So I'm leaving him today

2010weddinggal · April 2014

Little one has been up so often tonight and I'm so tired, I have had a back ache for 2 weeks now and had my period for a month who would not be tired. So I tell him your turn to be up with the baby, he gets all pissed starts yelling at the top of his lungs about how he needs his sleep so that he can work and etc etc. I tell him to go rock him in the chair in the livingroom and he gets all pissed, takes the baby out into the livingroom and starts yelling again. He brings the baby back and says nope you take him since I have to work, so I tell him go sleep on the couch then cause oviously the baby is awake right now and not going back to sleep. He gets all mad and says no he has the the right to the bed since he has to work, tells me to move over and when I tell him I'm at the edge he gets up slaps me in the back and says you have room move over. I think I have had enough I'm not willing to make this work anymore what I'm willing to do is to pack baby and I's essential and fucking leaving todayy. I must have bumped my head at some point because I thought this was so suppose to be two people providing each other support while taking care of the miracle we were blessed with. BTW if he would have just changed the babys diaper he would have went right back to sleep..... He keeps telling me I will not get full custody of the baby but he forgets he is a pot smoker, alcholic with a bad temper and a record.

cboink · April 2014

I'm sorry but I think you are doing the right thing. Hugs and be safe.

Ltpugs · April 2014

I'm so sorry! It's sounds like things may have escalated too far last night and I think you're making the right decision to distance yourself.
HUGE creepy internet hugs!!!!!

cammyisagirlsname · April 2014

Ugh, you poor thing. You're most likely making the best decision. There's only so much you and LO can take. Hugs!

2010weddinggal · April 2014

It will prob be a shelter I could go stay with his mom in colorado if i called and let her know what is going on. she knows his temper and knows how out of control he could get, I guess it really doesn't matter at this point as long as I get out of here.

melco19 · April 2014

So sorry you have had to deal with this. You and you baby deserve better.

greenbeanqueen · April 2014

I'm so glad you are finally leaving. Stick with it, you should have done this a long time ago. I am usually the person who would say try couseling and anythihng first, but I remember what other things youve said about this relationship and it is beyond unhealthy. Leaving is the best thing you can do for you and your baby. I'll be praying for you.

lp0 · April 2014

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Sounds like you are making the best decision for you and lo.

Cambury108 · April 2014

I will be keeping you and your LO in my thoughts and prayers. This is such a shitty situation but I also agree its time to leave, I don't condone any violence in a relationship and it sounds sadly like he could lose his cool and end up not only hurting you but your LO. Be strong and do what is best for you LO right now. We are all here for you. HUGS!!!!!!

clhathaway · April 2014

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I think you're making the right choice by leaving.

I'd personally choose the shelter. They can get you help with things you need. I wouldn't go to his moms with the chance of him snapping and doing something terrible.

Fx things work out and you're in a better place soon!

rkcaraway · April 2014

I'm so sorry! It sounds like you are making the right decision. Please be safe!

stacers33 · April 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this but it sounds like you are doing the right thing. Big time prayers headed to you!

readyornot12345 · April 2014

I am so sorry. Prayers your way and hope the best for you.

northport6 · April 2014

You're absolutely doing the right thing. ❤

cherylnicole · April 2014

I'm so sorry..but you ABSOLUTELY are making the best decision. Instead of threatening you with custody, he really should be thinking about the best interest of your guys' baby. He sounds selfish and I'm sorry you have to go through this.

I'm here if you need anything

notkateanymore · April 2014

You're doing the right thing, don't ever forget that. Stay safe and good luck!!

ladameperdue · April 2014

Stay strong, sending internet hugs your way. xo

alanna7777 · April 2014

I am sorry you are going through this. I think leaving is your best move too. Stay strong and a shelter could help you with resources to set you up in a permanent situation where you can be independent. Take care of yourself and your LO.

mamaj1220 · April 2014

Thinking of you and LO. Stay safe and keep strong. I also agree that the shelter is a better option than his mothers.

thebobloblaw · April 2014

I'm sorry your going through this. Stay strong, you have my prayers and best wishes. Hugs.

lilypienmessimy · April 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you're making the right decision. Keep yourself and your LO safe, keeping you in my prayers.

shelbygirrrrl · April 2014

So sorry you are going through this! Hugs!

Kermode61581 · April 2014

I agree with all pp. Be safe and stay strong, you are making the right decision.

KFiori1 · April 2014

sorry you are going through this but you are doing the right thing for you and LO!

chemily8 · April 2014

No one will take a baby away from their mother unless there is good cause!

KFED103 · April 2014

Thinking of you WG. Fwiw i think you are doing the right thing for the well bring of you and your baby.

Mrbatesisinnocent · April 2014

First off stay safe, second call a lawyer. There may be concerns of traveling certain distances (such as across state lines) that could cause problems down the road.

MissyC979 · April 2014

Good luck today. I hope you're able to protect yourself and your child in this situation.

lemlemlem · April 2014

I am so sorry you are going through this. I will keep you and your little one in my thoughts and prayers.

tattooedtragedy · April 2014

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Be safe and I'll be thinking of you.

leahraewku · April 2014

I'll echo what everyone else has already said, which is you're doing the right thing! Best of luck to you and your LO.

Naty657 · April 2014

So sorry this happened to you! Stay strong! If you need anything from one single bumpie to another PM Me!

imrachellea · April 2014

Wow...I am so sorry you have to deal with this

Many thoughts and prayers for you and your sweet LO!

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ugoglencoco · April 2014

Hugs!! I'm so sorry you're going through this, but glad that you realized you deserve SO much better. Be strong!

KateVA · April 2014

I'm so sorry, I also strongly suggest the shelter for your own safety and LO's

jmiller79 · April 2014

Hey, I rarely post but saw this. I left my husband for domestic violence in January with my then 20 month old son and 5 week old twins (I'm a member of the December 2013 board). Contact a shelter immediately. Take what you think you need because you probably won't get the rest. Make sure to take insurance cards, bank information, doctor information, car registration/title, pretty much any legal documents you need. Grab any meds you or the kids are on.

The shelter will help you with a place to stay, anything you might need, and help you with change if address so you can forward your mail, etc. they will have super strict rules to help keep you safe and get on your feet so you can take car of yourself and your little one

If he has hit, slapped, kicked you before , do you have pictures of the evidence? Take them with you. If you don't have ohysical evidence, have you told someone about these incidences? Do you have emails or texts or letters that document this? Once you get to the shelter, they'll help you collect that evidence. It will help you with your child custody case

If you're going to leave him and he's physically violent, make sure you leave when it is safe. If you need help, get help from someone who can help you pack up and get out. Don't dilly dally looking for your favorite pair of shoes. If he's violent or you are afraid of him, don't go to his moms house, he can follow you there. A shelter will protect you.

Good luck and I wish you the best.

utlawgirl · April 2014

I'm glad you are getting out. I know it's so hard with a young baby, but it seems like you really will be better off without him.

sabriel1 · April 2014

I'm so sorry this is happening, you must feel so overwhelmed.

As others have said I'm sure that this is the last thing on your mind but contact a lawyer immediately. Also, you should cross post this on the blended families board. They have a few people there who have recently or in the past gone through a very similar situation to this and will be able to provide you with some guidance how to best proceed from a legal/custody standpoint