WTAF?!?

Read247 · April 2014

This will piss you off... I'm still in shock.

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12320471/a-very-special-thursday-night-confession

The OP isn't actually the one that did the thing described. It was another woman on the board.

crhein26 · April 2014

OMG...how terrible? All I have to say is karma is a major bitch....not that I would ever wish someone a loss of a baby. However, I feel that when you do shitty things like this, shitty things have a way of happening to you in return.

steprozz · April 2014

hubbs173 · April 2014

That is horrifying!!! Karmas a bitch and I hope she gets what's coming to her!!! What a horrible human being!!

Read247 · April 2014

CDK211 said:
I'm only on page two, but why can't they press charges? I thought $500 was enough?

I'm wondering the same thing!! Maybe because it was all done electronically?? I have no idea. Don't we have a lawyer on our board?

MrsCase1 · April 2014

Sadly, this is nothing new for TB. Something similar happened on my original BMB if I recall correctly. I considered contributing and felt bad when I didn't then everything exploded. I feel like giving money on the internet is sheisty for that very reason. Lots of good intentions but it only takes one immoral person for it all to go to pot. I feel bad for the mom who was duped and all the sweet people who wanted to do something nice for her.

Ashes92813 · April 2014

Weird post right? The whole post was bizarre and attention seeking. Wow wow wow.

MrsCase1 · April 2014

snuff9861 said:

It was their MOD! What a disgusting piece of shit she is.

I noticed it was a mod, too, when I clicked on the chick's profile. I don't mean to be a jerk in saying this but TB isn't exactly strict about who can be a mod. I have lurked before on other boards and seen mods who were rude, aggressive, etc. Just 'cuz you're a mod doesn't mean you're a nice or good person, right?

But yeah, she is a total scoundrel.

MrsCase1 · April 2014

CDK211 said:

Read247 said:

I'm only on page two, but why can't they press charges? I thought $500 was enough?
I'm wondering the same thing!! Maybe because it was all done electronically?? I have no idea. Don't we have a lawyer on our board?

I want to say yes, but can't remember who.

She did donate *some* of the money and each state has different requirements for what constitutes a felony, etc. So if she donated just enough to keep her under the minimum, I bet she can get away with it.

lest12 · April 2014

and @ugabamafans‌ too, I thought? But LB does criminal law, maybe? Whatever. How fucking gross can one person be? I can't even imagine.

Ashes92813 · April 2014

Ewwww I just read more of her posts and she is definitively a self-righteous and entitled brat. Not a good moderator at all!!! She talked down to people and was down right nasty. She was last active yesterday? SMDH.

I like our mods! They have a good balance of manners and snark. @LilNunz1‌ and @BrightEyes112. Just saying hey.

lest12 · April 2014

and @ugabamafans‌ too, I thought? But LB does criminal law, maybe? Whatever. How fucking gross can one person be? I can't even imagine.

Hgual · April 2014

So disgusting. It really hurts my heart to think that this bitch is raising children too.

Mizoo · April 2014

Gross. How can someone be so low to steal from a grieving mother and from a charity all at once? I sincerely hope she can be brought to justice somehow. :-(

steprozz · April 2014

joules235 said:
If they were donating the money to charity wouldn't it have made more sense for each person to make a donation individually rather than giving all the money to one internet stranger?

THIS. that is exactly what I thought! not trying to downplay the situation but I don't think I would give money to someone I have never met over the internet. especially because everyone seemed to have not so great opinions about her in the first place.

kbellizio3 · April 2014

Oh my word. My jaw is still on the ground. There's a lot of words to describe that girl

Read247 · April 2014

Someone just posted this gem from the mod/thief...
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12227438/first-world-problem-mil-vent#latest

MrsP419 · April 2014

I have been following this thread for hours. It so outrageously sad, I can't even wrap my brain around it.

Just because I am the cautious type- not that the OP isn't horrible, but can't anyone get into trouble for that call-out? I would just hate to see someone else get in worse trouble for her actions.

WorldsBestDH · April 2014

Hey lurkers! I'm lurking back!

We debated long and hard before posting anything about her, and have been really careful to follow all the terms of usage for TB. I only wish we could post more personal info, and her pathetic "proof" she made the donations.

We collected the money to donate a memorial gift (wind chimes). When it turned out to be way more money than we expected, we decided to donate the rest to March of Dimes.

Not only was she someone we trusted (stupidly) but we were all in a Facebook group as well. She didn't "feel" like an internet stranger. I don't regret donating the small amount money I donated. I would do it again ... I'm just sick over how it was handled.

Ashes92813 · April 2014

Lol I meant you both have them! But your post made me laugh

BrightEyes112 said:
LOL I'm not going to guess who is the manners and who is the snark...

BMaidPlanner · April 2014

Disgusting. I agree with @joules235‌ that there are lot's of other ways they could have went about this, like a plumfund, but it goes to show that even in a community of people we trust with our thoughts we're still online and have to be careful what info we put out there. I wanna hug all of them, hard.

WorldsBestDH · April 2014

WorldsBestDH said:
Hey lurkers! I'm lurking back!

We debated long and hard before posting anything about her, and have been really careful to follow all the terms of usage for TB. I only wish we could post more personal info, and her pathetic "proof" she made the donations.

We collected the money to donate a memorial gift (wind chimes). When it turned out to be way more money than we expected, we decided to donate the rest to March of Dimes.

Not only was she someone we trusted (stupidly) but we were all in a Facebook group as well. She didn't "feel" like an internet stranger. I don't regret donating the small amount money I donated. I would do it again ... I'm just sick over how it was handled.

Ugh this was me! I made an AE for April Fools Day and the app keeps switching to it randomly.

WorldsBestDH · April 2014

WorldsBestDH said:

WorldsBestDH said:
Hey lurkers! I'm lurking back!

We debated long and hard before posting anything about her, and have been really careful to follow all the terms of usage for TB. I only wish we could post more personal info, and her pathetic "proof" she made the donations.

We collected the money to donate a memorial gift (wind chimes). When it turned out to be way more money than we expected, we decided to donate the rest to March of Dimes.

Not only was she someone we trusted (stupidly) but we were all in a Facebook group as well. She didn't "feel" like an internet stranger. I don't regret donating the small amount money I donated. I would do it again ... I'm just sick over how it was handled.
Ugh this was me! I made an AE for April Fools Day and the app keeps switching to it randomly.

I quit. I just logged in and out again and it's still the AE!

-talkthewholetime

steprozz · April 2014

@WorldsBestDH‌ thanks for clearing up some of the situation. yeah being friends with someone on Facebook where you have a lot more personal info on someone would definitely have made me feel more comfortable donating to a group collection. I am disgusted by this person and heartbroken for the mama who lost her precious baby. it's a horrible situation and I'm sorry you guys are having to deal with it.

eta should I also tag @talkthewholetime‌ ? I'm confused who to direct this at lol

Read247 · April 2014

@WorldsBestDH‌ - maybe you could PM someone... And they could PM someone... If it's not posted it's not against TOU, no? Like playing "telephone."

lest12 · April 2014

@worldsbestdh - it's not trying to work for you (the ae). But I get the giving, too. I'm sorry that happened and my thoughts are with the mom. (Edited to make sense).

WorldsBestDH · April 2014

BrightEyes112 said:

@lizardbreath14 said:
Also committing fraud online makes it a federal offense.
Maybe you should share that with them in case they don't know?

Apparently it's been looked into by a few lawyers / criminal justice people in our group and there really isn't anything we can do.

(Idk, I'm a music teacher)

yvanehtnioj · April 2014

Lurking this thread from May 14. Maybe I'm too naive but when I donated I didn't realize the money was going to a person specifically, and that it was up to her to do the right thing. I thought of it as more like a stewardship, where the money went into a neutral place and couldn't be outright pocketed by anyone. Lesson learned although I don't regret donating.

talkthewholetime · April 2014

CDK211 said:

lizardbreath14 said:

@WorldsBestDH‌ since you are here, I just want to give you a tip. I'm a criminal defense lawyer. She clearly broke the law here. She could even get nailed with federal charges since her scheme to defraud happened online. Not saying the feds will want to bother with it --- they may or may not - but the threat of it could at least be used by local prosecuters as leverage against her. the first step is to contact law enforcement. If you don't know who to call, try the District Attorney's office where you are for direction ( unless you know where the thief lives.) Or if you can find a # for your local FBI office.

I think she uses @talkthewholetime . I hope you guys are able to do something. ALso....@lizardbreath14 I like you a lot.

Edit autocorrect fail

Thanks @lizardbreath14. I'll pass it along. I honestly tried to stay out of that end of it. Karma's a bitch and will get her in the end.

(I'm on my computer so I don't have to be my fake husband's account anymore!) Wait...real husband's fake account? Idk. It makes sense on the M14 board.

steprozz · April 2014

can I join the love for @lizardbreath14‌

ELC252011 · April 2014

OMG this is crazy. I can't believe some one would do this. No shame.

JulieSmiles · April 2014

That person is sick. I can't even imagine doing something like that to a group of people who trusted you.... And to a grieving mother. My heart breaks for the mother who lost her child and is dealing with all of this.

chickpea912 · April 2014

Just so absurd. I feel fortunate that my first BMB has done collections for things like this (and things like the MegaMillions

) in the past and we've never had these problems. We're in the process of doing one now (partly for an edible arrangement, partly to get ladies to send condolensce cards) to a girl who just lost her father. Feeling really fortunate that we haven't had any issues like this - so horrible that good intentions were so undermined.

tbmadeamistake · April 2014

Almost this exact same thing happened in my last bmb's Fb group, which is why I no longer donate unless I can do it directly. The woman who stole the funds had been using a fake name with us almost the entire time and also ended up losing her baby to DCF for a host of other reasons as well. We thought so highly of her, too. Be careful who you trust on the internet ladies, very careful.

erind228 · April 2014

Wow, how terrible. I'm sorry that their thoughtful donation went to such an immoral and selfish person.

babygabe614 · April 2014

Wow... I just can't imagine doing that to ANYONE let alone someone in such a sad situation already. I hope karma bites her in the ass big time... and I REALLY hope they file charges against her if they can!

tnd1218 · April 2014

I just can't find the words. That person is sick.

Kinipela7 · April 2014

What!?!? This makes me feel sick!

gatorMom2014 · April 2014

yvanehtnioj said:

Lurking this thread from May 14. Maybe I'm too naive but when I donated I didn't realize the money was going to a person specifically, and that it was up to her to do the right thing. I thought of it as more like a stewardship, where the money went into a neutral place and couldn't be outright pocketed by anyone. Lesson learned although I don't regret donating.

@yvanehtnioj (and anyone else who donated)-- I haven't seen anything about how exactly she collected the money, but I think you all need to cancel your credit cards just in case. Someone who would do this would probably not think twice about buying more stuff on your credit cards if she collected that info through a forum that allows her to access your info.

Second thought...does anyone feel like this could be a catfish? Just because she has a facebook page does not mean that she is actually the person she is pretending to be. She could be a 45 year old man using someone else's photos for all anyone knows for sure.