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July 2014 Moms
Birth Plans!
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Re: Birth Plans!
I don't feel the need to write a birth plan at all. The hospital I'll be at is very supportive of everything. They encourage skin to skin and immediate breastfeeding if that's what you're into. We don't know the sex of the baby and I'd like DH to be the one to announce it, which is what we did with DS. I had an epidural the last time despite really wanting a med free birth. I know how much it hurts, so I'm pretty much expecting to do the same this time. I'd rather not have Pitocin like I did with DS, but if its necessary (like it was with DS), then I'll go with it. DH better keep the crushed ice and snowcones coming. He couldn't shovel it in my mouth fast enough. I want a huge glass of water waiting for me as soon as I'm done. I'm thirsty just thinking about this.
Other than that, I trust their judgment for any "medical" interventions or procedures. With DS, I did have an IV in the whole time (26 hours without being able to drink water is a long time). I had antibiotics at one point because I had a fever and DS was monitored the whole time. They needed to do an internal monitor on him because the band wasn't picking up his heartbeat. I stayed in bed the whole time, but with amniotic fluid running out, I didn't want to walk around. I did have tearing and an episiotomy. I didn't know either one was happening and they didn't ask my opinion on the subject. It wasn't a big deal at all. They used forceps, but I was given the option to keep pushing if I wanted to. None of this was in my "plan," but it all turned out just fine.
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
I'm hoping for no meds (if VBAC), no formula (why the F they gave it last time is beyond me- so DH could experience feeding him?! he doesn't care, I don't want formula in there!). I'd prefer delayed cord clamping, and I'd like no eye meds, but that was the least of my concerns last time, so it happened anyway. I'd really like there to be a tub included THIS time, that was my biggest desire last time, and I didn't get to use it- after 4 days of pain, i think it would have been a bit relaxing - my tub at home couldn't hold a lot of water and the hot water pooped out when it was 1/4 full, I just wanted to relax in one in the worst way! Oh an no episiotomy. But even as I write down these wishes, I envision having to fight a doctor over it all. so obnoxious.
I didn't know you could refuse the IV. that was my biggest fear last time...then I got a sucky nurse who stuck both hands multiple times before finding a vein. THEN I was sent home and had to go through it ALL over again the next morning. It was like a sit com- finding my biggest fear and playing it out horribly over and over!
If there is a CS, which I would almost prefer and will likely try to request- then just the immediate skin to skin/baby staying with us as much as possible is what I want.
I agree that if you go in with a long list of stuff, the nurses are going to laugh at you secretly, and not take it seriously. Making your wish list as short and concise as possible would work best, and I'd consider running it all by the OB before, since they will be familiar with what will happen at your birthing place. There were a lot of things that I thought were so important (like the eye stuff), but really, it was just one more thing to argue with them and I didn't end up doing it. Today, and actually the day he was born, those things weren't such a big deal.