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  • EVA116EVA116 member
    CTGirl30 said:

    Has it not occured to you that kids act differently for caregivers than they do their own parents?

    We like to call it the "Daycare Voodoo Effect" in our household.

    So true!

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  • SmootchySmootchy member
    Arngbride330 said:
     I don't see what's so wrong with making your kids act right.
    if life were only so easy. 

    (former harness hater, now don't give a fuck. Don't have one but see zero problem with them.) 
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    LoisLayn23 said:
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    I'm watching this movie right now!

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    FTWR said:
    Well when MIL would cross a busy road with DH, she would attach him to her with a pair of handcuffs...so there's that.
    wait. was she a cop? were they fuzzy sex handcuffs? Who has handcuffs just laying around?! 
    Lol. No, she wasn't a cop and I'm assuming they weren't fuzzy sexy cuffs. There really are so many questions about this that I don't ask. I just smile and nod.
    what's fucked up is that I almost hope they were the fuzzy sex cuffs just for comfort on LO's wrist... but then wtf mom to putting sex cuffs on a kid? 
    LOL 
    this is really funny to me
    I'll follow up with some questions the next time she talks about it. Good news is:  DH is a rather well adjusted adult despite being handcuffed to walk across the street as a child which could arguably be more scarring than a backpack leash.
    I'd really appreciate the follow up  ;)

    but now I'm wondering if DH has a cuff fetish? (bow chicka bow wow) lol JK don't answer that. 
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  • Arngbride330Arngbride330 member
    My nephew has ADHD, and he never used one. He's just fine. I don't think it's a necessity. There's other ways to keep your kid safe. Like I said, if you use them, good for you. I have my opinions on them. Yes I think it's lazy. I think leashes are for pets, not kids. My parents didn't use harnesses for me and my brother, and we were safe and controlled.
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    NellyBluth said:
    Arngbride330 said:
    I want to raise him to be independent. Sorry if I didn't clarify that. I made a statement of how I felt about it. My parents never used harnesses, and we were fine. Because my parents could control us or they wouldn't take us out. We behaved and stayed with them, or we didnt get to go places. I don't see what's so wrong with making your kids act right.
    But every kid is different. I was a really well behaved child, but my brother was a terrorist. We had the same parents, but the shit that worked with me was lost on my brother. You can't expect that your parent's way is the only way things should be done. There are a variety of parenting styles that work and bashing one because it's not what you are used to is pretty closed minded.
    This.  My oldest is a pretty compliant child, my second is a total maniac.

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  • HelenahhandbasketHelenahhandbasket member

    We use the harness because I can't control DD, so for me that's partly true.  But I don't think I am lazy.  If I were lazy, I probably just wouldn't take her anywhere ever. 

    She is insanely independant and will not for the life of me hold my hand for more than maybe 3 minutes at a time.

     

     

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  • HelenahhandbasketHelenahhandbasket member
    Arngbride330 said:
    @CTGirl30‌ why? Because I don't have a toddler? So. I've babysat kids and taken them in public and I didn't have to use a harness to keep them near me. They held my hand or the cart in the stores. Most of my opinions have stayed the same since I had a baby.

    FTR, my DD acts amazingly well and usually behaves for people that aren't me.  So there's that.


     

     

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  • Rach7170Rach7170 member
    MrsBadKat said:
    @arngbride330 - how should I control my kid and make him behave? What discipline methods do you recommend?
    NOOOO. The dreaded spanking debate.
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  • thebanichthebanich member
    This will probably continue to get even more 'fun' but... I'm gonna go eat a giant hamburger for lunch.
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  • Arngbride330Arngbride330 member
    I think parents now a day of completely unnecessary shit. I do what I think my son needs. I assume y'all do too. I won't shut the fuck you @PeanutButterFox‌. I stand by my statements. I don't know every child's situation. But I do know that I've dealt with crazy ass kids and never once had to use a harness. If you do, whatever. All of you judge, no matter what you say. No one is 100% accepting of everything. So everyone quit acting like your so damn open minded and accepting. It's fucking bullshit. Be honest.
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  • PeanutButterFoxPeanutButterFox member
    edited April 2014
    Arngbride330 said:
    I think parents now a day of completely unnecessary shit. I do what I think my son needs. I assume y'all do too. I won't shut the fuck you @PeanutButterFox‌. I stand by my statements. I don't know every child's situation. But I do know that I've dealt with crazy ass kids and never once had to use a harness. If you do, whatever. All of you judge, no matter what you say. No one is 100% accepting of everything. So everyone quit acting like your so damn open minded and accepting. It's fucking bullshit. Be honest.
    You're right. You want to know what I judge? Parents who beat or otherwise abuse or neglect their children. I side-eye plenty of other things other parents choose for their kids that I wouldn't choose for mine, but I don't judge other parents for those decisions. I'll have you know I'm plenty open minded and accepting, it's not bullshit. You and all your bullshit comments are bullshit. 

    ETA And in the spirit of full disclosure, I also judge willful ignorance and idiocy.

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  • Arngbride330Arngbride330 member
    Oh no, I made a typo. I must be incompetent. Whatever. Ill keep talking if I want to. If you don't like it, don't talk to me.
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