Do your in-laws acknowledge your birthday?

lilorangekitty · April 2014

I have been with my H 8 years, married for 5 and a half. Over this time my in-laws have acknowledged my birthday (card, writing on my fb wall) about twice. So, now I know why.

My in-laws were over on the weekend for Easter, and I was telling them about how DD likes to pretend it's my birthday, sing happy birthday and give me a pretend cake and flowers (she's 3). My SMIL asked, is it your birthday? And I was like, no (I mean I was just telling a story about a game of pretend DD likes to play, and she gets so excited and says "birfday" - I find it so cute). Anyway, she's like yeah, I thought your birthday was in September. I say, no it's June, trying to brush it off as no big deal (cause it's not really important to the story). But she wouldn't let it go, "Why did I think your birthday was in September?" she kept going on...

My DH's XW's birthday was in September. Awkward.

Do your in-laws acknowledge your birthday?

TheBub · April 2014

FIL acknowledges nothing.
MIL sends me a card with $25 in it even though she doesn't have two nickels to rub together.

littlestjerry · April 2014

That is awkward. Mine do. Their standard gift since we had a kid is to renew our zoo membership. I wouldn't ever expect them to get me a gift, but I would find it odd if they just never acknowledged it with a "happy birthday" or something.

NotSharknado · April 2014

Yep. My inlaws are pretty awesome.

newenglander71 · April 2014

My ILs do, which is nice, but I don't think it's necessary. I don't feel that my birthday is any big deal and as long as DH remembers to wish me happy brithday, I'm good. My mother is horrible at remembering DH's birthday and he doesn't seem to care at all.

Spin313 · April 2014

Yes, my ILs always give me a card and a GC, usually to Starbucks or Target.

However, it's pretty hard to forget my birthday as DD was born on it and DS's birthday is a week before.

angelashly · April 2014

My in-laws don't. His mom and dad are Jehovah Witness though, but they still acknowledge people's birthday in a way, but not mine. We've been together 11years. His sister whose birthday is the day after mine acknowledged it for the first time this year.

angelashly · April 2014

My family acknowledges his birthday every year.

littlestjerry · April 2014

@angelashly‌, do JW's not do birthdays?

LaurelBee · April 2014

Mine do. We all meet up for a meal and they renew my zoo membership just like Untaggable Jerry

Sometimes I get cash too!

Karadee1 · April 2014

Yes. They usually give me a card and a small gift - typically a $10 Starbucks gift card or something. They don't make any special effort to see us close to my birthday, so it's usually a month late or so. Still a nice gesture!

PeanutButterFox · April 2014

MIL sent me some really pretty jade earrings one year for my birthday, but that's the only time I can remember any acknowledgement of it in 8 years.

missymo · April 2014

I get a card with their names scribbled in it. Seriously. My husband just got a $200 check a few weeks ago from them for his birthday. They get his bro something or take him on a trip. But me? Nope. We have been together 15 years.

My husband's grandparents give me the exact same amount of $ that they give him and his brother. And have for as long as I can remember.

My parents give each of their four kids, and spouses, gifts or cash totaling the exact same amount. They like things to be even.

It's not about the money - it's the thought. This is one of the reasons my husband's parents irk me.

Jennicillin · April 2014

My inlaws give me a card and a Starbucks GC every year. I don't think they know my actual birth date, just the month. It always arrives the first week of my birth month every time (my birthday is at the end of the month) But at least they are thinking of me, and that's what counts :-)

FalconCrest · April 2014

My ILs give me a card and and $50, they also call me to wish me a happy birthday and usually try to stop over to say it in person, too. They treat their children's spouses birthdays exactly how they treat their children's.

ETA: Last year, my parents and older brother didn't even acknowledge my birthday.

Rach7170 · April 2014

They do and my parents do for my DH too. We both get acknowledged with cake and a present. Both of our families are amazing and love and support us whole heartedly.

jenmom2girls · April 2014

My in-laws didn't start acknowledging my birthday until I had our first DD on my birthday, so now they kind of have too.

LBib · April 2014

Yes. MIL, DS1, and my birthday are all within 9 days of each other. I usually get a small gift and a card inside the huge and over-the-top package that arrives for DS. There is often something for me from BIL too but I think MIL buys it and puts his name on the card.

jorkz821 · April 2014

Yes mine do. Usually a card and cake.

colliebabe · April 2014

Yes my MIL usually sends me a card with a gift card to a book store or golf store for my birthday (which is today!)

theseaword · April 2014

Yes. They are awesome. I got a spa gift card last year.

MrsT0514 · April 2014

My ILs usually do acknowledge my birthday, but I believe its mostly bc my birthday falls on thanksgiving weekend, and since we spend thanksgiving with them, it'd probably be more awkward if they didnt acknowledge, lol.

Usually its just a card or something small (which is fine by me). Except this past year, it was nothing. Which struck me as odd, I'll admit. My MIL has always been big on cards so it was weird to not get one.

angelashly · April 2014

Little Jerry said:
@angelashly‌, do JW's not do birthdays? </blockquote

Nope Little Jerry. Every once in a while they acknowledge his birthday as a glad your here another year.

MrsJakes · April 2014

They acknowledge my son's and my husband's birthdays, but very rarely mine. I think the only way they would even know it's my birthday is through Facebook at this point. They live almost 4 hours away, and we only see them a couple times a year, so it's not a big deal.

My parents, however, acknowledge my husband's birthday with gifts and a dinner just like they do for my brother and me.

cyprissa · April 2014

My In-laws always send me a card and a gift for my birthday and both times that my DH was gone for a year (military) they celebrated my half birthday too which is their family tradition. They flew down to visit last year and took me and DS1 out to dinner. They rock though...

mstal0929 · April 2014

My FIL and stepMIL always make a big deal about my birthday, but my MIL has acknowledged it once in 7 years after being at our house a few days before and seeing cards from other people. She bought me a mop....

msdrdg · April 2014

MIL is big on cards so I always get a card. Generally I also get a bag full of crap she got on discount at the discount store (so double discount crap that nobody at the discount store even wanted).

missyishere · April 2014

Yes-- they even met and cooked for the bumpies during tailgate!

LadyXaverian · April 2014

Yes. We go to their house every Sunday for lunch after church. The Sunday before or after my birthday, they have a cake, a card, and a gift card for me. They do the same for all of their kids and kids-in-law and grandkids.

lilorangekitty · April 2014

colliebabe said:

Yes my MIL usually sends me a card with a gift card to a book store or golf store for my birthday (which is today!)

Happy Birthday!

BeebopandBuddy · April 2014

My MIL (DH's stepmom) usually tells me happy birthday on FB but that's it. DH's mom actually remembers to send me a card about half the time. I really don't care if they do it either way. I don't buy cards for them either, I do make DH call them though.

lildevil968 · April 2014

My IL's usually do. I usually get a text from them or something. My Birthday is the day before DH's, so they usually celebrate mine along with his.

Pips09 · April 2014

Yes, my in-laws are pretty great. They make a bigger deal out of then my own family sometimes.

taggiecb · April 2014

My FIL will if we invite him over for the specific purpose of having a birthday "celebration" But in his defense, he doesn't remember any of his kids' birthdays either. I am pretty sure my sisters in law call him to remind him of each other's, and I call and remind him of DH's.

He does so much for us all year long though, the idea of feeling anything negative about him not remembering seems ridiculous. My mother makes me remind her about DH's birthday so she can get him something, and wish him happy birthday, but I am pretty sure he feels the same as I do about it.

missyishere · April 2014

ColeRose said:
DID NO ONE SEE WHERE I SAID I HAVE TO SHARE MY BIRTHDAY WITH MY MIL!!??!!

DH shares his with his XW.

pdh2008 · April 2014

Yep, I always get a card and check.

EVA116 · April 2014

Yes. They send me a card and FIL calls in the morning and blasts the Beatles birthday song.

thebanich · April 2014

My MIL does if she remembers/we see them around that time. They aren't birthday people. I'm not even sure she called DH on his birthday. My family is much more into celebrating them than his. My parents usually do a GC or something for him and watch the kids so we can go out.

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bumpuser794640 · April 2014

Yep, they always send a card and usually a check for $100.

SpaceGirlSpiff · April 2014

Yes they do...we're pretty close with them though, we see them all the time since they live locally and I've known them since I was 16.... I got pretty lucky with my ILs, I love them

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