We are contemplating using a friend of ours as a sperm donor. We would not go ahead unless he was sure he didn't want any parental rights, but I'm having a difficult time finding information on the legal side of this. My wife and I are married, so our names can both go on the birth certificate automatically, but what else can we do/do we need to do in order to establish the non-carrying mom as the legal co-parent and our friend as not a parent?
I've heard some horror stories about known donors getting in the middle of custody battles or being asked to pay child support, and I want to protect all of us from those possibilities.
We live in VT, so any local knowledge would be especially appreciated.