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June 2014 Moms
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Unpopular Opinion
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Come on ladies! Let me hear them!!!! What's your unpopular opinion? Make it good.
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Re: Unpopular Opinion
Anytime you do any of those things, it's hurts. Every. Single. Time. I had to take the maximum dose of pain killers to even be able to function. I couldn't drive for 4 weeks and couldn't hold anything larger than my baby. I couldn't even get dressed without hurting!!
Annnnd.....I shouldn't get GIFed if we are discussing unpopular opinions lol
My "petite" friend, who is 5'1 and maaaaaybe all of 110 lbs pushed out a 10 lb baby just the other day. In 3 pushes.
I had a c-section (not by choice) and it was, most certainly, a big freaking deal. Not just immediately after surgery, but for weeks - months - afterwards. It took a solid two months before I felt like a normal person again. I would never put myself through that by choice.
Also. Don't tell me what to do. I'll gif if I want to!
Being petite means very little when it comes to pushing out a baby. I am tony and I did just fine. It's more about the shape of your pelvis than the size, and your ligaments stretch to open things up anyway.
Married DH 7/30/11
CSC arrived 5/7/12
CHC arrived 6/2/14
I think every woman hopes birth is going to be some natural, amazing experience but sometimes it isn't and thank God there are doctors and options for when things aren't going well.
But take what i say with a grain of salt, I think I have an unhealthy amount of fear regarding natural labor because of my mom's experiences.
Nothing that we know of "causes" SIDS. A shit ton of stuff, however, causes suffocation
Either way, CS or vaginally, delivering a baby is scary stuff!! Just wanted to clarify I'm not "flaming you," I just wanted you to know not all CS have easy recoveries. The important thing is getting the baby out safely. You do what you gotta do.
I do get a little ragey, though, when people assume that it's an easy "out" for delivery. It's not easy, by any means, and it's almost insulting to me that people think so. Maybe that's based on my own experiences because it literally took me months to recover from mine.
FWIW, I'm planning a VBAC this time around and I'm absolutely scared shitless of what's going to happen to my lady bits. Childbirth is scary, no matter how you do it!
Directed at no one in particular because the Bump is being a whore and won't let me quote.
Oh and haha I think we all have "tiny holes" lol
I'm just saying...I'll admit it I am scared either way. And when I said "easier" I just meant the baby would not have a chance of going into fetal distress if the delivery is not progressing right.
It was my unpopular opinion!
That said, I still think a c-section is no joke and I am just hoping the fact it is planned makes recovery easier. In an ideal world, I would pick a vaginal delivery every time.
My mom is 4'11" was 94lbs pre-pregnancy and pushed out 3 kids vaginally with no epidural. Don't let anyone scare you. I've heard complete opposite about c sections, I've heard it is very painful after.
Here's my UO, and I think it qualifies because it makes me sound like a know-it-all bitch:
I honestly think I know just about as much about pregnancy and delivery (the book facts at least, obviously not the experience), as the doula teaching my birth class. Plus she keeps giving misinformation that's driving me fucking crazy. In the two classes so far she's stated that 36 weeks is "full term", a breech birth of any kind is categorically more dangerous than a C-section and that's why they aren't done (not due to lack of training), and mispronounced "Anemia" three times. Judgmental? Absofuckinglutely.
And I'm having second thoughts about having her or the other doula's on staff there attend my birth. They all look like they're 19. Where's my Birkenstock wearing hippie doula? I want the patchouli smelling, New Paltz hiking, drum circle attending long grey haired earth mama I envisioned. Not 28 year old "Natalie" from an upper middle class suburb who has an active twitter account . It's incredibly prejudicial, but that's what I want.
I've had two c sections thus far, first after a failed induction due to pre e and the second after GD. My doc said from the very beginning I would not deliver vaginally BC although I am a plus size girl I have a very narrow uterus. He was right and the first c was NBD, but the second one was one of the worst experiences of my life. My incision didn't heal for FIVE MONTHS. I had visiting nurse service come for a while and then my insurance stopped paying for that and then I had to go through this long process every day of cleaning my own incision in a sterile environment in my own home. I think I took 10 showers in five months because I wasn't allowed to get the incision wet.
Sure the c could be NBD, but it also could be hell. Thank god the girls were both ok, I'll take the pain any day if it means they are safe. I am terrified of this c in June. I had to go back to my therapist just to talk through issues BC the anxiety of it is too much for me.
My UO is this, my hospital is a teaching hospital and with both of my deliveries they had a resident anesthesiologist attempt to put in my epidural and spinal. Both times it took over an hour and then when the anesthesiologist finally came, she had to competely redo what they did. It took her all of two minutes. The second time I came out of surgery with a pinched nerve in my shoulder no doubt from all the pushing down they do on your shoulders during insertion. I am going to get a note from my chiro that says they are not to mess around on my back. I'm sorry that these people have to learn somehow but you know what I've been the guinea pig twice and I'm not going through that again.
My son is 3 and has chores. I think our job as parents is not only to protect our children, but to teach them how to take care of themselves.
Sure I want to give my son everything I never had, but I don't want to still be taking care of him when he's 30!! I want him to learn than actions have consequences and that if he wants something he needs to work hard and get it. Kids (and some adults) are too damn entitled and think that the world owes them something.
I honestly have more anxiety about the epi than the c/s.
For crying out loud.
I'm not new. I just hate The Bump.
I'm not new. I just hate The Bump.
I have my 32 week appt today so I'm going to talk to my doc about it, not sure how to broach the subject without seeming whiny or crazy. It's going to be tough because he's pretty high up in the hospital and he's very involved with the residents. He let one sew me up after my first c and he let another reach in to try to get the baby during my second c. With the second c I think the resident was scared because my doctor kinda yelled at him and told him to get out of the way. Things were blurry at that point to me and it scared me BC I thought something was going wrong with the baby. It was hazy though.
Any ideas on how to talk to my OB about this? My chiro offered to write a letter about my back issues and he seems to think this would discourage them from letting a resident attempt the epidural.