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bumpuser10199668 · April 2014

crystalangel79 said:

I've been trying so hard not to say anything but everytime I see this post when I'm scrolling I feel like flipping desks. You do realize that YOU invited this so called "friend" to the appointment with you, let her cuss at the tech who's schedule was prob running an hour behind, and didn't immediately dismiss said "friend" from the room and apologize to the poor tech? Totally not your fault, As usual. You do realize that a cleft palate IS fixable? You are still pregnant and after all that has happened this past week THIS is what you choose to post? And please don't pull the play dumb card because you've been around to see how similar posts of this nature pan out. I guess you are still "disappointed" that it's not a girl, too. I'm disgusted by all of this and IDGAF who wants to flame me for it. It needed to be said.
I musta missed the being disappointed about it being a girl. Really? I think we should all be glad our baby is here, boy or girl... and the losses are here, you cant miss them. I will tell you ladies this though from one of my best friend's perspective as a cleft mommy. From her perspective it is rather hurtful to just say a cleft is "fixable" like it's no big deal. In fact she shared a blog that stated it is the #1 thing not to say to cleft parents. The amount of surgeries, pain, therapy, feeding/weight issues and early delays... She still practically lives at the Children's hospital and he is 3. Im sure you didn't mean it but it almost sounds as though it was trivialized. Clefts are a big deal and if someone legit found out their baby had it, they shouldnt be flamed for being disappointed bc it means a very long haul for those parents. Of course nothing.... Nothing is even close to as tragic as losing a baby but it is quite possible someone will post news of a cleft or spinal bifida or other issue and all are worthy of some disappointment and concern. Im sure it wasnt meant that way but from someone who was there through the surgeries and saw her watch her baby in pain and suffering... I just had to say... Clefts arent a small deal. That being said mbano... Best not to post about a serious issue until you know for sure. It almost trivializes it for those who have to go through it for real. And it sounds like maybe you need to surround yourself with more supportive people. This "friend" and your SO show patterns of questionable character.

I think that you need to read the responses more carefully @crystalangel79 . No one is minimizing the possibility that someone on this board my have a baby with a deformity or other issue. NO ONE. As I said, every concern is valid, no matter what.

BUT @mbano was told this was a picture of her baby SMILING. SMILING!!!!! There was no indication of an issue at allllllllll except for bano not liking the picture. The only concern about cleft is a made up one based on her fear that her friend being a bitch made the u/s tech spite her by not flagging a possible deformity. Give me a break.

MBano · April 2014

@trombgirl‌ - my OB said everything looked ok. He said if there was reason to worry, the doctor would have told me at the time of the ultrasound. All in all, I kind of feel dumb about it. Is not like I didn't like the picture, it's that i was told, I am at high risk for cleft palate, bc of the medication I'm on.

nilvero · April 2014

I mentioned that it was fixable, because things can be done about it, unlike the losses on the board. Was it the right word? No not at all. But at least things can be done about it. I am aware of the difficulties of a child born with a cleft palate.

The little girl in my classes has had other issues and was in surgery on and off her entire first year of life. Thanks to her supportive parents and doctors, she is now a healthy and beautiful little girl who acts just like the rest of the my first graders. In fact, the only reason I knew about it was because her mother mentioned it to me during our first parent teacher conference. Otherwise, I would have never known.

@crystalangel79, I hope your friend's LO is able to develop in the same fashion as my student.

bumpuser10199668 · April 2014

Yeah, I'm with mermz. At first, I felt like an asshole. But then I thought....if your concern was the baby, I feel like the whole post would've been worded differently.

"Hey guys, I'm freaking out here. I've been told I'm at high risk for XYZ and this particular photo has me concerned and second guessing my tech after a less than stellar first meeting with her. Please tell me I'm overreacting so that I can sleep tonight"

...for example?

brittneyandadam · April 2014

@MBano‌ I was wondering where you lived

ashaw512 · April 2014

Nope @SmileyGirl18‌ i was gonna put my two cents in but it looks like everything has been said.

MBano · April 2014

@brittneyandadam‌, ny
@SpoofLeJones‌, I do show compassion and sympathy - if I'm not mistaken, I commented on one of your posts too
@MermaidsMagic‌, I've mentioned the fact that I have epilepsy and take meds many times

MBano · April 2014

@carmstr4‌, you're right. It deff could've been worded differently. I didn't think it thru.

brittneyandadam · April 2014

@MBano‌ capital region? I only ask b/c I saw AMC at the top of your u/s pic and was wondering if it was the MFM I went to for my CVS

MBano · April 2014

@brittneyandadam‌, yes, I went to amc for the level 2.. I was told they are known to be rude and are conserved to be anything but "warm".. I have a choice between them or Samaritan for when I deliver. It's deff not gna be amc

MBano · April 2014

@MermaidsMagic‌, sorry. I thought I mentioned it was a category c..

MBano · April 2014

@brittneyandadam‌ is it on the top floor, above the cvs?

MBano · April 2014

@MermaidsMagic‌ - yes ma'am!

brittneyandadam · April 2014

MBano said:
@brittneyandadam‌ is it on the top floor, above the cvs?

Yep! Thats them. Yeah...AMC is such a high volume facility, they pretty much treat you like cattle. That being said, they're great at what they do...a u/s tech there would never sacrifice a quality scan if they were in a bad mood. Thwir standards are way too high for that.
Just be aware that Samaritan doesn't have a NICU...I love the delivery center they have there, but I just don't want to risk having to transport a sick baby in case anything happens...so I'm going to St. Pete's

AmandaR204 · April 2014

I never saw the post, I clearly see you being reamed...and luckily it's early and I just ate so I'm more jolly than usual...I'll just say good luck to you and your baby, I hope he or she does not have any issues. Next time though when you want to post, honestly just look at the titles of the first page threads..they'll give you a general idea of the boards mood. Always read first post last.

Ciardasully · April 2014

brittneyandadam said:

MBano said:
@brittneyandadam‌ is it on the top floor, above the cvs?
Yep! Thats them. Yeah...AMC is such a high volume facility, they pretty much treat you like cattle. That being said, they're great at what they do...a u/s tech there would never sacrifice a quality scan if they were in a bad mood. Thwir standards are way too high for that.
Just be aware that Samaritan doesn't have a NICU...I love the delivery center they have there, but I just don't want to risk having to transport a sick baby in case anything happens...so I'm going to St. Pete's

@brittneyandadam I'm also delivering at St Peter's! (My ob/gyn practice only delivers there) Feel free to PM me!

MBano · April 2014

@brittneyandadam‌ - my OB said they have limited rights at St. Peter's. That was my first choice, but She told me St. Peter's doesn't feed the moms there. Samaritan has the burdett care center. Who is ur OB?

brittneyandadam · April 2014

MBano said:
@brittneyandadam‌ - my OB said they have limited rights at St. Peter's. That was my first choice, but She told me St. Peter's doesn't feed the moms there. Samaritan has the burdett care center. Who is ur OB?

OB/Gyn Health Center Associates out of Troy. I have an appt with my fave OB on Friday and I want to talk to ask him what he thinks. My insurance has already approved the St. Pete's delivery but if everything is looking good and he's not concerned, I may switch. Again, my biggest concern is the whole NICU thing

MBano · April 2014

@brittneyandadam‌ - We may have the same OB! Are one of the doctors Dr. Ford?

Edit, I forgot to tag you

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