Have you enjoyed your pregnancy?

hfooter · April 2014

jjtyler · April 2014

I'll be honest. Nope.

Since that second line popped up, I have add the ass morning sickness for 5 months, migraines, swelling, heartburn, insomnia, high blood pressure that had me hospitalized, and my hair is NOT as wonderful as my last pregnancy.

BUT, I have enjoyed the face that this little boy will be in my arms and make everything I have gone through TOTALLY worth it in the end.

dp1320 · April 2014

I agree w/ the PP that said happy to BE pregnant but not enjoying pregnancy in and of itself. Couldn't agree more!

QOTR · April 2014

@kimbus22, @labbylove, @Lizmullen, @awc1986 – I’m sorry for your losses as well. I’m sure we’ll all face a wave of emotions as we welcome our little ones without our parents’ physical presence. Best wishes to all of you!

Hugs to you @ajsweeton – I can’t imagine carrying multiples and how overwhelming the prospect of caring for them at same time would be!

@bkd1386 – I didn’t realize that you had so recently finished chemo. What an amazing transition from fighting cancer to growing life. I love that! In my mind that is like giving a big glorious middle finger to cancer.

@mollynicole214, I can relate. Even with him squirming away, it’s still sometimes doesn’t seem possible that there will be a real, live baby in our arms soon.

*Edited to correct typo

SMM1986 · April 2014

hfooter said:

I change my mind to this.

DBonfante · April 2014

I've had a much smoother pregnancy than most and I am very grateful. I wish you all easy and comfortable final weeks!

deanna1313 · April 2014

Yes, I'm one of those annoying people who love being pregnant. I've been very lucky to not have many symptoms.
I have been having some back pain in my left side that just started up, but not too bad.

springbeduk2 · April 2014

Good question, @QOTR ! It's interesting to see what a range of experiences people have!

for me ... Pretty much ... yes? Or it has been pretty OK? Though I can't quite say "I love being pregnant" either. I'm so grateful that the pregnancy "stuck" this time and that at least so far (knocking on wood right now) everything looks good and we should have a baby with us in 2-4 weeks (please not much sooner than 2 weeks, though, LO!). I'm also grateful that physically, I seem to have had a pretty easy pregnancy - only minor MS 1st tri and even now it seems like I'm much more comfortable than many are at 37-38 weeks. It does feel like pregnancy is something my body is pretty well-suited to ... advantages of a relatively big-boned frame? A few spells of bad headaches in the middle (esp. with not being able to take ibuprofen) weren't fun, and neither is heartburn, though at least tums/rolaids takes care of that pretty well so I'm lucky that way.

It doesn't feel quite as exciting and magical as it seems to for many people though. It's cool to feel her move inside, but that was late coming so caused some anxiety and even now I can't feel like I can identify the movements like many people can (like, is that a kick or an elbow? Haven't a clue!) and don't really feel like she tends to respond to me or dh if we poke the bump or anything like that. It doesn't really feel like we are bonding or anything like that. I can't say I felt like I "glow" or anything either. And for most of the time I think dh got the moodiness I was supposed to get (or maybe just his usual moodiness didn't go away/get kept in check as I had hoped it might) and maybe now we both have it - I'm definitely crying easier than usual now. But again, I haven't felt as hormonal as it seems many do so still relatively OK/lucky there.

Otherwise, though ... the anxiety especially through the 1st half put a definite damper on things and I think made it a different experience (at least based on what I felt the week and a half I knew I was pg the first time) than it would have been having not had previous losses. And then also my mother has been terminally ill (and 2/3 of the way across the country) throughout this pregnancy, and though I'm fortunate that she has held on and is still alive so I was able to have several more visits with her, she has now declined a lot and may or may not still be alive to meet the baby, and at this point I won't be able to go see her again before the baby is born and we're cleared to travel even if it becomes clear that her time has come. I want her to hold on until then but also want her to be able to go in peace when the time is right and not suffer more than necessary. And also while it's kindof a nice cycle of life thing that there's a baby coming right when she is passing, I also don't want our little girl to be like a reincarnation of my mom. Which is kindof messed up but it still worries me.

The other anxiety now is if I'll be "maternal" enough ... even now as the due date has been approaching I've been more freaking out about finishing things at work to be ready for leave than about nesting/preparing things at home. I kindof always prefer focusing on work to home - maybe because it feels more in my control - and also it's easier to see the fruits of time/effort spent at work than it is at home - but I know that with a baby, I'll need to shift a lot more focus and energy to home and hope I'll be able to do that properly. Some nesting urges have been kicking in, but still ... I want to be more of a "mom" than mine was during the years I remember (I think she was much more so when I was a baby/toddler, but of course can't remember those times and then the school-age years which form the lasting memories were not her thing plus she had a lot of other stuff going on then) but am not yet sure I can pull it off.

Hoo, boy. I guess the main lesson here is that overthinking (whether it's m/c anxiety early on or parental inadequacy anxiety or other anxiety near birth time) is not so good and being in the moment would be better unless "in the moment" is very uncomfortable and then looking towards a positive future would be best!

Katzalia · April 2014

Great question. FTM here. Hormonally, I was pretty much incapable of worry until about 30 weeks, so I feel lucky about that. Acid reflux, vomiting, and exhaustion until 18 weeks was wretched, but from 18-30 weeks I felt terrific, so excited feeling LO moving and getting to know her patterns. 35 weeks now, and so uncomfortable (hip pain, return of reflux/vomiting, swollen feet) I'm ready for her to hurry up and get here. I guess I would say I enjoyed the second trimester, and struggled through the rest of it because making this very loved little person is worth it.

jjones59 · April 2014

It's not really an enjoyable "glorious" experience some people make it out to be. Lately my body image has been so down, I'm in pain all the time, I can't do anything around my own house, I can't even go to the store to get diapers for DD without planning like crazy or having someone go for me. At this point I just want it to be over......

MrsT2008 · April 2014

If this was my first pregnancy, I would have said absolutely! This time around, it's been about the same, symptom-wise, etc as my first, but I haven't enjoyed it as much as I did with DD. I think overall just more tired, more sore, etc and it's not as easy to be pregnant with a toddler!

Magicianoffaith · April 2014

I've actually had a great pregnancy. Sure morning sickness wasn't fun but all in allit hasn't been bad. I've only suffered a minor bit of constipation which was 3 days, haven't swelled up at all. Have stayed well in my suggested wei gh t gain. I'm 35 Ftm and 38 weeks 3 days, got the pelvic presssure and Braxton here and there. Got a little waddle going on but feel very lucky thus far. Pray baby is healthy and arrives on their own.

julie921 · April 2014

I am thrilled to be having a baby, but this pregnancy part SUCKS! Let's see - morning sickness started around week 5 and am still having it in week 34! TERRIBLE heartburn and acid reflux everyday - so, more vomiting there. Awful headaches/migraines. Constant sickness - I swear I've had more viruses or whatever in the last 8 months than I typically have in 8 years. My mom died prior to me telling anyone I was pregnant. Total and utter exhaustion from doing anything. Too many aches and pains to to count. Just completely uncomfortable in every way. And I hate complaining and feeling this way. I really wanted to love being pregnant :-(

QOTR · April 2014

I'm sorry you've had such a rough time @julie921 and I'm sorry too about losing your mom.

PrincessJess19 · April 2014

With my first, I had a very easy pregnancy. I never got sick, no complications, gained just a bit more than I should have and HATED every second of it. I was induced at 36w4d and had a pretty easy delivery. But I was beyond glad for it to be over.

This pregnancy has been very similar, no sickness, less stuffiness, etc. and I haven't really minded it. I've had little complications, but they're dissipating as the pregnancy wears on. Two weeks ago, she dropped. I'm SO uncomfortable, whiny, and not myself. It's super difficult (and painful) to walk, and sleep is non-existent. So all this time I haven't minded, until now.

I feel like I'll be able to answer this question better once she's here because I'm so stuck in this rut.

I am very much looking forward to enjoying DD when she arrives, because I didn't with my son. My ex left us when he was about 4 weeks old and those first 6 months were only stress. THIS time, I can actually see the excitement in DH's face and the way he talks. Maybe that's making me more impatient...

Jillzy86 · April 2014

Yes, but I'm glad I only have 5 or 6 more weeks to go! What a roller coaster of emotions it's been since week 9! Praying for a healthy deliver with a healthy baby!

caballo718 · April 2014

I enjoyed the first and second trimester but the third has really kicked my ass from here to kingdom come. The carpel tunnel is extremely painful and this kid does not stop breakdancing on my cervix. I can't walk for too long cause the pain I get in my groin area makes me want to collapse and never get up. I'm ready for him to come. Only 30 more days!

LUCKY22 · April 2014

First of all, I'm sorry for your losses, especially at an already emotional time for you. But to answer your question, no. With DS, I didn't find that being PG made much of a difference in my everyday life. This time, I feel it's been much more debilitating.

ABColeslaw · April 2014

Not even a little bit. I suck at being pregnant. I am miserable and there was always something to worry about. I'm so glad I'm getting my tubes tied. I love my little boy and I already love this little girl, but I am done. They were worth it, but I was fucking miserable during my pregnancy with my son and even more miserable during this pregnancy. 3 weeks 2 days.....totally counting.

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