenditure for the holiday season. just means we'll have to save more for Christmas so they doesn't feel cheated on their birthday

megth · April 2014

@10ECGirl I hear you on the sharing a birthday with someone you aren't fond of - that's why I was happy to avoid a certain month even though it meant another month of trying. But just think, the chances are it will be another day.

I had also really, really wanted a spring/summer baby just for the recovery part, and the future birthday party issues, holidays being close to the birthday, etc. Having a baby during the holidays is going to be tough! I am beyond grateful that I have a husband who will be an awesome support through all of it. But like you said, I think it will be such an exciting time in spite of the outside influences, and being in the new baby phase does help push most unimportant things out of mind.

Manateearmz · April 2014

The only drawback I can see is....oh wait there isn't one.

This birthday/Christmas crap annoys me.

megth · April 2014

This chick likes her Christmas birthday for everyone worried about that!

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