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Hello & Intro (losses mentioned)

megbmegmegbmeg member
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Hello everyone - I'm new here & really hoping to stick around. Last July I had a natural MC at 8 weeks, and then an ectopic PG in December. I'm now 6wks + 2 days, and I feel like the clock has slooooooowed down so much. So far all the signs are good - betas were doubling and the first U/S looked good. Now I'm waiting for the next appointment in 2 weeks. I'm trying to remind myself that things look good, but I'm finding waiting & worrying even harder than I expected it would be. When it gets tough, what do you say to yourself that helps? Any advice would be so welcome. 

I'm looking forward to cheering you all on! 


Baby GIRL born 12/11/14!!
MC @ 8 wks 7/6/13 - ectopic @ 6 wks 12/28/13

 In loving memory of sweet baby HP, and all our angel babies. Forever in our hearts.image 
 
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Re: Hello & Intro (losses mentioned)

  • HorseLover11HorseLover11 member
    Welcome and congrats!! I try to just take one day at a time and realize each pregnancy is different and the past does not dictate your future outcomes. It's great you had a wonderful first u /s!!

    Off BC, NTNP since June 2011

    Started acupuncture/herbs July 2012 

    First BFP 9-8-2012,EDD 5-15-2013, heartbeat of 175 at 8w2d, mmc discovered on 10-26-12 (11w6d) Cytotec on 10/26/12

    8/23/13 DX with non-IR PCOS

    Second BFP 9.12.13, EDD 5.29.14, heartbeat of 114 at 6w1d, mmc discovered on 10-18-13, D&C on 10/23/13 (baby girl/Trisomy 10) 

    Third BFP (surprise at Beta draw after d&c) on 1/10/14 (15dpo), EDD 9.20.14 Please be our RAINBOW!

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  • haleyusfhaleyusf member
    Welcome and congratulations! I'm so sorry for your previous losses. The only thing that helps me is to remind myself that today I am pregnant; who knows what tomorrow will bring, but today is a good day.

    DS born 10/22/2008
    DD born 12/23/2014

    m/c @10wks 12/2007
    m/c @4wks 3/2014


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  • MCH77MCH77 member
    Hello. I'm also due in Dec. I wish you the best!

    BFP #1 March 24, 2010; missed m/c May 26, 2010 @ 12w 4d; D&E May 28, 2010

    BFP #2 Oct 20, 2010; My little boy was born on July 5, 2011

    BFP #3 April 30, 2013; Chemical Pg May 5, 2013

    BFP #4 Aug 22, 2013; It's a boy.  Loss discovered at 24 weeks on Jan 15, 2014 (cause CMV virus)    

                                  <3 We love and miss you Timothy <3

    BFP #5 April 6, 2014; missed m/c May 15, 2014 @ 9 weeks; Misoprostol May 15, 2014; D&C May June 3, 2014

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  • megbmegmegbmeg member
    haleyusf said:
    The only thing that helps me is to remind myself that today I am pregnant; who knows what tomorrow will bring, but today is a good day.
    @haleyusf - I like this idea of "today I am pregnant." I think I haven't let myself feel that, if that makes sense. And zeroing in on just on today is really necessary. 
    Baby GIRL born 12/11/14!!
    MC @ 8 wks 7/6/13 - ectopic @ 6 wks 12/28/13

     In loving memory of sweet baby HP, and all our angel babies. Forever in our hearts.image 
     
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  • megbmegmegbmeg member
    @MCH77 - hello! I've seen quite a few Dec. due dates. exciting!
    Baby GIRL born 12/11/14!!
    MC @ 8 wks 7/6/13 - ectopic @ 6 wks 12/28/13

     In loving memory of sweet baby HP, and all our angel babies. Forever in our hearts.image 
     
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  • megbmegmegbmeg member
    @shayna0408 - another dec date! when will you get your first test or u/s? I was so impatient!
    Baby GIRL born 12/11/14!!
    MC @ 8 wks 7/6/13 - ectopic @ 6 wks 12/28/13

     In loving memory of sweet baby HP, and all our angel babies. Forever in our hearts.image 
     
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  • megbmegmegbmeg member
    kountingsheep said:
    Congrats and welcome! In first tri I kept telling myself "chances are more things will go right than go wrong with this pregnancy" and that helped me when I started to freak out about statistics or my past experience or anything that could go wrong.
    I try to remind myself of this too. Odds are on our side...
    Baby GIRL born 12/11/14!!
    MC @ 8 wks 7/6/13 - ectopic @ 6 wks 12/28/13

     In loving memory of sweet baby HP, and all our angel babies. Forever in our hearts.image 
     
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  • mrsjg2013mrsjg2013 member
    Congratulations and welcome!!  I'm due in December also :)  I found out super early that I was pg (3 weeks 2 days), so I've got a lot of days to worry over before I get to my major milestones!  Looking forward to getting to know you in the next 9 months!!!
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  • megbmegmegbmeg member
    @mrsjg2013 - wow, what a blessing to find out so early, but also so hard to wait and worry. it'll be fun to cheer for you all the way to dec!
    Baby GIRL born 12/11/14!!
    MC @ 8 wks 7/6/13 - ectopic @ 6 wks 12/28/13

     In loving memory of sweet baby HP, and all our angel babies. Forever in our hearts.image 
     
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  • PatientlyWaiting10PatientlyWaiting10 member
    Welcome and congratulations!  Not sure if you're religious or anything but honestly, a lot of prayer has helped me this far!  And a few of our close friends who have known from the beginning have helped me to stay positive.  They remind me what a blessing this baby is and how we've been praying for it for a long time!  I'm glad you've had a good ultrasound and great betas already!
    BFP #1 October 2008 | m/c Thanksgiving weekend | November 2008 | 7 weeks 2 days
    BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
    Testing on mom and dad for possible reasons all came back normal.
    BFP #3 8/4/2009 | DD born 3/28/10 @ 38 weeks
    BFP #4 5/13/11 | m/c 6/15/11 | 8 weeks 6 days
    BFP #5 2/13/13 | CP 2/19/13 | 4 weeks 
    BFP #6 3/21/14 | Heard the HB on 4/16 | m/c 4/21/14 | 9 weeks
    Testing results all returned normal and baby was a GIRL.
    More testing on mom and dad for other issues all returned normal results.
    BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks 
    BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!!  |  EDD 6/6/18

    "Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my babies on my lap & tell them about you, but since I didn't get the chance, would you please hold them on your lap & tell them about me?"
    All are welcome!


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  • princezjkprincezjk member
    Congratulations and welcome! I have to agree with taking it one day at a a time. Wishing you all the best!
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  • libby+natelibby+nate member
    Congrats and welcome! I'm still pretty early too and still trying to get a grasp on my anxiety as well. I do love the pgal mantras I think someone has a list but I am another fan of today I am pregnant and I love my baby!
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  • jess123456jess123456 member
    Congrats! I also try to remind myself that every pregnancy is different and that the chances of things working out are much better than not. Also that worrying won't change the outcome. I have started to write down the things that have gone right so far when I am feeling down or hopeless. It's a very hard journey but you aren't alone and we are here for you. Take it a day or a moment at a time.
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  • MrsHamon09MrsHamon09 member
    Congrats and welcome! PP have given the same advice I would have

    Married DH 3/14/09

    TTC Since Jan 2011
    Diagnosed with PCOS Jan 2013
    BFP#1 June 2013/ EDD 2/23/2013 Blighted Ovum confirmed July 18, 2013
    took Cytotec July 20, 2013

    BFP #2 12/28/2013 EDD 9/11/2014 Its A Girl!!! Rebecca Ann!

    Rebecca Ann born 8/31/2014 6lb 1oz 19 inches long 8:55am!!!!


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  • FishyMomFishyMom member
    Welcome! And I hope the next 2 weeks fly. The wait between appointment a is so tough.
    ******************** BFP Warning *******************
     
    I'm 29 and DH is 32 we have a MFI (low count) 
    IVF #1 starting in August. ER 9/5/13 23 eggs we are fertilizing 15. 9 frozen
    ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
    7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
    Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
    Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
    FET #2 - 3/3/14 - 5AB Blast -- Beta #1 3/12 - 152 -- Beta #2 3/14 - 358
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    FET #3 06/09/16 - 5AB Blast - Beta #1 6/18- 245 -- Beta #2 06/20 - 600
     PAIF/SAIF/PAL/SAL welcome!

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  • JCM285JCM285 member
    Congratulations!!! It is very hard to get through the PGAL brain. I am also 6w (I think, it hasn't actually been confirmed yet) and grappling with my fears. I am actually seeing a therapist to help me deal with all of my anxiety. I started seeing her after my 2nd loss and I am really grateful to have her now because I unexpectedly got pregnant again and she has been so helpful! I would say find something that works for you, and if you can't talk to anyone in particular about it, then you always have us! :-)
    Married my best friend 7/2/11 - Furbaby born 7/9/11 and brought into our home 9/1/11

    BFP#1:   2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14

    BFP#2:   2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed 

    Surprise BFP#3:  4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy (and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!

    John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz.  He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!


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  • megbmegmegbmeg member
    @JCM285 - I'm glad you found a therapist that is helping, and that you're taking care of yourself. Congrats on your surprise pregnancy! When will you get to get it confirmed? 

    I actually started seeing a therapist after the 2nd loss to help with grief/anxiety, but it wasn't all that helpful and I've stopped seeing her. Maybe it just wasn't the right person. However, I do see a bodyworker and strange as it sounds, she is actually more helpful than the therapist. 
    Baby GIRL born 12/11/14!!
    MC @ 8 wks 7/6/13 - ectopic @ 6 wks 12/28/13

     In loving memory of sweet baby HP, and all our angel babies. Forever in our hearts.image 
     
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